how did you become mentally tough? (srs)

[7empest]

????

[MarkyMark215]

Dad dying young

Couple life altering health issues / scares

Unemotional mother who told me to basically “man up” with every problem that I brought to her

[RealLifeAlpha]

I used to fap into my fathers dress socks before he’d go into work each morning

this built me into the man I am today (ded fkn Srs)

[explosiveMidget]

Dad dying young

Couple life altering health issues / scares

Unemotional mother who told me to basically “man up” with every problem that I brought to her

This^ Are you me?

[ShipyardChad]

This is a forum full of mentally fragile men u in the wrong neighborhood foo xd

[GaryRidgway]

I didn't. I'm soft.

[kcadrenalin]

Grew up in the 80s.

[Ironmanlet]

-Disassociation.

Do not add unnecessary value to things including people, relationships, things, your own existence, your thoughts and ideas, anything.

-Objectivity

Remove yourself from situations. Your mom dying from cancer is heart breaking but a stranger dying from cancer is almost meaningless. From a universal perspective, there is no difference.

-Radical Acceptance

I am going to die, much sooner than later. What else is there to be afraid of? The (imaginary) “shame” of failure. lol. My work is using me and I am not getting a fair deal. My gf is a human and has had sexual desires for other men, I am no where near as important or special as I would like to be, other people will act on self interest even if it causes me harm. Now that I know all of this, and am expecting it, it will not take me by surprise.



I would suggest one of the most important things we can do for resiliency or grit is actually work on it. Like we go to the gym to work out our bodies, and a daily basis, we need to be developing our mental and emotional strength.

I am grateful for the adversity that has forced me into situations where I can develop these skills, but I am also grateful for the opportunities I worked on it when I didn’t “need” to so I was more prepared when I did.



That one dude always talking about “prepare” with bunkers and stuff….

Why don’t you “prepare” for the tough conversation you are going to have with your boss? Because you are afraid of it. (And things like this will actually happen)


Because we are all so god damned scared and ignorant to do anything about it. To do anything at all other than what we think will make other people like us or appreciate us. Give up the need for external validation and you are free.


There is nothing on Earth, not a criminal justice system of a governement, not a hostage taker, not slavery, there is nothing on Earth that is more limiting to us as individuals than our own insecurities. We are human, you can’t get rid of them. Accept them and be okay with them. Understanding them will give you the ability to overcome them in the same sense not having them at all would, but you are better off for the experience as you understand yourself better.

Good conversation man.