Leave girlfriend over credit card debt?

[Mr Beer]

She will definitely completely change and fix everything if you get married, you should probably knock her up to make sure OP...not fkn srs.

Any problem you have pre marriage will double post. All good but financial incompatability is a big one.

[jdmx]

Use your head.
You'll get over her in a year. Two tops.

[JetFalcon]

This female roommate I had wanted to be roommates again. Later found out we couldn't get an apt together b/c she had bad credit. And she cut all contact with me.

Last time I saw her, she was gonna get married to her Ex, broke up with ex, and then got back with him prob for money reasons. Maybe b/c he was the only guy willing to support her, or spend thousands of dollars on her like expensive mattresses and stuff.

[AestheticIWIN]

She is actually living with her mom and still has this crazy debt. She just buys everything. 10+ Michael Kors purses. Like 30+ Victoria secret matching gym outfits. A 3k mac computer still sitting in the box 6 months later.

ill buy that computer off her

[makadelic]

She is actually living with her mom and still has this crazy debt. She just buys everything. 10+ Michael Kors purses. Like 30+ Victoria secret matching gym outfits. A 3k mac computer still sitting in the box 6 months later.

BREAK UP WITH HER
I was trying to give her the benefit of the doubt on what she spent it on but this is ridiculous. I got a credit card at 18 and have only carried a balance of 1k for 2 months in that time to pay for my undergrad thesis expenses. The fact that she has no living costs but sees credit as this magic money tree to buy purses and laptops should be a sign.

Also, her debt could affect you being able to enter the Air Force if you're married. They don't want to let people in with substantial debt. THEY WILL NOT LET YOU IN IF YOU MARRY HER SRS. And then there goes the golden ticket for you two paying it off.

[LuNaTiC1988]

My credit is in the 760s
I have about 15k saved up
I owe nothing on my credit cards I pay them off every month

After everything you've said I'm guessing this is your first relationship? or at the very least first serious one?

Literally in your first post you had a list at the bottom like a pro's and con's and chose all negative things lmao

"Other reasons to stay/go:
She is definitely bi polar
She is Crazy
She is madly in love with me
Head game is weak sauce
Is very lazy "

This(bolded) is only thing that 'seems' good but really it's just a side effect of her BPD. And according to the misc any girl with this disorder is hard enough to deal with forget everything else.

[Vhagar]

Where are the pics

[Andrew99]

if you were with her and married her example and the house and car was on your name and not jointly owned, and her credit card debt was her credit card debt and you didnt have a joint account and she says hes going to fix it, whats the issue?
?

Ignore this idiot. His advice is a path to financial ruin. She's young and is just getting started. In a few years she will have a $75K job and be $200K in debt. You would never have peace and security.

[LegDayLol]

So I made a thread about this before when she had around 20k debt. We were together 2 and a half years. She always asked me to get married and I would tell her not until you get that debt under control.

Now she has ramped it up to 32k. I finally broke up with her. She is begging me to take her back and says she is gonna fix it and get a second job on the side(she is an accountant and makes 50k a year).

I am also planning to join the Airforce at the end of the year. So the only way I could take her with me is if we get married. Which I am afraid to do because of her debt.

As of right now we aren't together and I am staying at my parents until I leave for the Airforce. Should I stay single? Thanks!

Other reasons to stay/go:
She is definitely bi polar
She is Crazy
She is madly in love with me
Head game is weak sauce
Is very lazy

OP, I've spent the last week watching murder documentaries on Netflix (mostly domestic) I am now practically a highly qualified murder-ologist

One of the documentaries was a wife in debt murdering her husband and paying off the debt with her half/life insurance

ded srs






You should be half way to bombing North Korea in an F14 with the air force by now

[LurkoLantern]

OP, you already know the answer.

[gainmusclefast]

BREAK UP WITH HER
I was trying to give her the benefit of the doubt on what she spent it on but this is ridiculous. I got a credit card at 18 and have only carried a balance of 1k for 2 months in that time to pay for my undergrad thesis expenses. The fact that she has no living costs but sees credit as this magic money tree to buy purses and laptops should be a sign.

Also, her debt could affect you being able to enter the Air Force if you're married. They don't want to let people in with substantial debt. THEY WILL NOT LET YOU IN IF YOU MARRY HER SRS. And then there goes the golden ticket for you two paying it off.

Good point about the Airforce. I didn't even think of that. I remember them checking my credit. My friend also said it could also stop me from getting certain jobs in there as well. He almost didn't get a position because he owed 4K for college.

[gainmusclefast]

After everything you've said I'm guessing this is your first relationship? or at the very least first serious one?

Literally in your first post you had a list at the bottom like a pro's and con's and chose all negative things lmao

"Other reasons to stay/go:
She is definitely bi polar
She is Crazy
She is madly in love with me
Head game is weak sauce
Is very lazy "

This(bolded) is only thing that 'seems' good but really it's just a side effect of her BPD. And according to the misc any girl with this disorder is hard enough to deal with forget everything else.

First serious one yea. Longest and first time living with someone.

[poland144]

very low chance of her staying faithful if you go into airforce and she is

a: a human

or

b: BPD

[LuNaTiC1988]

First serious one yea. Longest and first time living with someone.

Well it's gonna be hard to let go, but you know you should. Quite literally your future depends on it.

[makadelic]

Good point about the Airforce. I didn't even think of that. I remember them checking my credit. My friend also said it could also stop me from getting certain jobs in there as well. He almost didn't get a position because he owed 4K for college.

Yeah from what I remember with my family/ex being all different branches of military, they are the most strict with debt.

[YIAMSOMEBODY]

She is actually living with her mom and still has this crazy debt. She just buys everything. 10+ Michael Kors purses. Like 30+ Victoria secret matching gym outfits. A 3k mac computer still sitting in the box 6 months later.

You know this and you're questioning if you made the right decision? The fukc? She's a status whore. A MK purse isn't any better than a Wal-Mart one...it's just the name attached to it. 30+ VS outfits? This bitch trying to fukc in the gym or workout?

You get back with her, you deserve all the debt and unhappiness she'll bestow upon you.

[InfiniteRage]

typical " hobbies include travel, wine and makeup"


get the **** out, worst case you can pick up at 20-25y/o with the same **** habbits, less debt that will have a slightly less use up body.

[MidnightSun]

So I made a thread about this before when she had around 20k debt. We were together 2 and a half years. She always asked me to get married and I would tell her not until you get that debt under control.

Now she has ramped it up to 32k. I finally broke up with her. She is begging me to take her back and says she is gonna fix it and get a second job on the side(she is an accountant and makes 50k a year).

I am also planning to join the Airforce at the end of the year. So the only way I could take her with me is if we get married. Which I am afraid to do because of her debt.

As of right now we aren't together and I am staying at my parents until I leave for the Airforce. Should I stay single? Thanks!

Other reasons to stay/go:
She is definitely bi polar
She is Crazy
She is madly in love with me
Head game is weak sauce
Is very lazy

Accountant
32k in consumer credit card debt

LoL just LoL

Fuking idiot bitch

[bigcat3655]

Brah, cut ties and go nc. She's not gonna change. You'll be broke. And if you join the military, you'll be stationed somewhere far away and on a secure base so she can't ramp up the psycho on you,

[MidnightSun]

She'll probably never change at this point, the habits are too strong. You need to decide if you can live with it or not, and it sounds like a no to me. When married your finances are intertwined whether you have a joint account or not, you need some level of compatibility on a financial level

That is 100% accurate

[MidnightSun]

She is actually living with her mom and still has this crazy debt. She just buys everything. 10+ Michael Kors purses. Like 30+ Victoria secret matching gym outfits. A 3k mac computer still sitting in the box 6 months later.

She is probably mentally ill.

Fuk off while you still can

[MidnightSun]

She claims our money would stay separate if we got married. And we would keep paying everything 50/50

But with me joining the military I definitely feel like maybe she thinks I'm her ticket to getting out of debt?

If you stay with this dumb bitch, you will 100% deserve the fuking financial mess you are going to inherit.

[soaponarope1]

She just bought 2 German shepherds for $1,200 and is feeding them this super expensive food like $50 every 2 weeks? And she wants a baby within 2 years

This has to be troll.

If not just burn all your money as soon as you get it if you get married. At least it will make you warm for a few seconds

[MidnightSun]

Repping everybody encouraging OP to fuking run

[Amino89]

Lazy women are the worst, my ex was horrible financially. No thx Jeff, you'll end up having to take care of all her problems and will constantly be stressed. visit NC and stay awhile, it's nice there.

[PeaceWithin]

So I made a thread about this before when she had around 20k debt. We were together 2 and a half years. She always asked me to get married and I would tell her not until you get that debt under control.

What, is she proposing to you? Lol. Sounds weird brah.

Now she has ramped it up to 32k. I finally broke up with her. She is begging me to take her back and says she is gonna fix it and get a second job on the side(she is an accountant and makes 50k a year).

I am also planning to join the Airforce at the end of the year. So the only way I could take her with me is if we get married. Which I am afraid to do because of her debt.

You already told her you weren't getting married until she got her debt under control. She didn't, and it even got worse. If marriage was truly a priority for her she would have pulled her chit together. If you cave and get married, its all over. Lol

As of right now we aren't together and I am staying at my parents until I leave for the Airforce. Should I stay single? Thanks!

Yes. Yes you should stay single.

Other reasons to stay/go:
She is definitely bi polar
She is Crazy
She is madly in love with me
Head game is weak sauce
Is very lazy

Hardly a convincing pro/con list. You already aren't with her. Just keep on like you are until you find someone higher quality.

[Dude.Jon]

At a 14% interest rate, shed have to pay 890.00 a month to pay it off in 4 years

[WashYourCod]

How about spending some time to get her help. Seek out someone/something.

Your obviously attached to her emotionally and not going to leave.

[BigChief3000]

leave and don't look back

[melDorado]

I wouldn't marry a bipolar person unless their getting effective treatment... is she?

My untreated bipolar wrecked my marriage
Im fine now im on meds that work