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Thread: I have to get over him but can't
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12-19-2012, 01:39 PM #91
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12-19-2012, 01:44 PM #92
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12-19-2012, 01:53 PM #93
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12-20-2012, 08:55 AM #94
Actually I would say it takes just a little bit to long sometimes. Everything is great in the beginning then once he knows he fully has you everything changes. He gives just enough to keep you holding on to the way it was. When you love someone you try to see the best in everything they do and can be blinded easily even if they behave in a way that would of made you drop them in the beginning of the relationship.
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12-20-2012, 10:09 AM #95
I'd say do the same thing that the misc suggests for guys in a similar situation and go no contact? If you aren't getting what you want out of the relationship it is no longer beneficial or a positive thing in your life. You are wasting your time and energy on him so it doesn't seem like there is any point putting any effort in.You can act however you want but if he doesn't choose to love you back or give you whatever you are looking for there is no way you can make him.
Instead use that time and energy on yourself and spend more time working on achieving your goals lifting, work, studying or whatever they are. Don't rely on getting your happiness from someone else's opinions and feeling towards you as it is something out of your control. Not to say that you shouldn't be happy if someone loves you, but a relationship is just an addition to your life and you should be able to find happiness in you and your positive traits without one
Also don't do what a lot of people do and take out your negativity on other innocent guys. As long as he hasn't done anything directly to you (e.g lied to you or insulted you) I would advise you to not even be angry at him, as he is not in the wrong, he doesn't owe you anything, he is not required to love you and if he chooses not to that is his choice. If he has directly done something to you then do whatever you want and wreck that cheeky kunt.
Wot is this m8? Can u 2 WK *******s fuk off, go zuck each others dinks somewhere else pls.
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12-20-2012, 10:13 AM #96
You can get over him
Millions of women get over men they loved in the past
Are you really that weak that you can't have any control over yourself? To at least do the things that you know will help you? Ie NC, deleting all his crap, doing something new, seeking therapy...anything
What you're feeling is common, but if you tell yourself you can't get out of this, you won't
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12-20-2012, 01:20 PM #97
I do agree with a lot of what you say not all of it. I know I have my choice of guys and will find one that will give me what I want and deserve. It's just hard to move on initially and I have no desire to talk to other guys yet. There are a lot of things that I love and admire about this man and when you have a connection and attraction to someone it's hard to see anyone else in that light. I don't think any of this proves that a women will be more interested in a man if he ignores her because I know what I've been holding on to is a time in the past when things weren't like this and the hope that things would be good again in the future. If it was like this when we first started seeing eachother it wouldn't had lasted 2 weeks. It's his current behavior that finally made me give up and end it. It has been over since before this thread was made. We were still in contact until that day but I cut it off completely that day. And I am fine without him.I'm just worried about when the time comes that I want to contact him I know I'm going to feel almost possessed and it will be so easy to rationalize calling him. That's what I'm most scared of at this point.
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12-20-2012, 01:33 PM #98
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12-20-2012, 01:43 PM #99
OP you are literally one of the dumbest people I've seen in a while. Why cant you stop making excuses for him and for yourself and just see the situation for what it is? IF A GUY LIKES YOU HE WILL BE MORE THAN HAPPY TO MAKE IT OFFICIAL AND DROP ALL THE OTHER HOES. Please never have kids, our species doesnt need your chitty genetics.**********S ALWAYS NEG ME CREW***
***I ONE STEP MY BLUNTS CREW***
***GRAPE SODA IS MY CHIT CREW***
***RED FACIAL HAIR CREW***
HAVE BEEN NEGGED BY *******S SIGNIFICANTLY LESS SINCE JOINING THE "*******S ALWAYS NEG ME CREW" BRAHS
Football is for athletes, Wrestling is for men
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12-20-2012, 01:51 PM #100
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12-20-2012, 01:58 PM #101
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12-20-2012, 02:05 PM #102
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12-20-2012, 02:11 PM #103
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12-20-2012, 02:16 PM #104
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12-20-2012, 02:29 PM #105
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12-20-2012, 02:34 PM #106
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12-20-2012, 02:47 PM #107
look anybody (not this forum lulz) that's been there knows that feeling where you almost feel like you're on autopilot and can't walk away from somebody, even when you know that you have to for your own sake. but YOU HAVE TO. when he hits you up again in a week or 3, you know that if you agree to meet up that you won't be able to control yourself, will fuk him, and then you'll be right back in the original pile of emotional vomit as jamestown would say. you've got to have respect for yourself if you want a good guy's respect. you say you know you can get any guy, then why are you so unwilling to walk away from this one.
he.doesn't.love.you.
it sucks to face that fact but its true. when people feel love for another, they want to show it and they do. dropping an L bomb on someone means jack sh!t. walk away, don't rebound onto another smooth guy's penis, and take a break from dating for a minute. i challenge you to be celibate for one month and get your head straightened out.
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12-20-2012, 02:52 PM #108
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12-20-2012, 02:56 PM #109
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12-20-2012, 02:56 PM #110
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12-20-2012, 03:02 PM #111
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12-20-2012, 03:05 PM #112
Its awesome when girls play dumb. Its makes you less valuable as a catch since youre easily drawn into THINKING you really like a guy when in reality he was just able to woo himself into your pants and you love his body parts so much that it clouds your better judgement to the point where you create feelings for him out of nothing, which results in these kinds of threads.
**********S ALWAYS NEG ME CREW***
***I ONE STEP MY BLUNTS CREW***
***GRAPE SODA IS MY CHIT CREW***
***RED FACIAL HAIR CREW***
HAVE BEEN NEGGED BY *******S SIGNIFICANTLY LESS SINCE JOINING THE "*******S ALWAYS NEG ME CREW" BRAHS
Football is for athletes, Wrestling is for men
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12-20-2012, 03:08 PM #113
I don't think he'll even try to hit me up this time. I made it pretty clear to him that he's not what I want if he's not capable of giving me what I need. He's to stubborn to admit any wrong doing so I'm pretty much good as long as I don't contact him. I will def be celibate for way more than a month. I don't see how sleeping with someone else would make me feel any better actually it would probably make me feel worse because I know it wouldn't be as good as it was with him.
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12-20-2012, 03:14 PM #114
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12-20-2012, 03:19 PM #115
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12-20-2012, 03:55 PM #116
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