1st date. Told her I am not paying for her dinner, she's not having it. Wat do/say?

[1121211]

would not pay for someone i just met online!

[QuadraQuint]

Get out of there; I'm not arguing who should pay, she just seems like a girl who thinks she's entitled to whatever she wants

But really, she said:
Her: I don't pay for first dates, that's a man's job.

No woman pays for first dates (unless you forgot your wallet, but don't do that either). But it's important to note that she didn't say:
Her: I don't pay for dates, that's a man's job.

General rule, if you asked her out, you pay.

[CurltonBench]

man some *******s are so beta it hurts, gj op

[EatnCleans]

sounds like somebody you should spend the rest of your life with OP



Congrats on the engagement/wedding/kids/wife who expects errrryything in return for nothing <3

[Dirtylocks]

And also to all those saying just pay cuz it's what you're supposed to do as the guy...

Times are changing...If women want so much more equality, then why can't we ask for them to pay their share too?

[Mr_Patrick]

Right?

What should I say is her job then? lmoa

If srs, say hey **** it, let's have dinner at my place. It's my job to pick you up, once again. It's your job to cook me a mean ass dinner, bich.

[89mahou]

Run OP. Run. A man's job? FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU. And these wimminz say they are liberated? Wtf? You can't pay for your own dinner? Bish is whilin.
OP, I love you like a brah. I really do. So take this advice brah and run. Honestly the only reason we deal these bishes to get poon. You have no guarantee of
that after filling her fishy **** with fish. Just be like: Ok, bye.

[Mercworx]

Stop talking to her now though. You can't agree to pay now because you already said you dont like to. And she said its turn off if you don't. Its a date you shouldn't be bargaining.

Phuck her.

[Arsyy]

brb single girls dating everyday solely for the food

[jasonjb]

I would never pay for someone I met online, srs, why would you? Dont go out for dinner or do something free so you can get to know them

[briiii]

Don't know if you realize, but it's a known thing for women to scope out men online to get free dinners and never see them again srs. I remember seeing a youtube video about a chick talking about how she did it

[EatnCleans]

I concurre, this kinda womens will not respect you in a serious relationship. Either now or down the line....think bout it Op....think.....about........it.....

[AvatarK]

Why in gods name are you asking her what she wants to do.

I'm out.

lold hard

[QuadraQuint]

And also to all those saying just pay cuz it's what you're supposed to do as the guy...

Times are changing...If women want so much more equality, then why can't we ask for them to pay their share too?

Now you're putting her in the same category as feminists. You're looking at it the wrong way. Quit trying to justify it. Some women will pay, maybe not on the first date but maybe the second. Happens all the time bro. You gotta tread carefully when it comes to grabbing the bill. You can't be stingy either but you can't be so vested in the idea that you won't be flexible with your wallet especially if you asked her out. Won't get you anywhere. But whatever, you screened her and she's not right for you. Don't pursue her anymore.

[Dirtylocks]

man some *******s are so beta it hurts, gj op

I work 2 jobs...One pays well, the 2nd is minimum wage.

Why do I continue to work the 2nd job? Well it puts into perspective how I'm lucky to have job #1 and that there's no guarantee on a good living.

Not throwing my hard-earned money out the window on a stranger.

[DHenry16]

where are the pics brah? love them cuban chiks

[goosygoosy]

LOL at people paying for someone else's first date. You value your own time so little that you have to pay for yours and her meal?

My girlfriend point blank refused.


I pay for meals occasionally, eg when I ask HER out. That's fine once you're in a relationship, but just LOL at paying for someone you don't knows meal.

[momo5]

the fact that she suggested expensive sushi and wants you to pay should be a red flag that she is a sloot.

[ArborGold]

First Date:

First Date will determine the course of the relationship. THIS IS WHY it is important to be prepared. I cannot stand looking, anymore, at posts saying “FIRST DATE ASAP! NEED HELP. WHERE/What to do!??”

What the **** is this ****!?

It’s a man’s job to plan a date. Whatever it is, does not matter. “umm well ahh we can meet up for coffee” is NOT a well planned date. However,
“Let’s grab some startbucks at Livingston Ave, talk for a little bit and then we’ll ‘play it by ear’”

Oh and important note “Play it by ear” is ABSOLUTELY pre-planned set of events that should come off spontaneously to her.

On a date, who pays?

You!

Your date should not cost more than $20 for two. Starbucks macchiato is $4.00 and your cup of coffee is $2. Since you picked the place, you pay. I haven’t spent more than $10 on cup of coffee and a cupcake on first date.

You should have second place pre-planned, somewhere near your house.

IF YOU INVITE HER FOR DRINKS buy first round. If she likes you, she will buy you second. If she insists on paying for herself, I jokingly say “get out! I’ll take care of this, you’ll get me a drink/coffee some other day”

It’s also possible you’ll get “who says there will be another date?” ****-test question. THIS IS your time to shine with cocky answer: “with me, there is always second date, unless you screw it up!” while sporting a douchemile (douchebag arrogant half smile when you know you’re being cocky)


sauce http://www.theattractionforums.com/b...dominance.html

[Lukelovesyoutoo]

Op all bullsh*t aside, even if you were going to be a ******* and pay for the date, its too late now. After that conversation, she will never respect you if you go back on that.

"Oh i don't pay for dates"
"You have to"
"Okay, I will"

Don't pay for sh*t

[Dirtylocks]

Now you're putting her in the same category as feminists. You're looking at it the wrong way. Quit trying to justify it. Some women will pay, maybe not on the first date but maybe the second. Happens all the time bro. You gotta tread carefully when it comes to grabbing the bill. You can't be stingy either but you can't be so vested in the idea that you won't be flexible with your wallet especially if you asked her out. Won't get you anywhere. But whatever, you screened her and she's not right for you. Don't pursue her anymore.

This is true. Still waiting on reply to my 2nd offer.

[TheNumberChosen]

Just stop talking to her. The attraction's been killed anyway and she sounds kinda bitchy.

Next time don't ask a girl where you would like to meet. Have a plan in mind already. If you don't know the city ****in google something fun to do. Tell her "let's meet for coffee and if you're not crazy we can go from there."

But personally driving an hour to meet a girl seems like a massive hassle.

this is what you missed. Read and learn from these words

this is your mindset right now.

If I pay for something, she owes me something. Just because you pay for something doesn't mean they owe you anything. Its up to the person if they are willing to return the favor.

If you're paying for dinner and expecting sex just because she "owes" you this. I got newz for you buddie

[WaterIsGooD]

Send this right away to save the very little face you have left

"Rescinding that offer. Found someone else. Have fun in Miami!"

[Mr_Patrick]

if she says no to 2nd offer, agree to sushi. plan a time. do not contact again and do not go on a date with her. make her feel like a bish.

[Hascal]

had to ask misc and this has turned into a 3 page (so far) debate. look how much trouble this broad is causing already, and you havent even gone on a date with her.

so srsly, dont go out with her. move on, brah. good luck.

[Lailoken]

Don't know if you realize, but it's a known thing for women to scope out men online to get free dinners and never see them again srs. I remember seeing a youtube video about a chick talking about how she did it

http://www.themarysue.com/woman-used...-free-dinners/

stay safe OP.

[SQTFTW]

Should of setup going out for coffee instead of jumping into 1st date

this is a solid idea.

also, OP u should tell her where u guys are going, dont ask her where she wants to go.

[socrates07]

Play it off Opie..

how about dinner in my house? or hers!


Her: I don't pay for first dates, that's a man's job.

Her: I'm sorry sweety, it's just a huge turnoff for me.




do not want female who doesnt know her place.

This OP disregard

[Jimskii]

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Day 5: Hard drive has arrived and has been installed. To no avail, the pictures will not load. I have not shaved or showered in a week. My clothes stink. I have lost my job...all because these confounded pictures will not load. I'm done with the whole electronics thing. I will be moving into an Amish community and this will be my last update on this issue. Good luck and good riddance.

[Dirtylocks]

this is what you missed. Read and learn from these words

this is your mindset right now.

If I pay for something, she owes me something. Just because you pay for something doesn't mean they owe you anything. Its up to the person if they are willing to return the favor.

If you're paying for dinner and expecting sex just because she "owes" you this. I got newz for you buddie

gtfo, you need the reading comp check. I already said I don't do sex outside exclusive relationships.