Without blaming your ex, what's something that could've been done better? [srs]

[Voidgaze]

Or differently in the relationship?

[MyGhettoFantasy]

Picked better.

[MrSchons]

OP should have picked a different currybrah and maybe he wouldn't be cucked so hard

[Anachron]

She was the best, man.

[MiscMathematician]

vacuum, clean the cat box, etc

i think just doing chores and having frequent sex is enough

[gbullock32]

Avoid doing things with her I wasn't interested in by signing up for overtime and just telling her I got held. Ah, going to her little brothers baseball game with her? Fck, got held at work can't make it, I'd legit rather do another shift than sit through a fcking little league game.

[BullittEV]

-way too excited for me to come home
-always making my food too hot
-tries to give bj in the middle of the night when im sleeping
-constantly organizing the trips we go on
-makes the bed every fkn morning

need i go on, damn

[bhicks3712]

Decided not to move to a different state. Then when we were in the car alone I had to go up to my apartment and I was driving and my phone was unlocked and I turned around to lock it (lmfao I didn’t even really have Anything to hide but misc mindset) like got out the car and went back but I don’t think I had even **** the door yet. She flew back home when it was time and she texted me about it and I was like well let’s break up 😂😂😂😭😭😭 life

[MrSchons]

[MiscMathematician]

-way too excited for me to come home
-always making my food too hot
-tries to give bj in the middle of the night when im sleeping
-constantly organizing the trips we go on
-makes the bed every fkn morning

need i go on, damn

shes organizing knowing your schedule, just saying

[OliverHeldens]

Separated at the first sign of crazy.

[Voidgaze]

- Didn't set boundaries
- Letting her take up all of my time. I feel like my guitar hobbies dropped off around that time, and my love for gaming started to dim. Never lose your individuality for the sake of your SO, but also respect them as an individual. But yeah I should've expressed my need for alone time.
- Better communication. Neither of us would communicate our hurt until we argued, it was never healthy. Kiss n makeup doesn't fix communication issues.
- Been more assertive myself
- Should've took charge and called out both of our parents (her folks had an issue with, my folks also didn't like her)
- Never should've been in the relationship in the first place

Picked better.

I feel that.

Avoid doing things with her I wasn't interested in by signing up for overtime and just telling her I got held. Ah, going to her little brothers baseball game with her? Fck, got held at work can't make it, I'd legit rather do another shift than sit through a fcking little league game.

Damn, mad respect for acknowledging that.

TBF, that does sound boring, but I guess she just wanted to bond or something.

[Devin459]

Cheating.

I succumbed to every advance from every female that was above a 5.

In my late teens and early twenties I loved knowing that a sloot wanted to fuk me. I had a quasi fetish with hooking up with sloots that knew I was taken but didn’t care.

Coincidentally I never got caught, but my guilt caused me to find reasons to break up with every one of my exes before they found out.

I know it was a horrible thing to do, and it wasn’t a conscious decision I made to be an arsehole. It was just an urge that I was too immature and narcissistic to fight.

I look back and regret my decisions. But ultimately I did end up with the right woman and I would never treat her like that.

I spent years trying to analyze why I did what I did. Even talked to a therapist.

It basically came down to the fact that I’ve never seen myself as attractive and have always hated looking in the mirror. Truth be told I’ve always felt ugly.

So when a cute sloot would openly show me attention it felt almost surreal, like that’s not supposed to happen to me but it is. I have to take advantage of this situation

[gbullock32]

Damn, mad respect for acknowledging that.

TBF, that does sound boring, but I guess she just wanted to bond or something.

Legit know so many who do this lol, baby shower? Fck, got held. Dinner with the parents? Fck got held...

Funny thing is when you actually want to go do something and actually get held, like... fck.

[DuracellBunny]

Apart from a gap or several years, when we both went our own ways and worked all over the world, I've been with the same woman since I was 18.

As far as other women went, I and they were simply who we were. Things had a built in expiration date and nothing was ever going to change that.

[MyGhettoFantasy]

I feel that.

Tbf, at the time we were on the same level, which is why we were together to begin with.

[Voidgaze]

Cheating.

I succumbed to every advance from every female that was above a 5.

In my late teens and early twenties I loved knowing that a sloot wanted to fuk me. I had a quasi fetish with hooking up with sloots that knew I was taken but didn’t care.

Coincidentally I never got caught, but my guilt caused me to find reasons to break up with every one of my exes before they found out.

I know it was a horrible thing to do, and it wasn’t a conscious decision I made to be an arsehole. It was just an urge that I was too immature and narcissistic to fight.

I look back and regret my decisions. But ultimately I did end up with the right woman and I would never treat her like that.

I spent years trying to analyze why I did what I did. Even talked to a therapist.

It basically came down to the fact that I’ve never seen myself as attractive and have always hated looking in the mirror. Truth be told I’ve always felt ugly.

So when a cute sloot would openly show me attention it felt almost surreal, like that’s not supposed to happen to me but it is. I have to take advantage of this situation

Very introspective take. Sounds like you came out of it all stronger.

Legit know so many who do this lol, baby shower? Fck, got held. Dinner with the parents? Fck got held...

Funny thing is when you actually want to go do something and actually get held, like... fck.

Lol for real though. I don't really care for social gatherings myself, that was also an issue with my ex. She resented me for not being able to make some of them.

Apart from a gap or several years, when we both went our own ways and worked all over the world, I've been with the same woman since I was 18.

As far as other women went, I and they were simply who we were. Things had a built in expiration date and nothing was ever going to change that.

Fair and mature take, sometimes you're just different people, and that's okay.

Tbf, at the time we were on the same level, which is why we were together to begin with.

Yeah that's understandable, some people can't really sit down and come to this conclusion believe it or not.

[DuracellBunny]

Fair and mature take, sometimes you're just different people, and that's okay.

Apart from that, I think part of me knew that when we were ready to settle down, my wife and I would end up back together; which is what happened.

Mr/mrs right and mr/mrs right now aren't always the same thing.

[usersignup2]

better communication

communication is at the root of all conflicts and resolutions

what you say (and don't say)
how you say it
when you say it

listening
interpreting
acting
reacting

[infinityplus1]

Melvin the type of guy that gets cheated on by his girlfriend, and then he apologises to her