Low 30s, no kids, 5 days since I had a vasectomy, AMA

[Frank Drebin]

So you're gunna have dinner with them all the time, always be around, etc etc? I think not. You'll go visit once a week maybe, often go weeks if not months in between and that's all if you actually still live anywhere near them, your own life and family will take precedence, etc.

We all die alone.

There is a huge difference between raising a family and having kids that you rarely see, and not having anyone at all. Even if you don't get to see your grandchildren at all, you know they exist.

[jizzfarmer]

Uh bro, getting a vasectomy but married is like getting a Ferrari and there's no speed limit anymore. Try harder.

Yeah actually more like going to an all you can eat buffet and only getting rice lmao.

[RedRusty]

I was under the impression that women were only treated differently in the case of an irreversible procedure like a hysterectomy. I thought they could just have their tubes tied no questions asked

Nope. We get grilled if we're too young, haven't had any kids yet, etc.

[Frank Drebin]

Sounds like some of your swimmers got BBQ'd.

It was an unpleasant experience, there was discomfort for about 6 weeks.

[GymRat128]

Well If that's what makes you happy Opie then so be it...

But literally the negatives you outlined " not spending all evening babysitting and driving to sports games etc." are literally what you live for once you have a mini me bruh! Just spending time with this little life you helped create and watching them learn and develop is simply amazing. But to each his own I suppose... Cheers M8

Spot on. No amount of money, vacations or other items can duplicate your little one. Until you experience it, you wont know what you're missing.

[JaxBrah]

Wife and I don't want kids, may have waited longer to do it but BC also has negative side affects on her.



This is really the only downfall I suppose, but the life I live until then should allow for a lot of experiences more difficult to have with kid(s).

and yet not a single one of those “experiences” will even remotely compare to having kids (of which you could have had anyway once they turned like 14 or so)

but also, im not sure what experiences you think you would miss out on. we still travel all the time and when we want to do something alone we send the kid to grandmas. the only things i can imagine you missing out on would be degenerate things

[shmobin]

Yeah actually more like going to an all you can eat buffet and only getting rice lmao.

Except literally the opposite.

[shmobin]

Spot on. No amount of money, vacations or other items can duplicate your little one. Until you experience it, you wont know what you're missing.

Said only by people with little ones.

[ChelshireCat]

Good job OP! A wonderful thing to do so your wife doesn’t have to deal with the potential birth control failure or the hormone altering birth control options anymore.

Wishing you a speedy recovery and luck in achieving everything you want in life.

[Absentone]

Did they give you pain meds for the days after? Did you take off of work for it?

You take 1-2 days off work but my Dr does most of them on Friday so no need. They did not give me any take home drugs, took extra strength Tylenol once but could have passed.

I did it 20 years ago. Divorced 10 years ago, spill anywhere I want with no worries. a little herpes cuz no condom crew but that's about it.

good stuff

lu nbd

About 6 weeks after my vasectomy brown stuff came out when I was fapping srs. Apparently its normal.

Sounds like some of your swimmers got BBQ'd.

Nice

and yet not a single one of those “experiences” will even remotely compare to having kids (of which you could have had anyway once they turned like 14 or so)

but also, im not sure what experiences you think you would miss out on. we still travel all the time and when we want to do something alone we send the kid to grandmas. the only things i can imagine you missing out on would be degenerate things

But I won't ever know that because I won't have kids, and I also won't have to deal with all the bad things with having kids or them having/being born with health issues, or them dying in a school shooting, etc etc

Said only by people with little ones.

Exactly

Good job OP! A wonderful thing to do so your wife doesn’t have to deal with the potential birth control failure or the hormone altering birth control options anymore.

Wishing you a speedy recovery and luck in achieving everything you want in life.

Yessir, thanks!

[Willie_Bosket]

It amazes me how upset miscers get in these types of threads. OP makes a personal decision that impacts NOBODY but himself yet people feel the need to chastise him with their bullchit ideals and how one should live their life.

[Mike1991]

Your only biological function in life is to reproduce and you gave it up.

That said if you really want kids still there are options of course

[janglingjack]

But who was pull out game?

This seems a little drastic.

[Polaris]

But who was pull out game?

This seems a little drastic.

I've been thinking about it a lot lately, but there is still a little part of me that is hesitant to phuck with my plumbing like that and the chance of getting granuloma.

[Frank Drebin]

Misery loves misery.

I will say this with 100% honesty and certainty. The experience of raising young children was mostly miserable for us. My wife and I missed out on a lot of things (travelling, partying, fitness) that we were accustomed to before kids came along. We were tired often and we squabbled a lot because of a lack of sleep. I envied the guys my age who didn't have kids. They had more money than I did, were in better shape, and seemed to have more fun.

Now my kids are school aged and I have free time again. We can have fun as a couple but we choose to do it as a family instead. Those same fellas that I envied 3-5 years ago I pity now, because they're either going through the baby to toddler meat grinder at 40+ (LMAO) or they are middle aged and childless.

Not that it ever was a decision that I took seriously, but having children and raising a family is the most rewarding thing I've ever done. Coaching little league baseball tonight, those 7 and 8 year old kids are a riot. Have way more fun coaching than I ever did playing.

[Frank Drebin]

It amazes me how upset miscers get in these types of threads. OP makes a personal decision that impacts NOBODY but himself yet people feel the need to chastise him with their bullchit ideals and how one should live their life.

Its the same reaction if someone made a thread about getting a full face tattoo or about how they lost their entire life savings at the roulette table. Lifelong decisions that impact noone but the OP but still deserve mocking because of the stupidity and short sightedness.

[shmobin]

I will say this with 100% honesty and certainty. The experience of raising young children was mostly miserable for us. My wife and I missed out on a lot of things (travelling, partying, fitness) that we were accustomed to before kids came along. We were tired often and we squabbled a lot because of a lack of sleep. I envied the guys my age who didn't have kids. They had more money than I did, were in better shape, and seemed to have more fun.

Now my kids are school aged and I have free time again. We can have fun as a couple but we choose to do it as a family instead. Those same fellas that I envied 3-5 years ago I pity now, because they're either going through the baby to toddler meat grinder at 40+ (LMAO) or they are middle aged and childless.

Not that it ever was a decision that I took seriously, but having children and raising a family is the most rewarding thing I've ever done. Coaching little league baseball tonight, those 7 and 8 year old kids are a riot. Have way more fun coaching than I ever did playing.

I'm glad that works for you. Alternatively, it is silly to look down on someone that does not want to sacrifice those years for someone else. I still coach. I still enjoy coaching my nephews and nieces. I just get to go home and do ME when the time is over. It's a preference and prioritizing responsibility.

We already have enough people parenting that didn't want to. We don't need more of those. We need more vasectomies.

In my opinion.

[Frank Drebin]

I'm glad that works for you. Alternatively, it is silly to look down on someone that does not want to sacrifice those years for someone else. I still coach. I still enjoy coaching my nephews and nieces. I just get to go home and do ME when the time is over. It's a preference and prioritizing responsibility.

We already have enough people parenting that didn't want to. We don't need more of those. We need more vasectomies.

In my opinion.

The world needs more smart middle class people having kids, not less. Its not the trailer park or ghetto folk getting vasectomies, its the 6 figure household income crew that doesn't want to give up their 2 weeks in Hawaii. Its sad, a lot of these couples could really provide a great life for a child.

[shmobin]

The world needs more smart middle class people having kids, not less. Its not the trailer park or ghetto folk getting vasectomies, its the 6 figure household income crew that doesn't want to give up their 2 weeks in Hawaii. Its sad, a lot of these couples could really provide a great life for a child.

Yup. I'm one of them. Sorry. Life is too short for that nonsense. I'll be in Hawaii waiting with a drink for ya brah.

[Frank Drebin]

Yup. I'm one of them. Sorry. Life is too short for that nonsense. I'll be in Hawaii waiting with a drink for ya brah.

Cool. I'll be there with my kids.

[iifymbro]

I'm glad that works for you. Alternatively, it is silly to look down on someone that does not want to sacrifice those years for someone else. I still coach. I still enjoy coaching my nephews and nieces. I just get to go home and do ME when the time is over. It's a preference and prioritizing responsibility.

We already have enough people parenting that didn't want to. We don't need more of those. We need more vasectomies.

In my opinion.

Pretty sure the U.S is hurting in the replacement rates right now, need you popping out babies boyo


no children crew checking in ayy lmao, but fuk letting a doc anywhere near my nuts with cutting tools, plus I might want a couple mini-me later who knows

[pondus_levo]

I did it 20 years ago. Divorced 10 years ago, spill anywhere I want with no worries. a little herpes cuz no condom crew but that's about it.

good stuff

It's okay. It's only a little.

Curious how your sex life has been since getting the herp? Do women reject you more? Are you on a herpes hookup app?

Pretty sure the U.S is hurting in the replacement rates right now, need you popping out babies boyo


no children crew checking in ayy lmao, but fuk letting a doc anywhere near my nuts with cutting tools, plus I might want a couple mini-me later who knows

3 kids. Got my vasectomy 10 years ago. Been divorced for 4. I've had 5 women ask me if I would reverse it.

Sucks being an eligible bachelor that doesn't want more kids. All the women around my age that don't have kids, want kids like NOW.

[shmobin]

Pretty sure the U.S is hurting in the replacement rates right now, need you popping out babies boyo


no children crew checking in ayy lmao, but fuk letting a doc anywhere near my nuts with cutting tools, plus I might want a couple mini-me later who knows

If it makes you feel better they don't use a machete, they use a flame thrower. If I cared about our species I'd procreate. But I don't.

[shmobin]

Cool. I'll be there with my kids.

You *******. I'm only inviting adults.

[Absentone]

I believe everyone that says having kids are amazing, but the only way to know that feel is to have them. Imagine not knowing any of the good and only knowing all of the bad, that's how I am/imagine not ever having kids will be.

[superiorlogic]

You got fixed, and your wife's going to grow out of this no child BS and get pregnant by Chad, and you're left baron like a chump. Vasectomies are for older men who have already had kids you dumbass

[shmobin]

This^ requires a name change.

[Shawn346]

got one a few years ago, best decision I ever made

Why was it the best decision?

[Frank Drebin]

Why was it the best decision?

one animaliticz is enough

[Visel]

The most recent available information says that the average cost of raising a child from birth to age 17 is $233,610 in a married two-parent middle income family with two children. This information comes from a U.S. Department of Agriculture (USDA) report from 2017, using information from 2011-15 and figures in 2015 dollars.

The report breaks up costs into three income ranges, with $233,610 being the average for those qualifying families who make between $59,200-$107,400. Those in the lower income range, making under $59,200, required an average of $174,690 to raise a child. Those in the highest income range, making over $107,400, spent $372,210 on raising a child.

These numbers are for two-parent households. According to the USDA report, single-parent families who made less than $59,200 spent an average of $172,200 on raising their child from birth to 17. Those who make $59,200 and up spent $319,020.

Sauce: https://www.thestreet.com/personal-f...child-14814957

I'm 23 without kids. I haven't gone through a vasectomy, but I have gone through an abortion with my girlfriend. When you put it into financial terms and you consider that a vasectomy costs maybe half a grand or whatever, it's worth it when it comes down to what you're saving by having an accidental child or two that you plan to keep... even with the tax breaks in mind.

With that said, I don't think I'll be doing it, and therefore I understand it's not for everybody, but I can live a fulfilling lifestyle that appeals to my self interests without children, and build strong relationships with individuals over the years regardless.