How do you break up with a GF who loves you? [33k reps for help]

[poundfive2]

I'll cliff it:

- GF loves me and wants to move in together
- been together 1.5 years
- I recently started to change my feelings, which are out of my control
- i don't want to string her along anymore
- i know she is going to be in a lot of pain, and i'm scared to break her heart


Also:

- i want to start dating other women right away to help myself get over her yet her, and I have pictures on FB/IG etc, and I don't want other women to feel threatened, yet i know if i remove our pictures it'll hurt current gf even if we're not together because we're so close



how can i handle this situation the right way? 33k reps for help

no pics, this is serious

[momason]

"it's not you, it's me"

[joshewwah]

you neck yourself











































not srs


































give her the games that females usually do on men when they break up with them

tell her "its not you, its me"

so that its not her fault but yours


edit: wizard above^

[jfresh330]

I'll cliff it:

- GF loves me and wants to move in together
- been together 1.5 years
- I recently started to change my feelings, which are out of my control
- i don't want to string her along anymore
- i know she is going to be in a lot of pain, and i'm scared to break her heart


Also:

- i want to start dating other women right away to help myself get over her yet her, and I have pictures on FB/IG etc, and I don't want other women to feel threatened, yet i know if i remove our pictures it'll hurt current gf even if we're not together because we're so close



how can i handle this situation the right way? 33k reps for help

no pics, this is serious

Be honest with her, I mean there isn't that many different options. Good luck though brah hope everything works out for ya.

[mgftp]

Its the hardest thing I do on a regulat basis. In4 tips.

[TitanFall]

Sit her down and explain it. Don't lie. It'll hurt for sure. Did the same thing a few months back.






































































That said...Regretted it whole heartedly and I begged for her back. THANK GOD she took me back. 3 years may!

[RebeccaDuff]

Quick and fast like ripping off a bandaid. End it and unfriend her on FB. Break all ties.

[CelphCrowned]

I'll cliff it:

- GF loves me and wants to move in together
- been together 1.5 years
- I recently started to change my feelings, which are out of my control
- i don't want to string her along anymore
- i know she is going to be in a lot of pain, and i'm scared to break her heart


Also:

- i want to start dating other women right away to help myself get over her yet her, and I have pictures on FB/IG etc, and I don't want other women to feel threatened, yet i know if i remove our pictures it'll hurt current gf even if we're not together because we're so close



how can i handle this situation the right way? 33k reps for help

no pics, this is serious

Had the same problem (few years ago).
My solution: I just told her straight out, that I had lost feelings and didnt want to be in a relationship. She got so depressed that she coudnt drive home that night, I were literally scared she would commit suicide, so she had to sleep on my couch the whole night. Coudnt sleep cuz she was crying so loud..

This solution worked for me, no reason to fuk around and sugercoat it. Be a man an tell her. You might plan it a head. Timing and place is important. Make sure you guys havent planned anything, like a trip to her parents.

Pictures on FB: just hide them from people that are not on your friend list and hide them from new fukbuddies.

[AgentM062]

Be honest with her, I mean there isn't that many different options. Good luck though brah hope everything works out for ya.

This. Honesty brah.


On a side note, lol. I can empathize with your situation which is why I find humour in your suffering.

Best of luck chum.

[mandm001]

You sound like a sloot op.

[ninjakunt]

Part 1:

Tell her how much you have valued her over the past 1.5 years etc. Let her know that even though you don't feel like you can be with her, you tell her that you hope she can find someone that cares for her the way she has cared for you. Feel free to say that sex is still on the table too. May lighten the mood plus sex and maybe anal.

Part 1:

About the fb pictures, don't delete them unless you actually start dating some other girl seriously and she gets insecure about it/thinks its inappropriate. But if you're just playing the field and dating hot chicks to see where it goes, then they won't feel threatened. It just gives them a reason to think that you are desirable to other women which is a good thing.

[IH8RICE]

[AgentM062]

Quick and fast like ripping off a bandaid. End it and unfriend her on FB. Break all ties.

Where the pheck did you come from and how are you green?

[SpaceCityBrah]

Just be honest with her. Thats seriously the only way. Yeah she'll be heartbroken but she lovea you, what do you expect? The wantin to date right away is fuked up though. Theres no way thats gonna go easy. Just take the pics off, plain and simple. Youre adults so just do it, im sure she isnit gonna expect for you to break up and keep pics of you two up.


No reps needed for this advice. You coulda thought of this. Just be mature and dont lead this chick on. It hurts if you were to be passive aggressive and just turn cold on her.

[IamOleg]

Lawyer up, delete from ********, hit the gym. Alternatively, share URL to this thread.

[RebeccaDuff]

Where the pheck did you come from and how are you green?

I'm awesome.

[gruff1991]

went through a similar situation with my mrs a couple of years ago where i fell out of love with her, (back with her now) but i just ended it quick told her how i felt and pulled no punches, don't give her no false hope if there is no hope and just be straight up with her. remove and block on FB and NC her it will be hard and you will feel guilty, but you can cover up the guild by slooting it about.

[IH8RICE]

I'm awesome.

Neg bullseye of peace and prosperity

[DownhillRider]

Text her that and never see her again brah. Stress is something horrible, it kills you on the inside, you should live worry free.

[poundfive2]

Just be honest with her. Thats seriously the only way. Yeah she'll be heartbroken but she lovea you, what do you expect? The wantin to date right away is fuked up though. Theres no way thats gonna go easy. Just take the pics off, plain and simple. Youre adults so just do it, im sure she isnit gonna expect for you to break up and keep pics of you two up.


No reps needed for this advice. You coulda thought of this. Just be mature and dont lead this chick on. It hurts if you were to be passive aggressive and just turn cold on her.

yeah... it's just so hard hurting someone who is so good to you.. i feel like ill be stabbing her in the heart. i really do care, i just don't want to stay in a relationship with her if it isn't going anywhere. i suppose misc is right, i need to tell her like it is, tell her my feelings have changed and he honest..

plus, she has had a feeling something was wrong but i keep telling her it's nothing, mostly because i was waiting to see if my feelings changed back to how they were... i used to love her so much, idk what happened..

thanks for the advice people ill start repping and finish tomorrow or whenever

Quick and fast like ripping off a bandaid. End it and unfriend her on FB. Break all ties.

why would i do that? she's a great girl and i still care about her.

[ama828]

Just be honest with her. Let her know how you are feeling but reenforce her good qualities and image as a woman. Don't make it feel like an attack on her personal being. Let the blame fall on something you don't have any control...your feelings. Tell her you just don't love her in the way that you could see yourself marrying her and you think you both deserve to meet someone who does so you want to see other people.

Girls get over relationships fairly easily. She will be ok as long as she knows its done for good and it wasnt because of something about her. At least its only a year and not a 5+ year relationship. Break up though don't string her along by giving her false hope or the D.

[Anorexilla]

There is no nice way to do it, you just have to sit down with her and explain it to her.

It sucks, but there is not much you can do about it.

[joshewwah]

yeah... it's just so hard hurting someone who is so good to you.. i feel like ill be stabbing her in the heart. i really do care, i just don't want to stay in a relationship with her if it isn't going anywhere. i suppose misc is right, i need to tell her like it is, tell her my feelings have changed and he honest..

plus, she has had a feeling something was wrong but i keep telling her it's nothing, mostly because i was waiting to see if my feelings changed back to how they were... i used to love her so much, idk what happened..

thanks for the advice people ill start repping and finish tomorrow or whenever





why would i do that? she's a great girl and i still care about her.

If you really want to love her again, you should try some more touching, so you can re ignite the flame and get dat dere oxytocin again


http://yourbrainonporn.com/the-lazy-way-to-stay-in-love

[BootneckBrah]

Just be progressively more and more of a miserable kunt to live with.


This coupled with drunken inappropriate comments to her girlfriends and aggressive/threatening behaviour to any male friends or family, will ensure she wants to drop out of the relationship.




Either that or you get an almost oriental level of subservience and get away with anything you want. Think, MFFF foursomes etc



Also lmao at worrying about profile pics on social media. Just get rid of all that chit and start living you *******

[poundfive2]

Just be progressively more and more of a miserable kunt to live with.


This coupled with drunken inappropriate comments to her girlfriends and aggressive/threatening behaviour to any male friends or family, will ensure she wants to drop out if the relationship.




Either that or you get an almost oriental level of subservience and get away with anything you want. Think, MFFF foursomes etc

lmao, well idk if im that type of guy tbh. and her friends arent the type of people to let that happen, theyre pretty good people so i feel like this really wouldnt fly even if i was that type of guy.

[RebeccaDuff]

I mean.. don't string her along. Don't put her aside and call her when you need some.

[BootneckBrah]

lmao, well idk if im that type of guy tbh. and her friends arent the type of people to let that happen, theyre pretty good people so i feel like this really wouldnt fly even if i was that type of guy.

Bruhhh

There's no easy way to do what you propose to do.

There's an element of truth to what I said, the whole staying friends thing will seem condescending and will not last.

Normally round about the time she sees you with any other member of the female gender, it's gonna go wrong

[Boffothe]

Damn mang, sorry bro I know things were going well with her for a long time. At least you're figuring this out now though instead of further down the line.

It's tough for guys who are generally good people to have to hurt someone and be the "bad guy", but sometimes we've just gotta do it. Straight to the point with no wiggle room, and no talking to her for months on-end after you break up to help her deal with it because that'll only hurt her. If you're worried about pictures on social media, I'd consider just blocking her. All of this is going to phucking hurt her right now, but she'll survive. I pinky swear she will.

[RebeccaDuff]

Bruhhh

There's no easy way to do what you propose to do.

There's an element of truth to what I said, the whole staying friends thing will seem condescending and will not last.

Normally round about the time she sees you with any other member of the female gender, it's gonna go wrong

Exactly!

[poundfive2]

I mean.. don't string her along. Don't put her aside and call her when you need some.

well, obviously.. i mean, i respect this girl. she isn't someone i would ever disrespect or string along. i thought about spending my entire life with her. i could never betray her by letting her believe things were going to eventually work out.

Bruhhh

There's no easy way to do what you propose to do.

There's an element of truth to what I said, the whole staying friends thing will seem condescending and will not last.

Normally round about the time she sees you with any other member of the female gender, it's gonna go wrong

ok so here's the truth, i met a woman who i feel like i have a much better connection with. i feel like maybe over the last month that's what has been the catalyst to me losing love for my gf. not that it wouldnt have happened anyways, but i feel like this started the process and i dont want to lose an opportunity to date this, or any other woman i develop feelings for.

i havent cheated on my gf, but we've only been together one year, i couldnt see it working 20 years from now. which is why i want to end it now before i cause permanent damage.

Damn mang, sorry bro I know things were going well with her for a long time. At least you're figuring this out now though instead of further down the line.

It's tough for guys who are generally good people to have to hurt someone and be the "bad guy", but sometimes we've just gotta do it. Straight to the point with no wiggle room, and no talking to her for months on-end after you break up to help her deal with it because that'll only hurt her. If you're worried about pictures on social media, I'd consider just blocking her. All of this is going to phucking hurt her right now, but she'll survive. I pinky swear she will.

thank you for your advice. the RH always provides some great help.

im so worried and sad right now, because honestly, i know itll be harder for her, but it'll still be extremely hard for me. she's my best friend out here, i moved 3000 miles to new york from california and since we've been together i havent really been able to develop relationships with guys to hangout with.. so i feel like once i break up with her ill be alone on an island.