Woman logic ruining my marriage.

[DatTrolololsong]

The Irony that is my life:
My wife says sex is very important in a relationship, but she rarely fuks me. Once ever two weeks sometimes longer.

She says if you ever cheat, we won't work it out, it will be over instantly. But tells me she's just not interested in sex with me anymore. Occasionally throws me a bone. Used her vibrator yesterday. I keep track.

Says I am not loving towards her that is why she doesn't fuk me. But I am not loving bc I have so much pent up frustration about sex. Vicious cycle.
I can only be sweet for a few days and several rejections.

She's never initiated sex in 3 yrs. during sex she cums everytime. It's all about her. Pleasing me is the last thing on her mind during sex. Blowjobs, handjobs are pretty much off the table. Says sex isn't a need for me and that I'm not an animal

She's very conservative. Only been with 1 other guy. Wtf do I do to change this chick? Not at the point of divorce yet though so save your breath

Cliffs
Wife says she needs to feel loved to have sex.
So she puts me through sexual droughts as punishment.
Makes me treat her worse bc she doesn't care about my needs

[Redfish225]

Dam....

[Boffothe]

Build a time machine and marry someone you're sexually compatible with

[FU3L]

Shouldn't have married a kunt I guess.

[DatTrolololsong]

Build a time machine and marry someone you're sexually compatible with

We were boning like bunnies until I put a ring on it

[DatTrolololsong]

Shouldn't have married a kunt I guess.

Thanks for the advice. It should really help

[Libertvm]

bro, nothing gonna change her 3 years deep with you. this is something you guys should have worked out in the beginning. sorry man

[JordyQ]

Talk with her about it, iron out a convincing argument and if she doesn't understand that sex is a necessity for you then... i'll send you a box of tissues.

R.I.P. to our fallen brother.

[JDM-EJ1]

**** man, that really blows. Sounds like you need to sit down with her and have a mature, adult conversation and just list out all 'facts'. When I say facts, tell her what is actually happening from an unbiased point of view. Then tell her, as a man, sex is something you desire and need from your partner. If that fails, I would suggest counseling.

[DatTrolololsong]

bro, nothing gonna change her 3 years deep with you. this is something you guys should have worked out in the beginning. sorry man

I think you may be right. I can't be happy without a sex life. So many girls would love to be with me.

[FU3L]

Thanks for the advice. It should really help

You have a vicious cycle going on right now:

Wife wants love - withholds sex until she feels loved - you don't want to put the effort in because you're mad about no sex - nobody is happy.

Sit her down and explain that sex is important, and why you don't make her feel 'loved'. If she's not willing to compromise and work things out, you can either accept your sexless marriage or file for divorce.

[JDM-EJ1]

I think you may be right. I can't be happy without a sex life. So many girls would love to be with me.

Maybe it's time for some harsh truths for her. Obviously don't give her an ultimatum by any means, but just say something that a healthy sex life is something you need to be happy with her. If she comes back with, "You aren't loving towards me." Suck it up and pull out all the stops for her for a month, see what happens. If you have the same results, I honestly think you need to take a long, hard look at your marriage and just ask yourself if it's worth it.

[DatTrolololsong]

**** man, that really blows. Sounds like you need to sit down with her and have a mature, adult conversation and just list out all 'facts'. When I say facts, tell her what is actually happening from an unbiased point of view. Then tell her, as a man, sex is something you desire and need from your partner. If that fails, I would suggest counseling.

You have no idea. I lay in bed every night hoping for sex. We'll start kissing and it even seems like she's very subtly dry humping my leg. Then she'll just say goodnight. That's usually the point where I turn into a raging a$$ hole.
This happens almost nightly

[JDM-EJ1]

You have no idea. I lay in bed every night hoping for sex. We'll start kissing and it even seems like she's very subtly dry humping my leg. Then she'll just say goodnight. That's usually the point where I turn into a raging a$$ hole.
This happens almost nightly

I've been there before too, man. My ex-girlfriend was the same way, would drive me nuts. We obviously split, for other reasons; but I've been there. Just sit her down and talk with her. How is your communication in general?

[DatTrolololsong]

Maybe it's time for some harsh truths for her. Obviously don't give her an ultimatum by any means, but just say something that a healthy sex life is something you need to be happy with her. If she comes back with, "You aren't loving towards me." Suck it up and pull out all the stops for her for a month, see what happens. If you have the same results, I honestly think you need to take a long, hard look at your marriage and just ask yourself if it's worth it.

I've tried. I literally can't be nice for an entire month while she is denying me. And even 5 mins after sex I am mad bc I know it's going to be a long time until it happens again. And plus she enjoys the chit out of it. Is it even possible I have a sex addiction or too high expectations about her duties

[JDM-EJ1]

I've tried. I literally can't be nice for an entire month while she is denying me. And even 5 mins after sex I am mad bc I know it's going to be a long time until it happens again. And plus she enjoys the chit out of it. Is it even possible I have a sex addiction or too high expectations about her duties

Then looks like you need to go to counseling or start the divorce process. How long have you guys been together all together?

[DatTrolololsong]

I've been there before too, man. My ex-girlfriend was the same way, would drive me nuts. We obviously split, for other reasons; but I've been there. Just sit her down and talk with her. How is your communication in general?

About as you would expect. Garbage. She doesn't communicate well about it and doesn't even like when I bring it up. But I sweat if she would just fuk me every 3rd day I think I would be a great husband

[DatTrolololsong]

Then looks like you need to go to counseling or start the divorce process. How long have you guys been together all together?

4 yrs married 3

[JDM-EJ1]

You have three options at this point:

1. Counseling
2. Divorce
3. Cheating

[goodcupcakes]

If you're actually serious about fixing it go out and get The Five Languages of Love. Find out which one is her love language and use it and her complaints of not feeling loved should evaporate. Should.


It'll make sense when you read the book. The idea being that each person responds to actions that signify love differently. When you find the right one your girl feels loved because it's speaking her language when you try the others it falls on deaf ears.

[Boffothe]

4 yrs married 3

Got married after a year?

You need to have a discussion about this and she needs to understand that the stakes have been raised and divorce is a possibility. If she still refuses to talk about it, it means she's made the decision for you.

[kain89]

maybe because u are so thirsty, u want just to fuk her. finger her, kiss her neck, eat some tits, talk sweet before the sex... dunno, maybe u are going just too straight to the sex.

also, if ur sex live has been more intense than now, maybe she's testing u to see if u are with her just for sex, etc. but honestly, u SHOULD NOT stay with her if u dont enjoy your sexual live together. if u let her control over u by sex, she will use it to her benefits (wich is actually doing).

[Cynic09]

Got married after a year?

You need to have a discussion about this and she needs to understand that the stakes have been raised and divorce is a possibility. If she still refuses to talk about it, it means she's made the decision for you.

Either this or cheat. I got some bad news for you, OP. I already see divorce coming your way.

[DatTrolololsong]

If you're actually serious about fixing it go out and get The Five Languages of Love. Find out which one is her love language and use it and her complaints of not feeling loved should evaporate. Should.


It'll make sense when you read the book. The idea being that each person responds to actions that signify love differently. When you find the right one your girl feels loved because it's speaking her language when you try the others it falls on deaf ears.

Will buy today. Thanks

[JDM-EJ1]

If you're actually serious about fixing it go out and get The Five Languages of Love. Find out which one is her love language and use it and her complaints of not feeling loved should evaporate. Should.


It'll make sense when you read the book. The idea being that each person responds to actions that signify love differently. When you find the right one your girl feels loved because it's speaking her language when you try the others it falls on deaf ears.

Strong this.

This is the counselor (would hopefully) talk to you about. Everyone (even you OP) has their own 'love language'; basically things that make them happy when they're with someone.

The 5 langauges are:

Words of Affirmation - Essentially giving your partner compliments. Telling her she looks amazing, that you love her, can't imagine life without her, etc.

Quality time - Doing activities together. Going for walks, out to eat, cooking a meal together, hiking, etc.

Recieving gifts - Doesn't nesscarily mean lavish gifts. Say you overhear her say she needs a new pair of oven mits; randomly come home with the oven mits and surprise her.

Acts of Service - This is things like cooking a meal for her, doing the chores around the house, washing her car, etc.

Physical Touch - Not necessarily sex. But holding hands, kissing, hugging, massage, etc.

Trust me, if you find out which one (or more) of these really pulls on her heart strings, I guarantee you can get your sex life back. If you can't, she's truly ungrateful and you need to move on.

[SheLiftzHvy]

We were boning like bunnies until I put a ring on it

Do you still do the things for her that you did prior to putting a ring on it? Make her feel appreciated, loved, attractive?

[dfghijodhjgfdh]

Another woman using sex to snag a man and then stopping sex completely after getting married.

She manipulated you from the start and she's STILL manipulating you. She is using sex as a power tool. That's disgusting.

Tell her to go counselling or divorce her. You're still young, you shouldn't have to put up with this bullshyt.

Oh and don't worry, there'rs nothing wrong with her libido. With the right guy at the right time, she would suck him off and fuk his brains out 24/7.

[RustyPipes]

If you're actually serious about fixing it go out and get The Five Languages of Love. Find out which one is her love language and use it and her complaints of not feeling loved should evaporate. Should.


It'll make sense when you read the book. The idea being that each person responds to actions that signify love differently. When you find the right one your girl feels loved because it's speaking her language when you try the others it falls on deaf ears.

This.

There's a famous saying out there - "Men have sex to fall in love and women fall in love to have sex." You gotta learn what her definition of "love" is and then act on that if you want the relationship to work. You can't have a relationship based on a rewards system. I bought my wife a pair of PJ's last night, but don't expect her to schtup because of it. You have to recreate the loving environment you once had and then as a result the sex will come.

[HI_KKM]

You have no idea. I lay in bed every night hoping for sex. We'll start kissing and it even seems like she's very subtly dry humping my leg. Then she'll just say goodnight. That's usually the point where I turn into a raging a$$ hole.
This happens almost nightly

she wants you to be a man and take over

hold her down and destroy her roast beef sandwich
jam your dick in her mouth

grow a pair son

[DatTrolololsong]

Thx bras.

We just boned this morn after I started this thread but I know in three days I will get shut down. Wouldn't even attempt before them bc I know I'd get rejected and be raging