29 year old virgin, gonna pay for it, anything I should know?

[jay283]

Was finding the V difficult your first time?

You see thats the issue. You have to be confident in general. You have to stand up and be the man. If you like a chick ask her out, if she says no then her loss. If you're on a date and you're feeling it, say you're feeling it. Stop worrying about it, be confident that you'll be fine. Walk with confidence and talk like you're demanding respect. p.s. women prefer confident men but unfortunately confident guys tend to be *******s, so it comes off as though women like guys who are jerks.

[johnnydeep1]

Stop putting sex on a pedestal

When you are in your 20s and never had sex you begin to get desperate and the urge keeps getting stronger. Eventually the urge gets so strong that it gets hard to do every day tasks without losing focus.

Also, family members begin to ask you about it. I am only 23 and come from a conservative household where my parents married and had sex at a very late and they are finding something fishy. Specifically my sister. She finds me very attractive and often wonders why I can't get laid. I think that she is beginning to suspect that i'm gay. Sadly, she seems like the only female (alone with maybe 1 or 2 others) in my 4 years of college who views me this way.

[johnnydeep1]

OP: what do your family members say about you not having a GF? Do they find it odd. I know that mine are beginning to find it odd and i'm 23.

[alltrapbrah]

your ability to have sex is innate, IMO. I don't understand people who have trouble performing their first time.

my first time I actually fuked a girl in the ass, and I was telling her to call me papi (she was latina) lol, pulling her hair, putting my hand around her neck, etc.

It was condom sex so that's probably why I lasted so long, but still, don't understand how so many guys struggle with performance

it's a part of who you are, just like your ability to innately fight - some people are terrible fighters, some are great.

What age did you first have sex?

I believe there's research that shows a correlation between sexual dysfunction and delayed sexual experience. This certainly holds true of my own experiences and a handful of friends who popped their cherries late.

[Arsenal01]

^^^lulz brah, that doesnt count as "research"


dont do it OP....I have friends that sleep with escorts when theyre single and stop when they get a GF....their reasoning is you pay for it eventually (dates/time/etc) at least for a fine girl.....


But this dude has a dont give a fuk attitude and its not forced. If youre having seconds thoughts just dont do it.

Use that energy to move up a few steps on the food chain and it'll eventually happen once you get high enough

[MediocreGains]

Nah guys do care about an escorts satisfaction actually. But I agree relaxing and not worrying is key to having good sex.

Yes, headcases and men with very little experience and/or self-esteem.

[VicMackey92]

Drive to your local neighborhood at night with 50 dollars and smash a bitch, or get on a top level and take a escort for a hour and bang her

[MediocreGains]

This is that bs advice I was referring too. It is instinctual, don't need practice.

Eh, it's instinctual for most people. Most people also start having sex from around 15-20. OP's "instincts" have been dormant for at least 10 years. At least on a psychological level, it'll probably take some practice just to be comfortable with sex and not be up in his head. That's why a lot of guys who are virgins till they're 25+ have trouble staying hard, cumming, etc.

That said, fuking a hooker isn't really going to translate towards any type of succes with real girls. Still, sex is pleasurable on its own. Why deny yourself the experience? I'm against anyone under 25 getting a hooker for their first time because they're still young and it's a sad thing to do. But a 30 year-old virgin is already past the point of being sad. The need for sex is a biological drive that is only one step below other needs such as for food and sleep. Why deny it? Sure, getting a hooker is like paying for a ****ty meal, but when you're starving, it's certainly better than nothing. Like I said before though, don't be one of those weirdos looking for companionship. Don't even go looking for experience. Do it because sex is great, even if it's not the best kind of sex.

There is little difference to ONS with a Tinder slut vs an escort. It’s a entirely non-meaningful, non-intimate transaction regardless.

There's a big difference.

That said, OP certainly isn't getting one of those, so might as well get the other.

[VicMackey92]

Not gonna read all of the posts, but the only answer is to fukk a girl asap, not matter if she's a crackhead who suck dink for 20 bucks lmao, OP can't be picky

[alltrapbrah]

Btw Opie, and for everyone else in a similar predicament who's reading...

I lost my V to a hooker at 27, and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made. I made no progress with women from the ages of 18 to 27, but from 27 onwards (post hooker) I made gradual progress year on year. Got my first g/f at 31.

But obviously you'll never see Maori-rap quote this because he's only interested in opinions that confirm his viewpoint (which, incidentally, is not actually based on his own experiences).

[tightteeshirt]

op do you have a small dink and its mentally ****ing with you or something?

[Amleben]

I cant talk from my own experience, but I have a buddy who is 24 now and had his first time with a prostitute in the netherlands when he was like 19?

And now he is a happy extrovert who smashes more than anyone I know, probably every weekend if he wasnt attending uni

I cant say if you should do it, but I can see you shouldnt be ashamed either way. Banging a bich or being a virgin, it doesnt matter

That doesnt mean you should be proud of your awkward social skills tho.. That is still in your hands only

[LugosiNineOne]

Doesn’t feel any better at all . I’d feel better if I was still a virgin

Edit: like the guy above said that’s a good idea too. Even if you’re in a white country, you can get any girl as a white guy. Once you become a minority like me you get disqualified from sleeping with about 80% of girls right away so that’s why I just pay escorts

I am white and am invisible to women, so... wrong.

[fishnbrah]

There is little difference to ONS with a Tinder slut vs an escort

HUGE difference

[Luc1fer]

HUGE difference

What? Apart from the fact it's a different type of transaction.

The difference depends on your goals.

[tential]

What? Apart from the fact it's a different type of transaction.

Ya, I guess whether I pay your mom $20, or she begs me to slam her sugar walls, it's all the same...

[LeJR]

The two guys in the middle still won't get laid though.

opie tried to slip in pics of him and his bf

[LugosiNineOne]

Misery loves company. Miscers ITT want OP to remain a virgin because of that.

OP, I say do it. Just get the monkey off your back.

[Vrykul]

Yeah, you will cum in about 3 seconds, so unless you want to fuk 2-3 times don't even accept a blowjob, go straight to dicking.

Also, it will probably be a let down, so prepare to be disappointed.

If you want to last longer, definitely fap beforehand, and maybe even deprive yourself of sleep, like only sleep 4-5 hours instead of the full 8, that usually makes me last 5x longer

Might do you good to tell her that you're a virgin, maybe she'll treat you better?

And also don’t stress too much, escorts meet all kind of weird *******s, most of them are 100% weirder than you, she’s there to make money not marry you (I didn’t lose my virginity to a hooker but I did bang 2 hookers in Amsterdam, wanted to see what a threesome feels like)

[fishnbrah]

What? Apart from the fact it's a different type of transaction.

The difference depends on your goals.

one youre paying money to have sex. the other youre not. thought that was pretty obvious

[LeJR]

you can get some really realstici sex dolls that you can have sex with unlimtied times for about 250$ anyways

[TheAdlerian]

Being a virgin is really starting to phuck with my head. I'm going to pay a good escort ($350/hour) and get it over with. I wanna see a V and get my P inside of one. (Though I may have trouble finding the hole).

Not really complicated why I'm still a virgin. I'm not fat or ugly. Just socially retarded and pretty much a loner. All my friends are married (or loners themselves) so I don't go out as much anymore.

Anything I should know before doing this? Besides wear a condom?

EDIT: Oh yeah first post here in like years. Came here to ask for advice. Cliffs on what I've missed?

Girls can be super difficult.

It's one reason why many of them are prostitutes. Many "regular" girls are prostitutes in that they only go with guys who can benefit them in some way, rather than out of love.

So, a man who is a nice and quiet person will have a lot of trouble finding a girl as many girls do not like men for their inner personality qualities, but rather what function they can serve for them. In a Shakespeare play called Othello this one character is talking about this girl he wants and the guy he's talking to tell him to "fill his purse" meaning make a lot of money if he wants the girl. Thus, girls were whores, still are, and it's not about what many guys think.

That's because mothers tend to not exploit their kids as they do the men who impregnate them. So, boys get raised by "nice moms" and then boys think potential mates will be nice like their mom. That is not true.

There are nice girls, but they are few and usually are either very smart or had unique experiences that made them value affectionate relationships.

My point here is that you may be approaching things incorrectly and not meeting the right girls. You have to observe and evaluate people who come into your life.

Also, I DOUBT you're autistic or any of that because you want to be with a woman. Likely, you just don't get how or live in some weird location that makes it too hard.

[BetaThanU]

one youre paying money to have sex. the other youre not. thought that was pretty obvious

What’s the difference in the sex tho. Except the fact the hooker will prbbaly be far better experience.

[BetaThanU]

When you are in your 20s and never had sex you begin to get desperate and the urge keeps getting stronger. Eventually the urge gets so strong that it gets hard to do every day tasks without losing focus.

Also, family members begin to ask you about it. I am only 23 and come from a conservative household where my parents married and had sex at a very late and they are finding something fishy. Specifically my sister. She finds me very attractive and often wonders why I can't get laid. I think that she is beginning to suspect that i'm gay. Sadly, she seems like the only female (alone with maybe 1 or 2 others) in my 4 years of college who views me this way.

I’m not talking about that.
I’m taking about guys who say they would never get a pro because sex is sacred or some chit.
Yes it’s better to be able to score a women without having to pay. But it’s also far better to have sex with a pro than be a 30 year old virgin.

[TheAdlerian]

What’s the difference in the sex tho. Except the fact the hooker will prbbaly be far better experience.

Sex with someone who likes you is much different. Girls are happy when they're doing that and everyone feels warm emotionally.

Having sex with is a hooker is more like porn. You're doing the same things sexually but it's like an exercise rather than warm bonding fun.

[BetaThanU]

Sex with someone who likes you is much different. Girls are happy when they're doing that and everyone feels warm emotionally.

Having sex with is a hooker is more like porn. You're doing the same things sexually but it's like an exercise rather than warm bonding fun.

How’s that different than a one night stand with some sloot?

[atgbrahsrs]

one youre paying money to have sex. the other youre not. thought that was pretty obvious

but the quality you get off Tinder for the amount of time/energy you have invested (sometimes money if a date is included) does not outweigh a quality hooker tbh from what I have seen

[Vrykul]

Another thing, don’t ****ing worry about not being able to find her pussy, idk if it’s just a meme or whatever but I had 0 issues sticking it in the first time, if it’s wet just press your dick on where you think the pussy is and move up and down until it slides in, she doesn’t even need to be wet just use lube or saliva

Gl op you glorious winged *******

[TheAdlerian]

How’s that different than a one night stand with some sloot?

Not that much different.

However, in that case you might hit it off with the girl for only a short time. So, it's fun versus cold and simulated.

A hooker, no matter how nice she acts during the session will END IT when it's done.

[YouMadOrMirin]

Are you going to ask him for his real name to make it feel like more of a real first time experience?