Matches have pretty much died ³

[NissanskylineN1]

What exactly did you say/ask? When I talk about exclusivity it's not necessarily saying this is a set in stone relationship. It's simply that I'm not willing to have sex with someone who's having sex with others while we're seeing each other and figuring out if it will turn into more. I understand her not wanting to qualify it as a long term relationship after only 4 weeks, but if she's hedging on the exclusivity then I'd assume she's wanting to have sex with others.

I told her that I wanted to check in with her and see if everything is alright, and if she sees us dating will lead to going anywhere (and if so, if she wanted to date exclusively).

She also said that one reason that she hasn't thought about it is because she's been so busy with schooling, work, and trying to find a new place to rent (lease expires end of the year). She wants me to buy the place she's living in off her landlord (I'm not willing to move in with someone I've dated only for 4 months).

[Legz422]

I told her that I wanted to check in with her and see if everything is alright, and if she sees us dating will lead to going anywhere (and if so, if she wanted to date exclusively).

She also said that one reason that she hasn't thought about it is because she's been so busy with schooling, work, and trying to find a new place to rent (lease expires end of the year). She wants me to buy the place she's living in off her landlord (I'm not willing to move in with someone I've dated only for 4 months).

Oh gotcha. Like I said it's perfectly reasonable that she's not willing to say it's a relationship at this point, but you need to figure out if you're ok with seeing someone who's possibly having sex with others. I'm not, which is why I set my boundaries on that right up front.

[NissanskylineN1]

Oh gotcha. Like I said it's perfectly reasonable that she's not willing to say it's a relationship at this point, but you need to figure out if you're ok with seeing someone who's possibly having sex with others. I'm not, which is why I set my boundaries on that right up front.

I'm okay with giving it more time as I also understand that its reasonable to call it anything at this point. However, I'm not okay with someone who is sleeping with others. I'll have to clarify that the next time I see her.

Thanks!

[Legz422]

I'm okay with giving it more time as I also understand that its reasonable to call it anything at this point. However, I'm not okay with someone who is sleeping with others. I'll have to clarify that the next time I see her.

Thanks!

Yeah, def clarify that. I hope it works out!

[Luc1fer]

I'm okay with giving it more time as I also understand that its reasonable to call it anything at this point. However, I'm not okay with someone who is sleeping with others. I'll have to clarify that the next time I see her.

Thanks!

Definitely need to be clear. Why do you want to be exclusive?

For me:
1. I'm not okay with dating and being sexual with someone that's being sexual (or potentially sexual) with others.
2. If we like each other, dating exclusively gives it a fair shot. If both people are continuously pursuing other options, the likelihood of success is incredibly low.

From there, either we break up at some point, or we continue dating which naturally becomes a relationship.

[NissanskylineN1]

Definitely need to be clear. Why do you want to be exclusive?

For me:
1. I'm not okay with dating and being sexual with someone that's being sexual (or potentially sexual) with others.
2. If we like each other, dating exclusively gives it a fair shot. If both people are continuously pursuing other options, the likelihood of success is incredibly low.

From there, either we break up at some point, or we continue dating which naturally becomes a relationship.

For me its #1 and #2 that you have mentioned, but also that I'm trying to protect my heart/risk management. Its wreckless for me to keep seeing someone who isn't remotely committed if I've caught feelings for them. I'd just be climbing up a higher on a ladder that I'm destined to fall off of.

[skinnyfat88]

Definitely need to be clear. Why do you want to be exclusive?

For me:
1. I'm not okay with dating and being sexual with someone that's being sexual (or potentially sexual) with others.
2. If we like each other, dating exclusively gives it a fair shot. If both people are continuously pursuing other options, the likelihood of success is incredibly low.

From there, either we break up at some point, or we continue dating which naturally becomes a relationship.

This is a great way to bring it up without coming off as "needy."

[awwchit2]

i think in this day and age it's unreasonable to expect an attractive girl you met on tinder/hinge to be exclusive just to you like off the bat.

always assume chad is waiting in the shadows and just proceed with caution. or BECOME the chad.

and for the love of god keep your options around to help curve those needy/beta feelings. don't feel guilty about meeting/fuking other girls while seeing your "top choice". unless you two had "the talk" you don't owe eachother anything.

women play the field more than men do since it's so incredibly easy for them to get dik at their doorstep like uber eats.

basically if you built up a rotation of girls things will just naturally work itself out. whoever is meant to be with you will probably come easy. when you force things with girls things often just fall apart. let them come to you and if you leave and they come back, they were yours all along. or its just your turn lol

[randomuser12345]

What is the best age to set on tinder to get 20-25 y.o. girls in your opinion? I assume it's 26-27.
Recently turned 30 and it's depressing. 30+ girls even if they look decent (and it's rare) they 99% have kids and looking for provider.

[awwchit2]

What is the best age to set on tinder to get 20-25 y.o. girls in your opinion? I assume it's 26-27.
Recently turned 30 and it's depressing. 30+ girls even if they look decent (and it's rare) they 99% have kids and looking for provider.

just do 18-32 srs

[imbored21]

What is the best age to set on tinder to get 20-25 y.o. girls in your opinion? I assume it's 26-27.
Recently turned 30 and it's depressing. 30+ girls even if they look decent (and it's rare) they 99% have kids and looking for provider.

IDK if it matters. I'm 27 and match with girls 18-28 with most being early 20s. Girls don't care about age unless you're over 1 year younger usually. Maybe when you're over 30, it's different.

[Luc1fer]

What is the best age to set on tinder to get 20-25 y.o. girls in your opinion? I assume it's 26-27.
Recently turned 30 and it's depressing. 30+ girls even if they look decent (and it's rare) they 99% have kids and looking for provider.

I don't understand why you think 30 is a problem. Are you just assuming you'll only match with 30yo women?

[imbored21]

im normal looking. hypergamy is just out of control

[randomuser12345]

I don't understand why you think 30 is a problem. Are you just assuming you'll only match with 30yo women?

Cos of girls age range preference. I'm on tinder for a 3 years with basicaly same photos. And i can see the dynamics. While i set my age as 30 it's a lot more 28+ women and a lot less 20-25.
It's obviously not a problem for smth casual, but i don't mind to find myself some prime girl to wife at this point.

[imbored21]

what prompts do you guys use?

"i bet u cant beat me at jenga" gets lot of convos and girls asking me to teach them my jenga skills or bring it on dates. (cringey i know)

irrational fear one has been good for convos

My third one is weak and need a better idea.

[DustinTheHuss]

Thank heavens I’m finally matching with guys in their 30s. I have great conversations with guys in their 20s IRL about the NFL, politics, parties, adventures, etc.

Men my age just want to argue with me about politics or religion, or complain about their ex-wives.

Hence maybe a guy in his 30s would be a better medium if he already has kids.

[xbluexhawkx]

8/9 dates or whatever in a month is alot

loling @ her not even thinking about being exclusive. strong wtf.

[stevesteve12]

anyone LOL @ the fact that despite bumble pixelating the "liked you" females, you can still tell with 99% certainly which one is hot and which one isnt? its like all about the silhouette or some **** man, those screen caps literally have like only 30 pixels

[NissanskylineN1]

i think in this day and age it's unreasonable to expect an attractive girl you met on tinder/hinge to be exclusive just to you like off the bat.

always assume chad is waiting in the shadows and just proceed with caution. or BECOME the chad.

and for the love of god keep your options around to help curve those needy/beta feelings. don't feel guilty about meeting/fuking other girls while seeing your "top choice". unless you two had "the talk" you don't owe eachother anything.

women play the field more than men do since it's so incredibly easy for them to get dik at their doorstep like uber eats.

basically if you built up a rotation of girls things will just naturally work itself out. whoever is meant to be with you will probably come easy. when you force things with girls things often just fall apart. let them come to you and if you leave and they come back, they were yours all along. or its just your turn lol

Is that really healthy to do though? Like I get the premise of it, but to solely see other girls that you might not see yourself actually dating because they're seeing other guys seems like a petty thing to do. I'll admit that I'm seeing more than one person at once right now, but at this point I've already set my eyes on one of them. Not sure what progress seeing other people on top does other than helping me jump ship really quick in case I get dropped.

[awwchit2]

Is that really healthy to do though? Like I get the premise of it, but to solely see other girls that you might not see yourself actually dating because they're seeing other guys seems like a petty thing to do. I'll admit that I'm seeing more than one person at once right now, but at this point I've already set my eyes on one of them. Not sure what progress seeing other people on top does other than helping me jump ship really quick in case I get dropped.

well you just answered your own question.

Why ruin your dating pool in hopes things work out with your oneitis? It’s like an insurance policy and yeah people should be monogamous all the time in a perfect world. But we in 2021. Girls whore around these days.

Another benefit is once your oneitis learns you have options are seen as desirable, it will help your case. Because female brains are wired like that. They want who is wanted. It increases your worth. And could expedite an actual exclusive relationship

at least that’s how I see things.

[4North1Side2]

what prompts do you guys use?

"i bet u cant beat me at jenga" gets lot of convos and girls asking me to teach them my jenga skills or bring it on dates. (cringey i know)

irrational fear one has been good for convos

My third one is weak and need a better idea.

Why would playing Jenga on a date be cringey?

If theirs nothing on her profile to go by, I'll just send a silly gif followed by a variation of "you are cute, hot, gorgeous" etc

[awwchit2]

matches have pretty much died.

I texted some girl I used to talk to like 2-3 years ago but never met. She was from tinder. It was one of those nights where you're lonely and want company. So of course I sent out texts to old girls.

I literally sent her a "hey" and got the obligatory "who is this" sent her a pic of me (tfw almost chad) told her my name she ended up remembering. Skipped all the bullchit invited her over. To my great surprise it worked. She just had got off work and was like 17 minutes away.

She came over, was a little awk. Had a drink, listened to music, talked.

Didn't smash as she was a little reserved/timid. But it went okay.

She left like an hour later said she'd be down to hang again.

Texted her after she left saying she could come again tonight.

So far been ghosted.

And honestly idgaf. I hit up some other tinder backburner girl from months ago. Said she's talking to someone but that I was cute. shamefully she's a little far but she is cute. Seems like she's not down to "cheat" on someone "she's talking to".

which gave me hope for humanity that not all girls monkey branch

and now im alone in the trap

this is your psa to never delete girls numbers cause one day they might be down. just gotta ask

from now on im gonna save girls as ".... tinder" and put their fukin picture on the contact page cuz its hard to remember what they look like lol

[ConorO]

matches have pretty much died.

I texted some girl I used to talk to like 2-3 years ago but never met. She was from tinder. It was one of those nights where you're lonely and want company. So of course I sent out texts to old girls.

I literally sent her a "hey" and got the obligatory "who is this" sent her a pic of me (tfw almost chad) told her my name she ended up remembering. Skipped all the bullchit invited her over. To my great surprise it worked. She just had got off work and was like 17 minutes away.

She came over, was a little awk. Had a drink, listened to music, talked.

Didn't smash as she was a little reserved/timid. But it went okay.

She left like an hour later said she'd be down to hang again.

Texted her after she left saying she could come again tonight.

So far been ghosted.

And honestly idgaf. I hit up some other tinder backburner girl from months ago. Said she's talking to someone but that I was cute. shamefully she's a little far but she is cute. Seems like she's not down to "cheat" on someone "she's talking to".

which gave me hope for humanity that not all girls monkey branch

and now im alone in the trap

this is your psa to never delete girls numbers cause one day they might be down. just gotta ask

from now on im gonna save girls as ".... tinder" and put their fukin picture on the contact page cuz its hard to remember what they look like lol

WhatsApp is usually pretty good to remember who's who from their profile pics

[NitrogenWidget]

well you just answered your own question.

Why ruin your dating pool in hopes things work out with your oneitis? It’s like an insurance policy and yeah people should be monogamous all the time in a perfect world. But we in 2021. Girls whore around these days.

Another benefit is once your oneitis learns you have options are seen as desirable, it will help your case. Because female brains are wired like that. They want who is wanted. It increases your worth. And could expedite an actual exclusive relationship

at least that’s how I see things.

Can confirm.

nothing gets a woman off the fence faster than another woman validating your attractiveness.

[Darkius]

...

She also said that one reason that she hasn't thought about it is because she's been so busy with schooling, work, and trying to find a new place to rent (lease expires end of the year). She wants me to buy the place she's living in off her landlord (I'm not willing to move in with someone I've dated only for 4 months).

I doubt you'd be living with her for long. She could take the property from you once you own it and she lives there having sex with you. Google squater laws and tenant sexual discrimination.


You'd be far better off just paying her rent, in cash directly to her landlord. Even that would not be safe if she has kids.

[Darkius]

Cos of girls age range preference. I'm on tinder for a 3 years with basicaly same photos. And i can see the dynamics. While i set my age as 30 it's a lot more 28+ women and a lot less 20-25.
It's obviously not a problem for smth casual, but i don't mind to find myself some prime girl to wife at this point.

By set your age, do you mean change it on ********?

[Darkius]

i broke up with my gf of 3 years and I signed up on bumble. I matched up with a really average looking chick. I think shes a catfish, but im not entirely sure.

Cliffs
- match up with average 5-6/10 looking chick
- she asks me how tall I am and says my 5'9" is too short for her unless i have a huge dink (red flag I think, what average chick says this right away)
- Anyway, i tell her to text me, and we start texting and shes complaining about never finding a guy with a big enough dick. So I send her the evian bottle copy pasta
- So i ask her to meet up for coffee and she says she would be down, but then says I have to prove that I have a big dink.
- Say not gonna happen before we meet up, and she gets pissed
- She says we should video chat, but she doesnt answer
- She says we should talk on the phone first but she sounds like fat. (the first time i called her it went to voicemail and it was a textnow app(not her real number?))
- I found a girl with her name and picture on ******** and tell her on the phone to add me on ********.
- She goes no contact.

Debating whether or not to message that ******** asking if it was her or if someone was catfishing with her pics.

Definitely cat fishing. Likely a gay dude or a fat woman. You should inform the ******** owner about it and offer to help sue the catfisher.

[awwchit2]

anytime a girl refuses to talk on the phone, video chat, or send you a snap holding up a spoon/some gesture is a fukin scammer.

if you have any doubts you're probably correct

edit: woke up to a hinge like. turns out she was a tranny.
















coulda fooled me srs

[imbored21]

Anyone have a problem with every girl they meet off apps being shy as ****?? I don't like shy girls. I hate doing all the work socially. Girls are supposed to be loud and annoying and social :/

[Techriding101]

Anyone have a problem with every girl they meet off apps being shy as ****?? I don't like shy girls. I hate doing all the work socially. Girls are supposed to be loud and annoying and social :/

try men