The No Contact Thread v2.0

[obe1cannoli]

Suddenly seem to have got my appetite back, not sure it's a good thing in terms of weight loss but it must be good psychologically. Anyone else experienced this? I haven't craved food for around 5 months and all of a sudden chitty food looks appealing again.

Around the time I started suspecting my ex was a psycho was when I started losing my appetite and drive to work out. Lost all 30 lbs of muscle I had gained in the 6 months before that because I had no appetite. That lasted about 2 months after we broke up, them I started eating again but my weight is still down 20 lbs. That's one of the things that pisses me off the most is that that dumb bish made me lose my gains! Never again!

[weeabrah]

Week 3 post breakup, week 1 NC. Last night went clubbing with an old HS friend and his frat/sorority friends. While I pulled a 7/10 Taiwanese chick, I just started thinking of my ex again after the club.

Ugh even while I'm actively trying to get over her she always pops up...

[BlackRadio]

Got dumped 1 month ago yesterday, going on one month NC. Just started to get my appetite back a week ago. Been dreaming about her every night the past few days. Doing ok though. Went for a long run yesterday and had a good lift today. Been paying attention to my hobbies a lot recently. Feels good.

[InfraRed407]

looks like i need to join this thread. heart has been broken and lost my cool and let her have it last night. would like to come out of this looking like the better person. oh well.

[jasn88cubs]

looks like i need to join this thread. heart has been broken and lost my cool and let her have it last night. would like to come out of this looking like the better person. oh well.

its really hard to just walk away and not say anyting


im dealing with not saying anything now..its tough..i just wanna tell her i wanna walk away and she lost a good thing

[demfeelsbro]

Week 3 post breakup, week 1 NC. Last night went clubbing with an old HS friend and his frat/sorority friends. While I pulled a 7/10 Taiwanese chick, I just started thinking of my ex again after the club.

Ugh even while I'm actively trying to get over her she always pops up...

bro it's gonna be like this for a good few months...just deal with the emotions as they come. I stayed away from alcohol the first month or so after my BU

[WHUBen]

Hello brahs, split up from 4 nights ago. due to her saying I was to immature for her. First real relationship at 19, lost my virginity to her. 4 months together. went NC then saw her in a club, I was not going to be rude and I was going to be civil, went to say hi give her a quick hug and enjoy my night. she blanked me, we didnt end on bad terms. this was friday night, currently 2 nights NC. I have thought about her during split moments during the day, only lasting a minute or so. But determined to get through it, concentrate on my career in the fitness industry. We can do it.

Still have my appetite for food and my desire for the gym. This bish is not making feel bad and ruining my cut.

[shirtlessbrah]

been keeping myself busy but i know i won't totally move on until i meet some else and i refuse to "downgrade." that feel when can't meet anyone better than her.

[Jakeylee]

I'm on day 5 of NC...


I keep getting s these bad thoughts in my head that I can't control man, the thought of her banging another guy just makes me go crazy guys, help me out here!

I'm giving it two weeks of NC and if I still haven't heard from her I'm sending her a letter (no begging or chit like that) just to tell her how I feel and chit


SRS I want this girl back we just rushed things, we can start over

Write the letter but don't sent it. Just burn it. Don't get back in contact, accept it is over and move on. The feelings of hurt / pain will fade but you need to make yourself the priority now brah.

We're all gonna make it brah.




My ex decided to send me a drunken text at three in the morning saying that she misses "snuggling". Then another one at four saying it was a mistake.

No contact was quite easy though. :s

[obe1cannoli]

been keeping myself busy but i know i won't totally move on until i meet some else and i refuse to "downgrade." that feel when can't meet anyone better than her.

Just seems that way. You have to train yourself to find enjoyment in life without someone else. Once you learn to do that pressure will be off, or at least greatly reduced when it comes to finding a girl.

[AppsBrah]

'How are you?' while having a bf she planned a vacation with in x days (or so I've been told by a friend)

Lol just lol

[henryk21]

About to cut off my oneitis and go North Carolina. She just doesn't seem as interested as she once was and it's just rustling my jimmies. Gonna go with my gut instinct on this one and take it that the interest just isn't mutual anymore. There will be no initiation from me.

[cmcfrenchie]

What do you guys recommend doing to recover from stupidly breaking NC?

All that talk about how I won't act on any urges, but I did anyway, I guess I'm just starting to feel worse the closer I get to being that one month mark of being alone which is pathetic I know, it just kills me these thoughts and thinking these four years went down the drain and now my will power to stay on NC failed and so my emotions are back at square one. I sent her an email saying I need to talk to just get her to answer some questions I had and that was it. I realized how stupid was after sending it so I blocked her again before she responded or anything and now I'm feeling like total chit.

[AppsBrah]

What do you guys recommend doing to recover from stupidly breaking NC?

All that talk about how I won't act on any urges, but I did anyway, I guess I'm just starting to feel worse the closer I get to being that one month mark of being alone which is pathetic I know, it just kills me these thoughts and thinking these four years went down the drain and now my will power to stay on NC failed and so my emotions are back at square one. I sent her an email saying I need to talk to just get her to answer some questions I had and that was it. I realized how stupid was after sending it so I blocked her again before she responded or anything and now I'm feeling like total chit.

If you fail, try again. Stick to it this time.

[OV3RB3RG3R]

Suddenly seem to have got my appetite back, not sure it's a good thing in terms of weight loss but it must be good psychologically. Anyone else experienced this? I haven't craved food for around 5 months and all of a sudden chitty food looks appealing again.

I couldn't eat anything after the break-up. Everything from the smell to the sight of food made me nauseous. This only lasted about 3-4 days though. 5 months? That seems kinda dangerous.
I also didn't lift for like a week and half or so. Felt like chit. But now back in the gym lifting more than ever! The motivational is at an all new level my dude.

[OV3RB3RG3R]

Write the letter but don't sent it. Just burn it. Don't get back in contact, accept it is over and move on. The feelings of hurt / pain will fade but you need to make yourself the priority now brah.

We're all gonna make it brah.




My ex decided to send me a drunken text at three in the morning saying that she misses "snuggling". Then another one at four saying it was a mistake.

No contact was quite easy though. :s

Drunk words are sober thoughts brah...

[obe1cannoli]

I slipped up with NC a couple weeks ago, and almost attempted to meet up with her but you guys helped me steer clear of her. It was rough because I knew it was prob the last time I would ever have a chance to see her since I'm moving far far away, but I didn't contact her again after the end initial slip up.

I had a lot of time to think on a long road trip... that plus some time away from everything that reminded me of her has pushed me into the green again, and I haven't been upset about her in weeks. She texted me today about something and I was surprised at how I was able to react. One, my heart didn't drop at the thought of talking to her.. the reaction was completely mental and emotionless. Two, even when I had the slightest idea to text back, I was able to immediately think about all the lies she told me and use that as a reminder why she doesn't deserve a second of my attention.

It gets better brahs, but you have to make a conscious effort to get over your ex using the methods people have described in this thread. We're all gonna make it

[TimeToGrowUp]

Around the time I started suspecting my ex was a psycho was when I started losing my appetite and drive to work out. Lost all 30 lbs of muscle I had gained in the 6 months before that because I had no appetite. That lasted about 2 months after we broke up, them I started eating again but my weight is still down 20 lbs. That's one of the things that pisses me off the most is that that dumb bish made me lose my gains! Never again!

Nice to know I'm not alone. Fortunately for me I didn't lift so although I may have lost some muscle it looks to have been mostly fat. You'll get back to where you were and be stronger for it.

I couldn't eat anything after the break-up. Everything from the smell to the sight of food made me nauseous. This only lasted about 3-4 days though. 5 months? That seems kinda dangerous.
I also didn't lift for like a week and half or so. Felt like chit. But now back in the gym lifting more than ever! The motivational is at an all new level my dude.

I've been eating just not a lot and have been losing weight despite not doing any real exercise. However, over the last week my appetite has come back and whereas over the last 5 months I haven't wanted puddings/high cal food, now it looks appealing again.

I've been so tired though especially when combined with the lack of sleep. Felt more human the past couple of days eating a lot more - May mean I have the energy to live rather than just existing and wallowing.

[TibiConfidas]

Checking in brahs,

Long time lurker of the MISC forum and I've learned a lot from the many stories you have all shared
and I figured I should do the same...

Finally began NC with my ex of 20 months and it's gonna be rough but I can truthfully say that I gave it my best with her.
Despite being beta as phuck, I will be able to look back at it without any regrets.
It completely blows, after a rough year in uni I was truly looking forward to spending time with her and letting things get back to the way it was when we first met.
So far, this summer has been a major disappointment. My oil rig job didn't work out and I've now resorted to serving at a restaurant... Had high expectations but I'm really struggling to make something out of it. Honestly, the only thing I feel committed to is working out; I've been hitting the gym harder than ever and making serious gains - almost at the level of my high school when I played football. Currently, I'm contemplating whether or not I should take a summer course. It would be extremely beneficial for my degree but I don't know if I will be able to stay motivated...

Road to recovery begins now, we're all gonna make it brahs.

[TibiConfidas]

About to cut off my oneitis and go North Carolina. She just doesn't seem as interested as she once was and it's just rustling my jimmies. Gonna go with my gut instinct on this one and take it that the interest just isn't mutual anymore. There will be no initiation from me.

Been following your story for a while now. You seem like you genuinely care for this girl and I know how much it sucks not being reciprocated by someone that you thought was always going to be there for you.
Keep following NC and move on. I'm going through a similar phase where my ex flat out told me our relationship cannot be revived.

[shirtlessbrah]

Just seems that way. You have to train yourself to find enjoyment in life without someone else. Once you learn to do that pressure will be off, or at least greatly reduced when it comes to finding a girl.

oh ya i'm definitely used to spending time alone, i'm a loner by nature, but i got accustomed to having someone around to spend my time with. it just sucks when you think you've finally met the right girl and then you have to start over from square one. i'm really picky with who i choose to get into a relationship with anyway so it's hard for me to just meet someone else to get her off my mind completely.

[RailRod]

oh ya i'm definitely used to spending time alone, i'm a loner by nature, but i got accustomed to having someone around to spend my time with. it just sucks when you think you've finally met the right girl and then you have to start over from square one. i'm really picky with who i choose to get into a relationship with anyway so it's hard for me to just meet someone else to get her off my mind completely.

I'm in a similar situation. What I do post-breakup is to think of it as a survival phase, where she is a luxury that is no longer essential and which I cannot afford emotionally. My life is simpler without her. Less drama. More time: I can study, read, workout, blah blah. Finding someone else shouldn't be your main concern (tall words from me, I'm facing the same priority shift resistance). Take it easy....day by day, things get only better.

[Jakeylee]

^Nice advice above: It's definitely useful to reiterate the benefits of being single (no distractions, worries, can accomplish your own goals). I also find it helpful to listen to your friends problems and try to help them out ...

oh ya i'm definitely used to spending time alone, i'm a loner by nature, but i got accustomed to having someone around to spend my time with. it just sucks when you think you've finally met the right girl and then you have to start over from square one. i'm really picky with who i choose to get into a relationship with anyway so it's hard for me to just meet someone else to get her off my mind completely.

Know these feels. It sucks because I got so used to being alone before having a girlfriend and didn't realise how dependent I'd become until it ended.

[shirtlessbrah]

^Nice advice above: It's definitely useful to reiterate the benefits of being single (no distractions, worries, can accomplish your own goals). I also find it helpful to listen to your friends problems and try to help them out ...


Know these feels. It sucks because I got so used to being alone before having a girlfriend and didn't realise how dependent I'd become until it ended.

lol i'm just getting used to all the free time i have now and trying to keep preoccupied to help get my mind off things. i guess it helps that the summer's here so there's more parties/sports leagues/better weather to keep busy.

[explosivewater]

It helps brahs

*****://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sN6ZgBJOTO4

[ace377]

Girlfriend dumped me after 2 year relationship in college, turned 23 a month later, she gets on tinder, bangs random dudes, was going to propose after I graduated the following semester. She now has a new boyfriend since a few days ago. Haven't looked at her stuff in a few days. Still miss her, she was the love of my life. I want her back, and feel like I won't be able to find anyone being that I have high standards, and want someone just like her. Also, I'll be graduating, probably moving to a small town, so meeting women will be minimal.

[du3ce]

girlfriend dumped me today after 2.5 years said there were no sparks left on good terms, but god damn it hurts so bad right now i know im not gonna text or call her but the thought of change is screwing with me and the thought of our routines and never seeing her again.

[bikes4u]

girlfriend dumped me today after 2.5 years said there were no sparks left on good terms, but god damn it hurts so bad right now i know im not gonna text or call her but the thought of change is screwing with me and the thought of our routines and never seeing her again.

This is really gonna F with you Bro, the routine is now all different.

Sorry to hear about this, breakups suck. You go from bestfriends to NC in short time.

Best thing you can do is keep busy...start working out hard, get outside----walk, bike, hike, whatever. You need to keep your mind active.

Think of all the positives, you now have freedom to do what you want----you want to go to the gym for 2hrs then do it, you want to drink beers with your buddies? do it. You don't have to answer to her anymore about where you goin, where you been, who you seeing when.

You may want to come up with a plan for when you get the feels that you want to call or text......What are you gonna do when you get these feels? Maybe listen to some music or go for walk, call a buddy.

This gets better with time bro, I know minutes can seem like hours and hours like days. This is why you need to keep your body and mind busy as hell.

Good Luck OP, your gonna make it Bro!

[du3ce]

thanks for the encouraging word brah i might adopt a dog or cat just to keep busy outside from the gym.

[BlackRadio]

Been just about a month of NC. Not going to lie, this is still screwing with me big time. First thing I think about when I wake up. A lot of vidid dreams. But, it really helps to keep busy. I've been going for long walks/runs after work as much as I can and have been hanging with my buddies a lot. Also, I'm doing my hobbies a lot more which really does help. I'll get over it I think, but it will take a long time. Keep your heads up!