Personal Issues (Serious)

[Do_Somethin]

Well everyone I've encountered a huge personal obstacle this past Friday. I got fired from my full time job. I haven't been unemployed in almost 18 years. It's a pretty rough go of it mentally right now and I don't know what I'm going to do next.
I know goodbye posts are often irritating but I can't keep up a facade of happiness for the next little while.
So for now I'm signing out. I don't when or if I'll be back.
I wish everyone the best.
Goodbye from Joe.

[RoscoPico]

WHy did you get fired?

[Stevelegh]

Sorry to hear Joe. I hope you pick yourself up soon enough and get back in the saddle. Good luck man, you'll be missed.

[rpaul11]

Joe, best of luck with you on your job search. I hope you find the happiness you are looking for and find your way back here.

[gbg]

Sorry to here that sometimes things happen for a reason,
don't panic just yet you might end up with something better whether it be better pay or more of a challenge, change is a good thing it prevents you from becoming stagnant and learning new things.

Don't worry be happy!

[Tyrbolift]

You are probably overwhelmed with anger, frustration, confusion, sadness, embarassment, and depression.

Don't make any rash decisions until you can sort things out and grieve a little. Look into unemployment benefits, if it's possible. I'm sure a lot of us have been fired before. The time I was fired several years ago, a friend told me the next day about an opening at another place of business, and I was soon hired there and had that job for 11 years until I quit to pursue something else.

[chodan9]

we will be waiting for ya to get back!

[SP1966]

Sorry to hear that. Good luck and I look forward to your return!

[grace_ou]

We'll miss you while gone and eagerly awiat your return!!

[maryinmesquite]

i understand , im losing my job , the company is closing ,, and it is hell looking for a job in this economy , being 46 and trying to find a comprable salary

[G500]

Joe. I have been there and done that. 15 years ago I was broke and renting a room from a guy that owned a mobile home. You can turn things around if you try hard enough. Today I own a business and have 23 employees. I am not super rich but do OK. Just work hard, smart and you will be back on top.
G500

[djflex]

good luck man , its a mean world right now but things will work out...

[ntrllftr]

Sorry to hear joe.
2002 I lost my job due to downsizing. Now they are closed.
2005 lost my job due to plant closed.

I know exactly how you feel man.
The only thing to keep you going is positive thoughts.
Good luck!!!

.

[slave2beingFit]

Me too

2003- 3 days after closing on my new house, and I am single -

2006 - again! capital investment firm bought and sold company I was working for

2008 - had worked as a contractor for over 15 months, they wanted to hire me, new CEO, new company initiatives , all the right ones I might add - but no new hires and contractors terminated

I am currently single and unemployed.

If you want to chat, feel free to PM me...............

Best of Luck, Often it does turn out for the best, it really does

[magnumfreak]

You got fired???? OUTSTANDING!!!!! Now, what are you going to do about it? "A true measure of a champion is not how many times he falls but how many times he gets back up!"

Sure these are tougher economic times but companies are still hiring you just need to set yourself apart from the others. And for most it comes down to attitude. And in all reality, I would like to work for a company that is hiring during tougher economic times, just think how good they will do when the economy turns around.

May of 2007 I got fired from my job, you know what I did? Took a vacation and really enjoyed myself because I knew I didn't have to go back to work for a company that really sucked in the first place.

When I came home I started my own software company and I have never looked back.

Best of luck to you, NOW STAND BACK UP AND DO-SOMETHIN!

[SP1966]

You got fired???? OUTSTANDING!!!!! Now, what are you going to do about it? "A true measure of a champion is not how many times he falls but how many times he gets back up!"

Sure these are tougher economic times but companies are still hiring you just need to set yourself apart from the others. And for most it comes down to attitude. And in all reality, I would like to work for a company that is hiring during tougher economic times, just think how good they will do when the economy turns around.

May of 2007 I got fired from my job, you know what I did? Took a vacation and really enjoyed myself because I knew I didn't have to go back to work for a company that really sucked in the first place.

When I came home I started my own software company and I have never looked back.

Best of luck to you, NOW STAND BACK UP AND DO-SOMETHIN!

Very well said!! I sure hope he came back and saw this!!

[FINNTASTIC]

Hell buddy...post up what you do on here. Maybe a little good neworking will help find you a new job....Lots of peeps on here from lots of backgrounds.


Take care!

[omnisjdi]

You got fired???? OUTSTANDING!!!!! Now, what are you going to do about it? "A true measure of a champion is not how many times he falls but how many times he gets back up!"
Best of luck to you, NOW STAND BACK UP AND DO-SOMETHIN!

X3
Anything I could have said would have been too "off colored."
Time to own up.
Good luck.

[blw_redone]

Something I learned having suffered bouts of depression is to maintain my schedule and a sense of normalcy despite my situation. When we start forgoing our normal activities and withdrawing we just feed the depression. I faced a devastation just here the other day while I was at work. My wife told me to come on home after work so she could comfort me. I said I appreciate it but no I'm going to the gym like I always do. I just need to maintain and not make negative changes that will feed that depression.

I've been where you've been and have suffered through traumas that brought me to me knees railing against God and attempting suicide. All I can say is this now. I can make you a promise. YOU WILL SUFFER. You will face adversities and all will seem bleak or lost. So life is not whether you will or not suffer or whether you're going to face obstacles. The measure of a man is in how you respond to adversity. It forms your character. Be thankful that God thought you man enough to handle this and is forging your character by the fires of adversity. Hold you head up and be proud that you are man enough for the task. I wish you well my friend.

[Nikonguy]

Something I learned having suffered bouts of depression is to maintain my schedule and a sense of normalcy despite my situation. When we start forgoing our normal activities and withdrawing we just feed the depression. I faced a devastation just here the other day while I was at work. My wife told me to come on home after work so she could comfort me. I said I appreciate it but no I'm going to the gym like I always do. I just need to maintain and not make negative changes that will feed that depression.

I've been where you've been and have suffered through traumas that brought me to me knees railing against God and attempting suicide. All I can say is this now. I can make you a promise. YOU WILL SUFFER. You will face adversities and all will seem bleak or lost. So life is not whether you will or not suffer or whether you're going to face obstacles. The measure of a man is in how you respond to adversity. It forms your character. Be thankful that God thought you man enough to handle this and is forging your character by the fires of adversity. Hold you head up and be proud that you are man enough for the task. I wish you well my friend.

I started to write something very similar on in your journal Joe but blw_redone said it so much better. Don't stay away too long buddy.

[maryinmesquite]

Something I learned having suffered bouts of depression is to maintain my schedule and a sense of normalcy despite my situation. When we start forgoing our normal activities and withdrawing we just feed the depression. I faced a devastation just here the other day while I was at work. My wife told me to come on home after work so she could comfort me. I said I appreciate it but no I'm going to the gym like I always do. I just need to maintain and not make negative changes that will feed that depression.

I've been where you've been and have suffered through traumas that brought me to me knees railing against God and attempting suicide. All I can say is this now. I can make you a promise. YOU WILL SUFFER. You will face adversities and all will seem bleak or lost. So life is not whether you will or not suffer or whether you're going to face obstacles. The measure of a man is in how you respond to adversity. It forms your character. Be thankful that God thought you man enough to handle this and is forging your character by the fires of adversity. Hold you head up and be proud that you are man enough for the task. I wish you well my friend.

again your gift for the english language ,, very well said ,,, and you are right ,, if im having a bad day ,, i dont let myself sit and wallow in it ,, i clean or work ,, i have started a spring cleaning on the house and i am doing my yard ,, even did some tree trimming and and special stuff to the yard ,, at least i have accomplished something ,

[blw_redone]

I started to write something very similar on in your journal Joe but blw_redone said it so much better. Don't stay away too long buddy.

Well thank you but I bet you could have said it just fine and not been near as wordy as I am. I have a hard time being brief...lol

[blw_redone]

again your gift for the english language ,, very well said ,,, and you are right ,, if im having a bad day ,, i dont let myself sit and wallow in it ,, i clean or work ,, i have started a spring cleaning on the house and i am doing my yard ,, even did some tree trimming and and special stuff to the yard ,, at least i have accomplished something ,

A gift? You're too kind Mary. Ironically I like to read others way of putting things. Like you for instance. You make it more digestable I think.

[maryinmesquite]

A gift? You're too kind Mary. Ironically I like to read others way of putting things. Like you for instance. You make it more digestable I think.

is that a sweet way of saying im simple ,,lol

[blw_redone]

is that a sweet way of saying im simple ,,lol

My mentor Bruce Lee found beauty in simplicity as well as some of the great philosphers. Not simple of mind Mary, rather, you chisel away what is useless to reveal basic truths.

[maryinmesquite]

My mentor Bruce Lee found beauty in simplicity as well as some of the great philosphers. Not simple of mind Mary, rather, you chisel away what is useless to reveal basic truths.

yes i do that and piss some off , been told im blunt but i believe in honesty and hate BS, i would never hurt someone , but im also not going to blow smoke either

[EMISGOD]

Sorry to here that sometimes things happen for a reason,
don't panic just yet you might end up with something better whether it be better pay or more of a challenge, change is a good thing it prevents you from becoming stagnant and learning new things.

Don't worry be happy!

Yes, I guess this will force you to quickly become creative, trial by fire, grace under pressure, et. al...

This is a huge pain in the ass and granted it's easier said than done what gbg left as her closing line, however, the rest of her message is ultimately correct. The only thing I hate worse than doing laundry and fighting in a relationship is having to find another job (or working at all), so if I must, I try to integrate myself in as thoroughly as possible so that losing me, under whatever circumstances, will leave a hole large enough to slide a semi pulling triple 53's through it sideways...

Anyway, best of luck in whatever comes next.

[Tyrbolift]

Well thank you but I bet you could have said it just fine and not been near as wordy as I am. I have a hard time being brief...lol

A gift? You're too kind Mary. Ironically I like to read others way of putting things. Like you for instance. You make it more digestable I think.

is that a sweet way of saying im simple ,,lol

My mentor Bruce Lee found beauty in simplicity as well as some of the great philosphers. Not simple of mind Mary, rather, you chisel away what is useless to reveal basic truths.

One of my favorite writers and philosophers, Thoreau, believed not only in "simplify, simplify" for your life, but in writing, as well. He re-wrote most of his stuff at least once to cut things down and make it compact.

[maryinmesquite]

One of my favorite writers and philosophers, Thoreau, believed not only in "simplify, simplify" for your life, but in writing, as well. He re-wrote most of his stuff at least once to cut things down and make it compact.

where are these guys who like plain spoken women ,, who i wont piss off

[omnisjdi]

where are these guys who like plain spoken women ,, who i wont piss off

Where are the women who actually want an honest guy????????