Need girlfriend advice misc :/ (srs)

[Fokized]

if i was put in this situation i would simply say something along the lines of

listen, it has been a few days already and it i am tired of you not giving me a concrete reason whats is wrong. I am tired of waiting. You are being selfish by not giving me an answer or taking the time to talk to me. If you dont want to talk to me now, I dont want to talk to you at all, because I dont want to be with someone who keeps secrets.

if she doesnt want to talk, then dont contact her.
if she has any respect for you, after telling her that she will tell you whats up.

[SquallFF8]

Ok so it's kind of a long story so I'm gonna cliff it for you:

- On saturday my girlfriend for over a year comes over to my place and we are all chilling with friends at my house drinking a little bit.
-She keeps saying she's going to the bathroom and I don't think anything of it
-She goes to the bathroom again and she doesn't come back for awhile (5mins)
-Get a text that says something along the lines of "I can't do this right now and I still love you I just need time"
-I go to my room and she took MOST of her things she kept at my place and she's gone
-I call her and say I'm coming over right now, I get there and she's bawling her eyes out saying she doesn't want to talk right now and that she just wants to sleep and we'll talk tomorrow (sunday)
- I go to leave and she wants a hug but I just leave
-Sunday the next day I text her briefly saying how I don't like the way we left things and ask if we can talk
-She responds that she is really stressed and needs to calm her nerves and says we'll talk just not today, and I respond with ok
-I haven't had any contact with her since then.


-Still in a relationship on fb
-I talked to my friends and they said it seemed really unexpected and that they didn't notice her acting weird that night at all.
-I don't think she there is someone else. SHe doesn't have but like one or two friends and only has numbers in her phone like "mom" "sister" and a few people from her work(all girls). She doesn't even have a guys name in her contact list besides her stepdad.

SO misc how much time do I give? I know I should keep not talking but it's the hardest thing to right now because I have no idea whats going on and no idea where we stand. And I feel her sister and her female coworkers are filling her head with all these sluttly ideas and I'm just stuck here in limbo.

Serious replies only please, this is pretty hard for me and I'm not putting up any pics sorry.

Hate to break it to ya brah...but its 100% one of the following two things:


- Theres another guy (most likely this)

- Shes tired of you and wants to move on and get some new dick without cheating but feels bad



I've had the same kind of situation that you described happen to me with a g/f of 2+ years. Turns out there was another guy.


Just move on now and save yourself the pain of trying to figure it out and work it out with her. Best of luck!

[Pink007]

shecheated/10

[SquallFF8]

Yea it's been like 3 or 4 days of no contact. And yea I really don't think she has guys as other names cause I honestly looked through her phone not too long ago and at through her texts and stuff and I know everyone in there honestly. And she has been cheated on before and said it hurt so much she would never do it to anyone. I'm not ruling it out but I know how the misc is sometimes. I'm not saying that its gonna work out or anything, but I'm gonna try to talk to her either tonight or tomorrow sometime. I will update when I do. Any serious replies on good things to say?

Also, like I said before her mom loves me to death, so would it be a bad idea to see if my gf has said anything to her mom about this?


And no it's not coke, we do smoke the green like everyday and have done coke and molly and **** so it's not like she would try to hide it. Plus she has like no money for anyways.

Man at some point in this life you're going to have to figure out that women just don't have any logic. Just b/c she got cheated on and told you that she would never do it doesn't mean shiet. Sadly thats just how it is with girls. They can be shady and sneaky as fuk lol You can't rule anything out that she might have done. All possibilities are on the table in your situation. She obviously did something. Don't kill yourself trying to figure it out, just move on.

[Shak3401]

Sounds a little strange...

She have any 'Guy Friends'??

Not saying she cheated.

Inb4 all of misc says she is cheating

She cheated. Srs

[5x10]

unless your a complete ass, its rare for a woman to leave without a backup plan
is she bi polar or overly emotional?

just ask her for closure and end it, if not, your going to drag yourself through the mud

[ShaShaaaax3]

if u don't talk to her for a couple of days odds are she'll start missing u and come back to u anyway

srs take the girls advice about a girl

[SquallFF8]

if u don't talk to her for a couple of days odds are she'll start missing u and come back to u anyway

srs take the girls advice about a girl

Odds are she won't b/c theres already another guy that shes monkey branching onto or shes out having the time of her life getting new dick.


Sadly, this is most likely the case. I feel bad for OP.

[BoilingDenim]

Another option to consider OP is she might be moving away.

How's her job situation? School? etc.. she may have found out and can't do anything about it and doesn't know how to break it to you.

[d3lf]

OP, listen, you know your girlfriend better than anyone else, so only you can make the right decision. Honestly, I don't think she's cheating. If you trust her, then trust her. She's probably confused because she's having mixed feelings and she needs to get a hold on herself before she can talk to you. Maybe she saw someone else and got filled with lust, then felt guilty. Maybe her friends keep telling her to dump you but she still loves you, who knows. It could be anything, and to be perfectly frank it doesn't fucking matter what her reasons are. All you can do is wait it out. she WILL talk to you, I promise. It might take a while, but she WILL talk to you. I say wait a week, and if she doesnt hit you up, call her and leave a voicemail asking to talk. Tell her you still love her and you want to fix things.

If she ignores you, you have a choice to make. If you really love her, you will silently support her actions and be there when she's ready to talk. If you don't think she's worth it, then try to forget about her and move on. Remember, if you love something, let it go. If it comes back, it's yours forever, but if it doesn't, it wasn't yours to begin with.

[SquallFF8]

Another option to consider OP is she might be moving away.

How's her job situation? School? etc.. she may have found out and can't do anything about it and doesn't know how to break it to you.

lol come on man don't give OP false hope to fuk with his head.


No way in hell thats the case. Didn't you see the situation that he typed up? If she was moving away she wouldn't act like that and would probably break it to him in a less emotional, dramatic way.

You're 27. Surely you know what girls are capable of.

[Rodier21]

i've personally seen one of my friends (a girl) put another dudes name as a girl to hide it from her on/off again boyfriend so they could plan out when to meet up and hook up. Probably another guy op, sorry bud

[djsneak]

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[kel_varnsen]

i would say she probably cheated and may or may not regret it. in any case she isn't sure how to tell you yet or even if she should tell you.

though she may just be going through some rough **** and doesn't want to tell you. unlike what misc virgins will tell you, women do have lives as well. they are not just cold blooded sluts out to crush a man.

[mac2118]

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[shanks1992]

Maybe she cheated and feels bad/cheated and kept running to the toilet because she has an STI?

[m1canes29]

Maybe she cheated and feels bad/cheated and kept running to the toilet because she has an STI?

how would running to the toilet have anything to do with an STI?

OP she probably needed her space but after 3-4 days thats enough. Call her, if no answer leave a voicemail saying you are just checking in seeing how you are doing blah blah. If no response for a while after then something obviously up. I'd go to her house.

[slmdls1]

females are crazy and overly emotional...this situation sounds like mine....no she may not be cheating, no she may not be preggers....she just maybe be emotionally f*cked in the head.

Don't talk to her, don't contact her...just leave her alone and let her sort out her issues herself. in the meantime, take care of yourself like you're single. I would change the FB status and she might call...she might not...but don't count on any meaningful contact from her and just do you for a while.

[SpartanTraining]

Strong lack of misc consensus itt.

There are two options:

-try to find the heart of the problem / press her

or

-be alpha and optimistic and stop acting like u care about her

i can almost guarantee option 2 is better

[ILLuSioNzX]

Her small social life may be to explain for all of this. If you feel like she's a keeper, give her friends and mother a call to see what's up (this will show you give a fuark). On the other hand, you're 21, walk away, and wait a few weeks, this bish will, and I guarantee, she will come back begging for the D.

[Alphamale0]

Her small social life may be to explain for all of this. If you feel like she's a keeper, give her friends and mother a call to see what's up (this will show you give a fuark). On the other hand, you're 21, walk away, and wait a few weeks, this bish will, and I guarantee, she will come back begging for the D.

Thats what I'm thinking, but I figure they will tell her that I was asking about her. But based on how the relationship is so far before this, I would say she was wife material. Not that I'm trying to do that anytime soon obv.

unless your a complete ass, its rare for a woman to leave without a backup plan
is she bi polar or overly emotional?

just ask her for closure and end it, if not, your going to drag yourself through the mud

Yes she is overly emotional. She has depression and stopped taking her prozac like 2 weeks ago. She does have her issues and flaws but I still love her to death. I have a feeling that this is factoring in to what is going on.

if u don't talk to her for a couple of days odds are she'll start missing u and come back to u anyway

srs take the girls advice about a girl

Thats what I'm thinking/hoping too. I'm not going to take her back though if I find out she was cheating or something though.

[khan303]

Hate when bishes do this. Just give her some time and space and see what she does.

My old bish used to do this, just wanted attention and annoyed the hell out of me. I would ignore then she'd come back.

[joelz54_99]

OP, everybody lies.

If it looks like she's cheating then she's cheating.

[ClothesRod]

Op i had a similar situation to you
if she is a legitimately good girl as far as you know then you need to give her some time.

emotional girls are not bad, they are just weird as ****.
when she says she needs "time alone" it means she needs time to basically be an emotional wreak and not keep it together for you.

(srs) girls like this will have like periods of time were they cant do anything but be weird.

chances are she is not even upset at anything or "thinking" about anything at all really.


when a girl says "i need time to think" it often mean "i need to collect myself"


if you still want this relationship to work i would suggest texting her something like this:

"hey, im just texting to say that you can take your time. you can text me when you are feeling better. I'll give you seven days, by that time ide like you to tell me something, either what is taking you so long or if i should just move on.
you know im here if you need something"


gl w/e you do

[Swaggahh]

Op i had a similar situation to you
if she is a legitimately good girl as far as you know then you need to give her some time.

emotional girls are not bad, they are just weird as ****.
when she says she needs "time alone" it means she needs time to basically be an emotional wreak and not keep it together for you.

(srs) girls like this will have like periods of time were they cant do anything but be weird.

chances are she is not even upset at anything or "thinking" about anything at all really.


when a girl says "i need time to think" it often mean "i need to collect myself"


if you still want this relationship to work i would suggest texting her something like this:

"hey, im just texting to say that you can take your time. you can text me when you are feeling better. I'll give you seven days, by that time ide like you to tell me something, either what is taking you so long or if i should just move on.
you know im here if you need something"


gl w/e you do

that text message is good.

should send it now

[TattBrahh]

Don't know what to tell you bro. She is probably fighting her own demons in her head.

[mingzie]

its 10000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 00000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 0350% cheating

OP u r 1 delusional kunt m8

[Av0nBarksdale]

Proceed not to give a f#ck. That is the only way.

If you let a bish suck you in to her drama world, good night sweet prince.

this

[OhMightyOne]

I would basically not give a fuk OP if I was you. Hate it when girls do this. If your gonna talk to her simply say "Either tell me whats up or i'm not bothering anymore." It's completely self centered when they do this whole "I DONT WANNA TALK ABOUT IT" ****.

Also, I'd line up other options.

[trailwkr]

OP, Might not be cheating..might just want to break up with you for various reasons ans she is having a hard time doing it. Don't read too much into her actions.