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05-14-2024, 08:31 AM #301
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05-14-2024, 08:32 AM #302
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05-14-2024, 08:35 AM #303
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05-14-2024, 08:36 AM #304
Slightly true but slightly misguided. Confidence comes from accomplishment. Not just trying things and failing. You have to work towards something and fail, regroup, get better, and fail and work more until you ACCOMPLISH something based on settings goals.
My kid wants to win the most prestigious BJJ tournament in the world. You dont just sign up and come to lose and think "its all good....you tried"
You have to put in the work. Fix what you can fix. Work on your deficiencies to put yourself in the best position to succeed.
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05-14-2024, 08:37 AM #305
There is literally millions of women. It's almost statistically impossible for you not to find someone you are compatible with. What you need to work on is the mindset your looks is holding you back. I haven't read the entire thread but I don't think you are looking for one night stands which is the only department where looks matter a lot. Everything else is changeable/fixable.
I was always looking at the finger pointing at
the moon. Now I'm just looking at the moon.
And theres no me looking. Theres just looking.
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05-14-2024, 08:38 AM #306
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05-14-2024, 08:38 AM #307
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05-14-2024, 08:42 AM #308
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05-14-2024, 08:42 AM #309
I agree with this but then it doesnt make sense.
I get told that being confident is key with women, but you only get confidence by being successful.
I think confidence matters a lot less than people make it out to be. People that women like, for looks or for whatever reason, get confident because women like them. Its self fulfilling.
I am never going to have the kind of success to merit confidence in this area of life. i will be lucky to even go on a date again, I have no idea if or when that will ever happen again.
All I can say is, if the need arises, I think I'll be able to go for it again.Manlet Master Race
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05-14-2024, 08:45 AM #310
You just said verbatim "I dont even see anyone I like out there".
Now you are saying you would give most women a chance "if they were interested"
The whole point is to get them interested in you bro. Im a decent looking dude in good shape and when I was single I already had bank. And still women werent coming up to me throwing themselves at me unless I was in the lambo. Its just not how it works bro.
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05-14-2024, 08:52 AM #311
I dont think women should come up throwing themselves at me. But for most non chads, this stuff happens naturally. They exist in the world doing hobbies and meeting people and every so often there will be a girl where something clicks with. And they either make it pretty obvious you could ask them out and get a yes, or things just naturally happen you hook up or something.
I see it all the time.
Thats the kind of thing that has never and will never happen for me, but if it did, if some woman was showing some signs and clicking with me, I would give most a chance.
But thats not the same thing as actively wanting to pursue someone.Manlet Master Race
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05-14-2024, 08:53 AM #312
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05-14-2024, 08:58 AM #313
There's confidence in different areas of life. I am confident in things I'm good at. I am not confident in things I suck at and fail at.
General SELF confidence, I think I have it actually. But that isn't the same as confidence with women, because I am not attractive and I fail with women. those are just the facts.
Confidence with women is a specific thing, and if you are unattractive and never get women, it doesnt make any sense to be confident in that aspect of things. Which I am not. That would be delusion.Manlet Master Race
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05-14-2024, 09:25 AM #314
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05-14-2024, 09:40 AM #315
I would say a few things, in general I am very well liked. I can make friends pretty easily, I am funny and I know "how to win friends and influence people" I know how to listen. I know how to converse with people to make them feel good. I do it all the time.
So I know I have that. In terms of tangible things, I have a house in a nice area, I have decent money, I have had the 6 figure job, I have the ivy league pedigree, I'm in shape and athletic. I have these things going for me, objectively. In a lot of ways I'm objectively top 20%.
None of this makes a difference to the dating results. So, I dont walk into a situation confident because results have shown these things dont move the needle.Manlet Master Race
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05-14-2024, 09:50 AM #316
Very glad to hear that you have all that going for you. Good job. You're objectively doing better than most slobs.
So what would you say constitutes your circle of friends and peers? Would you say they fall into or around the same circle of success as you?
Just trying to paint a profile as that can really help with guiding people in general.
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05-14-2024, 09:52 AM #317
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05-14-2024, 10:00 AM #320
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05-14-2024, 10:01 AM #321
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05-14-2024, 10:04 AM #322
Yeah that’s what I’m getting at. I will say anytime I’ve listened to your vocaroos, even when we’re arguing I’ve always thought you’re a good speaker.
I can’t remember if you drink or not but I know Muzz just goes to bars and talks to everyone, Rat does too. Wonder if that could be a way for you to get started.
And I say this as someone who doesn’t drink/go to bars so I could be full of chit lol.Sloots Gon Sloot.
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05-14-2024, 10:10 AM #323
Apologies, when I say “I’m not buying it”, I don’t mean that in the sense that I think you’re lying. I don’t doubt that you believe what you believe. I mean it in the sense that I think your perception of yourself is inaccurate to some degree.
Also, how we perceive ourselves can be VERY different to how others perceive us.
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05-14-2024, 10:10 AM #324
I've done the bar scene man, I've done bar scene and just start talking to people. I can do it, super comfortable with it.
There's a reason I've been convinced I just dont have the physical side of it that I need, it is really the only thing I can see to explain my results.
I've thought about putting it to the ultimate test and just going for fat chicks. If that doesnt even work, then its just over.Manlet Master Race
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05-14-2024, 10:11 AM #325
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05-14-2024, 10:12 AM #326
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05-14-2024, 10:29 AM #327
I guess if you are the bottom .1% and are hideous to look at then you might be a corner case?
But in general confidence blends together. I suck at BJJ. But I am confident that with enough time and focus I will get good. So even though I go on the matt every day and get my arse kicked by the upper belts, I know I can get good if I keep trying. The upper belts also let me know that they can feel that I am progressing. My confidence on that matt (even though I suck and get my butt kicked) comes from knowing I have overcome other obstacles in my life.
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05-14-2024, 10:32 AM #328
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