How long should I wait after a (seemingly) great first date before setting a second?

[caca_man]

What's the update?????????????????

[xvicknumber7x]

a girl who was into you wouldnt flake in that fashion, she'd be really psyched about the next opportunity to hang

i'd just not talk to her anymore tbh. i think youre really overthinking this whole thing and its making you look kinda unattractive and im guessing she sees it

[randomuser12345]

Rule of a thumb is: if you are wondering if is she interested most likely she isn't. Definitely not hight interest. It's up to you to decide if you want to try to raise it over time or to find more receptive girl.

[Crazy_Desi]

Every time a girl said "I had a nice time too" it was a rejection, just fyi.

[kingHanley]

Did opie rope himself?

[F.A.M.E.]

OP, sounds like you may have seemed overeager but you haven’t officially shot yourself in the foot yet. You’re still in it but you need to assert yourself as a high value man.

[TJW2020]

her: Hey, I'm sorry to be getting to you so late about this but I will indeed have to reschedule. My hair appt took a lot longer than I expected and still need to get the other things done before doing art

me: All good. Thanks for letting me know

Her: You're welcome

Lol

[tripod29]

Go NC right now OP. Not joking.



It's over.

[TJW2020]

Go NC right now OP. Not joking.



It's over.

Eh I'll hit her up again in a few days

[Kev1972]

her: Hey, I'm sorry to be getting to you so late about this but I will indeed have to reschedule. My hair appt took a lot longer than I expected and still need to get the other things done before doing art

me: All good. Thanks for letting me know

Her: You're welcome

Lol

Sloot-speak for "I have another guy's johnson in my mouth right now".

[redliner9]

Go NC right now OP. Not joking.



It's over.

Exactly, dont send another f-ing text OP

Are you knew to dating or something?

[homers54321]

Exactly, dont send another f-ing text OP

Are you knew to dating or something?

This. Srs. If you initiated the kisses every time, maybe she was just trying not to make things awkward by rejecting you.

[TJW2020]

Exactly, dont send another f-ing text OP

Are you knew to dating or something?

Lol where does that get me? Nowhere.

Also, new*

Intelligence severely lack all around on this forum.

This. Srs. If you initiated the kisses every time, maybe she was just trying not to make things awkward by rejecting you.

Nah. You probably don't have much experience, but that's not how it works lmao

Actually everyone on this forum seems very lacking in dating experience.

[skinnyfat88]

Eh I'll hit her up again in a few days

This may seem like a minor detail but I used to respond exactly like you did and then hit her up a few days later. It was usually not successful.

Now in a scenario like that I would respond with "All good. Let me know when you'd like to reschedule."

This leaves the ball firmly in her court and leaves the impression/assumption that she's going to reschedule because you view yourself as someone of high value so after a few days she will reach back out.

I used to be afraid to leave the ball firmly in their court in fear of them ghosting but told myself that waiting a few days before hitting her up again was my way of at least not looking needy. Now I know that subtle change increases your value in their eyes because you see yourself as high value and don't need to chase them.
& in the case they don't ever get back to you then I can assure you that your chances were slim to none in the first place.

The reality of the scenario is it was just one date and you neither hooked her or completely blew it and as much as you feel she's "genuine" and you had an awesome date, you are very much in the stage where you have to play your cards right and there's some small and easy things you can do to do so.

One other tip, don't say "I'd love to take you out."
You're wording it as though she's the prize and you're trying to win her over.

[TheDaveuk]

bout tree fiddy

[caca_man]

This may seem like a minor detail but I used to respond exactly like you did and then hit her up a few days later. It was usually not successful.

Now in a scenario like that I would respond with "All good. Let me know when you'd like to reschedule."

This leaves the ball firmly in her court and leaves the impression/assumption that she's going to reschedule because you view yourself as someone of high value so after a few days she will reach back out.

This!!!!!!!!

[Coolman468]

her: Hey, I'm sorry to be getting to you so late about this but I will indeed have to reschedule. My hair appt took a lot longer than I expected and still need to get the other things done before doing art

me: All good. Thanks for letting me know

Her: You're welcome

Lol

Lol you said you’re welcome, that’s funny, but this was expected, I think we all saw it coming, but good response, I wouldn’t text her ever again, actually I’d probably delete her number. Don’t expect to hear from her either.

[brightbrah]

Eh I'll hit her up again in a few days

keep what's left of your dignity and move on srs

[FallOutBrah]

thread provided the lolz. much cringe.

[TJW2020]

thread provided the lolz. much cringe.

Virgin detected

[Legz422]

Update?

[mcdeez]

This may seem like a minor detail but I used to respond exactly like you did and then hit her up a few days later. It was usually not successful.

Now in a scenario like that I would respond with "All good. Let me know when you'd like to reschedule."

This leaves the ball firmly in her court and leaves the impression/assumption that she's going to reschedule because you view yourself as someone of high value so after a few days she will reach back out.

I used to be afraid to leave the ball firmly in their court in fear of them ghosting but told myself that waiting a few days before hitting her up again was my way of at least not looking needy. Now I know that subtle change increases your value in their eyes because you see yourself as high value and don't need to chase them.
& in the case they don't ever get back to you then I can assure you that your chances were slim to none in the first place.

The reality of the scenario is it was just one date and you neither hooked her or completely blew it and as much as you feel she's "genuine" and you had an awesome date, you are very much in the stage where you have to play your cards right and there's some small and easy things you can do to do so.

One other tip, don't say "I'd love to take you out."
You're wording it as though she's the prize and you're trying to win her over.

This.

Always end with the ball in her court,during this momment stop being a beta and date other girls at the same time, you wont get this anxiety.

[TJW2020]

Update?

Ended up sleeping with her and she had a heart attack and died...

[caca_man]

What's the update?

[elterrible987]

Ended up sleeping with her and she had a heart attack and died...

real update *******

[DBoyDaRealest]

real update *******

there will be none. Misc already diagnosed that the girl is not interested. This is a form of soft ghosting that happens with dating where OP is supposed to take a hint and they will never talk again.

[skinnyfat88]

Hopefully an update is on the way so OP can either re-assure himself in trusting his gut or learn from his mistakes.