How important are looks to you? Srs

[Werehusky]

Sup bb

"Got NC'd by a hooker crew"

You're outta my league boyo.

[Isabeli]

75% - 80% looks = very important

20% - 25% everything else

[idno]

I'm a male and I can confirm looks matter, but not the way you think. I'm a virgin so take my word with a grain of salt. I only care about a women's appearance to the point where she passes my baseline test. As long as she is above a certain level of attractiveness I would consider dating or pursuing. Only thing that would disqualify a girl is having a jacked up nose, extremely recessed jaw, or having a sloppy body. Ironically I have the two out of the 3 aforementioned traits.

[Roasted]

I don't know how you can just make yourself attracted to a guy just because he has money. Can you really fall in love with a guy when money is the basis for your attraction to him? For me, it doesn't matter how much money a girl has, if I don't find her physically attractive then I can't be with her.

A lot of women would argue the same thing about a man falling in love with a woman when looks are the basis. This is why a lot of VERY attractive women find dating frustrating.......cause they want men to fall in love with them over their personality, meanwhile, 99% of men fall over themselves as soon as they take one look at them without getting to know them. I kind of understand their frustration.

[LiftDeezNuts]

They just have to not be fat as fuk but apparently that's too much to ask for.

[TooAnabolic]

looks are like 80% for guys.

srs

It's a bonus if a girl lifts or we have sht in common, but I'm not gonna date an ugly girl just cuz she has a nice personality.

Men want a sloot with good, healthy child bearing genetics. Symmetry and attractiveness are indicators of genetic quality.

Women want a man that can provide for and support her and her children.. that has nothing to do with looks.

This is how we've evolved over 300,000 years as humans, no amount of opinion is ever going to change it.

[Arkileon]

someone aware me on the female chad thread for reps

[Azmine]

This isn't gender specific EAOP, there has to be an initial attraction to even get the rest going..

[Killerflect]

Pretty much anytime I approach a girl or try to game her to get with her is because I find her physically attractive but that's just me other people value personality a lot more.

[FiteMeIrlFgt]

someone aware me on the female chad thread for reps

this one? http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...hp?t=171171531




And for me physical appearance is about 80% of what I look for at first. Especially if I eventually want to have a kid, that kid needs to have good genetics from both sides. Also I just can't seem to bring myself to believe that some people actually start talking to a person because of their personality, I hear it from so many people though.

Maybe I'm just shallow. Personality does matter for me but I don't start focusing on that until i actually start talking to the person. Like for example my ex gf was a 10/10 hbb (shown in my previous threads) but her personality was awful. Nowadays she's just not attractive to me because her personality is chit.

[anonymous]

This isn't gender specific EAOP, there has to be an initial attraction to even get the rest going..

Of course. But attraction means different things to different people. That's what I am trying to ascertain here. For me, the smarts and kindness have waay more value than a man's body or his height. For my sister, status, personality and ambition have way more bearing than his face, body or height. What I am asking is, where does the face/body rank on your attraction totem pole?

[inq]

Like most have already said, if "she has a good personality" then ultimately that's what matters. My dating history is mostly filled with 6s-8s /10. Her having an intelligent, level headed, humorous personality that matches mine is what attracts me beyond the ten second first look. Being on the same playing field is extremely important to me. Want to be challenged. A college degree isn't indicative of that, but it helps weeding out the crazy hair dressers, so a girl with a good professional career is much more a requirement for me than looks. I've actually fallen in love with my last srs exgf more for her personality than initial attraction srs. Made me find her sexier over time (or maybe I'm just cucked haha). Now that I've just turned 27, I know the deeper intangibles is what makes relationships last over face value.

My one requirement is that she stays at or above my physical standard. So if I keep working out and stay skinny, then she should too. If I develop a dad bod, then I'll give her that excuse.

But cetarus paribus then of course I'd want her to be beautiful. Dream girl is 5'8-5'10 brunette working professional, is fashionable, knows how to handle herself, sweet, loving, loyal, optimistic, and is sarcastic and can make me laugh.

So a unicorn. I'm looking for a unicorn.

[Hardlifter9]

OP, most of the girls I've met bluntly say it's #1 for them by far.
Thing is if you're average yourself then you'll eventually be more into other average people. There's even been a study done showing this exact thing.

[anonymous]

Lesson from this thread:

No amount of being nice will make you physically attractive to someone who doesn't already find you so; personality only takes one so far. For most guys, that is. I mean, it sounds like common sense but I think I'm only properly hearing it for the first time.

Thanks to everyone who took the time to respond.

[Better Unborn]

Lesson from this thread:

No amount of being nice will make you physically attractive to someone who doesn't already find you so; personality only takes one so far. For most guys, that is. I mean, it sounds like common sense but I think I'm only properly hearing it for the first time.

Thanks to everyone who took the time to respond.

it can.

if a girl is:

unattractive (personal tastes to the brah): no amount of niceness is gonna help
okay/nothing-special: plays a huge difference
attractive: nothing needed, you are in

[Hardlifter9]

Yeah, I was talking to my sister about this and she said she would be willing to marry a man she thought ugly if she liked everything else about him but she would not be willing to marry a poor man if she liked everything else about him. So there you go. I think for a lot of women, money and status are to them what looks are to men.



What do you mean by deformed haunches? And please show me your idea of a 9/10 facial aesthetics.

That's a myth. And the kind of money/status you're thinking of is held by the top 0.01% or so of society.

[nick1990]

I train 2 hours a day to look aesthetic...since I dont worry about gains anymore, how important do you think looks are to me? Thinning hair doesnt help though

This

If im going to look good, so should she.

[ColonelJafar]

For me, there's a minimum threshold for looks when looking at a long-term relationship. It has to be enough for me to be initially attracted. The key bit here is 'enough'; she doesn't have to be particularly hot or anything like that, she just has to have that initial attractive pull to me. After that it's all about the chemistry and the emotional connection. That being said, it is possible for me to build the physical attraction later on. It's happened before, but it's definitely rarer.

I think a very good portion of the world's men have that approach. I can tell you for a fact that the misc, as a whole, is going to give you an answer that is completely out of touch with reality because of the people that populate it. Half of the guys here are insecure or mind-warped. The ones that aren't are also more likely to say looks are the be-all and end-all because they lift, and the very fact that they lift suggests that they are very looks-focused to begin with (if not, the process of trying to better one's aesthetics definitely swings perspectives).

[Tune5k]

been realizing that even though we don't want to admit it, the outside shell of things are really important. and i'm not talking about just looks. hygiene, carrying yourself well, presentation....these things are important because they link to whats going on inside

[Godfrd824]

OP, what would you rate me out 10?

[CheekyRasta]

I've heard this before and I don't have a problem with it because if you're a guy that's ugly it would probably be easier to get rich than it would be to become good looking so you at least have some hope. But I still don't understand how it works. I don't know how you can just make yourself attracted to a guy just because he has money. Can you really fall in love with a guy when money is the basis for your attraction to him? For me, it doesn't matter how much money a girl has, if I don't find her physically attractive then I can't be with her.

no, as evidence see divorce rate

[ryux999]

My friends always tell me that it's ALL about confidence and no matter what you look like, you'll able to attract a girl. I agree in a sense, but you can't be a ****ing fat, out of shape, beta, lazy piece of **** and expect to attract anyone even if they are "Confident." So looks are definitely important. Or at least, try to be in good shape and take care of yourself. I hit the gym often and eat right and I would expect my partner to do the same.

It's from my experience, but my last two ex's initiated being in a relationship with me because they were physically and mentally attracted to me. I didn't have money, or A car, or fancy items and ****. They just thought, hey you're cute, you're in decent shape; lets get to know each other and so on and so forth. With that being said, if I was an ******* or acted beta as ****, I probably wouldn't lasted long with them.

[ryux999]

They just have to not be fat as fuk but apparently that's too much to ask for.

LOL, I agree. A friend of mine thinks I'm really shallow and unfair because I'm not attracted to fat girls. What about having our own preferences?

[ZomboniSR]

i aint phuckin no ugly fat biches unless I'm super desperate(sorry feminists fat isn't beautiful), hasn't happened yet though. But the hotter the chick the more attracted i am idgaf what people think about my opinion.

[Twu8802]

Smarts and kindness along with sharing things in common is a must in a relationship imo but honestly sexual chemistry is like 90% of the equation so yes looks and attractiveness plays a big part.

[LaCosaNostra90]

100% nawm saying

[SoutheastBeast1]

They are everything

No glow no go I always say

[biggquis]

Attraction is big, but I'll tell you what. Every woman is repulsively ugly if she has an evil heart. I don't want to wake up and look at you in the middle of the night and have my head filled with regrets, but I don't need you to be the hottest woman I know either

[ContrarianIndi]

If I looked at her cellphone and saw she didn't have instagram, snapchat or tinder, I'd wife her right there, don't even care how she looks provided she's not a psychopath and puts a bit of effort in the hygiene department.

[Better Unborn]

If I looked at her cellphone and saw she didn't have instagram, snapchat or tinder, I'd wife her right there, don't even care how she looks provided she's not a psychopath and puts a bit of effort in the hygiene department.

Why? You still think wifing a girl "locks" her down or some shiet? It's not gonna stop her from slootin'.