281 OKC adventures/experience

[281IAGUY]

Because it does get boring after awhile, you should be focusing on your career, your new pad, and be in gym mode. Only time I enjoy myself at a bar is when I'm out with my girl or with friends for an occasion like a birthday party. I used to go out a lot but I'd rather spend my fri night at then gym and eating a good meal.

its been really hard to stay motivatred to go into the gym..sucks that once you stop the ball movement of gym mode...its hard to get back into the swing of it,

[281IAGUY]

my hot date tomorrow


spanish girl that i posted above never worked out...still talk to her but so far she has been to busy to meet..its w/e shes just an egg i'll get back to later

[281IAGUY]

going to meet up with another spanish girl thats 20...shes a slooot so i'm hoping for a mutual FWB relationship with her...i'll give you guys stories if it gets to that point

[281IAGUY]

alright since i have been out for awhile though i would update.

Asian girl above i cancelled because..she wanted to drink somewhere else...for some reason that annoyed me and didn't really talk to her after that.

Hot 31 year old spanish girl...no kids...but was one of those fuked up girl that had bad relationships and did some ****ed up ****..went out on 2 dates...one at a bar and the other she came to my place for me to drive her to the bar downtown where we were...dressed like a woman who was sexy as **** and i got high fives at the dance place we went because she was getting down LOWWWWWWWWWWWW on me...she made me look good...i was getting attention for girls and guys...and feltgood man...where am i at now with this girl? she had "health" issues and says that she has to get a minor procedure done and promised we would hangout soon...but i already expected that wasn't going to happen.

during this period i would not text her, and she would text me back after a day asking why I was not talking to her??? told her it worked both ways but said lets put it behind us and move on...welll we did but our convos since our last date have been nothing more then hey/hello, how was your day, blah blah blah or some stupid variation of it before text would go stale...pretty much stop texting her after sunday..we will see if she texts back but i don't really want to see her anymore..i've lost attraction for her

South African girl (au pair)

was dating at the same time as Latina girl above...thought she was weird/possibly sketchy since she would joke about killing me and wanting to cut my throat all the time (playful manner), went on a few more dates with her and her friends and had her over my place for dinner...eventually lead her to my bedroom to have sex...but...could not stay hard...IDK if i just have low sex drive...or if it was because it was less then 30mins after dinner...not working out for a long time with poor diet..or a combination of all of the above...just ended with her sleeping over until the morning...we still are talking and i am seeing her again this friday...

NO more masterbating...no more porn..i feel like those 2 things have contributed to my lack of desire...i miss being 18 and having a boner every minute of the day...

[281IAGUY]

Still dating African Au pair...she actually pretty normal now and doesn't give off any weird vibes...we still have a FwB situation going until she leaves for south africa in august. won't be seeing her this weekend. even though she doesn't want me to see anyone else...i still think about how after august rolls by whats next? like i said before dating is easy but getting the genuine connection is rough...it wasn't until this girl and the older spanish girl with no kids..i realized i don't want a girl that does not pay for dates or does not even try to.

been reading yourbrainonpor.com and right now on day 2 of no fap/porn...i can go without porn but masterbating is a different animal. I have densesitize my dick watching porn all these years/masterbating so i want to take control and rewire myself see the real thing as better then porn. the longest i ever gone is 7 days and my dick felt more sensitive after that...i am hoping with 2 weeks of no fap/masterbation i can **** this FwB i have -_-

[281IAGUY]

Its been over a year since i last updated this thread or been on BB.com in general. So i will update you from my last post till now.

Starting with the South African AU pair, i found it weird that we would only hang out every other weekend (red flag guys lol) anyway at some point she added me on ******** then one week i realized her account was "deleted"...i was like ok...so i did i took her old FB link and went to another browser to load it and boom her profile is there with her timeline pic of "I LOVE insert bf name". i soon as i read this i got that weird hit in my stomach, like **** i got played, needless to say i wasn't happy but at the same time we did have an agreement to be FwB but we that line was really blurry since we did go out on dates so we me and her ****ed up. anyway she denied that she had a FB profile up and after awhile finally told me the truth. anyway after this i meet up with her later i was mad, she cried because she liked me and her bf still, either way she comes out without any losses since she was leaving in 3 months back home.

so quick cliffs boys

1) if you want to experience a foreign girl au pairs are the way to go
2)au pairs are more likely to hook up with you
3) if a girl only seeing you every other weekend its either she legitmately busy or has a BF lol
4) i don't know why i even give cliffs just read

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[281IAGUY]

Ok so continuing on after the whole fiasco with last girl i meet another au pair this time she was asian and quite beautiful when she actually tried and was naturally beautiful without makeup. Anyways long story short she was friends with SA au pair from last story (i didn't know in the beginning) and we were together for 10 months before i was tired of her low self confidence, cried consistantly in the 10 months almost every other week. If i got mad at her she was weak to the point where she just cried and wouldn't talk to me. let me hit the points i wanted to make though, when i meet her all i ever wanted was someone to Love me, and she gave me that but it came with a whole other set of **** i could not take.

Fast forward to now

I am single
I have my own home
I still have my career
i do not go out or party (by choice)
i am alone most of the time unless i am bored then i go to my parents house

i remember in my 19-20's just aching to have someone want to date me, care about me, and want to be with me. Now i am just trying to figure out what i want to do? it is maddening I DO NOT KNOW WHAT I WANT anymore, I have everything (except my expensive taste in cars) that i could want, but if i really think about it i am back to square one, alone (this is all by me and if i wanted i can change this), i have 0 desire to go out and get drunk or go clubbing its just not there anymore for me. the only thing i can say i have gotten is the experiences i wanted and now that i have it, its like whats next? Love, marriage, and kids cannot be the end of all be, so what is my purpose? why do i continue to breath? these are all questions i ask myself almost everyday i know deep down the answer is there but i just can't see it

next few post will be my experience in 2014 using tinder exclusively, by the way tinder is awesome for meeting woman if you haven't already tried it

[281IAGUY]

Tinder

Let me start by saying i starting using Tinder exclusively earlier this year and my god does it make dating/having sex so much easier.

After a bad 3rd date with (this is a story in itself, and the reason why you need to be careful who you sleep with)

anways... I meet up sunday with the this lovely russian/asian woman for brunch, when i first saw her i was like...wow she was all dressed up granted she did have work later in the day but she was totally down to meet up at Ihop (i thought that was cool for some reason) anways i find out she is getting out of a five year relationship and i told her about mine that i just broke up with ( i lied and said 1 month when really it was less then 2 weeks). Conversation flow was good and i could just till she was into me by her body language. After we were down we talked a bit more and she went in my car to chat a bit more but she had to leave for work and i was off to do my thing for the day, fast forward 30 minutes later and she finds out she does not have to work today and texts we should do something later. At first i was thinking in my head wtf but i ended up going into the movies later in the night.

Now boys and girls when i woman is really into you she will find a reason to touch you in my case she put her hand on my hand and then moved to my stomach, for some reason this made me feel weird but i kinda liked it. after the movie was done i walked her to car...made out..then she asks me..."You live alone right?" (ding ding ding getting my dick wet tonight). anyways we get to my place we talk a little then i make my move and carry her away to my mancave and go two rounds, she stays over for a little longer after that and leaves. we do this for about a month and the line between dating & fwb gets fuzzy...when we had sex she thought we were in a relationship but i put a big stop sign over that, anyway after a month of going out on actual dates and fuking she gets tired of me being unemotional (which i am a few girls have told me this) and is pissed but not pissed at me. Today we are still friends and when she is lonely she usually calls to come over but i actually do care about her but do not see myself in a relationship with her.

This is the same girl that told me girls LOVE a guy that gets jealous, that will start **** even if things are going perfectly to "spice" it up. chick logic=mind blown. but overall a cool person

[281IAGUY]

Man i remember when i use to at least get some commentators on my journal lol anways I will continue on with Tinder

Why you need to be careful on tinder

So in the last week I have been talking to a woman off tinder i have been HIGHLY attracted, attracted enough that it feels different then any other woman i meet (is this the beginning of love). But i had to take a step back and really get my **** straight since A) its fuking tinder you don't fall in love with tinder bitches, B) this girl was sounding to ****ing good. We were chatting on the phone and she is always talking about how she wants to take care of her man, cook and clean, have lots of sex and how adventurous she is(she didn't go into total detail).

Anyway today i was like let me see what else i can find out about her so i use my handy dandy google searching skills and eventually find out her last name (finding info on people is so much easier with a full name). So i google her name and what do i find today boys and girls?

1)bed bath and beyond wedding registry says her wedding date was sometime in June
2) find out the name of the guy she may or may not be married to and did some ******** searching and didn't see anything about the girl and looks like they are not friends
3) i find her ******** profile finally and see some pictures from the last few months and low and behold i see pictures with a big fat wedding ring, though didn't see the official "married" part since i cannot see full profile

Next one is the big one and what scares me...

4) find court records.....3 ACTIVE charges....
-ASSAULT-FIRST DEGREE
-RECKLESS ENDANGERMENT
-ASSAULT-SEC DEGREE
-had to post bond and the whole 9

I had a date lined up to meet her Saturday to...debating whether to just cancel and call it a day or bring all this **** up...because dammit i hate being lied to...then again its tinder so i can't really complain?

THOUGHTS relationship misc?

[juvefan]

Man i remember when i use to at least get some commentators on my journal lol anways I will continue on with Tinder

Why you need to be careful on tinder

So in the last week I have been talking to a woman off tinder i have been HIGHLY attracted, attracted enough that it feels different then any other woman i meet (is this the beginning of love). But i had to take a step back and really get my **** straight since A) its fuking tinder you don't fall in love with tinder bitches, B) this girl was sounding to ****ing good. We were chatting on the phone and she is always talking about how she wants to take care of her man, cook and clean, have lots of sex and how adventurous she is(she didn't go into total detail).

Anyway today i was like let me see what else i can find out about her so i use my handy dandy google searching skills and eventually find out her last name (finding info on people is so much easier with a full name). So i google her name and what do i find today boys and girls?

1)bed bath and beyond wedding registry says her wedding date was sometime in June
2) find out the name of the guy she may or may not be married to and did some ******** searching and didn't see anything about the girl and looks like they are not friends
3) i find her ******** profile finally and see some pictures from the last few months and low and behold i see pictures with a big fat wedding ring, though didn't see the official "married" part since i cannot see full profile

Next one is the big one and what scares me...

4) find court records.....3 ACTIVE charges....
-ASSAULT-FIRST DEGREE
-RECKLESS ENDANGERMENT
-ASSAULT-SEC DEGREE
-had to post bond and the whole 9

I had a date lined up to meet her Saturday to...debating whether to just cancel and call it a day or bring all this **** up...because dammit i hate being lied to...then again its tinder so i can't really complain?

THOUGHTS relationship misc?

Those charges were against her or her bf/husband/fiance? Sounds like she was cheated on and went ape chit

[281IAGUY]

Those charges were against her or her bf/husband/fiance? Sounds like she was cheated on and went ape chit

those are charges against her...she did say that she wasn't living with her BF anymore and he had a new gf

[Laveli]

Haven't been on here for ages, but I still remembered your posts from page one dude. I mustn't not been on here for a whole year or so, but today when i went on here I wanted to check and see if you had anything and boooom I saw this!!

[281IAGUY]

Haven't been on here for ages, but I still remembered your posts from page one dude. I mustn't not been on here for a whole year or so, but today when i went on here I wanted to check and see if you had anything and boooom I saw this!!

haha awesome man i have not posted in probably over a year since i got tired of going on the misc and all it was hating left and right..granted it had its good moments. I am back just purely to post my experiences since I am bored and well my faith in woman in general has waivered but thats my fault since i have just been doing online dating...Been really wanting to do more approaches IRL and posting about that more since that what it seems most would benefit from

[281IAGUY]

My problem before was not being able to get dates, my new problem is getting a quality chick for some quality sex, granted i have had my opportunities for some kinky sex but i passed on those... I'll share more on that later

[coleworld]

in, keep us updated man.
but you really should approach women in person, especially at your age.
Those girls are usually better quality and you get to pick who you pursue. Rather than hoping you match with a hbb on tinder.

[281IAGUY]

in, keep us updated man.
but you really should approach women in person, especially at your age.
Those girls are usually better quality and you get to pick who you pursue. Rather than hoping you match with a hbb on tinder.

I guess you could say i am still uncomfortable doing this unless the setting and opportunity deems it "acceptable" in my head. though i will do this on my vacation next week since fuk it i will be in a foreign country so its not like i will see them again

[281IAGUY]

Alright so went on a date with..guess i'll call her assault girl...actually is sweet in person but I will need to see if i can get her to open up about it without telling her i know about. Anways before i went out with her i found out she cancelled her own wedding back in june so that eliminates the going off bat **** crazy on ex's new girl...so I am still treading a little cautiously and she won't be coming to my place anytime soon until i get that answer. either way I am off tinder so at the moment this is my only egg in the my basket. I actually do kinda of like her and she has potential to be the wild crazy sex girl which i have never had so thats the main reason why im still holding on

[281IAGUY]

Assault girl continued...


Anways we have been texting and calling last week or so and went out on a date saturday for an hour or so...with that said she calls me today i intentially do not answer...calls a second time 5 minutes later and is crying...I'm going go out on a whim and and say that is not normal. the crazy meter certainly is being verified. Or am i just being to harsh here? either way, whats the nice way of letting this one down? she got A LOT going on and i don't want to add to it....Come on this is where i actually need user thoughts!

[281IAGUY]

Alright boys and girls i went on vacation and hooked up with 2 girls (no sex) regardless i hooked up with a 41 year old banker girl at the resort, which turn kind of ackward the following day when i saw her in the morning at brunch, pretty much ended there i think she was embarrassed or idk i couldn't read her, all i know is if a girl isn't trying to get your interest its not worth chasing. 2nd girl i hooked up with was a few months older then me and was a local, very cute and skinny, hairstylist, actually of all the woman i messed around with i like her the most, still keep in touch everyday since my vacation.

Assault girl (tinder)

To recap i have gone out on 1 legit date and the other 2 times she came over to my place...no sex since i think she will be even worse if we have sex. anway i told her i did not want a relationship and don't see myself in a committed one, of course she got upset/cried (keep in mind i've known her for 3 weeks) then somehow it went from pissed to angry to her telling me how her best relationship/sex was FWB she had with a guy before....un****ingbelievable i couldn't believe she offered me a FwB normally this is what most guy want but this just smells like desperation and find it unattractive, my dumbass didn't totally deny it and she still wants to see me but I think i will pass.

I can honestly make her cry upset her and she will give me a pass somehow some way....mind=blown i do not understand

[281IAGUY]

Though this is my own journal where i put my own thoughts down. How can i make this relevant/useful for the rest of community? what do people want to read?

[ACA815]

Me and this girl liked eachother 4 days into joining. Send her a message to remind her that we like eachother and asked her about her school.

No response back. Can the bots there like people?

[281IAGUY]

Troll bro

[281IAGUY]

Hello everyone,

It’s been over 10 years since I last posted! Are these blogs even a thing? Have a lot more stories since then

[281IAGUY]

First post in 10 years and red straight away, brutal

lol i was green today

[microsuede]

Hello everyone,

It’s been over 10 years since I last posted! Are these blogs even a thing? Have a lot more stories since then

I randomly decided to come to RH as I'm bored today saw this thread and opened it. Had no idea I was posting in it 10 years ago. Looks Iike I actually knew how to date 10 years ago and wasn't afraid to sexualize the dates... hmmm I need to go over some posts here and use the advice. I got married and divorced during the past 10 years and my game sucks now compared to 2012

[microsuede]

take more risk on the dates as far as topics. ask if she's ever read "50 Shades of Grey?" If she responses yes ask her what her favorite part is? If she responses no ask if she ever read an erotic book(all women have its their version of porn)

Bring up some type of kinky sex scenario ask if she would like that. Ask her favorite sex position... Keep your hand on her thigh, grab her waist, kiss her during the date!

Cliffs: Take charge of the date and turn it sexual, if she don't like it you can leave and you've saved yourself valuable time.

Saving this post in my phone for future reference on dates

[acnescarlett]

Are you approaching women irl whether it be cold or through your social circles? If not I wouldn't delete your okc account just yet, unless you just don't like the site and are going to try a different online dating site(Personally I prefer pof to okc). Your reason seems to be you've gone on a few dates and can get some easy ass from a fatty. You don't seem to really want that ass. Why not just keep plowing thru a few more first dates and possibly gather even more knowledge about dating, women, and what you want? Hopefully some sex too. Also I would keep around the single mom you went to the karaoke bar(do not fall for her though!!!) but continue dating others. She seems good for some NSA action, that seems what she wants.