Would you care if your wife didn't take your surname?

[jamalfudge]

My wife insisted on keeping her last name before we got married, or do the hyphenated thing. I didn't push any issues but finally I told her if she didn't, I would just leave my wedding ring in the jewelry box and wear it only on special occasions...not as a threat but a compromise. She didn't go for that and took my name.

She now works in HR and has a theory to never hire a chick with a hyphenated name, lol.

Inb4 cool story bro.

[walshyn93]

Pride is a foreign concept to women. And no, it wouldn't. There are so many more important issues when it comes to a marriage. How she signs her name is not at the top of my list. Her last name isn't going to stop her from being a kunt, sloot, moron, etc.

Just because there are more important things doesn't mean it doesn't matter.

[Caffstimjunky85]

I made my wife change hers ASAP she didn't want to. Got to establish dominance always.

[BRAHzzers]

This is something to be discussed before you get married. Not marrying any fukin sloot that wouldn't take my last name. its pathetic if you let her keep her name or hyphen it.

[walshyn93]

My wife insisted on keeping her last name before we got married, or do the hyphenated thing. I didn't push any issues but finally I told her if she didn't, I would just leave my wedding ring in the jewelry box and wear it only on special occasions...not as a threat but a compromise. She didn't go for that and took my name.

She now works in HR and has a theory to never hire a chick with a hyphenated name, lol.

Inb4 cool story bro.

Why doesn't she hire women with hyphenated names?

[walshyn93]

I made my wife change hers ASAP she didn't want to. Got to establish dominance always.

Yeah I'm not one for playing mind games all the time, but I do know that if you let her win the first battle she'll walk all over you for life.

[Skarm]

Wouldn't care so much about her taking my name, but the children will be taking my surname.

[jamalfudge]

Why doesn't she hire women with hyphenated names?

They are often batchit crazy. I think she follows that half-jokingly.

[KingChiefKeef]

but why should she take the man's name?

[lazyliftz]

dont care.. My ex-fiance was going to keep hers as it was an aristocratic French one

if stuff like that rustles your jimmies you were probably fisted by your uncle as a child

How many times did her aristocratic French fist enter your angus? Was it better than a plebians fist?

[GolfPants]

Not that I'd be getting married in the first place, but in this scenario I'd be happy to dispense with that tradition and let her keep her name if it also meant that we could forego the engagement ring.

However let me clarify...she keeps her name as it is. There will be absolutely no hyphenating. Her or the kids. Fuk that.

[JFlyers00]

I'd be disappointed but it would'nt be an absolue deal breaker.

[DANZ0]

So if you had an adopted brother that you grew up with since you were a baby you wouldn't consider him family?

I can't answer this hypothetical question because its not a situation I have ever had to experience.
It's almost like a foreign concept, I can't honestly reply because I don't know.

[walshyn93]

This. Or "since you don't care about tradition how bout you buy the ring and propose to me when the time comes?"

It's good for a laugh to listen to the "miss independent" wannabe types make excuses for this one when you call them on it after they say something about how much they hate gender roles.

Lol, forgot about that one.

[UncleToch]

One of the guys at my work actually took his wife's last name. Everyone talks sh!t about him

[TooBig2Function]

lol wouldn't give a fuk. the point is passing the surname to children not imposing it on your wife. it doesn't matter.

[BeingPaid]

One of the guys at my work actually took his wife's last name. Everyone talks sh!t about him

Lol how would this guy ever be taken seriously?

[Tiffany Wantsmore]

Changed mine when I married. If I ever remarry, I'll change it again.

[poweramp]

i honestly wouldn't give a fuk. don't care for my surname anyways.

[walshyn93]

Lol how would this guy ever be taken seriously?

Lol this. You can pretend that tradition doesn't matter but at the end of the day if everyone believes it matters then it matters. He's basically the woman in the relationship in traditional terms.

[Caffstimjunky85]

Yeah I'm not one for playing mind games all the time, but I do know that if you let her win the first battle she'll walk all over you for life.

My best mans wife who he has a kid with. This lady still goes out clubbing (without him) and comes back at 4am drunk as ****. She calls him a little b!tch in front of me and my wife. Throws stuff at him when she's pissed. Told my wife don't ever disrespect me like that ever. Sad truth is once it gets like that it's for life. It's a mans role to lay the law IMO and also not way too overbearing either. Wether women admit it or not they also like it. As I've heard them admit it. Good luck OP.

[UncleToch]

Lol how would this guy ever be taken seriously?

I work in a jail also.....you can only imagine

[ChicoDusty]

One of the guys at my work actually took his wife's last name. Everyone talks sh!t about him

lol @ this beta ****

Married crew checking in, wouldn't have gotten married if my wife didn't take my last name. Not saying we couldn't still be together or I would've left her, but I wouldn't have gotten married.

[bill257]

Then she wouldn't be my wife. I have yet to meet a woman with a hyphenated name or that kept their last name that isn't a mega feminist bitch. Actually they just seem to be mean terrible people in general that are completely self absorbed. I could see celebrities keeping their name, and I haven't met any so I'm excluding them.

[BusterMudd]

Married 11 years. Wife didn't take my name. No hyphen, nothing; she's still got the name she was born with. U mad bro? Yeah u mad.

It's 2014. Wives aren't chattel. If she isn't enough of an individual to deserve to keep her identity, why would you want to marry her in the first place?

[UncleToch]

Married 11 years. Wife didn't take my name. No hyphen, nothing; she's still got the name she was born with. U mad bro? Yeah u mad.

It's 2014. Wives aren't chattel. If she isn't enough of an individual to deserve to keep her identity, why would you want to marry her in the first place?

Lol wat? How does keeping your name give you an identity?

[E90335i]

No. She is a doctor who is a partner at a firm. It would be annoying professionally.
She has pictures of us at her office and that shows commitment to me. It's not like she is trying to hide something.

[poweramp]

if it's not part of your identity why would you care about passing it on?

[NotANun21]

Would prefer that she didn't...

The kids get her name...

Couldn't give one single solitary chit...

[walshyn93]

No. She is a doctor who is a partner at a firm. It would be annoying professionally.
She has pictures of us at her office and that shows commitment to me. It's not like she is trying to hide something.

Some professionals take their husband's name on bank statements bills and in their personal lives, but still have people refer to them by their maiden when communication formally and informally at work. Teachers for one.