i got dumped brahs :( really fuking depressed. need u guys.

[roko79]

Sorry man, happens to everyone at some point, just surround yourself with close friends for a little while so you don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself

[Ted Nugent]

Hey OP. You banged a bunch of girls previous then you met this girl and out of all the girls she was the one that caught your eye. You know the kind of person she is. She could honestly be just really stressed out and give her some time to let it sink in that she is losing you. This needs to happen for her to start missing you and thinking about what your doing before she falls asleep at night. Give it a few days man because you know she is thinking about you. I'm not going to say get your mind on something else but a tv series could be helpful to pull you into another world just for this short time

Allow yourself the grieve over your loss, dont try to make the feelings go away they do in their own. Each time something like this happens, you always end up finding a better girl. Trust me OP. Theres a good chance of her coming back to you if you cut all contact, the RH no contact thread has good advice..

im not going to get my hopes up, that would just make me go through this misery all over again. but im going to cut contact, maybe she'll see the error in her ways, i dont fuking now :/

[jdelpas10]

anything brah, similar stories, just talking about it helps. ive seen enough "just broke up"thread on the misc to know what the general feedback will be, but im so fuking depressed, anything will help

Sorry brah, I don't know these feels. I've never been dumped. I've been rejected once at most and that was that. I always lose interest in people. There was however, this one girl who I swear I loved back in my junior year. She was a senior year, was intelligent, and probably the most beautiful girl I've ever seen. She didn't party or drink either. Pretty much perfect imo, but I was an asshle to her and lost out on that opportunity. Long story short, I had feelings for her all throughout senior year and even though she had already graduated, I still liked her so it made it difficult for me to pay attention to other girls. After grad, I feel much better so even though the girl can mean the world to you now, that won't mean that it'll always stay that way. You'll move on OP, trust me. Just give it time.

[BRAHzzers]

OP i had these feels once and it completely sucked but about half a year later found a much better hotter smarter girlfriend. It'll come op just think about how many other girls are out there for you life is seriously too short to dwell over a bitch who isnt thinking about you anymore make her realize what she lost be happy move on find someone better and you'll be looking back being like "why the fuk was i so upset and depressed over her? look at me now" trust me time heals everything.

[white_pele]

i tried reasoning with her, and telling her to take a step back and think if she really wanted to throw everything away because shes having a little identity/relationship crisis, she said the more i tried to save the relationship, the more it woud drive her away (fml right?)

there is no identity crisis, trust me, there is some other reason, maybe other guy. like someone said strictly no contact is only chance of getting her back or getting over her

[sourcecode123]

Sorry op, srs she probably cheated. Just move on and time to use that rage on the weights brah

[Oko93]

Going through these feels currently but not as bad as the relationship wasn't nearly that long, once sept started school took over. Might get back together if she able to adjust.

[Yuntai]

where the fuk are the pics OP?





























































(not srs)

stay strong brah

[BornForThis91]

im not going to get my hopes up, that would just make me go through this misery all over again. but im going to cut contact, maybe she'll see the error in her ways, i dont fuking now :/

Cut your availability.

Did you know she was stressed did you do little things for her to ease the stress?

If you did and you were right for her she will realise her errors and talk to you about it.. being irrational is pretty much the norm when someone's under stress also especially around our age, you should definitely be talking this out.

[TheAlterEgo]

She banged someone else.

Strong this/10

[white_pele]

1. Research the web on how to get your girlfriend back. I don't know if the advice will work but at least it will keep your mind occupied and make you feel like you are doing something.
2. Give her some space for a week or two.
3. Do something epic to show your love to get her back. Understand that if you do this you are saying that she IS the one.
4. If she says again that she is holding you back just say, you don't want/can't to go forward without her.

Good luck. If it doesn't workout then life will suck for a long long time. Been there, done that. It sucks.

WAT age:43, strong advice, under no circumstances DO NOT try to "win her back", only way is no contact and hoping she'll miss you.

[Ted Nugent]

op is this the same girl that started having pain during sex?

yes. im really not worried about her fuking other dudes, shes absolutely terrified of having sex or even getting a finger in there because it hurts so much. i honestly think this was one of the major reasons this whole thing happened, she got frustrated that she was in pain during sex, started thinking "if we cant have sex then why even bother", shes quite emotional and likes to just "go numb" and say fuk it instead of reasoning things out and thinking through, so the sex issue started the cascade of her questioning our relationship

[MVHagey]

Take a day or two to dwell on it, worry about it, expect the worst, maybe even cry if you want, and then move on and don't even think about it anymore.

[NikoJan]

Aren't you a little too old to be caught up in this high school drama bull****?

She left you, either tell her how you feel and try to get her back (which would be retarded, she left you, have some pride) or realize that its over and start getting over it. Hit the lawyer, delete the gym, ******** up.


srs though get a new hobby, that always helps during hard times

[Me2014]

she might not be fuking someone else but she probably found someone else she thinks she could be with.

[u]every[//u] fuking time a girl becomes distant like that its because of another guy.

[lucidz]

She banged someone else.

yup

[LoveU4eva99]

this is going to be hard to accept op

But she ****ed another guy and is inlove with him

shes guilty and doesnt like you, so she cant look in your eyes .

You're not going to believe it, but this is the case 99% of the time.

msg her that " you know what happened and it wasnt cool to do when you're with someone already, that she should have broke it off first "

you'll see what i mean

[Ted Nugent]

Aren't you a little too old to be caught up in this high school drama bull****?

She left you, either tell her how you feel and try to get her back (which would be retarded, she left you, have some pride)

its not that puppy love high school sh*t brah, this was as real as it gets, only guys who have truly been in love with their perfect girl and then lose it all will now the feels.

i told her how i feel, tried talking some sense into her, but shes doing the whole self pity/stone wall thing now. just going to keep my mouth shut and maybe she'll snap out of it soon, who knows brah :/

[SDFC]

Something to cheer you up OP

[Ted Nugent]

she might not be fuking someone else but she probably found someone else she thinks she could be with.

[u]every[//u] fuking time a girl becomes distant like that its because of another guy.

yup

this is going to be hard to accept op

But she ****ed another guy and is inlove with him

shes guilty and doesnt like you, so she cant look in your eyes .

You're not going to believe it, but this is the case 99% of the time.

msg her that " you know what happened and it wasnt cool to do when you're with someone already, that she should have broke it off first "

you'll see what i mean

see my above post guys. we were having an issue with extreme pain during sex, and shes not faking it i guarantee you, shes scared of sex because of the pain

[darkninja67]

Just move on op

Some old guy like me said win her back? Why? So she can hurt him again in the future?
You cannot make someone love you or want to be with you that doesn't want to do either.

[GetRichDieTryin]

Go no contact OP. Remove her from you life. Will help you get over her easier.

[LoveU4eva99]

i feel so sorry for you op, because you're eyes are wide shut

[nordicbro]

every fuking time a girl becomes distant like that its because of another guy.

this. it has happened with me too. the only solution is not to go full beta. go full no-contact for a couple of weeks, then it should be easy not to want to talk to her again.

[JakeSim]

wow u went full beta there buddy

Chill dude. People at least try to save their relationships.

As for her doing someone else. Just because she became distant does not mean that. She could of simply just began questioning the relationship or realizing what she wants. It doesn't have to be that deeply involved.

[shuback]

its not that puppy love high school sh*t brah, this was as real as it gets, only guys who have truly been in love with their perfect girl and then lose it all will now the feels.

i told her how i feel, tried talking some sense into her, but shes doing the whole self pity/stone wall thing now. just going to keep my mouth shut and maybe she'll snap out of it soon, who knows brah :/

speaking purely from experience brah, i bought into all the excuses they put up with my first love but honestly man it's just code for there's someone else or i don't like you. bishes arent like blokes, they dont say exactly what they mean, what they say is a reflection of what they're feeling, but not necessarily the real reason for what they feel. nomsaiyan? seems like its the case here, unless this girl really is something different.


edit: in my case, 'I'm too afraid our relationship will go to **** and we'll start fighting like crazy again was code for 'I'm ****ing this other bloke, don't want you to know,and don't have the nads to end it proper and stop talking to you'

[Ted Nugent]

Just move on op

Some old guy like me said win her back? Why? So she can hurt him again in the future?
You cannot make someone love you or want to be with you that doesn't want to do either

this is the most difficult part to cope with all i see is the over a year of us being as happy as humanly possible, and all she can see is her current problems, sigh

Go no contact OP. Remove her from you life. Will help you get over her easier.

i know brah, its the best thing to do, the hard part though is going to be getting her out of my head, literally everything i do reminds me of her, driving me fuking insane

[Sinthis]

we're all gonna make it brah, dw

nvm, sneakyninja is already here to save the day.
rest of us may as well leave sneaky to it

[watermanb]

anything brah, similar stories, just talking about it helps. ive seen enough "just broke up"thread on the misc to know what the general feedback will be, but im so fuking depressed, anything will help

Fiancee just broke up with me after three years, in the middle of my deployment. I've been hitting the gym like a crazy mother****er.

We're gun make it, even with feels.

[Me2014]