Met a girl last night and need advice

[G T]

Probably a beginner question but this thread explains my situation: http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...hp?p=431101331 basically I haven't had any social contact with anyone including girls for about 5 years, but recently met an old mate and started going out again and trying to rebuild a social network.

We went out last night and met these two girls, we were both dancing/kissing/talking for about an hour with them, mine seemed pretty into me, wanted to meet again, hugged her goodbye outside and said I'd call her. They were on holidays and are leaving today.

I called earlier but it was an answering machine so I texted her and haven't had a reply. Should I call again, perhaps off a private number?

[Big Moe]

The balls in her court bro... sit back and chill.

[G T]

The balls in her court bro... sit back and chill.

That's what I would have thought, but they're leaving in a few hours.

[SchlongJohn]

Probably a beginner question but this thread explains my situation: http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...hp?p=431101331 basically I haven't had any social contact with anyone including girls for about 5 years, but recently met an old mate and started going out again and trying to rebuild a social network.

We went out last night and met these two girls, we were both dancing/kissing/talking for about an hour with them, mine seemed pretty into me, wanted to meet again, hugged her goodbye outside and said I'd call her. They were on holidays and are leaving today.

I called earlier but it was an answering machine so I texted her and haven't had a reply. Should I call again, perhaps off a private number?

no

she got your message. either she responds or she doesn't

don't be too eager.

[xerik126x]

The balls in her court bro... sit back and chill.

do this....probably nothing will become of this btw

[CK2Furious]

Don't try to sound too desperate bro, if you don't get a call or text back then unlucky bro. Maybe not the one night stand type?

[Misctify]

She is getting plowed by another guy, sure she will call you when he's done.

[G T]

no

she got your message. either she responds or she doesn't

don't be too eager.

Well I'll never see her again in a few hours no matter what I do. Last night I got the idea I'd be able to close the deal.

[G T]

I wouldn't even call the next day but this is different because they're on holiday from Sydney and leaving in a few hours.

She seemed really eager to meet again.

[Future-Swole]

Uhhh is she from a diff country or city? If country... They're prolly at the airport by now.. If city.. donno

[bertstare201]

Probably a beginner question but this thread explains my situation: http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...hp?p=431101331 basically I haven't had any social contact with anyone including girls for about 5 years, but recently met an old mate and started going out again and trying to rebuild a social network.

We went out last night and met these two girls, we were both dancing/kissing/talking for about an hour with them, mine seemed pretty into me, wanted to meet again, hugged her goodbye outside and said I'd call her. They were on holidays and are leaving today.

I called earlier but it was an answering machine so I texted her and haven't had a reply. Should I call again, perhaps off a private number?

lol..may be they just wanted to have fun ...tha's what it sounds like to me...normally if I go out with a girl they are the one telling me to call them....in your case it seems like you told them that you'd call them...which makes me wonder?..

But regardless of what I think....good luck to you...just kick back and relax...if it doesn't work out move on...lot of fish in water

[G T]

Should I wait for a last minute reply or just phone again?

[AfterEight]

Should I call again, perhaps off a private number?

Creepy.

[G T]

lol..may be they just wanted to have fun ...tha's what it sounds like to me...normally if I go out with a girl they are the one telling me to call them....in your case it seems like you told them that you'd call them...which makes me wonder?..

But regardless of what I think....good luck to you...just kick back and relax...if it doesn't work out move on...lot of fish in water

Nah she said she wanted to meet me again today.

[G T]

Creepy.

In case it's another message bank, if not I can say I'm calling off another line.

[AfterEight]

In case it's another message bank, if not I can say I'm calling off another line.

Either way you're calling her again after one call and one text. That starts to smell like desperation.

[bertstare201]

Nah she said she wanted to meet me again today.

hmmm...dang

it's hard to read their mind man...if I was you I wouldn't call them again and just wait if they response...if they don't then just move on... if you give em too much attention they might start acting like "I AM DA SHYT"

[stasgolbom]

Should I wait for a last minute reply or just phone again?

no and no.


you made your move, she didnt answer, move on.

[G T]

Either way you're calling her again after one call and one text. That starts to smell like desperation.

In a few hours it doesn't matter how desperate it seems since I'll never see her again, like I said I'd never normally do that but since she's on holidays it's different.

[G T]

I might give it another half an hour then call off a private number, worst case scenario she gets a missed call from someone she doesn't know or I actually talk to her and say I'm on another line.

Absolutely nothing to lose as far as I care.

[iliketojuggle]

should have tried to take her home last night

[G T]

should have tried to take her home last night

I asked to go back to her apartment, she said "I'm a good girl" but I replied "Oh no I just wanted a place to sleep and someone to make me breakfast" and she laughed, pretty sure she didn't want to come off as easy.

My mate then offered to drive them back and they were going to come with us but they changed their minds.

[DocHol1day]

Nah she said she wanted to meet me again today.

bro they say that all the time. i mean, what were you hoping for realistically? meet up for an hour so she could give you some pussy today when shes sober that you couldnt pull when she was drunk? no hate brah dont get me wrong it just doesnt seem like you thought this very far through. personally, knowing she was leaving today i wouldnt even have bothered to call her, unless i had good reason to think i would be in sydney in the near future.

try and focus on the positive. you went out for the first time in a while and you hooked up with a hottie. work on escalating better and sealing the deal, hell read some pua stuff if you need to, there is some good in there. go out next weekend with that same swagger you had walking home after making out with that chick and get a few new numbers, or hopefully just fine one to take home..... cheers!

[litle_dan]

should have tried to take her home last night

this, women do alot of things to prolong the situation if u didnt act on it then, even after she held u longer by giving u her number and such she moves on. just forget it brah and go get another bish.

[bertstare201]

I asked to go back to her apartment, she said "I'm a good girl" but I replied "Oh no I just wanted a place to sleep and someone to make me breakfast" and she laughed, pretty sure she didn't want to come off as easy.

My mate then offered to drive them back and they were going to come with us but they changed their minds.

that's a fail dude...I wouldn't even expect her to call back.. u screwed it up by asking to go her apt at first night lolz

[G T]

bro they say that all the time. i mean, what were you hoping for realistically? meet up for an hour so she could give you some pussy today when shes sober that you couldnt pull when she was drunk? no hate brah dont get me wrong it just doesnt seem like you thought this very far through. personally, knowing she was leaving today i wouldnt even have bothered to call her, unless i had good reason to think i would be in sydney in the near future.

try and focus on the positive. you went out for the first time in a while and you hooked up with a hottie. work on escalating better and sealing the deal, hell read some pua stuff if you need to, there is some good in there. go out next weekend with that same swagger you had walking home after making out with that chick and get a few new numbers, or hopefully just fine one to take home..... cheers!

So you think she's definitely not interested?

Do you think it's possible to close the deal in the same night with ANY girl if you're good enough?

Honestly not sure what more I could have done, it wasn't just dancing or kissing, we had some conversation and got to know each other.

Anyway got a kiss/number off another girl earlier last night, but she seemed pretty drunk and not as hot as the second one so I don't know if I'll bother with that one.

[G T]

I'll give it one more try off a private number and just say "so did you want to do anything before you leave or what?" if she picks it up. Nothing really to lose. Any advice on what to say or suggest at the last minute assuming I speak to her?

[DocHol1day]

So you think she's definitely not interested?

Do you think it's possible to close the deal in the same night with ANY girl if you're good enough?

Honestly not sure what more I could have done, it wasn't just dancing or kissing, we had some conversation and got to know each other.

Anyway got a kiss/number off another girl earlier last night, but she seemed pretty drunk and not as hot as the second one so I don't know if I'll bother with that one.

thats a yes with an if or a no with a but......... i'm an optimist so i'll go with yes....... IF shes in the right frame of mind. i really believe that even the best 'good girl' in the world will be your whore for the night if SHE is in the right mood and you say the right things at the right time.


you just gotta get out there and see what works for you bro. if it was me, i always start whisperin dirty **** in their ear, pullin their hair a little. i try and really get em turned on. it just takes time and practice.

i'd call or text the other girl anyway, you never know she might be bored and lookin for somethin to do.

[G T]

thats a yes with an if or a no with a but......... i'm an optimist so i'll go with yes....... IF shes in the right frame of mind. i really believe that even the best 'good girl' in the world will be your whore for the night if SHE is in the right mood and you say the right things at the right time.

How "dirty"? She rest one of her legs on my lap and I told her she was extremely cute and was stroking her thigh telling her how nice it was while we were sitting down kissing. Pretty sure she liked that, sound like the right approach?

i'd call or text the other girl anyway, you never know she might be bored and lookin for somethin to do.

Dunno she said she was 18 and seemed pretty drunk. Might try it if I get bored.

[G T]

Tried ringing again just then off a completely different number (land line, not private) and got an answering machine after it rang out again. Perhaps she's lost her phone?

Either way, bummer.