working hard at finding a wife

[Aleister_White]

been working hard since the last two years

first you have to find a woman that fits your criteria (attractive; nice; smart; good values (good relationship with money and her family); etc.)

then you have to make sure she can fit into your life (be a cheerleader and not disrupt business plans)

you stay alert for significant red flags along the way

it's a hard process but i enjoy it

my strategy is to date as much girls as possible - putting chances on my end to find the one

always thought life would bring the woman of my life at some point but i guess i have to participate

a few crazies that get mad when rejected but it's part of the process

i am doing a mix of being "out there" and dating apps (hinge is hot right now)

everyday i am stressing that younger girls will no longer be interested but i still manage to interest girls in early 20s

almost feel like it's a hobby outside of work

any brahs on their end game ?

[explosiveMidget]

https://voca.ro/1iNEjk3zcPVw

[mr.left hook]

Ron can Help you Give Yourself to Him ... Ron speed

[SoutheastBeast1]

I'm honestly in for this. I'm gonna start sprinkling as many seeds as I can every where I go.

What's your game plan OP? What places have you tried securing dates?

I've honestly already got everything else in my life. Might as well go full throttle with finding girls now.

[Aleister_White]

I'm honestly in for this. I'm gonna start sprinkling as many seeds as I can every where I go.

What's your game plan OP? What places have you tried securing dates?

I've honestly already got everything else in my life. Might as well go full throttle with finding girls now.

local bars - gotta find the ones that are popular at the moment - i find the hottest girls (and more gf material) tend to go early - i don't open girls completely cold - i have to first know she is interested, otherwise 99% chances it will go no where - probably obvious but girls give out sign when they want you to speak to her

professional events - i try to attend as many of them and use my title as leverage - makes sense right ? the dj is cool in a club - i have good leverage in a professional setting...

clubs are fun - i have been really lucky this year when i go out - however i find it's more short term and volatile - most likely you will never hear back from the girl as she went out with her friends, wanted to mingle and then leave

hinge is good but all the downsides of apps

i very rarely cold approach in the street but feel i should do it more

[AdvancedDreamer]

https://voca.ro/1inejk3zcpvw

lmao.

[SoutheastBeast1]

local bars - gotta find the ones that are popular at the moment - i find the hottest girls (and more gf material) tend to go early - i don't open girls completely cold - i have to first know she is interested, otherwise 99% chances it will go no where - probably obvious but girls give out sign when they want you to speak to her

professional events - i try to attend as many of them and use my title as leverage - makes sense right ? the dj is cool in a club - i have good leverage in a professional setting...

clubs are fun - i have been really lucky this year when i go out - however i find it's more short term and volatile - most likely you will never hear back from the girl as she went out with her friends, wanted to mingle and then leave

hinge is good but all the downsides of apps

i very rarely cold approach in the street but feel i should do it more

I'm gonna try to join a co-ed kickball league in the spring. Even if the girls on the team are ugly maybe they'll have friends. If not kickball is still fun. There's some local biking and running clubs I considered hitting up too.

I've thought about the bar scene as well. The best bar scene is near a college here. I'm not a huge drinker so I've held off on pursuing that one at the moment.

I'm definitely not doing apps. Those are a joke tbh.

[Aleister_White]

I'm gonna try to join a co-ed kickball league in the spring. Even if the girls on the team are ugly maybe they'll have friends. If not kickball is still fun. There's some local biking and running clubs I considered hitting up too.

I've thought about the bar scene as well. The best bar scene is near a college here. I'm not a huge drinker so I've held off on pursuing that one at the moment.

I'm definitely not doing apps. Those are a joke tbh.

makes sense - i guess it's just a matter of looking your best and being out there as much as possible

i am not sure what to think of dating apps - i have friends that met their partner and they are great people - so far i have ended up with the ones with personal issues lol

[SoutheastBeast1]

makes sense - i guess it's just a matter of looking your best and being out there as much as possible

i am not sure what to think of dating apps - i have friends that met their partner and they are great people - so far i have ended up with the ones with personal issues lol

Honestly I have a friend who just got married to a girl he met on Bumble. She seems nice enough too but everything I've seen from those apps is garbage. I think the effort vs potential reward is just much better in person. Apps are like the easy way out so everyone gravitates toward them thinking that's the way and it just adds a bunch more sh*t to sift through. It's possible, but I genuinely believe it's the hard way (ironically because it's the lazy way).

[yieldtonothing]

do you swipe on girls in their early 20s? or do they swipe on you?

[imbored21]

im trying but failing pretty hard

[imbored21]

^ Having trouble even getting first dates. I only use apps cause I'm too shy to approach in person. Only asked out 1 girl in person in my life and she rejected me. I was only able to do it because we were friends for a year and in a room together in private.

[SoutheastBeast1]

im trying but failing pretty hard

^ Having trouble even getting first dates. I only use apps cause I'm too shy to approach in person. Only asked out 1 girl in person in my life and she rejected me. I was only able to do it because we were friends for a year and in a room together in private.

Make part of the goal to get rejected. I know that's weird and hard to do but I'm serious. Rejections are how you'll learn. You can't learn to run before you learn to crawl. Crawling is the rejections. You need them, they are part of the process. Embrace them and learn to enjoy accumulating them.

[imbored21]

Make part of the goal to get rejected. I know that's weird and hard to do but I'm serious. Rejections are how you'll learn. You can't learn to run before you learn to crawl. Crawling is the rejections. You need them, they are part of the process. Embrace them and learn to enjoy accumulating them.

based brother. I'm gonna ask out my crush now.

[MajorTendonitis]

In 2023 , unless your Chad , dating is like paying for a job interview . Best of luck OP

[Aleister_White]

Honestly I have a friend who just got married to a girl he met on Bumble. She seems nice enough too but everything I've seen from those apps is garbage. I think the effort vs potential reward is just much better in person. Apps are like the easy way out so everyone gravitates toward them thinking that's the way and it just adds a bunch more sh*t to sift through. It's possible, but I genuinely believe it's the hard way (ironically because it's the lazy way).

agree with you but online adds so much volume of potential dates

do you swipe on girls in their early 20s? or do they swipe on you?

usually on hinge i send them a like and then we match

meet them at clubs too...

In 2023 , unless your Chad , dating is like paying for a job interview . Best of luck OP

gotta do everything to be in the top 10% (not to be mistaken with top 1%) - gotta have your sh0t together, good with girls, looking your best, nice clothes, etc. - it's only fair man

[imbored21]

In 2023 , unless your Chad , dating is like paying for a job interview . Best of luck OP

Agreed but it's worth it for a loving woman.

[Aleister_White]

Agreed but it's worth it for a loving woman.

you got it man - goal is to find a girl that loves you and support you - those girls are out there - our role is just to be amongst the best candidates

[imbored21]

you got it man - goal is to find a girl that loves you and support you - those girls are out there - our role is just to be amongst the best candidates

praying to God as we speak. father son holyspirit

[Jasonw1178]

Started dating a girl and might end up marrying her srs.

So I've known her for years. Always thought she was good looking but kind of held back for a few reasons. But over the years I've noticed things about her where I know she would make a great wife.

[bsrkoacar2]

That seems like a lot of pressure to put on yourself, "looking for a wife."

When I was trying to find a girlfriend it wasn't very fun and often ended with disappointment. Once I said fuk it and decided to just start having fun and smashing as much as possible is when things would work out with women. I smashed 3 different chicks for the first time the week I met my current girlfriend. We fukked and then it just worked out and we've been together for 3 years now.

[Ironface]

I met mine already, but if you can’t find one the bachelor life honestly isn’t bad. Zero stress, money coming out of your ass hole, complete freedom, etc.

But having a loving wife to bust inside of everyday is also nice

[FAPhaggot]

I really don't know how you meet women today if you're out of school and don't work with them.

Bars are dead, women don't have phuckin hobbies b/c they have screens now, and the apps are degrading towards unusability.

Honest to God, there just aren't many girls out there looking to find a guy in 2023... not as many as 10 or 20 years ago. And every guy is looking to bang a decent looking girl, so it's a really lopsided market.

I'm gonna try to join a co-ed kickball league in the spring. Even if the girls on the team are ugly maybe they'll have friends. If not kickball is still fun. There's some local biking and running clubs I considered hitting up too.

I've thought about the bar scene as well. The best bar scene is near a college here. I'm not a huge drinker so I've held off on pursuing that one at the moment.

I'm definitely not doing apps. Those are a joke tbh.

I've done 12 seasons of kickball leagues, and IME there are two types of women who show up to them.

-married women looking for couple friends.
-married women sign up in a pack with their meatball-looking 1/10 single friend, looking to hook her up.

I've got #2 in my league right now... a phucking 40 BMI whale who needs her friends to run bases for her asked me point-blank how much money I make. Joke's on her, I'm unemployed lol.

Anyway, what I have found is that decent looking women don't need hobbies to find men. Men go to them and have been going for years. The hobby-group girls are taken or are leftovers.

Apps are trash, but you have a puncher's chance on there. That is the first place where a socially-isolated "normal" girl is going to look to find someone.

If you are going to find a relationship in 2023, apps are statistically where it's going to happen, by a long shot. Just bite the bullet for premium and see what happens.

[anonkunbrah]

In 2023 , unless your Chad , dating is like paying for a job interview . Best of luck OP

I was just on a video earlier about how bad dating is getting and in the comment section this kid said that the teaching assistant of his class is a legitimate Chad and when they were talking about dating, he said even the Chad told him he was struggling

[iloveus]

[Kiop]

good luck, learn
how you can be more
financially independent.
because financial issues is one the major issue's
that start/end relations. in the ass.

[MajorTendonitis]

I was just on a video earlier about how bad dating is getting and in the comment section this kid said that the teaching assistant of his class is a legitimate Chad and when they were talking about dating, he said even the Chad told him he was struggling

It’s probably not impossible with the amount of validation sloots are getting online these day. But in my day I highly doubt they’d have any issues pulling sloots.
I myself lost my girl to a Chad in the early 90’s . You could see her eyes glaze over and getting wet just being close to him . I swear she’d share Chad if her butter face coworker would have given her the go ahead , as sloots would sooner share a Chad then be stuck with a Timmy .
The Misc is right about sloots and Chad , always

[Aleister_White]

That seems like a lot of pressure to put on yourself, "looking for a wife."

When I was trying to find a girlfriend it wasn't very fun and often ended with disappointment. Once I said fuk it and decided to just start having fun and smashing as much as possible is when things would work out with women. I smashed 3 different chicks for the first time the week I met my current girlfriend. We fukked and then it just worked out and we've been together for 3 years now.

i agree and maybe i could rephrase it: i am dating actively and hopefully will find a wife while doing so

it's a fun process - no stress or pressure

I met mine already, but if you can’t find one the bachelor life honestly isn’t bad. Zero stress, money coming out of your ass hole, complete freedom, etc.

But having a loving wife to bust inside of everyday is also nice

this ! life is good currently

if i settle down it will be with the right chick

[Aleister_White]

looking back at 2023:

left my ex at beginning of year - it was really messy and took some time to get my mind right - even relapsed end of year fuark

started dating in spring

lots of dates

lots of girls i did not text back after the first date

a couple of one night stands with hot chicks when i was traveling

a couple of one night stands with hot chicks visiting the city

good year of fun but no gf lol

i was relying a lot on dating apps and clubs this year

i will delete and will try being way more out there (other than clubs) - we will see how it goes

[imbored21]

looking back at 2023:

left my ex at beginning of year - it was really messy and took some time to get my mind right - even relapsed end of year fuark

started dating in spring

lots of dates

lots of girls i did not text back after the first date

a couple of one night stands with hot chicks when i was traveling

a couple of one night stands with hot chicks visiting the city

good year of fun but no gf lol

i was relying a lot on dating apps and clubs this year

i will delete and will try being way more out there (other than clubs) - we will see how it goes

I went on 3 dates in 2023 all from Hinge. 2 of them were hot but didnt want to go on a secoond. Third wasnt attractive to me and i never reached out again. Other than that I am continuing to hit on my crush and play the long game with her. She constantly rejects me but idgaf.