Not even online. The woman I met at the bar last weekend. Told me that she just got out of a 11 year relationship and is getting a divorce. I' m like...."you are ready to date?" and she said, "I'm ready to move on. I wouldn't have given you my number if I wasn't." I interpret it as wanting, not being ready. Wanting to move on and actually being ready are two very different things. There's no way she is ready. I wanted to move on too, but I sure as hell wasn't ready to date anyone seriously for almost a year. I broke it off with the last woman I dated for the same reason.
Anyhow. I haven't texted her since Friday and she hasn't texted me either... so... shrug.
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06-02-2019, 08:47 PM #1621Forever alone? Attraction and keeping the girl chasing you - http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=131498033
You will never know your limits, unless you push yourself past the imaginary lines you have drawn in the sand.
Knee Dragger - '06 GSX-R750
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06-02-2019, 08:49 PM #1622
Dude, even after my 3-year on/off relationship I wasn't ready to date for 6 months at least (and I think it really took a year to clear my head enough to date with an open mind). Blew my mind that she moved on so fast. Really fast. But like you said, she probably didn't truly move on in a healthy manner.
𝕮𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖈𝖍𝖊𝖈𝕶, 𝖓𝖊𝖛𝖊𝖗 𝖈𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖇𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍
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06-02-2019, 08:57 PM #1623
This is really individual I think. Depends on personality type and level of attachment in the relationship. Some people take years after a breakup to be ok and ready to move on. Other people are ready the very next day.
For example people who didn’t love or respect their spouse and who were not emotionally attached in the first place. Or people who were cheating or wanted out of the marriage for a long time before the actual breakup. So they already emotionally detached long before the actual breakup. Also people who just can’t be alone regardless of circumstances.
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06-02-2019, 09:15 PM #1624
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06-02-2019, 09:37 PM #1625
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06-02-2019, 10:56 PM #1626
lol yeah.. I mean I reckon Ive waited for over 20 years now since puberty might as well wait more. Although my standards are not nearly as high as most miscers. Not even close.
I'd probably have been able to at least go on a date years ago if I wasn't so picky, because happened couple of years ago:
Background: She's a friend of a guy I used to train with at Brazilian Jiu-jitsu. I've never even met her IRL. I guess she saw me post on my friend's fb. She randomly messaged me that.
Days later she tagged me in a movie screening of a movie we'd both talked about. kind of obvious she wanted me to ask her to go see it.
Also this came up in the convo:
lulz were had
Anyways months later I was at a training camp in Thailand with another kid who had met her, I didn't even mention this conversation and he randomly mentioned how this girl was one of the nicest people he'd met. kinda felt bad for blowing her off.
tbh my goal is just to go out with a girl on a single date. zero expectations. I've never even been in alone with a female (not counting close family), not even in a public place..
That shouldn't be hard to do even for me if I get professional picture taken and use tinder right? I mean using tinder gold, boosts, over a period of 6months?While you were partying I studied the Blade.
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06-02-2019, 11:10 PM #1627
damlurker, you basically self-sabotaged yourself multiple times. At some point you gotta just bite the bullet. Go on Tinder or some app and just meet with a girl, even if she’s a bit less attractive.
You’ll know it’s short term, so you’ll have nothing to lose except gain some experience.𝕮𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖈𝖍𝖊𝖈𝕶, 𝖓𝖊𝖛𝖊𝖗 𝖈𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖇𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍
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06-02-2019, 11:38 PM #1628
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06-03-2019, 12:11 AM #1629
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06-03-2019, 01:39 AM #1630
I'll never forget InstantLoser's attitude in the weeks following his loss of virginity. Dear lord his confidence and self belief were through the roof. Quite an incredible transformation, albeit temporarily.
Approval from women really does have a profound affect on the male psyche.
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06-03-2019, 01:46 AM #1631
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06-03-2019, 01:53 AM #1632
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06-03-2019, 03:24 AM #1633
Yes, I actually miss the kissing and touching and cuddling the most. I can give myself an orgasm, but I can't have the rest without a partner.
Maybe menopause is setting in. My drive isn't as high as it used to be, but that could also be lack of sex/intimacy and how random and far between it is. The only guy I'm attracted to sexually is my FWB. I look at all other guys and just think, meh. No matter how good they look. Feelsbad.
Yeah, I took a year from separation to even want to think about dating. By the time I started I was 6 months out from being officially divorced. I needed that time to make sure I was ok emotionally and my son was ok. It was rough for him and that made it harder for me.~ In a world where you can be anything, be kind ~
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06-03-2019, 06:36 AM #1634
Hard to tell since the flavor profile changes drastically after it's carbonated.
I'd say it's a 4 maybe now.
the yeast chewed up most of the sugar from the blueberries and left the blueberry.
it isn't in your face blueberry either.
It's balanced with the malt.
i't should be ready by next weekend.
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06-03-2019, 06:42 AM #1635
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06-03-2019, 07:30 AM #1636
Does anyone else have a bunch of pending matches that they never seemed to get matched with?
I'll swipe until I run out, and not a single match
And yeah I did swipe right,....Atlas.....
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
"It was always the women, and above all the young ones, who were the most bigoted adherents of the party, the swallowers of slogans, the amateur spies and nosers-out of unorthodoxy." - George Orwell, 1984
LTC is the only heterosexual way.
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06-03-2019, 07:33 AM #1637
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06-03-2019, 07:41 AM #1638
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06-03-2019, 08:00 AM #1639
Legz FYI Gymshark has a sale now with big discounts. Going to order this sports bra only $9 now and will probably get some other stuff too.
https://www.gymshark.com/collections...usky-pink-marl
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06-03-2019, 08:03 AM #1640Forever alone? Attraction and keeping the girl chasing you - http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=131498033
You will never know your limits, unless you push yourself past the imaginary lines you have drawn in the sand.
Knee Dragger - '06 GSX-R750
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06-03-2019, 08:43 AM #1641
Yeah, I hear ya. Lots of non realistic hoops to jump through in job interviews. But keep in mind, some of the goal behind things like that is to see how you work under pressure/stress. Plus interviewing itself is a skill, gotta get reps in to hone your answers and feel comfortable/confident. You'll definitely be better the next go round.
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06-03-2019, 09:57 AM #1642
crashed at a friends sat after a party.
woman i've known for a while and slept with a few times is crashing on the other couch.
middle of the night she crawling into my couch and wants to cuddle.
start fooling around.
twice she stopped me from taking her jeans off.
after the 2nd time she goes back to her own couch.
whatever.
10 mins. later she is back on my couch saying she just wants to cuddle and jams her ass against the boner she gave me because there is barely enough room for the two of us.
I tell her "if we aren't going to have sex, get back on your couch."
but....she just wants to cuddle.....
I kicked her off and went back to sleep once my hard-on subsided.
WTF?
I left in the morning without saying a word to her.
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06-03-2019, 10:02 AM #1643
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06-03-2019, 10:03 AM #1644
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06-03-2019, 10:09 AM #1645
Yes I just tried to order but everything I wanted is sold out in my size.
The quality is good. I have a lot from them and I’m really happy with the stuff I have.
High impact idk because I just only use it for lifting. Their sizes run kind of small and I wear a medium.
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06-03-2019, 11:27 AM #1646
Oh, hey. Did this thread take a positive turn? Nice.
Not just men. Tried that on in 7th grade and it works...better social life all around. Goofy dingbat chick > nerdy smart chick; at least IME. Dumb girls are less annoying/threatening. Not that I don't have a naturally goofy nature to draw on...
Seems about the right timeline. Snowed under by life right now so it doesn't even matter. And my ex has been an education; as in just don't even know if I can stand to risk that again. Hopefully wouldn't make the same mistake again.
He is completely self-centered, but puts on an act that I could only see through after the fact. Will say whatever he thinks will get him what he wants, fake sympathy, threats, lies, etc. If I could Thanos him without taking out my kid it would be tempting...just POOF gone, erased.
Most recent round he harassed me for weeks to change our parenting time schedule. Told him straight that I was dragging my feet about agreeing because the only reason I could think of that would make him want to change is that he is dating someone and it would mesh better with her schedule and I don't like her getting dragged into his dating life. He reassures me that he understands about not having our daughter socializing with all the women he dates, says he actually wants to change the schedule so that she (our daughter) will be less involved with this woman. Then this morning I get a call that our daughter is sick/can't go to school and he is going to drop her off with me. She comes in and showers then says she is going to "take a nap", which I questioned since it was so early:
"I had to get up at 5:30 this morning."
Why? Your bus doesn't come until 7:30.
"We had to drive an hour and a half."
So, yeah, guess the new SO lives a ways off and he had our daughter there overnight and thought that getting her up super early on a school day after sleeping in a strange place was perfectly acceptable.
Sigh...INTP Crew
Inattentive ADD Crew
Mom That Miscs Crew
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06-03-2019, 11:42 AM #1647
I’m so sorry, that sounds really rough.
The only good thing about my divorce was that we didn’t have kids so after all the financial stuff was sorted out I could go complete NC. Haven’t had any contact in years and it’s so peaceful and lovely.
Would have been completely miserable to have to keep dealing with him for shared custody. And mine has some really srs issues that would be very unhealthy and dangerous for kids to be around. Would’ve been awful.
Although I do have some vague fantasy in the back of my head that if we had kids maybe he would’ve transformed his character and personality. And become a good person for the kids and maybe we wouldn’t have gotten divorced.
But it’s just a fantasy because I don’t think that’s what really happens irl. Plenty of people with kids still have problems and still get divorced. So having kids to “save” the marriage would’ve likely been a disaster. But I still think about that from time to time.
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06-03-2019, 12:15 PM #1648
I wouldn't bother thinking about that scenario. People don't really change like that, but you already know that.
Remember I went through the same turmoil wondering if my ex would be different if I just moved in and married her. Then she'd feel secure and we'd be happy. I'll never know the answer, but from everything I vicariously learned, that probably wouldn't have been a smart thing to bet on.𝕮𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖈𝖍𝖊𝖈𝕶, 𝖓𝖊𝖛𝖊𝖗 𝖈𝖍𝖆𝖘𝖊 𝖆 𝖇𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍
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06-03-2019, 12:30 PM #1649
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06-03-2019, 01:00 PM #1650
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