What do you believe is the biggest contributor to being FA?

[Sway12]

Just lol @ these replies. Video games...internet.... No
Ask yourself how many FAs are good looking? In 99% of cases barring those with personality disorders these problems stem from physical appearance.

[StillFat53]

Just lol @ these replies. Video games...internet.... No
Ask yourself how many FAs are good looking? In 99% of cases barring those with personality disorders these problems stem from physical appearance.

Yeh but how do you fix that? I'll be ok when I lose weight, but then my teeth are not perfectly straight to FA excuses will continue on.
I dont buy this excuses business much whether I am a FA or not no girl will go near me and no employers want me for a good job.

[Krypkt]

Just lol @ these replies. Video games...internet.... No
Ask yourself how many FAs are good looking? In 99% of cases barring those with personality disorders these problems stem from physical appearance.

6'1" 183lbs
more like 130lbs

[Domina8r]

internet, videogames, deadchit parents.

[Omnivium]

hah but at least ur ripped dude what are u waiting for, if my avi was yours I'd be talking to anyone I could

I'm not waiting. I do talk to all the cute girls I can lol. But I'm still kinda awkward from when I was fa and when I'm wearing a shirt(which is 100% of the time) I don't really look like I lift.

[Sway12]

6'1" 183lbs
more like 130lbs

Your point being manlet?

[DotheDew563]

Being ugly.

Nah. Ugly people can get pussy too, because they make up for it in other areas such as personality/status/big dink

The primary culprit that causes people to be FA imo would have to be lack of social skills. People who aren't taught how to socialize when they are young get fuked over as they grow up.

[Banzairush]

-Being raised by single mothers. They either can't talk to a female at all, are too nice, or are just too much of a douchebag to anyone because they're bitter that their single mothers had to work their ass off to support the family and therefore have no parents to love them at all leading to girls being scared/avoid them. They have no father to look up to and see how he behaves around other women.

-Too much free porn.

[StillFat53]

Your point being manlet?

E-stater comes into FA thread and calls everyone out. Then gets caught e-stating.

[43Steelers]

Parents not forcing them out of there comfort zone.

If you smash a kid with sport/social activities, they will be social.

I've played hockey and baseball all my life as a kid and I'm still asperger.

[Slurgie]

Being ugly.

Some of the ugliest dudes i know have extremely good social lives/girlfriends. Looks, video games, and the internet aren't what's stopping you it's yourself and your self doubt. All the FAs I've known, a lot of which are not ugly just don't open up, talk, or network with people.

[willywillworld]

Bulking gone wrong. Or forever bulkers

[StillFat53]

I've played hockey and baseball all my life as a kid and I'm still asperger.

assburgerss?

[ObviouslyDutch]

Just lol @ these replies. Video games...internet.... No
Ask yourself how many FAs are good looking? In 99% of cases barring those with personality disorders these problems stem from physical appearance.

I'm good looking. It's 100% mentally for me.

[Nathan17]

This. Moreso lack of playing a team sport growing up.

Played club soccer, hs, and now club in college and do not consider myself social at all..

I never feel like I am good enough for a hbb

[AnnGoose]

Many FAs don't have the drive/motivation to physically go out and improve themselves socially, often due to insecurities and fear of rejection. The ease of internet access and video games also don't help, as they have learned that they can just stay at home and be entertained without fearing rejection. This turns into a downward spiral - they end up staying in and play video games, eating like ****, don't want to leave the house, worsens insecurities due to becoming fat piece of sh*t, don't want to improve themselves or go to the gym because they are fat as sh*t - become 40 y/o kissless virgin.

[asapLSD]

People with social skills and low inhibition don't know how lucky they have it.

[powersupplyfan]

i used to think looks is everything. that untill i actually went out one saturday and realized how many unaestethic and below average guys are holding hands or kissing with girls that are 5.5 - 6.5/10. short, chubby, unathletic, narrow shouldered guys with bad skin and droopy eyes, skinny fat with big bellies and narrow faces, there were maybe few of them that looked remotely attractive (no homo) and most of them were manlet tier. since than its hard for me to believe looks is everything, especially considering most of population, especially males, are not even attractive unless they have built bodies and at least average faces.

[purpletentacle]

Internet addiction / porn addiction / video games

[43Steelers]

assburgerss?

wut m8

i'm talking about the asperger syndrome.

[RCAK]

As an ex-fatty, it's definitely lacking confidence and physical attributes that holds lots of people back.

Activities such as internet, vidyagmes, porn etc. are merely coping mechanisms rather than the pathological source.

Case in point: Very exposed to socializing during the formative ages 3-16 - playing outdoors/mixing with different kids round the block, going to parties...but being big makes you virtually invisible to the opposite sex. When ur boys are getting tang and you're sitting in the sidelines, your confidence is bound to take a knock and feedback loops keep telling you you're not good enough. So I'd retreat to internet, games n fapping to compensate.

Paradoxically I was the most 'confident' out of my closest friends but I got the least play.
For example aged 14 I asked a girl out in front of my whole class..how's that for balls!!!!


When I got in shape, the world completely changed, 'fat guy' mentality is still active in my life (despite many sexual partners n current LTR) but it never truly leaves you, brain has to go through a rewiring phase to write out existing bad memories with good experiences.

[iTunesBrah]

I'm perhaps one of the biggest FA's on misc. This thread really does hit home.

yes, I was addicted to videogames.
yes, i was raised by a single mother.
yes, I fap a lot

It doesn't have anything to do with looks. I'm good looking, so i've been told. Nor does it have anything to do with the aforementioned traits I listed.

It's all to do with confidence and self-perception.

I have no confidence, couple with that with low self-esteem and you've got yourself a FA. i'm sure a large majority of FA's were bullied/teased a child resulting in them becoming FA.

[Murr702]

Not having any motivation, goals, or ambitions in life to a point to where you begin to become sad about silly things such as never having a girlfriend. A majority of the world's population would literally kill to be in the position most of you are in now (probably have shelter, 3 meals a day, a college degree, etc.). Get out there and do something with your life that makes you happy, the last thing you should be worrying about is women.

[RS07]

Fear of rejection probably

Nothing to do with looks or body unless you're morbidly obese.. I'm good looking, get checked out by bishes all the time but until around mid last year I was a typical FA Teen.

Having a hot bish approach and ask me out changed everything srs.

[Alt3rnate]

Being ugly and unattractive = no positive feedback loop from teenage years. This leads to a lack of self confidence due to either not being validated for years or being actively invalidated.
So once this goes on for long enough low self esteem becomes default state + adoption of a victim identity. All of this compounded together = mess

This above all. Mainly the feedback loop part.

Source: 22 and FA as it gets.

[BigVic92]

Fear of stress. When you get placed through stress, you grow. When you live a life that does not require you to be placed in stressful situations, you become a giant man-baby.

[TimeToGrowUp]

Low self esteem

[maoriaz]

Confidence /thread

[Coonsmell]

Lack of confidence, whatever the reason.

most common two:

- poor social skills
- ugly (perhaps the largest reason)

[VagnerLove]

being ugly > you won't like yourself > low self-esteem > you won't have many friends > you become socially awkward > you end up playing video games