Friendzoned by girl I had sex with and dated for months. Wow.

[shuri]

So after months of dating and she misses me and she likes me and we had no condom sex once and all that here's what she drops on me today:

We got to talking about why she hasn't seen me in a while and first she was like I pushed you away because I'm just insecure and scared and I have such a ****ty life etc I will always push you away so this is over.

I kept saying I want to try to make this work out and **** and I know she likes me because of xx, and I was like I know we haven't been super sexual lately but part of that is you pushing me away and not seeing me for weeks and the other is you got a roommate and wanted to go slow after we had sex so I was respecting that but we obviously still had sexual chemistry when we made out and **** and she says (shortened and put into 1 text for cleanliness purposes and summarized of course):

"I do like you, but I dont see this going anywhere. We can just be friends. I feel like we're friends when we hang out. We're not meant for each other. When I told you I was falling in love and that I was scared of how awesome this could be, I didn't know you. You're really sweet but sorry. You can text me tomorrow if you want to be strictly friends but if not then, bye."

Holy ****, vent.. Wow. I feel like I've come full circle. I was a virgin 2 years ago never dated, got friends only please by a girl I liked when i asked her out. After that I went on a buncha dates with lots of girls, had sex with 2 girls, and thought I had this girlfriend. And now I just got friend'd by her. What a ride. Have I made any progress at all? Like at least with the girl 2 years ago I knew, we were friends first we didnt even kiss, but this, wow. Wow.

Please offer advice. I can't believe this ****ing bull****.

[dissention]

onto the next one?

[yondy12]

Reply, "Alright"

then NC and find other bitches, i can smell your insecurity behind a computer screen lulz

[shuri]

onto the next one?

Just man like **** when is it over? I cant even **** and date a girl and have her say she wants serious things and what not with me and not have to worry about this garbage? Now I gotta start all over and somehow think that special snowflake is gonna be different and not **** me when she thinks im an ******* and want friendship when she says im sweet.

I cant believe this tho. goddamn.

[Turbulence24]

This is really awesome that you included pics

[shuri]

Reply, "Alright"

then NC and find other bitches, i can smell your insecurity behind a computer screen lulz

Im not insecure at all i just liked her and thought that was done, I know i can find another girl to have sex with, but idk how the hell to find a real relationship. I really dont.

[LtGoose]

Keep hustlin cuz

[Huberus]

Classic "its not you, its me".

She found a better deal.

You clearly have issues and major flaws you aren't aware of if you can't get a relationship happening after banging and seeing a girl for months.

[BorrachoDamor]

Sounds like a perfect fuk buddy lol.

[bananabucket]

Im not insecure at all i just liked her and thought that was done, I know i can find another girl to have sex with, but idk how the hell to find a real relationship. I really dont.

95% of girls aren't worth a 'real relationship'


**** her, on to the next one. don't get hung up on one bitch.

[Donoreem]

She probably thought your penor felt weird OP

[Cricket87]

She's banging another guy. srs

[shuri]

Classic "its not you, its me".

She found a better deal.

You clearly have issues and major flaws you aren't aware of if you can't get a relationship happening after banging and seeing a girl for months.

Yeah i notice a lot of my friends get girls attached to them but I just don't. Even the girl before her that I banged twice, I stopped texting her and she never blew my phone up or even double texted. They dont get attached. Besides some one random asian girl who texts me Hey once a week even tho I never met her.

It was 7 dates.

[shuri]

Its pathetic but all i can think about is considering just texting her tomorrow and keeping this BS friendship and seeing what happens. IDK.

[Questorify]

So after months of dating and she misses me and she likes me and we had no condom sex once and all that here's what she drops on me today:

We got to talking about why she hasn't seen me in a while and first she was like I pushed you away because I'm just insecure and scared and I have such a ****ty life etc I will always push you away so this is over.

I kept saying I want to try to make this work out and **** and I know she likes me because of xx, and I was like I know we haven't been super sexual lately but part of that is you pushing me away and not seeing me for weeks and the other is you got a roommate and wanted to go slow after we had sex so I was respecting that but we obviously still had sexual chemistry when we made out and **** and she says (shortened and put into 1 text for cleanliness purposes and summarized of course):

"I do like you, but I dont see this going anywhere. We can just be friends. I feel like we're friends when we hang out. We're not meant for each other. When I told you I was falling in love and that I was scared of how awesome this could be, I didn't know you. You're really sweet but sorry. You can text me tomorrow if you want to be strictly friends but if not then, bye."

Holy ****, vent.. Wow. I feel like I've come full circle. I was a virgin 2 years ago never dated, got friends only please by a girl I liked when i asked her out. After that I went on a buncha dates with lots of girls, had sex with 2 girls, and thought I had this girlfriend. And now I just got friend'd by her. What a ride. Have I made any progress at all? Like at least with the girl 2 years ago I knew, we were friends first we didnt even kiss, but this, wow. Wow.

Please offer advice. I can't believe this ****ing bull****.

You said two years ago you were a virgin. 2 years into the future, had seks and a girlfriend.

Doesn't look like a circle to me unless you become a virgin again.

EDIT:
6'0'' 160 lbs?
I would suggest you: Ignore women, acquire aesthetics, and watch the hoes flock to your cock bro

[BorrachoDamor]

Its pathetic but all i can think about is considering just texting her tomorrow and keeping this BS friendship and seeing what happens. IDK.

If you want any shot at getting her back your best bet is to go no contact. Let her mind wonder a bit, it'll get to the point to where she'll call you again and ask to "catch up". If you can get another girl and go to a place where you know she'll see you that'll drive her nuts

[shuri]

You said two years ago you were a virgin. 2 years into the future, had seks and a girlfriend.

Doesn't look like a circle to me unless you become a virgin again.

No options atm, feel like **** due to ****gy heartpains, dont know what to do. I mean sure I checked those things off the list but I still dont have what I want. It sucks.

You think you're living in a movie or something?

95% of girls aged 18-25 aren't good for a "real relationship", just bang and focus on yourself. Try to change the world, not get hung up on some random bish that will eventually cheat on you with tyrone.

She's probably had at least 10 cocks down her throat by the time she turned 18 anyways

She was helllllla tight said she hadnt had sex for 10 months before me. But doesnt mean its not true.

[jjcoola]

Awwww shuris first breakup

[shuri]

If you want any shot at getting her back your best bet is to go no contact. Let her mind wonder a bit, it'll get to the point to where she'll call you again and ask to "catch up". If you can get another girl and go to a place where you know she'll see you that'll drive her nuts

Don't you think she will be more likely to want to "catch up" on my romances if we're friends vs if I just never text her tomorrow and she gets the hint that I dont want to be friends and potentially removes me from social networks n shiz?

[SipNPiz]

She's cheating brah

[Questorify]

No options atm, feel like **** due to ****gy heartpains, dont know what to do. I mean sure I checked those things off the list but I still dont have what I want. It sucks.



She was helllllla tight said she hadnt had sex for 10 months before me. But doesnt mean its not true.

Be patient my good sir, focus on the gym, channel that pain in the gym and crush the iron in the gym.
You'll find another girl, and she'll be better than this one. Cleaner, maybe she'll have a squatters ass!

And above all remember: People come and go, but 200 lbs will always be 200 lbs.

[lulzorz]

what did you do to make her change her mind about you.

did you goof hard?

[trainreqq]

One thing you have to realize is that girls ALWAYS have more options. She most likely found someone better and was probably dating other guys while she was dating you (srs)

Step your game up and keep that confidence. Move on.

[edreese23]

text her "who's this?"

[ectobruh]

she's taking a new cock every other day while you're sitting there imagining being with her, look at how fuked up that picture this. getting railed by all kinds of guys. she doesn't give a fuk about you, why should you give one single fuk about her? disregard her completely, I don't care if you've been going after her for months or years, stop it now. I don't care if you think you've put too much time in, stop it. stop thinking how great it would be with her, because it wouldn't. you're better than that. she's just another slut that you were infatuated with. shes average. shes nothing to you. I don't care if she texts you saying she misses you, don't respond. don't wait 2 hours then respond and think you're alpha, you're in the same fuking spot with her at the end. forget about her, work on your goals for life, aesthetics being one of them. when you're aesthetic as fuk, don't give a fuk, alpha and confident as fuk you know what will happen since you've been disregarding her? she will come to you like never before, and you can toy with her fuking emotions if you want. girls live off emotions, you think you're fuked with this oneitis, imagine how bad it will be for her when she sees how awesome you are and you aren't giving her any time. it will eat her inside, then you can eventually fuk her and disregard if you want, or just forget about her. it doesn't matter, you know why? because you're the ****ing man so start acting like it. stop feeling bad for yourself, stop fantasizing about her before you go to bed, stop fapping to her, stop all of this nonsense. you're going to look back and laugh at how dumb you were for being infatuated with this chick when there are tons of them out there, go get more. put yourself out there, lift heavy as fuk, work on ceo'ing, adopt the not a single **** was given attitude and watch your happiness rise to higher levels than ever before.

[shuri]

Be patient my good sir, focus on the gym, channel that pain in the gym and crush the iron in the gym.
You'll find another girl, and she'll be better than this one. Cleaner, maybe she'll have a squatters ass!

And above all remember: People come and go, but 200 lbs will always be 200 lbs.

I shall.

what did you do to make her change her mind about you.

did you goof hard?

Hell if I know man. After our 3rd date I told her I never had a gf before and she still took that fine, had 4 more dates and was saying she wants to come over and meet my parents.

One thing you have to realize is that girls ALWAYS have more options. She most likely found someone better and was probably dating other guys while she was dating you (srs)

Step your game up and keep that confidence. Move on.

Really can't believe someone is better thats kind of weird to say i guess because obviously theres plenty of amazing people but I just cant believe that shiz, i feel like im really good and deserving of good shi.

[rnod]

been there, done that.. no contact now. you'll be all better in a couple months

[shuri]

So most of yall are saying do not reply to this text me tomorrow if you want to be strictly friends msg right? I dont think i can reply. **** that shi.

[shuri]

she's taking a new cock every other day while you're sitting there imagining being with her, look at how fuked up that picture this. getting railed by all kinds of guys. she doesn't give a fuk about you, why should you give one single fuk about her? disregard her completely, I don't care if you've been going after her for months or years, stop it now. I don't care if you think you've put too much time in, stop it. stop thinking how great it would be with her, because it wouldn't. you're better than that. she's just another slut that you were infatuated with. shes average. shes nothing to you. I don't care if she texts you saying she misses you, don't respond. don't wait 2 hours then respond and think you're alpha, you're in the same fuking spot with her at the end. forget about her, work on your goals for life, aesthetics being one of them. when you're aesthetic as fuk, don't give a fuk, alpha and confident as fuk you know what will happen since you've been disregarding her? she will come to you like never before, and you can toy with her fuking emotions if you want. girls live off emotions, you think you're fuked with this oneitis, imagine how bad it will be for her when she sees how awesome you are and you aren't giving her any time. it will eat her inside, then you can eventually fuk her and disregard if you want, or just forget about her. it doesn't matter, you know why? because you're the ****ing man so start acting like it. stop feeling bad for yourself, stop fantasizing about her before you go to bed, stop fapping to her, stop all of this nonsense. you're going to look back and laugh at how dumb you were for being infatuated with this chick when there are tons of them out there, go get more. put yourself out there, lift heavy as fuk, work on ceo'ing, adopt the not a single **** was given attitude and watch your happiness rise to higher levels than ever before.

i think i repped u but it was glitching im not sure what happened but thanks. i like your post.

[TeflonD0n]

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