Watching your parents get old is hard.

[Ratfish]

you brehs have the wrong perspective on this. it's all a part of life and having a negative mindset toward them based on chit like this is lame srs

my dad recently had shoulder surgery and it's not looking like he's gonna get full mobility (at least on the first surgery) but i'm not gonna show anything but positivity about it

[Destor]

If you get to see your parents get old, then you're in a pretty good spot. Think about all the things that need to happen just right for someone to make it to 60, 70, 80+ and it's actually remarkable


Feel sad sometimes but don't forget to celebrate that chit because not everyone makes it that far

[EnderG60]

I never got to see my mom get old, but my dad is heartbreaking.

Two or three years ago I remember sitting around the lake with him and seeing an old grandpa with his dog instead of my dad. That hit me hard once I realized it. Hes 77 now and developing parkinson's disease, has 2 kinds of arthritis and his memory is going.

Poor guy lost my mom to ovarian cancer, that was 5 years of stress before she died. Then he met a new woman who was great. 2 years in she was also diagnosed with ovarian cancer. She died 2 years later. A year after that his dog got bone cancer and had to have a leg removed, shes ok now but old and nearing the end also. All of this happened in the past 10 years. I watched cancer take my dad from being extremely active and looking 15 years younger than he was, to a sad, broken old man.

[KingSWRV]

Aren’t you the guy that ran your dads brand new pick up truck into the garage???

[LikeAMachine]

Lost my dad 2 years ago. Wasn't great tbh

[JustMoved24]

Wish I knew these feels, of being close to my dad. Maybe in my next life.

Can confirm I’m your dad and dont want ya in the next life either boyo haha later kiddo

[HarryFlashman]

My dad died when I was 10. I never got to see him get old, he was mid 40s. At least you've had time with yours OP.

[MrAWatts]

Better than not having parents to watch grow old. All about perspective.

[bongowongo]

It sucks man.


My dad is 60 now and mum is 58, both are getting older and sicker... but they're still relatively healthy. Dad is right now recovering from minor surgery but there was some slight complications so hopefully getting better now.


When both my parents kick it,im seriously just gonna call it a day myself ... cant imaigne living without either of em srs

[StinnerOzz]

Fck ... dementia in her 50s?! That seems much too young.

I had my DNA checked out and apparently I have a genetic marker for Alzheimer's . It said "late onset Alzheimer's" though, so I guess I might get it when I'm in my 80s or some chit. I recently found out that drugs like Benadryl increase your odds of getting Alzheimer's too, so I immediately threw out what Benadryl pills I had left in the house. Hold me, brahs.

I'm afraid to do that. Ugh. I hear that it's genetic, I hear that it's not. I'm currently just living obliviously as I can't face that. I firmly believe that other factors likely led to her decline in some way (no drugs or drinking), and I'm a health nut who always keeps his mind sharp. Hopefully that will help. We'll see years down the road. God I hope I don't have the same fate...

Anyway we began noticing a decline in her late 50s. It wasn't until a few years later that it was incapacitating. She could get around and do most anything but had to be guided a bit. It seemed each year got worse and worse until she was unable to prep her own food or use a tablet, etc. She wasn't even diagnosed until dad died. I moved her out near me, got a new doctor, got her diagnosed, got her proper insurance and such (my parents were not too smart about things on their own), and now she's in a home. FWIW, they had JUST gotten a doctor to oversee her and make the diagnosis, but he had her on some BS monitoring regimen and in the middle of it dad took ill and died shortly after.

The ONLY good thing about that, and it sounds stupid to say, is that her mind is at a place where these recent memories are distant and not bothering her, nor does she sit around feeling sorry for herself. She's mostly in her own world, and for her I'd much rather have that than to be well aware of her situation and being sad about it 24/7. On the flipside, it's a ****ing nightmare for me. I kinda got desensitized by everything happening at once and being the only one to deal with it all, but the thing that gets me is seeing her unable to really interact much w/her only grandchild who was born well into her illness. Poor dad never got to meet him either. At least Dad was 10 years older and mentally sharp as a tack, FWIW.

[Fit1NYC]

Can’t old men just get prescribed legal hormones to combat age?

[jlick]

dad is 59 and mom is 58. I can definitely tell they are growing older....my dad used to be a soccer star. now he's got bum knees and ankles. I have been playing a lot of soccer myself, and I know my dad wishes he could play still, but he is just not their physically anymore. If I lost either of my parents in the new year or even next few years, I would be devastated and shocked.

That being said, I am trying to make the most of the time with my parents. we are going on a long trip to Asia. I hope i can get in at least a handful of quality vacations with them so i can have memories to last me the rest of my life.

[JohnRainbo]

Think 70 asshat

How were we supposed to know your dad had you the day before his retirement party?

[MajesticLion]

Yep...but necessary.

[Willie_Bosket]

There are a lot of things in life that will make you depressed which is why you should just not think about them

Solid advice (srs)

[FrazettaSilke]

Aren’t you the guy that ran your dads brand new pick up truck into the garage???

Not brand new truck, brand new house. I finally paid the damage off a couple years ago.


He laughs about it now, I still won't touch that truck with a 10 ft pole



Holy duk this thread is sad. Got dam. On recharge, but I'll hold every every one of you sad ****s.

[wasp9166]

wait til it's your turn bud

[FrazettaSilke]

yeah, my freedom and happiness trump all other factors. she had job offers for 250-300k while still in her last year of residency. i'm sure she's making 300 right now. i could have used sloot logic and married her and never worked again. just lol @ being trash like that. same goes for the lawyer who wanted to get married.

i've pulled hotter sloots since then and i'll pull even hotter ones in the future. i'm sure i'll date more doctors and lawyers going forward. wood rather never have another GF though. mark my words: my next GF (should i be weak enough to have another one) will look like a god-tier model srs

Cope

[zknarc]

Two or three years ago I remember sitting around the lake with him and seeing an old grandpa with his dog instead of my dad. That hit me hard once I realized it. Hes 77 now and developing parkinson's disease, has 2 kinds of arthritis and his memory is going.

Poor guy lost my mom to ovarian cancer, that was 5 years of stress before she died. Then he met a new woman who was great. 2 years in she was also diagnosed with ovarian cancer. She died 2 years later. A year after that his dog got bone cancer and had to have a leg removed, shes ok now but old and nearing the end also. All of this happened in the past 10 years. I watched cancer take my dad from being extremely active and looking 15 years younger than he was, to a sad, broken old man.

Fuking hell man. The people that do nothing to deserve this and still do not get bitter and resentful at life are amazing people. I can never square away in my mind how horrible stuff happens to good people, the best I can do is work in an area that is helping stop horrendous medical conditions from doing this to people.

[FrazettaSilke]

I'm afraid to do that. Ugh. I hear that it's genetic, I hear that it's not. I'm currently just living obliviously as I can't face that. I firmly believe that other factors likely led to her decline in some way (no drugs or drinking), and I'm a health nut who always keeps his mind sharp. Hopefully that will help. We'll see years down the road. God I hope I don't have the same fate...

Anyway we began noticing a decline in her late 50s. It wasn't until a few years later that it was incapacitating. She could get around and do most anything but had to be guided a bit. It seemed each year got worse and worse until she was unable to prep her own food or use a tablet, etc. She wasn't even diagnosed until dad died. I moved her out near me, got a new doctor, got her diagnosed, got her proper insurance and such (my parents were not too smart about things on their own), and now she's in a home. FWIW, they had JUST gotten a doctor to oversee her and make the diagnosis, but he had her on some BS monitoring regimen and in the middle of it dad took ill and died shortly after.

The ONLY good thing about that, and it sounds stupid to say, is that her mind is at a place where these recent memories are distant and not bothering her, nor does she sit around feeling sorry for herself. She's mostly in her own world, and for her I'd much rather have that than to be well aware of her situation and being sad about it 24/7. On the flipside, it's a ****ing nightmare for me. I kinda got desensitized by everything happening at once and being the only one to deal with it all, but the thing that gets me is seeing her unable to really interact much w/her only grandchild who was born well into her illness. Poor dad never got to meet him either. At least Dad was 10 years older and mentally sharp as a tack, FWIW.

Are you me? Grandma tries to flirt with me cause I remind her of grandpa, her mind is just gone. It's a curse and a blessing, she is a baby now, but she doesn't know grandpa is dead

[VinnyPazRules]

Who chops wood in this day and age? Buy a furnace you cheap prick

[Ratfish]

Cope

Envy

[OffwhiteBrah]

[Aristotelian]

Wish I knew these feels, of being close to my dad. Maybe in my next life.

Sad to hear.

OP, enjoy it if and while you can. Some people here lost their fathers when they were in their teens and might wish to be able to see their parents grow older...

[Muzzlrpress]

There are a lot of things in life that will make you depressed which is why you should just not think about them

Exactly. I'm gonna go watch Asian porn and beat my dick. Have fun OP.

[zknarc]

Can’t old men just get prescribed legal hormones to combat age?

It isn't that simple brah. There is srs research money going into looking at ageing though but right now they can't even stop the norwood reaper.

[sooby]

dad is 60 years old

has a bad back but has dat dere oldman strength boyos, no norwood, hair is pretty much still black but beard is completely white, hope I have dat same hair genetics

[grinching90]

It really is terrible having to see your parents grow old, get weaker, suffer from age-related diseases and then die. Just another reason I'm not planning on having kids. They won't have to deal with the sadness of seeing me age, suffer and die and not having to deal with aging themselves. This is another part of life people take for granted. Life isn't good enough overall to have to deal with something like this, among the many other tragic events that happen in life. You can put this cycle of suffering to an end by not having kids.

From this thread, a lot of people's way of dealing with this is to ignore how tragic it is, either with rationalizations of how it could be worse, how it's a part of life, or even just not thinking about it at all. I'd rather just not create kids and put them in this situation.

[bsmit107]

The feels are strong ITT

Im 33, my dad just turned 61 and hasn't been taking care of himself for a few years now. He is Diabetic, eats like chit, smokes, has pretty much stopped leaving the house (retired due to health complications 3 years ago) showers 1/week, hasn't shaved in probably 3 months, has lost a majority of his teeth, is in the early stages of either Dementia or Alzheimer, just had 2 toes amputated due to infection and has lost about 60lbs in the last 2-3 years. He looks rough and no matter what I (or the family) say to him, he continues to not give a F. The hardest part is knowing that a majority of his issues are self inflicted by the way that he has chosen to live and not do what he should be and that he is still a zone where he could turn things around, but he isnt and he just continues to get worse.

My mom has also just about given up and has started to let things (in their life) slip and for someone who used to be so put together and always make sure things were taken care of, is just in F it mode now.

There's so much more, but that's all I'm going to say here. Its been a rough couple of years

[FrazettaSilke]

The feels are strong ITT

Im 33, my dad just turned 61 and hasn't been taking care of himself for a few years now. He is Diabetic, eats like chit, smokes, has pretty much stopped leaving the house (retired due to health complications 3 years ago) showers 1/week, hasn't shaved in probably 3 months, has lost a majority of his teeth, is in the early stages of either Dementia or Alzheimer, just had 2 toes amputated due to infection and has lost about 60lbs in the last 2-3 years. He looks rough and no matter what I (or the family) say to him, he continues to not give a F. The hardest part is knowing that a majority of his issues are self inflicted by the way that he has chosen to live and not do what he should be and that he is still a zone where he could turn things around, but he isnt and he just continues to get worse.

My mom has also just about given up and has started to let things (in their life) slip and for someone who used to be so put together and always make sure things were taken care of, is just in F it mode now.

There's so much more, but that's all I'm going to say here. Its been a rough couple of years

Sorry to hear that man. That's a chitty situation. You holding up okay?