is it normal to feel closed off emotionally after heart break? another date last nigh

[blueberryboy]

* dated a girl all of 2022. , ended in bad heart break/ depression.
- last night had another date with a Korean girl
- she didn't drink so we got a little food and then went down to the pier for ice cream
- she looked pretty good

- after the date she messaged me first thank you blah blah . Exchanged a few messages & then I didn't reply. Maybe hit her up tomorrow or something

- after getting my heart broken for first time , it's like I care less . Im more emotionally closed off . If all the girls in my circle now were to fk off I'd just say " whatever" and move on in 2 days . The only girl that really still plays on my mind is the chinese girl I lived with for 3 years . It bugs me that she will not talk to me. Here & there ill message her ( not sure if she even gets my messages) a little life event such as " my sister had a kid last week " haven't heard a word from her since April & starting to fear I will never again

As far as the 2022 girl , still sucks we lost our way . But she was just a total sloot , never showed me much respect , it was only a matter of time before I lost her . She was ruthless & brutal . I'd still date her , but she left me.


Anyways gotta another meet tonight with chinese milf at 7 ( 2nd date) We were supposed to meet Monday night but she said she had an online meeting. Thought that was just bs but then she rescheduled after I just said " no problem "

She's not really the type I'd take too seriously but maybe I can atleast get a fwb out of her for some regular sex


Thoughts ?

[blueberryboy]

The thing about these sloots is I feel like I'm entering my prime at 29

- condo to myself
- decent car
- not all fked up with a bunch of kids and baby mothers like some men are at this age
- not bald & still fit

Not to be brag , but I feel like I got no business simping. If those sloots feel like there is that much of a better option ; go ahead & take it

[Xgamer791]

I want to bang this dude so bad. No homo.

[OffwhiteBrah]

[xbluexhawkx]

Yup

A girl earlier in the year broke my heart

Ever since then I have been unable to form any emotional bonds with a woman

I have become a man whore, cold and heartless and this train isn’t stopping

[blueberryboy]

Yup

A girl earlier in the year broke my heart

Ever since then I have been unable to form any emotional bonds with a woman

I have become a man whore, cold and heartless and this train isn’t stopping

I feel the same way. That 2022 girl made a complete fool out of me at the end . I got worked up and mad.
Now it's like I feel like I don't trust these girls and realize there's no point getting emotional involved until you are in a committed relationship

I've become a bit cold too , but then I'll check myself and remind myself to stick to my moral/ principle.

It's funny bc all the girls I ever dated seriously I got ditched at the end. When if it wasn't for being ditched , I'd still be supporting them today .

Could never had it in me to ignore texts from a girl I lived with for 3 years i have too much empathy

[EarlA]

Waka waka waka

[gmenfan40]

The last relationship I had ended, and for about two years I went on a sex rampage where I literally fukked anything that moved. I banged girls so ugly at times, but didn't care. It was just a hole to cum in. After about two years I was normal again and could connect. (Super Ded fkn Srs)

[Goat_187]

Its like going back to the gym after recovering from an injury. It aint going to feel the same so take it slow.

[blueberryboy]

The last relationship I had ended, and for about two years I went on a sex rampage where I literally fukked anything that moved. I banged girls so ugly at times, but didn't care. It was just a hole to cum in. After about two years I was normal again and could connect. (Super Ded fkn Srs)

It took me literally 5-6 months after the break up 2022 girl to feel half way normal again. I'm just getting there now

It was a traumatic ending , imagine a girl telling you " I miss you " etc to the next moment saying " I need to get rid of you " and blocked me . Then I texted and called a couple times from blocked # trying to make sense of it.

Then she called the police on me for continuing to message her after getting blocked .

Basically a warning to stop. So basically I was forced out , and I'd be risking a criminal record and my future If I were to even say hello

I remember the last time I seen her ( as a couple ) I took her to the grocery store and dropped off Without a damn clue that was the last time I'd see her

Chit fked me up for awhile ...

[Zelensky]

Not reading all that. Trauma dump elsewhere, faaggot (srs)

[blueberryboy]

Its like going back to the gym after recovering from an injury. It aint going to feel the same so take it slow.

Exactly bro , I feel like a lot of the times these dating apps are kinda toxic
Having decent luck off line and on other regular apps like ig /fb - I feel like those girls have better attention spans and you won't be competing with the 5 dates she has next week.


But yeah it was a bad injury and I'm just slowly trying to get back into forum so to speak thx bro

[zarathu5tra]

Thoughts ?

She ain't the one, pal. But keep toying around with her and other women if that makes u feel better about your 'broken' self. Just don't cry about women being 'this or that' when it's folks like you that damage them because of past traumas.

[HateLiberals]

It's over try men

[FoulSmell]

Try men

[blueberryboy]

She ain't the one, pal. But keep toying around with her and other women if that makes u feel better about your 'broken' self. Just don't cry about women being 'this or that' when it's folks like you that damage them because of past traumas.

Hear ya

I'm not toying around with anybody. If a legit girl came up to me and offered a serous relationship I'd probably take it

Just went thru some bad emotional things last few years , got dumped a few times

I refuse to fk over others tho ..2 wrongs don't make a right

Just confused why the girl I lived with for 3 years won't return my messages

That's what I noticed about these chinese girls . When relationship is done you are done . They don't give a fk ...sort of like how they always say chinese lifes are cheap and nobody gives a fk when someone dies in a work place accident or something

Actually went down the rabbit hole last night and watched some videos of work place gore etc and I noticed half of them came from China

[zarathu5tra]

That's what I noticed about these chinese girls . When relationship is done you are done . They don't give a fk

Nah that's just women, and it's not race specific. You probably failed to read the signs, among other things, that made her fed up. It shouldn't even be something you should blame yourself for. People nowadays just lose interest/thrill in each other at a higher rate. When a female is 'done' with you 'officially' she had be mentally distancing and preparing for a while up to that point of break-up before she pulled through with it. I can guarantee u that mate.

Females are agreeable/non-confrontational as in they don't face issues head on. That's why you always get the 'I'm fine' or childish behavior when there's obviously something going on or bothering her. Men and females are fundamentally wired differently.

[skinnyfat88]

Bro you need to go find things that motivate/validate/give you purpose outside of women.

There is a reason you're heartbroken over someone as flawed and toxic as your ex and it's because you don't value yourself.

[MikeLowrrrey]

Have you ever wondered that your problem is that your happiness is dependent on women? It sounds like your whole life revolves around women

[ezmac31]

Try men

This

[blueberryboy]

Bro you need to go find things that motivate/validate/give you purpose outside of women.

There is a reason you're heartbroken over someone as flawed and toxic as your ex and it's because you don't value yourself.

Thanks man , good point. I'm trying to put more energy into other interests / hobbies now
& develop some

Thing is I was never that good at making male friends. I had friends thru school but after college I basically went loner status apart from one of my hockey buddies , problem is he's sorta on rock bottom broke in his dad's basement and sort of sucks the life out of me

Currently working fully remote job = no work buddies

Looking for a new position

But you are right, I won't get into all the reasons she was flawed bc we'd be here all day but fact remains...

[blueberryboy]

Have you ever wondered that your problem is that your happiness is dependent on women? It sounds like your whole life revolves around women

Yup starting to realize that now. Can't be needy and need to focus on other important/ fun things In life

[blueberryboy]

Nah that's just women, and it's not race specific. You probably failed to read the signs, among other things, that made her fed up. It shouldn't even be something you should blame yourself for. People nowadays just lose interest/thrill in each other at a higher rate. When a female is 'done' with you 'officially' she had be mentally distancing and preparing for a while up to that point of break-up before she pulled through with it. I can guarantee u that mate.

Females are agreeable/non-confrontational as in they don't face issues head on. That's why you always get the 'I'm fine' or childish behavior when there's obviously something going on or bothering her. Men and females are fundamentally wired differently.

Reppdd

Very true . They don't show any empathy after the fact

I was only problem 24-25 when I met her. Now 29. Learned alot over the past years

If I could go back, would have stuck with her.

I try not to hold any ill will towards her even though she won't return my texts since April- she was one girl who didn't do the typical sloot chit. She was all in. Never really met a more kind person

[kengriffeyjr24]

Left out in your cliffs that 2022 girl called cops on you and got a restraining order because you would not leave her alone after breakup.

There are sooooo many fine Korean sloots boyo. Most look and act the same. Just find another. If you are in nyc I'll show you around (srs)

[koreannoodles77]

A sweet korean 20yo escort will open your heart again

Works for me

[MikeLowrrrey]

Yup starting to realize that now. Can't be needy and need to focus on other important/ fun things In life

You need to transform yourself into a high value male. Looksmaxx + Confidencemaxx + Nonchalantmaxx. . Never chase women, let them chase you. Throw out the bait and let them come.

[blueberryboy]

Left out in your cliffs that 2022 girl called cops on you and got a restraining order because you would not leave her alone after breakup.

There are sooooo many fine Korean sloots boyo. Most look and act the same. Just find another. If you are in nyc I'll show you around (srs)

Thx . I wanna come up to NYC again . Went about 10 years ago

And yup but to be fair no restraining order. Just got a quick call from a cop to knock it off and went NC . She tried to make a report , basically.

Yup learning that now. I'm talking to some better girls these days than here anyway. Korean girl from last night just msged me

[blueberryboy]

You need to transform yourself into a high value male. Looksmaxx + Confidencemaxx + Nonchalantmaxx. . Never chase women, let them chase you. Throw out the bait and let them come.

Exactly I've been playing It real cool lately..learned from mistakes.

Good advice

[WetCoaster]

You ever think the problem is you and not women?

[sowilson]

the less fawarks you give the more fawarks you get. So with this attractive Korean girl you went out with. Do you find anything interesting about her? If you do, go out again and explore that. Explore things things that aren't relationship related. Enjoy the interaction with another person. Just don't have expectations of something "more". If that happens it happens but if it doesn't then no worries.