Me: What's your schedule like for the rest of the month? Let's meet for coffee
Her: I can't meet up yet, I don't do meet ups just yet hahah
Me: why?
Her: I'm just not used to meeting up with people and just not ready for that. That's all.
Me: No worries
Her: [Irrelevant smiling dog gif]
Me:When you're ready, give me a text. Cos I don't wanna invest in something which isn't actually going anywhere. Just being honest.
Her; You know what, I have no idea when will I be ready.. Just to be fair and honest, I'm not really looking into relationships or anything ar the moment, I don't want to waste your time any further so I think it's better to stop this chatting thing but let me tell you, in a short period of time I enjoyed our conversation. Thank you for your time wish you all the best!
Me:
Sure, all the best.
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Is this normal nowadays? People just want to chat and not actually meet? You can't get get know someone online. I get for a woman it's a bigger deal to meet up with a guy you don't know but you need to take a risk.
Glad I nipped this in the bud. Gave her an option to text me when she is 'ready' whatever that means but she'd rather cut me off for being assertive. OK lol
Anything I did wrong here? Surely this was a better option than texting her for weeks on end with no meet up
Especially now that I've said to meet and she said no I'd be completely bending in to her frame which I don't want.
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08-25-2022, 02:42 AM #1
Asked bumble chick to get coffee- this is what she said
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08-25-2022, 05:40 AM #2
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probably just not used to the whole dating thing, or maybe she's had bad experiences so she is more guarded. i don't think it is that unreasonable to get a feel for the person via calls and text for a week or two before meeting up. some i think want a certain comfort level.
but I think it's good you nipped it in the bud. she has no idea what she wants. if she had some clear expectations and intentions I think it would be different. looks like she is just testing the waters or wants someone to talk to without the anxiety and pressure of meeting somebody and making a first impression. she could just be fuking around. who knows really.
at least she was honest about not wanting to waste your time though. better than leading you on a string for weeks then switches up on you suddenly. i don't think you did anything wrong, it's probably a waste of time if she can't communicate or doesn't know what she wants.positivity brah crew
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I know it's pretty common for people to wanna fukking text forever nowadays but I don't do that chit.
We lay the foundation and figure out we're interested in each other then that chit needs to rapidly switch to seeing each other in person. Body language matters too damn much to base your decisions and chit off texts and phone calls. Majority of chicks I can find reasons to next them in the first five minutes of meeting them.
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08-25-2022, 01:43 PM #6
I don't see the point in continually talking over text. You've seen each others pics so there is physical attraction and the convo is going well so there is mental attraction ..
You can only lose by prolonging a text convo cos she will find someone else who she will meet up with .. imo that's just an excuse
In any case she should have told me 'hey I like you and want to get to know you a but better before we meet is that OK?'
But I guess that's too much social skills to expect of women in 2022 idk
If she was interested there was no reason to end the convo over it .. me asking her to text me when she is ready was the prompt for her to say the above.
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08-27-2022, 06:42 AM #7
I've had this happen over multiple occasions, to where I ask them out and they start acting weird and stop replying. I have also been on dates with women on dating apps that apparently have never been on dates before. I have no idea what kind of guys they are talking to. I have had zero luck with dating apps, it's like all women are defected on there. I've had way more success with something turning into something real by meeting women in real life. (Ded fkn Srs)
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Yes this is normal. I don’t meet up with 99% of guys I chat with. Plenty of guys are willing to chat for months or years without meeting up srs.
I’ve chatted with a Notre Dame football player for years now without ever meeting up. We just talk and exchange nudes etc. He’s cool af to talk to. I’m going to keep him as a pen pal in case he makes the NFL because it will be cool to have an NFL pen pal.
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I never ask a woman to meet online, I always let her suggest it, and when they do, it works out 90+% of the time hen meeting in person. I've also gotten to know who I'll vibe with fairly quickly so I don't waste time either.
The truth is, you're still some creep online until she's sold on the idea that you're not, simple as that, so when you suggest meeting, her radar is still up.
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08-31-2022, 07:59 PM #28
there's some type of balance to it, but if she's ready for you and to date it'll be easy
my advice is learn spanish and start dating one of the hundreds of thousand illegals coming in every year. I do not even waste time with white women now when this women will treat you like a god compared to them
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