So I made a thread about this before when she had around 20k debt. We were together 2 and a half years. She always asked me to get married and I would tell her not until you get that debt under control.
Now she has ramped it up to 32k. I finally broke up with her. She is begging me to take her back and says she is gonna fix it and get a second job on the side(she is an accountant and makes 50k a year).
I am also planning to join the Airforce at the end of the year. So the only way I could take her with me is if we get married. Which I am afraid to do because of her debt.
As of right now we aren't together and I am staying at my parents until I leave for the Airforce. Should I stay single? Thanks!
Other reasons to stay/go:
She is definitely bi polar
She is Crazy
She is madly in love with me
Head game is weak sauce
Is very lazy
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07-29-2017, 04:37 AM #1
Leave girlfriend over credit card debt?
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07-29-2017, 04:40 AM #2
She'll probably never change at this point, the habits are too strong. You need to decide if you can live with it or not, and it sounds like a no to me. When married your finances are intertwined whether you have a joint account or not, you need some level of compatibility on a financial level
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07-29-2017, 04:41 AM #4
if you were with her and married her example and the house and car was on your name and not jointly owned, and her credit card debt was her credit card debt and you didnt have a joint account and she says hes going to fix it, whats the issue?
is it a situation where you feel as though you may end up being emotionally blackmailed to pay it off or help her out for her which means she doesnt learn the lesson>?
wouldnt being with her help in this since you could give her daily input =/take control of her finances?Formerly HandBrah, LipBrah & FootBrah
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07-29-2017, 04:50 AM #9
She sounds financially irresponsible as fuk so major props to you for ending the relationship before she even had the chance to become a financial burden on you too (let's be real here - if you both actually got married, she'd EXPECT you to also help pay off her debt too).
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07-29-2017, 04:54 AM #15
Didn't read but of course I could leave a chick over **** like debt.
I'm not even so much worried about the debt as I am the bad habits that led to that point.The billionaire and the beggar both have 24 hours in a day.
That's why grandma's apple pie rocks and yours sucks.
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07-29-2017, 04:59 AM #20The billionaire and the beggar both have 24 hours in a day.
That's why grandma's apple pie rocks and yours sucks.
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07-29-2017, 05:01 AM #21
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07-29-2017, 05:01 AM #22
bruh....
how did she put the debt on? A series of bad events? i.e. trip to emergency room, HVAC unit broke = 10k right there
or because she has bad habits and can't stop shopping?
if its the habits, then she is not going to change. I am not sure if you are aware of this, but a classic symptom of bipolar disorder is spending money without regard to consequences. I had an old boss with that problem. Ran his company into the ground.Stern Crew
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07-29-2017, 05:04 AM #23
She would just buy everything she wants as far as clothes and what not. She likes to run marathons and would book flights and hotels and do trips several times a year. She was planning to do this Disney trip/cruise/run at the end of this year which would cost her 3k+ and if I went 2k+
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07-29-2017, 05:06 AM #24
The is one simple question. Do you deserve a woman who has her finances in order? Not every guy offers a package where they can pick and choose like that, but if you do don't even consider her.
First girl I lived with couldn't get her spending under control. Left her, found new woman and now living the life in pretty good financial shape, living mortgage free.
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An accountant making $50k at 33
An accountant $32k in credit card debt aka the worst way to borrow money ever
How much student loan debt etc. does she have on top?
Run for the f'ing hills matey. Some people get into debt because they are just thick but an accountant? She needs professional help srs.If you can't handle me when I'm incel, you don't deserve me when I'm chad
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07-29-2017, 05:07 AM #26
Even if $32K is too much to have in debt, where are the priorities?
OP just mentioned some like $10K worth of stuff she has that's basically useless.
Or in other words she has $10K of materialistic possessions laying around that could have easily went to pay down her debt.
The debt isn't even the problem, it's the bad habits that are perpetuating those problems.The billionaire and the beggar both have 24 hours in a day.
That's why grandma's apple pie rocks and yours sucks.
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07-29-2017, 05:07 AM #29
I can't stress this enough....
****ING RUN.
There is absolutely NO reason, apart from either student debt, a mortgage, or a business loan, that a person should be 32k in debt while making $50k/year in, what I assume to be, her mid-20's.
At this point it's an addiction to her, she doesn't care about the debt, all she cares about is the instant gratification from shopping.
Would you marry a gambling addict?
What about a hardcore drug addict?
Obviously you ****ing wouldn't because you'd be too afraid of them selling all the chit in your god damn house behind your back.
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