The Nutmisc Game Thread: We Don't Even Lift, and We Don't Get Laid

[unstrong]

Maybe my goals differ, but I'm not fixated on getting a slam dunk every date, if you catch my drift.

Of course. That doesn't contradict my advice that you should approach dates with your goals in mind. But those can also be long term goals. You can escalate with a girl and stop short of going to yours or hers. She's much more likely to hold thoughts of attraction toward you forward than just chatting with you all night about nothing. Being witty and charming in a sexual way is such a small step from being witty and charming in a platonic way that it doesn't make sense not to do it unless you are friendzoning the girl. That's a lot of the reason why you'll get friendzoned back in that situation--the girl will be confused why you're not going that 1% extra to be flirtatious and assume that you can, you're just not interested.

After I move out of Albany I'm gonna write a megapost on 6 months of casual dating up here. As much as I lament short term frustrations from time to time, these last 4+ months have probably taught me more about people, myself, and general dating than any other time in my life... even college.

I will, however, admit that at times I have been a little bit of a slut in the name of learning. Pushing the envelope to see how powerful some of these forces are. Yet, even so, no one has left heartbroken or hating me, at least to my knowledge. You can go a lot farther than you think. That's all I'll say. Feel free to judge me for that. I'm comfortable with my moral boundaries.

[unstrong]

You're a lawyer, it's not like you had morals to begin with. Neither do I, but that's beside the point. LOL I'm not sure how a guy can be a slut. Sex crazed, horn dog, yeah. Slut has a weird connotation to it. Unless you have some weird funky kinks like strapons.

I like the D Man's definition of slut. Jives well.

[DAaaMan64]

I swear I am being trolled by beautiful gym girl. She is often working out right next to me. Like I'm in the squat rack and she's 3 feet away. There are 4 other stations she could be at.... Haha we cross paths all to often.

Evilllllllll!!

[unstrong]

I swear I am being trolled by beautiful gym girl. She is often working out right next to me. Like I'm in the squat rack and she's 3 feet away. There are 4 other stations she could be at.... Haha we cross paths all to often.

Evilllllllll!!

Have you talked to her before?

[cls91]

Have you talked to her before?

"I'll be honest, I've seen you checking me out while I squat. You're jealous of dat ass aren't you?"


Say it Da, and report back.

[DAaaMan64]

Have you talked to her before?

Yeah. This is the girl i cold approached said some cringy **** like "Hey sorry to bother you, won't do it again, but you're really beautiful." she said thanks, we introduced ourselves etc etc. Next workout I asked for her number and she just told me she doesn't give her number out. I just took that as a nice turn down.

I get the feels she peaks at what I'm doing but we don't really make eye contact anymore. Even if I try. Probably just over thinking this cause oneitis or some crap

"I'll be honest, I've seen you checking me out while I squat. You're jealous of dat ass aren't you?"


Say it Da, and report back.

Lolololol now really wanna make a glutes for the sloots shirt.

I don't think I can use that kinda attitude on her yet.

[DAaaMan64]

Maybe. I'd just forget it for now. Your mind may be over analyzing the situation at hand. Don't give yourself false hope, Hans. On the other hand, she may be one of those chicks who enjoy playing hard to get and are loaded with weird kinks. Like this example. I'll let you figure it out on your own. Only happens a few days a month. Turtle chosen for that "certain" quality... lol!

lol I'm not sure if I should say that turtle is cute or not....

Yeah pretty much the bold. Just be over-excited for no reason. The dating scene is dry right now. Sis sayz just drop a "hey, how's it going?" and gauge reaction if it keeps happening.

It's stupid, gotta remind myself that looks ain't errythang.

[cls91]

lol I'm not sure if I should say that turtle is cute or not....

Yeah pretty much the bold. Just be over-excited for no reason. The dating scene is dry right now. Sis sayz just drop a "hey, how's it going?" and gauge reaction if it keeps happening.

It's stupid, gotta remind myself that looks ain't errythang.

IMO I wouldn't do that. No offense, but if you give her a cringy 'hey you're beautiful', then ask for a # and don't get it, you're probably negative points in her books, and you're now in the position that you need to win her over, not offer another boring generic line like "hey how's it going".

Yeah. This is the girl i cold approached said some cringy **** like "Hey sorry to bother you, won't do it again, but you're really beautiful." she said thanks, we introduced ourselves etc etc. Next workout I asked for her number and she just told me she doesn't give her number out. I just took that as a nice turn down.

[DAaaMan64]

Thanks for your input, very appreciated! After my fail, I just left the ball in her court and if she's playing at all, this is it. Seems like I should just let it go a little bit an wait for something weird to happen. Not sure wtf else I would say to her.

[cls91]

Thanks for your input, very appreciated! After my fail, I just left the ball in her court and if she's playing at all, this is it. Seems like I should just let it go a little bit an wait for something weird to happen. Not sure wtf else I would say to her.

Well the girl is always less likely to make the move... especially in a gym... especially after she's turned you down once...

Can't leave the ball in her court if it's something you would actually like to pursue

What you say to her largely depends on how she views you... if she thinks you're this creepy awkward guy, then the line I posted above (post #848) clearly wouldn't work... but if she thinks your just a nice funny guy, then it very well could be a decent opener

[DAaaMan64]

Well the girl is always less likely to make the move... especially in a gym... especially after she's turned you down once...

Can't leave the ball in her court if it's something you would actually like to pursue

What you say to her largely depends on how she views you... if she thinks you're this creepy awkward guy, then the line I posted above (post #848) clearly wouldn't work... but if she thinks your just a nice funny guy, then it very well could be a decent opener

I would definitely like to pursue it, at least get a date so I can find out if her personality is worth a damn.

I have no idea what kind of person she thinks I am. I prance around the gym in a good mood doing whatever I want most of the time. So she could think I'm weirdo for all I know.

*shrug* not sure what to do. I can't deliver your line as written, but I can get pretty close. We both have headphones on most of the time anyway.

[cls91]

I would definitely like to pursue it, at least get a date so I can find out if her personality is worth a damn.

I have no idea what kind of person she thinks I am. I prance around the gym in a good mood doing whatever I want most of the time. So she could think I'm weirdo for all I know.

*shrug* not sure what to do. I can't deliver your line as written, but I can get pretty close. We both have headphones on most of the time anyway.

If you can't read the situation, then I would just take the chance and don't use any 'safe' lines like "hey hows it going". Maybe change up the other line to be something like (wait until you catch her staring) "I know my ass is like a 10 out of 10, but you don't need to stare. (I know you're probably)(You're obviously) a little bit jealous... let me take you for a drink and I'll tell you my secret". If she doesn't find humor in that, then fuk her lol

Anyways I'm off for the night, but good luck and report back if/when something happens

[DAaaMan64]

If you can't read the situation, then I would just take the chance and don't use any 'safe' lines like "hey hows it going". Maybe change up the other line to be something like (wait until you catch her staring) "I know my ass is like a 10 out of 10, but you don't need to stare. (I know you're probably)(You're obviously) a little bit jealous... let me take you for a drink and I'll tell you my secret". If she doesn't find humor in that, then fuk her lol

Anyways I'm off for the night, but good luck and report back if/when something happens

Will do. I'm good at being a cheeky kent

Dunno. I'm not sure I'm fit to judge.

I know who is



not even sure who da fuq dime bounce is

[DAaaMan64]

Had a pretty lulzy convo with a girl. But IDK what say next. I could take more easy cheap shots. But meh, why even bother talking with a girl 350miles away unless it's gonna be interesting.

The images are selfies with us holding a paper with our usernames written on them.

[DAaaMan64]

Oh my god. You've found the female you, and I'm not talking about your twin sister.

You think my sis looks that much like me huh? Sweet, she's pretty. I'll take that as a compliment.


I'm still talking to this girl. ooops


How's everyone else doing?

[gymjunki3]

Yeah. This is the girl i cold approached said some cringy **** like "Hey sorry to bother you, won't do it again, but you're really beautiful." she said thanks, we introduced ourselves etc etc. Next workout I asked for her number and she just told me she doesn't give her number out. I just took that as a nice turn down.

I get the feels she peaks at what I'm doing but we don't really make eye contact anymore. Even if I try. Probably just over thinking this cause oneitis or some crap


Lolololol now really wanna make a glutes for the sloots shirt.

I don't think I can use that kinda attitude on her yet.

why didnt you give your number to her? and asked her to call you on captain private.

[DAaaMan64]

why didnt you give your number to her? and asked her to call you on captain private.

haha wut is captain private

anyway, yeah I should of done that. But I was literately interrupting her workout on a bike.


She had the cutest fkn smile on when I approached her though. She was clearly nervous too. wooh, that moment was butterflies.



full ****ing homo.

[DAaaMan64]

I've never seen your sister. I'm sure you guys are nothing alike. I was commenting on the funniness that you found the female version of you. So does this girl enjoy running her fingers through your mohawk?

You missed it mane, this girl is long distance. Hence why I'm dumb for still talking to her.

She is in la Mirada, California. I'll just send you or Erik there. :P


I'm very unimpressed by your detective work SOJA. So here is a super attractive pic of my sis and I.

[unstrong]

"Let's get the important questions out of the way: blue and black, or white and gold?" and "You know, you can tell a lot about someone by their [app name] profile pictures" have been some money online dating openers. The second one works best on Tinder because they can't accuse you of cheating using the more detailed other profile info. The basically forced follow up is something like "oh yeah, what can you tell about me?" followed by me doing some horoscope-esque writing that takes a very specific pattern or characteristic and uses it to infer a very general personality trait. I'm about 10/10 on a "that's amazing" or "I'm impressed, that's me except for this one thing" kind of reaction to it, and I don't think it's any specific skills that I have that are getting results--anyone can do it. I can post examples, but definitely worth a shot.

[DAaaMan64]

"Let's get the important questions out of the way: blue and black, or white and gold?" and "You know, you can tell a lot about someone by their [app name] profile pictures" have been some money online dating openers. The second one works best on Tinder because they can't accuse you of cheating using the more detailed other profile info. The basically forced follow up is something like "oh yeah, what can you tell about me?" followed by me doing some horoscope-esque writing that takes a very specific pattern or characteristic and uses it to infer a very general personality trait. I'm about 10/10 on a "that's amazing" or "I'm impressed, that's me except for this one thing" kind of reaction to it, and I don't think it's any specific skills that I have that are getting results--anyone can do it. I can post examples, but definitely worth a shot.

ahahaha that is such a good idea. It reminds me of cold reading.

Have you gone on any dates recently?

[unstrong]

ahahaha that is such a good idea. It reminds me of cold reading.

Have you gone on any dates recently?

I've gone on a bunch, but since I'm in the process of moving between cities I've been up front about the fact that I'm not sticking around. That's been a disqualification for surprisingly few girls.

[Domicron]

I've gone on a bunch, but since I'm in the process of moving between cities I've been up front about the fact that I'm not sticking around. That's been a disqualification for surprisingly few girls.

what's up dude, other than smashing women, what've you been up to?

[unstrong]

what's up dude, other than smashing women, what've you been up to?

What's going on bud? Moving from Albany to NYC and getting ready to start a new job. Basically all the same stuff I used to do, save lifting.

[Domicron]

nice, i'll be sure to hit you up next time i'm up in NYC...

you miss lifting? or is it nice to feel your body recovering?

[unstrong]

nice, i'll be sure to hit you up next time i'm up in NYC...

you miss lifting? or is it nice to feel your body recovering?

Both. I am definitely glad that I'm feeling better than I have in quite a long time, but I also want to get back in the gym and throw around some heavy weight.

[Domicron]

Both. I am definitely glad that I'm feeling better than I have in quite a long time, but I also want to get back in the gym and throw around some heavy weight.

Well between moving cities, new job, and smashing women, at least you're keeping busy.

Maybe by the time you're settled in to new city/job you'll find a second opinion and figure out a way to beat what ails you. And then get back into the gym.

[unstrong]

Well between moving cities, new job, and smashing women, at least you're keeping busy.

Maybe by the time you're settled in to new city/job you'll find a second opinion and figure out a way to beat what ails you. And then get back into the gym.

According to the rheumatologist it just needs time. I tried doing some pushups and pullups over the weekend to see if something less aggressive like an Upper/Lower or a PPL would make it manageable and I just felt like garbage the next day. It sucks because while I'm not lifting my body is jettisoning muscle pretty quick, I look and feel significantly smaller already. I'm down to 228 despite not changing my diet by a significant amount; my body just doesn't want to hold onto this muscle right now.

[DAaaMan64]

According to the rheumatologist it just needs time. I tried doing some pushups and pullups over the weekend to see if something less aggressive like an Upper/Lower or a PPL would make it manageable and I just felt like garbage the next day. It sucks because while I'm not lifting my body is jettisoning muscle pretty quick, I look and feel significantly smaller already. I'm down to 228 despite not changing my diet by a significant amount; my body just doesn't want to hold onto this muscle right now.

Monkay was mentioning to me that maybe you could just do a higher volume lower intensity type of training. More similar to (and I'm sorry I can't think up a better example) crossfit. That the intensity of PL is just going to be too hard on you. It seems you've already started to test that out though, but at least this is another person coming to the same conclusion as you.