ALCOHOLICS: RECOVERY & FITNESS (Serious Only Please)

**Knight1989** · 07-10-2011, 08:28 PM

Deffintly glad for all the advice and I feel a lot better knowing that its not completly lost. I did stand up and give her the ultimatum that it was me or the alcohol and that i wasnt willing to put up with this anymore. Shes agreed to stay in rehab again for a while to get more help and has admited that she cant be alone for right now untill she rebuilds her social network with friends that dont drink. She was doing the right thing and cut off all of her alcoholic friends that were no good for her, unfortainitly that left her with no friends at all and with me gone she just felt to alone and I think that led to her relapse combined with a friend being murdered. Talking to her this morning she said after she gets out shes going to stay at her parents untill i get home to allow her time to build a new social group and get a good sponser. She knows what she needs to do, lord knows she stuborn enough to do it, its just a matter of sheing if shell follow through.

**boathead** · 07-11-2011, 11:22 AM

it's all good, brother, until it is not good.

i hope she does follow thru. when i put the drink down, i simply immersed myself into AA.....5 or 6 meetings a day. this went on for 3 years. AA became my social life. to this day, i haven't even spoken to my old drinking buddies. funny....such good friends, not one called to ask where i've been.

i guess my point is.....getting sober is job 1.

**vindex1963** · 07-11-2011, 08:56 PM

Originally Posted by boathead

i guess my point is.....getting sober is job 1.

....and NOTHING else matters until you do. Nothing!! Getting sober has to become your #1 priority.

Because while you're using nothing matters anyway.

**muttytwist** · 07-12-2011, 11:53 AM

Originally Posted by boathead

it's all good, brother, until it is not good.

i hope she does follow thru. when i put the drink down, i simply immersed myself into AA.....5 or 6 meetings a day. this went on for 3 years. AA became my social life. to this day, i haven't even spoken to my old drinking buddies. funny....such good friends, not one called to ask where i've been.

i guess my point is.....getting sober is job 1.

Great point

**BigDaddy33** · 07-12-2011, 09:52 PM

Originally Posted by vindex1963

....and NOTHING else matters until you do. Nothing!! Getting sober has to become your #1 priority.

Because while you're using nothing matters anyway.

It is the most important thing, because without it I would have nothing or no one else in my life!!!

**cowboybiker** · 07-13-2011, 07:24 AM

Just thought I would leave this here,

"As long as the ties that bind us together are stronger than those that would tear us apart, all will be well."

I feel a strong bond with so many of you.

thanks

**Twineagles** · 07-13-2011, 08:42 AM

Likewise cowboy. My home group is undergoing a lot of changes right now. I've had two sponsors go out and two more disappear. Right now, this thread is my sobriety lifeline. No matter what I never want to go back to the solitary loneliness of using.

**cavermeulen** · 07-13-2011, 08:47 AM

Man...great thread. I have read so much positive, and supportive stuff in here. I am in my 4th year of sobriety and life has been nothing but positive since I put the bottle down.

Just wanted to say hi and excellent job to all of you that have remained sober and to those of you that are trying like hell to beat it!

**cowboybiker** · 07-13-2011, 08:51 AM

Originally Posted by Twineagles

Likewise cowboy. My home group is undergoing a lot of changes right now. I've had two sponsors go out and two more disappear. Right now, this thread is my sobriety lifeline. No matter what I never want to go back to the solitary loneliness of using.

My first 3 sponsors went out, Hope it wasnt something I said, lol.
Im on my 4th sponsor now and his sponsor is in the Basic text.
So if he goes out Im moving up.
Cunning , Baffling and Powerful.

**cowboybiker** · 07-13-2011, 08:54 AM

Originally Posted by cavermeulen

Man...great thread. I have read so much positive, and supportive stuff in here. I am in my 4th year of sobriety and life has been nothing but positive since I put the bottle down.

Just wanted to say hi and excellent job to all of you that have remained sober and to those of you that are trying like hell to beat it!

Welcome

Its good to see you post.
many people read but dont post.
Hopefully more will and help keep me sober.
Thanks

**vindex1963** · 07-13-2011, 04:16 PM

Originally Posted by cowboybiker

Just thought I would leave this here,

"As long as the ties that bind us together are stronger than those that would tear us apart, all will be well."

I feel a strong bond with so many of you.

thanks

Right back at ya buddy!!!

**BigDaddy33** · 07-13-2011, 09:41 PM

Originally Posted by cowboybiker

Just thought I would leave this here,

"As long as the ties that bind us together are stronger than those that would tear us apart, all will be well."

I feel a strong bond with so many of you.

thanks

Thank You as well!!!

**righter** · 07-14-2011, 04:22 AM

Good morning, sober peeps!

Think I'm gonna change home groups too. Mine has become a bit riddled with AA politics, and I just feel it's time to move on. It's like I dread going there, but somehow feel obligated because it's my home group and that's where I got sober. I am very appreciative for all of the help and support I have gotten there. I'm thinking a strong women's group would do me some good right now. Will be checking out a few in the next month or so.

**boathead** · 07-14-2011, 04:36 AM

Originally Posted by righter

Think I'm gonna change home groups too.

sigh....

after 3 years, i had to change my home group (i had finally found a job!) i have a new home group, but it's not the same. i wish i could re-capture the magic of those initial days of sobriety.

**BigDaddy33** · 07-14-2011, 07:47 AM

Originally Posted by righter

Good morning, sober peeps!

Think I'm gonna change home groups too. Mine has become a bit riddled with AA politics, and I just feel it's time to move on. It's like I dread going there, but somehow feel obligated because it's my home group and that's where I got sober. I am very appreciative for all of the help and support I have gotten there. I'm thinking a strong women's group would do me some good right now. Will be checking out a few in the next month or so.

Sometimes you have to move on. If you "dread going there", its probably a good move. You could always pop back in as a visitor every now and then. Im sure you'll find a great home!!!

**cowboybiker** · 07-14-2011, 08:18 AM

I miss the early times. Get a chip every 30 days. now I gotta wait a whole year to get recognised

Dont they know who I think I am.

Our leaders are but trusted servants, they do not govern. That tells me they aint running chit. I have and always will voice my opinion if if it gets out of principle.
My home group turned into a meetmarket. maybe it always was and the clarity finally kicked in. I have a commitment at a local Rehab every Fri. but all my other meetings are scattered. where I live there are no lack of meetings. I've got 3 club house's and numerous rehabs. 1 Nomad meeting and can still find old school at someones home kinda meetings.

**righter** · 07-14-2011, 08:58 AM

Originally Posted by BigDaddy33

Sometimes you have to move on. If you "dread going there", its probably a good move. You could always pop back in as a visitor every now and then. Im sure you'll find a great home!!!

Yeah, a little time away can be a good thing! I was the secretary for this group for 2 years, attended every group conscious, and it just started to get ugly. Lots of cliquish organizing, if ya know what I mean. I completed my term, because I made that commitment and wanted to do the right thing, but now that I have no ties, I'm going to spread my wings a little!

Originally Posted by cowboybiker

My home group turned into a meetmarket. maybe it always was and the clarity finally kicked in.

lol, yeah, that's another reason I'd like to find a strong women's group. Tired of the meat-marketing and newbies disguising a "sober hug" when they are really just trying to cop a feel.

**cowboybiker** · 07-14-2011, 09:01 AM

Originally Posted by righter

lol, yeah, that's another reason I'd like to find a strong women's group. Tired of the meat-marketing and newbies disguising a "sober hug" when they are really just trying to cop a feel.

lol. 13th step

**billtrudell** · 07-14-2011, 09:56 AM

I am a member of AA. Checkout my profile and also my story here under Over 40 Transformation of the Week. I am grateful to have experienced the miracle of sobriety. Exercise and bodybuilding has helped me immensely.

Bill

**Twineagles** · 07-14-2011, 10:02 AM

Originally Posted by billtrudell

I am a member of AA. Checkout my profile and also my story here under Over 40 Transformation of the Week. I am grateful to have experienced the miracle of sobriety. Exercise and bodybuilding has helped me immensely.

Bill

Great story guy

**Twineagles** · 07-14-2011, 10:03 AM

Groups are just like a lot of any other volunteer community groups. I've done a lot of community volunteer work (historical preservation, etc) so when my group tried to get me to take a service position, my answer was "no thanks, I've spent my time in volunteer hell". LOL However, I did take literature chair which involves no interaction with anyone. LOL

**johnkelly1959** · 07-14-2011, 01:58 PM

Yes Sir.I like yourself am also in recovery.I 52,and may of developed my addictions as a result of my competitive nature in the sport of bodybuilding.as a young man i was #rd in the junior mr. canada in the heavyweight-division.in 1978.myself and my training buddies would train by day and womanize by nite. those were the days.Ha,ha,.I guess if you can stick a 3c.c.syringe in your medial detoid,a few drinks and a line or two has no big warning sign on it..unfortunatele, addiction is a process,by the time you get noticed,its well in the cronic stage.good Question I personnally know a lot of ex-bodybuilders who are active,and also some in recovery. all the best john in toronto.

**vindex1963** · 07-14-2011, 04:23 PM

Originally Posted by righter

lol, yeah, that's another reason I'd like to find a strong women's group. Tired of the meat-marketing and newbies disguising a "sober hug" when they are really just trying to cop a feel.

There are f'ers like that in every group. Sorry we're not all like that!!!
That kind of behavior in an AA setting pisses me off to no end. I like stepping up to those people telling them to back off.....eye to eye or nose to nose if necessary.

Pet peeve of mine. Show respect or get out.

rant over.....

**righter** · 07-14-2011, 05:07 PM

Originally Posted by vindex1963

There are f'ers like that in every group. Sorry we're not all like that!!!
That kind of behavior in an AA setting pisses me off to no end. I like stepping up to those people telling them to back off.....eye to eye or nose to nose if necessary.

Pet peeve of mine. Show respect or get out.

rant over.....

I know--not everyone is like that! I have a few close guy friends in the program; they are like the brothers I never had, but always wanted.

I said "newbies" but that's not really fair, either. It's on an individual basis, really, although it does happen more often with newbies because they're still kinda finding their way, to put it nicely, lol!

**GreenWave1** · 07-14-2011, 06:22 PM

Hi all. Glad to see that everyone is doing well. I just returned from a week away and was reflecting on how the trip would not have happened if I was not clean. My life is so different, so much better, now.

**Meatpants** · 07-15-2011, 05:55 AM

Originally Posted by GreenWave1

Hi all. Glad to see that everyone is doing well. I just returned from a week away and was reflecting on how the trip would not have happened if I was not clean. My life is so different, so much better, now.

So true. I have done this on many occassions. Its amazing how much we missed out. Whats more amazing, is how much we will not miss out on.

Have a great weekend everyone.

**skarotum** · 07-15-2011, 06:17 AM

Checking in with the fellow sober folks. On day 33. Going strong. Some days are blah, some not. But very few temptations to go back to who I was for so many years.

Question though. Did ya'll catch colds easy when you first quit? I've had two since I quit. Am I maybe taxing my immune system too much by jumping straight back into training while my liver and kidneys etc. are trying to recover?

**Twineagles** · 07-15-2011, 06:28 AM

Hey guys, we're missing Forge and Mutt. I havent' seen them post in several days. Anyone here touch base with them? I know they were struggling in their early days of sobriety.

**Meatpants** · 07-15-2011, 06:28 AM

Originally Posted by skarotum

Checking in with the fellow sober folks. On day 33. Going strong. Some days are blah, some not. But very few temptations to go back to who I was for so many years.

Question though. Did ya'll catch colds easy when you first quit? I've had two since I quit. Am I maybe taxing my immune system too much by jumping straight back into training while my liver and kidneys etc. are trying to recover?

Congrats on a fine start.

As far as the colds, I don't remember a weakend immune system after getting clean. I remember beig sick often while I was drinking though. Lack of food, sleep, and large amount of drinking, really didn't help th immune system.

Stay strong.

**cowboybiker** · 07-15-2011, 06:31 AM

Originally Posted by Twineagles

Hey guys, we're missing Forge and Mutt. I havent' seen them post in several days. Anyone here touch base with them? I know they were struggling in their early days of sobriety.

Forge has been posting alot. Just not in here. Havnt heard from Mutt. I think he's still at the Halfway house.

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