Gf jokes about ex flirting with her via text (says he was dreaming about her and she left her jacket and it was warm). This isn't the first time she let's dudes esp exes continue to flirt with her
I get mad and tell her I don't tolerate that sht and to tell them not to pull that.
She gets mad and says she doesn't flirt back I'm being jealous etc and they're being friendly and she doesn't want to seem like a bitch. Wtf misc. I'm thinking I should've just played it off like "hah what a loser. too bad for him imma feel your warmth at night baby"
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10-15-2018, 02:46 PM #1
How should I have handled this better misc (srs)
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10-15-2018, 02:47 PM #2
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10-15-2018, 02:50 PM #5
that's what I told her. she says I'm overreacting lmao. I don't want to end it bc she only does this every now and then, I think it's a test lol. usually what he have is great. she wrote "bitches love me" when she sent that as tho I'd laugh at it wtf. raged at her so hard.
Hey Rabbit, long time no see! hah yeah I did, been 3 months now. not too bad other than this shtWe're all gonna make it crew
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10-15-2018, 02:50 PM #6
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I'd tell her to stop because it's childish and disrespectful to you that she continue letting these ex's contact her and then tell you what they're saying in an attempt to make you jealous or get a rise out of you. If she thinks that behavior is ok then it's time for her to go because she will only get worse.
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10-15-2018, 02:52 PM #8
said that word for word and she just didn't get it. kept saying she didn't agree and that I get jealous of her male friends. I'm like bish only when they flirt with you. I feel there was just a better way to handle this. prob what I wrote in the OP, to play it off and be cocky and make him sound like a pu$$y.
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just decide on what you ACTUALLY want and then make it happen. thats it. ignore the rest and put in the work and one day you'll find your happy - vampirelol
You win or you learn
B: 275 D: 415 S: 315 = 1005 (11/2015)
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10-15-2018, 02:54 PM #10
I don't think you did too bad. But if you wanted to be nicer about it you could just say you don't think it is appropriate for her to be in contact with exes or flirting with dudes in general while you are together, and that she needs to block his ass.
If she declines then you have to decide where to go from there really
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10-15-2018, 02:58 PM #16
fuk you're so right. dammit. I should mention it's long distance right now bc I had to go finish school so it's harder. usually in person I just shut her down anytime she says anything stupid just with my presence or my confidence or whatever. much harder over the fukking phone
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just decide on what you ACTUALLY want and then make it happen. thats it. ignore the rest and put in the work and one day you'll find your happy - vampirelol
You win or you learn
B: 275 D: 415 S: 315 = 1005 (11/2015)
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10-15-2018, 02:59 PM #17
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10-15-2018, 03:00 PM #19
its just childish ****. She’s trying to make you jealous. I doubt she likes her exes or else she wouldn’t be telling you about the texts. Figure out what you want to tolerate in a relationship and stand firm, you don’t have to put up with ****.
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10-15-2018, 03:01 PM #20
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10-15-2018, 03:06 PM #24
honestly op i've been there before and the best advice i can give is this:
it's probably nothing. she might be trying to make you jealous because she feels like you guys havent connected in a while. brush it off this time and be sweet to her. maybe try to get some sexy time in as she's holding her phone and responding to her ex. if she does it again, calmly tell her that it sorta bothers you and makes you a little jealous and that you wish she wouldn't and that you wish she'd just shut it down with here ex and not respond or to be more forceful in her response. if she keeps doing it after you've told her that, it might be a problem.
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10-15-2018, 03:08 PM #25
you're right. thx. I'm still figuring out what to do next.
Thank you Kim, that means a lot.
that's a good point. Thanks Michelle. Good to see you again btw
you're def right, I'll do some damage control and handle it more calmly next timeWe're all gonna make it crew
just decide on what you ACTUALLY want and then make it happen. thats it. ignore the rest and put in the work and one day you'll find your happy - vampirelol
You win or you learn
B: 275 D: 415 S: 315 = 1005 (11/2015)
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10-15-2018, 04:11 PM #26
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10-15-2018, 04:49 PM #29
Tell her "I know we've talked about this before, and you didn't see where I was coming from. How would you feel if I told you chicks were flirting with me? The issue is I told you I'm not comfortable with it, and you didn't respect that. I'm not a jealous guy - talking about your ex flirting with you is just disrespectful, let alone allowing it in the first place. Honestly, if you don't want to understand where I'm coming from, I think this kinda thing is going to be a big problem, which is really disappointing considering how great everything else has been with us"
Remember man, you gotta set the rules. It's always easier to just let things slide and say fuk it, can't be fukt arguing about it, no big deal, but these things escalate. Doesn't matter if she's hot and you have good sex and have fun together, if she doesn't respect you and try to understand you, you're not going to be happy with her.fukn Brozart
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10-15-2018, 05:00 PM #30
Hey brozart long time no see brah! dude honestly I really appreciate the advice. However I said all that. and she insisted I just didn't trust her and that I was being jealous. I even said the "how would you feel if chicks were flirting with me" thing and she's like "id laugh it off". which is total BS. so she's in complete defensive mode.
So yeah I'm not sure. Just going to see if she repeats this in the future, bc it's starting to get out of hand.We're all gonna make it crew
just decide on what you ACTUALLY want and then make it happen. thats it. ignore the rest and put in the work and one day you'll find your happy - vampirelol
You win or you learn
B: 275 D: 415 S: 315 = 1005 (11/2015)
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