Official T-Misc Girl Help Thread

[Yoitsparker]

For you guys on tmisc that have made transformations have you ever got back with an ex, was it sucessful? Or did you just tell them to fuark off and lolz!
(Btw she's a sexy bish/10)

This is just my opinion, and by no means am I saying that you shouldn't give someone a second chance, but relationships end for a reason. I've seen some of my friends go crawling back to their exs, and it only ends with them ending their relationship a month or two later, mainly due to the fact of their former "issues." That's just my opinion though. I however, have my own issue. For the most part, I don't have trouble talking to girls, but I've seen this one girl come into work a few times, and she is absolutely beautiful. I'll make conversation, but I always seem to "shrivel up" as it were. I wouldn't say I'm nervous, but my voice just transforms into something entirely different, and I seem to fumble my words. Some of my friends know her, and apparently she is single. I'd like to ask her out, but when I see her I immediately lose my train of thought. Any helpful advice on the matter?

[ambitionzZ]

brahs, my ex gf ruined me /no homo.

Not going to get into details but she broke me pretty bad. got wasted and weeped every weekend for 2 months after breakup. blah blah blah fast forward to today

I was complete alpha when i acquired said evil girl. she turned me into the purest beta male and now i can't seem to go back. my game has become extinct and i just feel lost and confused. i can't seem to keep a convo going anymore even w the ugliest chicks its crazy. every txt msg i receive from a female i interpret and ask "how can spit some g" but it never works.

i don't really have a question but how can i go back to being alpha ??

[loganbull]

I'm a freshman in college at a fairly large university. I started dating a girl in early october 2013 and everything was amazing and we were going really strong. We left for Christmas break on great terms and looking forward to seeing each other in January (she lives eight hours away). Mid way through the break she started acting really distant and not responding when I said "I love you" or anything like that. When I asked her about it, she said that she had family stuff she was dealing with. (Her parents are both well off but had a messy divorce) Fast forward to January when we get back from break I knew that it was probably coming but she broke up with me. It wasn't at all messy and she told me that Christmas break had just really confused her and she needed to figure out what she wanted to do with life and reevaluate her life overall (she's thinking about completely changing her major). She said that she "loves me" but is not "in love with me anymore". We separated on good terms but I haven't talked to her since (its been a little under a week). I don't have a problem moving on because there are a lot of other really attractive girls at my school but I would really like to get back together with her because we got along really well. I have heard the NC rule being 1 month but that seems really long especially considering the length of the semester. I don't want to seem beta but should I contact her even to just talk? We were friends before we started dating.

[Jeremy544]

Yesterday this girl was acting weird next to me but I've known her for a while so my friend said she's in love with you. I then decided to ask her "do you like me"
and she started to blush and then got really mad at me saying she hates me so im confused.

[KaneBrah14]

I'm a freshman in college at a fairly large university. I started dating a girl in early october 2013 and everything was amazing and we were going really strong. We left for Christmas break on great terms and looking forward to seeing each other in January (she lives eight hours away). Mid way through the break she started acting really distant and not responding when I said "I love you" or anything like that. When I asked her about it, she said that she had family stuff she was dealing with. (Her parents are both well off but had a messy divorce) Fast forward to January when we get back from break I knew that it was probably coming but she broke up with me. It wasn't at all messy and she told me that Christmas break had just really confused her and she needed to figure out what she wanted to do with life and reevaluate her life overall (she's thinking about completely changing her major). She said that she "loves me" but is not "in love with me anymore". We separated on good terms but I haven't talked to her since (its been a little under a week). I don't have a problem moving on because there are a lot of other really attractive girls at my school but I would really like to get back together with her because we got along really well. I have heard the NC rule being 1 month but that seems really long especially considering the length of the semester. I don't want to seem beta but should I contact her even to just talk? We were friends before we started dating.

Hope you're okay man went through few months ago.
Honestly I wish I kept the whole no contact because it got messy. It's probably for the best man & she may even talk to somewhat again, and regret what she did.
Once again stay strong (body and mind) bro!

[KaneBrah14]

brahs, my ex gf ruined me /no homo.

Not going to get into details but she broke me pretty bad. got wasted and weeped every weekend for 2 months after breakup. blah blah blah fast forward to today

I was complete alpha when i acquired said evil girl. she turned me into the purest beta male and now i can't seem to go back. my game has become extinct and i just feel lost and confused. i can't seem to keep a convo going anymore even w the ugliest chicks its crazy. every txt msg i receive from a female i interpret and ask "how can spit some g" but it never works.

i don't really have a question but how can i go back to being alpha ??

>Happened to me
>Felt Uber Beta
>Adjusted self
>On way to Alpha

Seriously though, the way I recovered was to see it all as a benefit. You did make gains from that experience whether you like it or not. You are ultimately going to change and post break up people must be psychic because I always felt like everyone knew I had been screwed over like an absolute Beta. So firstly, see it as a gain. Secondly, know that you will most likely feel the same way for someone else and same for how people feel about you. Thirdly, don't care what people think stick to your goals as if females don't even exist.
Hope you recover, don't dwell on it, and definitely do not make it a messier situation.

[2010JW]

brahs, my ex gf ruined me /no homo.

Not going to get into details but she broke me pretty bad. got wasted and weeped every weekend for 2 months after breakup. blah blah blah fast forward to today

I was complete alpha when i acquired said evil girl. she turned me into the purest beta male and now i can't seem to go back. my game has become extinct and i just feel lost and confused. i can't seem to keep a convo going anymore even w the ugliest chicks its crazy. every txt msg i receive from a female i interpret and ask "how can spit some g" but it never works.

i don't really have a question but how can i go back to being alpha ??

Know what you feel brah, went through the same thing you're going through, my side was pretty heavy too (hooked up with best friend 1 day later, turned into a major sloot) anyway, see it as a positive , whatever she did to you you'll know the next time another chick wants to pull it on you. Also, after my break up I became stronger mentally, relationship wise. You'll get over it man.

Also, I was at the stage you're in, what you need to do is improve yourself and use all the energy you have on improving yourself be it in school, weights, and hobbies. Always keep yourself occupied. ALSO, you out with your mates to parties/simply go out. (SRS) Put yourself out there, you never know if you will meet another girl on one of those.

[2K13]

Cliffs -

OP like girl
girl like op
tried relationship before
failed several times due to OP beta ****
girl says its over, tells me to get with other ppl to kill rumours about us
I Fuark a bish over xmas
Oneitis says lets try again, (Wait, wut?)
oneitis finds out about bish i fuarked
flys off handle like "WTF OP - I thought you respected me, how u lose the v to someone u dnt even know?"
oneitis still talking to OP, but mad. oneitis friends say oneitis still like OP.

WUT DO MISC?

[Jrosenfeld]

Need some advice Tmisc-
Background info:
I had a girlfriend for 2 years, and we broke up pretty much because of miscommunication,after our break up for around 8 months I was used by her and treated like sh!t. but ended up following her to a small private college (only 400 in my grade). We stopped talking about 3 months ago and I found out she had a BF over new years(captain of hockey team). I still love her and think about her every day. And would forgive her in a heartbeat for treating me like sh!t for so long.

New Dilemma:
Since I've been out of the "game" for almost 3 years (2 years +8 months) I kinda forgot how to necessarily talk to girls ect. Anyways, today was my first day of my statistics class. I'm a freshmen (19) and upon walking into class I saw a beautiful girl sitting in the class, I didn't want to creep her out too much so I sat one over and one behind from her. I know she's not in my grade, if I had to guess I'd guess a junior? I didn't talk to her, but I kept seeing her look back at me out of the corner of her eyes. She looks to be a bit out of my league as well. Any advice on how to strike up a conversation and possibly get her number?

Edit2 days later)- I had class with her today sat next to her, luckily got put in the same group as her. We got to talking about math and what not. And I was being pretty flirty helping her out and I kinda felt a subtle bit of flirt back. After class I was going to ask for her #, we both walked out of class at the same time, and she immediately got on her phone to call some one (opportunity missed). I then got back to my dorm and saw my RA. Asked my RA about her, he said one of his friends knew her and he asked about her. Found out she has a boyfriend of 4 years.
Looks like I'm out of luck

Is now depressed furak man it sucks.

[ThaShogun45]

OK bros here's the story. There's this girl in one of my classes, who's pretty cute. I catch her looking at me sometimes when I'm not looking at her, and she's pretty flirty with me. Long story short, I'm trying to smash. But the problem is, she's religious, and she claims she doesn't text anyone but I always see her on her phone. It's weird though because she's so flirty with me. Should I try harder by texting her or would that make me look too desperate?

[2K13]

OK bros here's the story. There's this girl in one of my classes, who's pretty cute. I catch her looking at me sometimes when I'm not looking at her, and she's pretty flirty with me. Long story short, I'm trying to smash. But the problem is, she's religious, and she claims she doesn't text anyone but I always see her on her phone. It's weird though because she's so flirty with me. Should I try harder by texting her or would that make me look too desperate?

Texting her is hardly desperate... It's when you start sending another text cuz she didn't reply for an hour that you look desperate.

[patsfan189]

I have a little bit of a weird situation, hopefully someone can give advice. Me and this girl have been dating, we are super close, and everything has gone great. But she goes to a different school, and has some sort of dance coming up next month. She obviously wants me to go with her, but idk if I will be free on the day because of wrestling, and she said if I can't go then she will probably have to dance with another guy in her circle of friends to "not be rude". That sounds like bs, but she really is the loyal type and I trust her. But do I have the right to not be happy about her dancing with another dude or two?

She even told me if she was in my shoes she definitely wouldn't want me to go or dance with anyone else, yet she's prepared to do the same thing. What do you guys think

[MrDoomBringer]

-im awkward
-meet a qt girl through a friendgirl
-qt girl says im qt
-she's interested
-too scared to talk to her and approach
-bros laugh at me
-feels beta
-talk to her finally
-awkward
-she was nice about it though and she tried to keep the conversation going
its been like a month ago
would it be weird if i try to talk to her again?

[TylerA120]

I have a little bit of a weird situation, hopefully someone can give advice. Me and this girl have been dating, we are super close, and everything has gone great. But she goes to a different school, and has some sort of dance coming up next month. She obviously wants me to go with her, but idk if I will be free on the day because of wrestling, and she said if I can't go then she will probably have to dance with another guy in her circle of friends to "not be rude". That sounds like bs, but she really is the loyal type and I trust her. But do I have the right to not be happy about her dancing with another dude or two?

She even told me if she was in my shoes she definitely wouldn't want me to go or dance with anyone else, yet she's prepared to do the same thing. What do you guys think

What the fuk dude. So she can dance with other guys but you can't dance with other girls? That's a load of bullchit man. I'd set that biatch straight on that.

[mctrader07]

this is a great thread. There are alot of questions and solutions for this topic

[mctrader07]

no it is never to late to talk to her. Just send her a text. it will show her that you are thinkin about her and she will appreciate that

[thenewguy23]

Wassup people, hit up this thread also for advice with girls:

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...hp?t=159650981

[mctrader07]

this is great it shows she is above all honest with you. She will tell u everything.

it is ok she is loyal.

[patsfan189]

What the fuk dude. So she can dance with other guys but you can't dance with other girls? That's a load of bullchit man. I'd set that biatch straight on that.

Talked to her, she realized that and agreed to say no if anyone asks her to dance

[MrDoomBringer]

im guessing you were replying to me.
thanks m8 i dont got a phone or her number though.

[pawptawt]

lel

[meaantje]

how do i find a gf?

[SergioVicini]

So yeah, I have a girlfriend who is very very timid, shy and introverted, aaaand Im the opposite, well, Im kind of shy with people I dont know, but Im really extroverted and even hyper and a parrot (wont shut up) with people I trust. Thing is, we have great times together, we talk, we laugh, all that ****, but when we are apart, away, and I want to talk to her...text her, chat, whatever, she takes like 30 minutes to reply, to finally end up saying a word or two, which is really frustrating for me, because I want to talk!, have a conversation, not just a: Im good, yes, no, haha, ok, hi, bye.

...She was on anti-depressives because of all the bullying she suffered during HS, and that makes me wonder if that would be some...side effect, you know, being shy and silent.

Anyways, I dont know what to do guys, just embrace the way she is? I just want to make her happy

[NicholasMango]

So I run in some Christian homeschool circles, So obviously I'm am not/cannot be nearly as forward with girls as most of you guys can. But there was this one girl, I talked to her parents, and then asked her out. We went to a company Christmas party. (Bank I work at. Was formal sit down dinner.. They gave her a string of pearls. Legit pearls. Sweet right?)
I mean. It was both of our first dates, so it was a bit awkward at first. And frankly I don't know her that well. But she seemed to have a good time.


Flash forward a month or two. I'm going on a ski/snowboarding trip so I invited her and her brother. (I'm good friends with him.) At first she seems interested. But then she says she'd rather go to her churches youthgroup. I said "Okay. I think there is another ski trip in a month, that wont be on a youthgroup day." And she's all "I don't really want to go."

So I said Okay, that's fine. And I haven't talked to her since. (This was all of FB.)


edit: nvm. she said she doesn't like me. lol.

You think she's seriously just a weirdo that doesn't want to try snowboarding/skiiing, or you think she just doesn't want to go with me?

[NasIsKing]

I've learned my lesson now, I've liked this girl for the last 3 years but it's always been in the back of my mind, the last 3 months we've been texting and hanging out and it's been pretty flirty, But I always kinda hinted that I didn't want a relationship yet, because I'm not in the mindset or physical condition for one yet. Was going to tell her this last week and see what the deal was, and she goes off and gets a boyfriend </3 Now I'm just hoping that they eventually break up, He doesn't seem her type at all, and is quite the dickhead. My little love story.

[Shkimabobs]

There's no way on earth I'd ever be able to do something like that...maybe after I lift for a year I'll have greater confidence...

Yeah, I know this reply is like a month late and you might not even read this, but I just need to tell you that you are a fcking idiot. Lifting doesn't get you chicks. Lifting doesn't always boost your confidence. You not being a pussy will get you chicks, and make you more confident. When you do become confident (which at the current rate you're going at is never), you're going to regret every single day that you didn't make a move. Because what you've been waiting for this whole entire fcking time was the "right" time to do it, but what you don't realize is that the "right" time will never come. NOW is the right time.

So yeah, I have a girlfriend who is very very timid, shy and introverted, aaaand Im the opposite, well, Im kind of shy with people I dont know, but Im really extroverted and even hyper and a parrot (wont shut up) with people I trust. Thing is, we have great times together, we talk, we laugh, all that ****, but when we are apart, away, and I want to talk to her...text her, chat, whatever, she takes like 30 minutes to reply, to finally end up saying a word or two, which is really frustrating for me, because I want to talk!, have a conversation, not just a: Im good, yes, no, haha, ok, hi, bye.

...She was on anti-depressives because of all the bullying she suffered during HS, and that makes me wonder if that would be some...side effect, you know, being shy and silent.

Anyways, I dont know what to do guys, just embrace the way she is? I just want to make her happy

You shouldn't have to sacrifice your own life to ensure someone else's happiness. If she isn't someone that enriches your life, and makes your life more entertaining, it's time to let go. If you have to "embrace" the way she is, that just means you're turning a blind eye to something you clearly don't like about her.

I've learned my lesson now, I've liked this girl for the last 3 years but it's always been in the back of my mind, the last 3 months we've been texting and hanging out and it's been pretty flirty, But I always kinda hinted that I didn't want a relationship yet, because I'm not in the mindset or physical condition for one yet. Was going to tell her this last week and see what the deal was, and she goes off and gets a boyfriend </3 Now I'm just hoping that they eventually break up, He doesn't seem her type at all, and is quite the dickhead. My little love story.

You're hoping that they will eventually break up? You haven't learned your lesson.

[patsfan189]

Yeah, I know this reply is like a month late and you might not even read this, but I just need to tell you that you are a fcking idiot. Lifting doesn't get you chicks. Lifting doesn't always boost your confidence. You not being a pussy will get you chicks, and make you more confident. When you do become confident (which at the current rate you're going at is never), you're going to regret every single day that you didn't make a move. Because what you've been waiting for this whole entire fcking time was the "right" time to do it, but what you don't realize is that the "right" time will never come. NOW is the right time.



You shouldn't have to sacrifice your own life to ensure someone else's happiness. If she isn't someone that enriches your life, and makes your life more entertaining, it's time to let go. If you have to "embrace" the way she is, that just means you're turning a blind eye to something you clearly don't like about her.



You're hoping that they will eventually break up? You haven't learned your lesson.

Props to you. That's some of the best advice i've read itt

[mbless2]

long time BB lurker, now starting to post (strong stats)

anyway, I've been talking to this girl since October, hanging out pretty often and whatnot. but at this point things are getting pretty rocky. my fear of ending things comes from this girl being in my circle of friends, and causing fukn hell if I end things. This concern was made legit recently when I apparently "wasn't spending enough time" with her, and i happened to see some other girl (really close friend but not from same group of friends), but she flipped. Went around telling my closer group of friends to basically hate me because I'm a douchenozzle for not spending enough time for her... Basically at this point I'm halfway through senior year and don't feel like losing all of my friends, but I really don't want to have to deal with the threat of this girl ruining senior year by going around and getting everyone to hate me. Do I just tough it out or do I try to end things in the best way possible and hope for the best?

[Shkimabobs]

long time BB lurker, now starting to post (strong stats)

anyway, I've been talking to this girl since October, hanging out pretty often and whatnot. but at this point things are getting pretty rocky. my fear of ending things comes from this girl being in my circle of friends, and causing fukn hell if I end things. This concern was made legit recently when I apparently "wasn't spending enough time" with her, and i happened to see some other girl (really close friend but not from same group of friends), but she flipped. Went around telling my closer group of friends to basically hate me because I'm a douchenozzle for not spending enough time for her... Basically at this point I'm halfway through senior year and don't feel like losing all of my friends, but I really don't want to have to deal with the threat of this girl ruining senior year by going around and getting everyone to hate me. Do I just tough it out or do I try to end things in the best way possible and hope for the best?

Tell her that you want to end it with her because you don't want to be with her anymore. If she asks you why, just say something like you fell out of love. Don't tell you she's driving you crazy etc, just tell her that it'd be wrong for you to stay with her if you didn't like her. Then tell your friends that you simply stopped liking her. If you friends have any sense of logic or reason, they'd stay friends with you. And if you have to, explain the situation to them.

"Toughing" things out just puts unnecessary stress on you; you shouldn't be worried about other people, and other people shouldn't be in control of your quality of life.

[mbless2]

Tell her that you want to end it with her because you don't want to be with her anymore. If she asks you why, just say something like you fell out of love. Don't tell you she's driving you crazy etc, just tell her that it'd be wrong for you to stay with her if you didn't like her. Then tell your friends that you simply stopped liking her. If you friends have any sense of logic or reason, they'd stay friends with you. And if you have to, explain the situation to them.

"Toughing" things out just puts unnecessary stress on you; you shouldn't be worried about other people, and other people shouldn't be in control of your quality of life.

thanks for the input mane, I guess it's a "do what makes ME happy" situation and I'll really only know the outcome until after it happens, we'll see