***NO FAP thread to end ALL No Fap threads V5 (Now with FAQ’s and more!!)***

[Azza84]

[Trekhan]

Day7,


Went to church and talked to this dude who played guitar. It was something I could talk about and it went well. I'm invited to play next week.

I am somewhat upset today, not because I am trouble having willpower controlling my urge but because I ran into someone from my past.
Everytime I think of this person I am filled with anger and bitterness, the crazy thing is i dont even entirely know why. I saw him and his gf get out of the car and I didnt recognise him initially because of the glasses he was wearing, the scrawny manlet seemed pretty happy and relaxed in contrast to the sad bitter kunt he was years ago.

rather than feel happy for him, I felt rather discontent and bitter. Bitter about my situation because I am still unhappy. I wanted to break this dude's face and cause him pain.
Right there and then awareness hit me and i realised that I am a hater. Like one of those internet trolls who ****es on others' accomplishments. Just because I didnt rise to my potential I seem to want to drag others down who are doing well. This moment of clarity highlighted my ugly, negative irrational side.

Knowing this however I am still unsure how to deal with this negativity/bitterness/jealousy I feel. I dont like being this way brahs, how do I transmute this into something positive?

[Dank16]

What's up guys? This is my first day trying this. I feel like a poster child for someone who should be doing this ****. I have serious anxiety, get nervous and stutter and **** when I talk to people I don't know, I'm just naturally really quiet and shy around people I don't know which makes it really hard to meet people...especially girls. I also just NEVER make moves on girls. People always wonder why. I've actually had girls ask me why I never talked to them or made any moves and they later admitted that they were interested. I'm just so paranoid for some reason. I never feel like I'm good enough or people like me even after receiving complements. Instead of just accepting the compliment, I see it as something I have to live up to and try my best to continue to impress. I also get paranoid when the compliments stop coming and wonder what happened to me.

You could say I'm the timid type. I wonder if that has something to do with all the porn and fapping. That subconsciously my brain is like why risk getting rejected and feeling bad about yourself when you could just go home and fap. I also suffer from some acne and if this could help that would be amazing.

I'm not even 24 hours into this **** and I already have an incredible urge to fap. I think this has some to do with the fact that I just can't now...which makes it more appealing. Also, the fact that my life sucks right now, I'm mad depressed and have too much free time. This is going to be tough....

[fivesfe]

im out for april....starting up again tom.

biggest benifit ive found so far is i dont need as much sleep, just about stop drinking energy drinks and on way less sleep.

[Primeru333]

I think i am on day 6 of no fap!

[Dank16]

im out for april....starting up again tom.

biggest benifit ive found so far is i dont need as much sleep, just about stop drinking energy drinks and on way less sleep.

that's crazy. I'm always drowsy throughout the day. I wonder if doing this will really help with that. I just find all these benefits almost too good to be true

[MrJMont9]

Day 64 brahs..but fuark feeling pretty down right now

All those years of fapping and relapses are eating at me. I was such a sad kunt back then. Such regret regarding that time. I wish I could go back and do it all over but fuark I can't. I feel like its a skeleton in my closest that I can't ever get rid of.

This is eating at me like you don't understand. I have spring break from uni right now and don't have that as a distraction. I can't even look at myself in the mirror right now. It's f*cking depressing because you're the only brahs I can talk about this with, and don't get me wrong I love all you as brothers but I can't go to anyone because its embarrassing and society views masturbation as the norm.

We all started lifting to change ourselves. I started lifting around a year and a half ago to become "aesthetic" and have the "ripped" physique. At first when I look in the mirror I see progress but then I look at myself and see flashbacks of going to the bathroom and locking the door and well you know the rest.



I probably won't post in here for a little to find a cure for this "inner demon"

JMont signing out

[Adrogeus]

Day7,


Went to church and talked to this dude who played guitar. It was something I could talk about and it went well. I'm invited to play next week.

I am somewhat upset today, not because I am trouble having willpower controlling my urge but because I ran into someone from my past.
Everytime I think of this person I am filled with anger and bitterness, the crazy thing is i dont even entirely know why. I saw him and his gf get out of the car and I didnt recognise him initially because of the glasses he was wearing, the scrawny manlet seemed pretty happy and relaxed in contrast to the sad bitter kunt he was years ago.

rather than feel happy for him, I felt rather discontent and bitter. Bitter about my situation because I am still unhappy. I wanted to break this dude's face and cause him pain.
Right there and then awareness hit me and i realised that I am a hater. Like one of those internet trolls who ****es on others' accomplishments. Just because I didnt rise to my potential I seem to want to drag others down who are doing well. This moment of clarity highlighted my ugly, negative irrational side.

Knowing this however I am still unsure how to deal with this negativity/bitterness/jealousy I feel. I dont like being this way brahs, how do I transmute this into something positive?

I've been trying to figure out how to battle these feels for a while, Trekhan. Since envy is one of the 7 deadly sins, spiritual greats have been figuring out how to battle these malicious ways of thinking for centuries. I'm going to share what I've found that has helped me see a way to counter jealous ways of thinking.

First, read this definition of jealousy from the "catholic encyclopedia" because I think it defines it short and well, and explains why it's destructive:

Jealousy is here taken to be synonymous with envy. It is defined to be a sorrow which one entertains at another's well-being because of a view that one's own excellence is in consequence lessened. Its distinctive malice comes from the opposition it implies to the supreme virtue of charity. The law of love constrains us to rejoice rather than to be distressed at the good fortune of our neighbour. Besides, such an attitude is a direct contradiction of the spirit of solidarity which ought to characterize the human race and, especially, the members of the Christian community. The envious man tortures himself without cause, morbidly holding as he does, the success of another to constitute an evil for himself.

http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/08326b.htm

This next video (5 minutes) helped me so much to answer the "why am I having these malicious, bitter and jealous thoughts?" that I'd ask myself after I'd just had a fit of jealousy. It gave me a way to counter jealousy. It's by a brazilian priest who answers questions about the catholic faith. But I just watched it with the translated captions on youtube and it's about 95% effective to see what he's saying. (can't believe it works that well, translators are going to be out of a job soon if this continues)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PvzF1FoCOqQ

Cliffs in case tl;dw or you can't get translations to work:

- there is a good jealousy and a bad jealousy
- the good jealousy is concerned with others, is jealously worried about others for their own good (which is like God, who is a "jealous God" in Exodus)
- the bad jealousy is when you are concerned with yourself, and not others
- bad jealousy is based on a lack of self love (the translation is wrong here), when you don't love yourself
- because of this, you are so insecure you feel like you're being constantly attacked by others, when that's not the case
how to battle against jealousy:
- "charitas bene ordinata incipit a semetipso" (Well-regulated charity begins within yourself) - St Thomas Aquinas
- First, you need to love yourself.
- God loves you. And because he loves you, you love yourself.
- If you love yourself, you can give yourself as a present to others, and this is loving your neighbor
- The jealous do not love others because they contain an immense emptiness and they need to cling to others and suck them in. They need others to the extent that they can't even stand on their feet without the adoration of others.

I remember just having watched this when I talked to a Buddhist friend. We talked about what we were doing to improve ourselves, and when I told him that I was working on battling jealousy, he told me that the opposite to jealousy is "empathetic joy". We have to be happy for others even when they succeed and we don't.

And then I was thinking about all this on the bus once, and to get a bit personal I was wondering why I was telling myself so many negative things like "you're ugly, a girl will never like you because you're worthless, all girls are sluts anyway who only like handsome guys, not you, so phuck 'em all, phucking sluts". Just like the video says, I thought I was being attacked by all these girls, even though that's not the case, and if I wasn't such acting like such a weirdo many of them would actually be nice to me and would like to get to know me.

And I realized that the reason I was fixated upon what girls thought of me was that it was a manifestation of my desire to be, in effect, worshipped by these girls. I was so full of myself that I would start to have really malicious thoughts about girls when I saw them being happy doing other things, perhaps with other guys. But I had to learn to just be happy for these girls.

So whenever I start to have negative thoughts about seeing girls out and about, I have to think to myself "why u so mad tho, do you want these girls to be all worshipping you like you're God?" And I have to think "no, I don't want that, the right thing is to just be happy for them, that's what I want". (and of course when I think this, I have to avoid the spiritual pride of thinking "I'm so amazing because I want these girls to be happy, aren't I great?!"

And plus I think I had been reveling in these negative thoughts for the same reason why I had been going back to porn and fapping even though I knew that it was no good for me and was in fact destroying me. It was because I was afraid of growing up and getting some social skills and getting back in the social game. Telling yourself negative thoughts, beating yourself up might really be just an act of procrastination. It might seem like you're just feeling down, but maybe you're actually enjoying feeling sad about yourself. Me saying "phuck you" to the world is just like when I was phucking myself to porn.

And then you just gotta tell yourself the words of Zyzz : "so you just wanna be a sad kunt bro? PHUCK that **** bro! You're a phuckin sick kunt if you wanna be!"...

[Natedog15]

I've been trying to figure out how to battle these feels for a while, Trekhan. Since envy is one of the 7 deadly sins, spiritual greats have been figuring out how to battle these malicious ways of thinking for centuries. I'm going to share what I've found that has helped me see a way to counter jealous ways of thinking.

First, read this definition of jealousy from the "catholic encyclopedia" because I think it defines it short and well, and explains why it's destructive:


http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/08326b.htm

This next video (5 minutes) helped me so much to answer the "why am I having these malicious, bitter and jealous thoughts?" that I'd ask myself after I'd just had a fit of jealousy. It gave me a way to counter jealousy. It's by a brazilian priest who answers questions about the catholic faith. But I just watched it with the translated captions on youtube and it's about 95% effective to see what he's saying. (can't believe it works that well, translators are going to be out of a job soon if this continues)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PvzF1FoCOqQ

Cliffs in case tl;dw or you can't get translations to work:

- there is a good jealousy and a bad jealousy
- the good jealousy is concerned with others, is jealously worried about others for their own good (which is like God, who is a "jealous God" in Exodus)
- the bad jealousy is when you are concerned with yourself, and not others
- bad jealousy is based on a lack of self love (the translation is wrong here), when you don't love yourself
- because of this, you are so insecure you feel like you're being constantly attacked by others, when that's not the case
how to battle against jealousy:
- "charitas bene ordinata incipit a semetipso" (Well-regulated charity begins within yourself) - St Thomas Aquinas
- First, you need to love yourself.
- God loves you. And because he loves you, you love yourself.
- If you love yourself, you can give yourself as a present to others, and this is loving your neighbor
- The jealous do not love others because they contain an immense emptiness and they need to cling to others and suck them in. They need others to the extent that they can't even stand on their feet without the adoration of others.

I remember just having watched this when I talked to a Buddhist friend. We talked about what we were doing to improve ourselves, and when I told him that I was working on battling jealousy, he told me that the opposite to jealousy is "empathetic joy". We have to be happy for others even when they succeed and we don't.

And then I was thinking about all this on the bus once, and to get a bit personal I was wondering why I was telling myself so many negative things like "you're ugly, a girl will never like you because you're worthless, all girls are sluts anyway who only like handsome guys, not you, so phuck 'em all, phucking sluts". Just like the video says, I thought I was being attacked by all these girls, even though that's not the case, and if I wasn't such acting like such a weirdo many of them would actually be nice to me and would like to get to know me.

And I realized that the reason I was fixated upon what girls thought of me was that it was a manifestation of my desire to be, in effect, worshipped by these girls. I was so full of myself that I would start to have really malicious thoughts about girls when I saw them being happy doing other things, perhaps with other guys. But I had to learn to just be happy for these girls.

So whenever I start to have negative thoughts about seeing girls out and about, I have to think to myself "why u so mad tho, do you want these girls to be all worshipping you like you're God?" And I have to think "no, I don't want that, the right thing is to just be happy for them, that's what I want". (and of course when I think this, I have to avoid the spiritual pride of thinking "I'm so amazing because I want these girls to be happy, aren't I great?!"

And plus I think I had been reveling in these negative thoughts for the same reason why I had been going back to porn and fapping even though I knew that it was no good for me and was in fact destroying me. It was because I was afraid of growing up and getting some social skills and getting back in the social game. Telling yourself negative thoughts, beating yourself up might really be just an act of procrastination. It might seem like you're just feeling down, but maybe you're actually enjoying feeling sad about yourself. Me saying "phuck you" to the world is just like when I was phucking myself to porn.

And then you just gotta tell yourself the words of Zyzz : "so you just wanna be a sad kunt bro? PHUCK that **** bro! You're a phuckin sick kunt if you wanna be!"...

Strong post

[Adrogeus]

Strong post

Of course m8. I had to try to give something to this group to celebrate 11 weeks, as you guys have gotten me here. Plus I'm feeling pretty happy, as college classes are over for the semester. I'm gonna miss this feel after I graduate.

Edit: Plus I was motivated too. I was trying to find the post that TehAustrianOak said motivated him to stick to no fap (GJDM @ 90 days (like Tobias did) and I ran across the motivational posts by Feelsgoodmayne, linked here.

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...post1005235373

Does anyone know what happened to him. I don't pay enough attention to all the names here, and I think he posted more when I wasn't a part of these threads, but I'm curious if anyone knows?

[MrJMont9]

11 weeks

Thanks for the inspirational words brah... definitely got you on recharge..congrats on the 11 weeks brother

[MirinDeputy]

Hey Brahs, 73 days in, BUT.

Had a wet dream, don really know how I feel about it. One part of me feels fresh as hell and another part feels, dunno.

I just woke up and had turned into a horse, srsly brahs. Fawk. Did not even do anything, My mind just ****ed me, haha.

I hope I wont loose any of my gains, I dont feel like I did. I just feel really relaxed and happy haha.

Tobias, what's your take on wet dreams?

[Sloooow]

day 46

[x_Exhaust_x]

Day 3, feelsbadman seeing all these double digits.

[Gameover89]

Day 125 no porn

Day 28 no fap

Day 21 no orgasm

[myrongainsz]

day 5 here
had a wet dream last night, i hope it doesnt break my nofap

[WhirlwindTobias]

Hey gents, day 260.

Adrogeus, FGM was never really an active poster, at least not since V2. He just drops by once in a while, leaves one of his posts and sinks back into the shadows. Whether he actually partakes in no-fap, relapses regularly or has a decent streak is beyond me. I reserve my judgements, he is waay before my time. But to be quite frank, I am less inspired by his posts than I am from regulars here. Not that his posts suck, I certainly see value in them but I simply don't know the guy so it's impossible to relate.

MirinDep, I think I'll make a video on wet dreams. That'll probably be the best 'take' you can get.

[Blue_Eyes84]

I don't know how the hell I survived today.....but I did.It got pretty hairy at times but one thing that's grown over the last couple of weeks is my self control.

Stay strong everybody....One day at a time.

[AxelSteel]

don't quote this post in it's entirety please.

That was the joke, thanks for negs Staring.
Did not quote in it's entirety at all, and highlighted it for lulz.

Day 29.

[HoisinHeaven]

Reached the 20 day mark.

Any obviously feelings I had right at the start of No Fap have died down (or I've become more accustomed to them?) I suppose some of you guys on longer streaks would consider me still being at the start of No Fap, but it feels like an eternity to me. I'm slowly starting to see that last bit of fat over my stomach slowly disappear, which also feels awesome.

[germanbassist87]

Day 8? I think for me.

So far got three numbers, although the one from the bar I had gone too I believe was a fake. But it is what it is...progress.
Going from being scared to approach to approaching is pretty cool. I've made it two weeks before but I flatlined really early this time so it's all going well.

Also noticed I only need 5 hours of sleep. This sleeplessness is decent but sometimes I feel like I should be sleeping longer. But hey I'm not arguing lol.

Continue forward brothers! Let nothing stand in our way!

[nattyuser]

Reached the 20 day mark... feels like an eternity to me.

I'm on 21 days bro, feels like I haven't fapped for years.

Stay stronggggg.

[AxelSteel]

Haha on that bulkin time mate, fat as fuk atm. Will begin with my cut next week

Keep us posted so homo

Damn, alpha as fuk cuzz.. haha yeah I'll just dump that bish... I feel like she's just using me for entertainment when no other boys are available for talking or whatever anyway. Ffs. Thanks brah I'll try to do what you did haha

^strong this!!
Yeah do that, I can guarantee you will feel so much better after a while. Freedom feels brah.

Oh and tobias (regarding the oneitis post) yeah idk why I'm so hung up about her.... I've "loved" her for probably 2 years and it's like 6 months since she rejected me, idk why my brain is being such a ******* with her.. yeah I know, the worst thing I know is a loose sloot who does things like that, there are too many of those already... for fuks sake..

Known my oneitis for little over a year, talking every day or so. Rejected countless times. One question though: Did you at one point have a chance to actually become her boyfriend? like when your first met, I know I had.
Good luck, bror <3

edit: Thanks Tobias for the counter reps, you are one lovable person!

[xmachete]

Chit I am out. I went out and had chance for some girls but I didn't approach. It was so obvious damnit. So I couldn't sleep yesterday night through this and fapped. But still on that noporn.

[DarDardz]

Day 63.
Last night in my dream I almost watched pron.
I wish I actually did in my dream though, maybe I'd have a wet one or something.

Btw I just found out how to see who repped me (I know pretty late) but I'm about to rep alot of you CKs

Keep succeeding guys

[myrongainsz]

failed again
****
was on day 5


this is the 2nd time i failed no fap after taking up the challenge, wont fail again. day 1

[AxelSteel]

Damn TehAustrianOak, mirin hard bro.
Your post is a 10/10 in my book, if a new Nofap thread is made it should include that post (srs).
Inspiring as ****, think we all can relate to at least some of it.
Good fking job m8!

inb4: u didn't quote the post

[irishcray]

Alright brahs, so I hit the 90 day mark. I'll type out a special post for the occasion to tell all of you cheeky kunts my story.


Note: This will probably be a pretty fukin long post, cause I want to get everything out there.



A little background... I was a big time addict of masturbation and porn. I actually didn't realize it until I looked into nofap, I just assumed everybody did what I did. I would masturbate at least 5-6 times daily, every day of the week. I started when I was 8. Porn was also a daily thing. I watched all kinds of chit... had literally every porn parody there was, I spent hours every day watching those, in addition to normal porn videos. Today, I am so disgusted about how I used to be... I guess you could say I was like a real life Quagmire (Family Guy), just with porn/fapping instead of actual women. Even when my parents were in the same room as me, just a couple feet away, I would masturbate under the covers in my bed. I watched porn by the dinner table on my iPhone right infront of my mom. I rushed home from school and didn't do my homework because I prioritized porn and masturbation. And even when we were away for the holidays, I would still fap at least 3-4 times every day, though I was in the same hotel room as my sister.

I realize now that I had ED, I was too stupid to understand this/that it was even a possibility, back then. I never got a full erection anymore, I would just fap with a semi erect or even flaccid.

The fapping was the causation for some of my problems, which I also did not realize and didn't ever think it could be the case. 3 years ago when I started at.. what you ameribrahs call high school (different schooling system here), I suddenly developed social anxiety. I never admitted it to anyone, but it was very visible.... I would get panic attacks every time somebody talked to me (unless they were old friends), and I had random twitches, shaking, sweating, had trouble speaking/expressing myself.. I just gave up after saying a few sentences cause I knew I couldn't finish without starting to fuking cry... and I was awkward as fuk. I could see people felt sorry for me when they were talking to me, and this felt like beyond chit. I knew that I had a problem, and I really tried to not act like a *******, but I just couldn't. People who has had/have social anxiety know what I'm talking about.


Anyway, like a year ago or so, I managed to get rid of my anxiety. I actually can't remember how... I suffer from memory loss


I also had severe acne, ever since about 6 years ago, which was probably one of the reasons to my anxiety. I tried everything, and nothing helped. But in october when I was on a school trip to London, I noticed that when I hadn't fapped for 6 days (we lived in groups of students from the class, and with an english family, and we had so much to do that even I couldn't find an opportunity to fap.) I noticed that I had less acne than I used to. When I came home I masturbated like 10 times, and I was back to my normal routines. I didn't think fapping was related with acne at all. (I googled it and every search result was positive about fapping, and everyone said it was just healthy.)
Then fast forward to december and I found out about nofap. I failed after 1 day the first times because I simply gave up, thinking it wasn't worth it. When I finally decided to really try, I managed to get to 6 days, but I gave in to the urges. The next try I got to 8 days and relapsed.

I posted on the nofap thread (I think it might have been my first post there) that I had relapsed. Someone replied to that post, and completely changed my view on everything. Unfortunately I can't remember who or exactly what they wrote, but it really made me think.

How much of a man was I, if I couldn't even go a week without literally fuking myself all day?
How would I ever accomplish anything in my life, if I couldn't restrain from masturbating even for just a week?
How could I live with the shame of letting all my fellow cheeky kunts down, every few days? What kind of person does that make me?


I really wish I had saved his post, because man, he really changed my life. After I read his reply, I haven't masturbated once. And that, my friends, was 90 days ago today. 3 months. 1/4 of a year, without stroking my dick with the intention of giving myself an orgasm. A pretty simple thing when you think about it, but yet such a huge accomplishment, for me.

So, why did I start nofap? Well, I started it all for the sole reason that I could see it was helping to clear up my acne.


Why did I keep going?

I suffer from severe depression. Don't worry; I'm not going to talk about that in this post. But nofap made me feel better, and it got rid of some of my worries related to my physical appearance and such.

Nofap has also increased my confidence. By a huge fukin lot. As I have said earlier in this thread, I wasn't a complete loser; I did hang out with the popular people and I knew everybody. (therefore, my social anxiety pretty much fuked me up) But I did use to be what you would consider beta. I would kinda hide in a corner and wouldn't hold eye contact with anyone for more than a few seconds, and I was kinda awkward, considering I never knew what to say in certain situations, especially with girls.
Now, I just feel like I'm a fukin god. Other guys are intimidated by me, I can see it in their eyes when I keep eye contact. I can see that they think I'm better than them (srs). Being 6'5 also feels good because of this. I notice girls look at me almost all the time, unlike before. When I walk by a girl, I can see out of the corner of my eye that she's turning after me and looking at me. I walk around like I own the place whereever I am, and I do what I want without giving a fuk. I dance around if I want, I just feel so good.


My personality has pretty much changed on nofap. I always used to be pretty annoying, like hyper active. Now I'm more relaxed, even though not masturbating gives me more energy. This also seems to make me more wanted, by girls and my friends.

The excessive energy is very useful. I have done many things I would never have done if I wasn't on nofap, like schoolwork and other productive things. What I noticed is I don't need as much sleep as I used to either. This kinda fuked me up though, I would go 4-5 days with no sleep at all, because I even stopped being sleepy.. So yeah I wouldn't recommend doing that

This journey has shown me that willpower is the greatest tool of all. If I can break a habit and addiction, of which 99% of the entire world's population don't realize they struggle with, I can fukin do anything in the world. One day I will be so fukin successful and famous, and Arnold will be proud of me.



I can't remember what more I was going to write here, but I think this pretty much sums up most of it.

You may wonder what I'm going go to do next.. Well, when I started nofap I was thinking "when I reach 90 days I can finally fap again"... but I am not going to do that. I will keep going, because I fear that if I fap once now, I might go back to what I was. I don't want that.

You guys have given me a different view on life as well.. I want to end with this quote of a fellow miscer, who passed away last year....
R.I.P brah..


"Take nothing for granted and enjoy life as a whole, the ups and downs, it's all part of the ride and makes us who we are."

- saffaBRAH

Gdjm

[nattyuser]

Alright brahs, so I hit the 90 day mark. I'll type out a special post for the occasion to tell all of you cheeky kunts my story.

Fukin good job on 90 Oak, glad to see life's getting better for you

Keep on hustlin'...

[quelopario]

Inspiring post AustrianOak! Really glad you have a more positive outlook on life now!!

So I'm over 4 weeks now, will be hitting a full month on tuesday. It's been great guys, I really enjoy nofap, this thread, you bros and all the inspiration and motivation you provide.
Even tho I know that nofap is going to stay with me for a long while I have a strong feeling of "half way" right now because in a month I will go back to Europe and start living my normal life again (work etc.). I think it won't feel like a challenge anymore then, I will be busy, I will have my friends and a whole city full of nice women to pursue.

After a fast of 40 hours I went to run 7k today morning. I must have had "dedication" written in my eyes because everybody was staring like I was some sort of hero, a random girl even said hello out of nowhere. Feeling great brahs, time to get ripped