If you think about it..it's an incredible deranged stance to take In life :
No passion , no self confidence, dude literally went neet because " society didn't give him what he wants "
He really needs to stop being so easily impressionable by these other miserable losers in life that he clearly listens to avidly
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Personally i'd advise re-writing it with more confidence.
Write it in a way that conveys that you're confident in yourself, and you don't consider rejection likely. Tell her you're taking her on a date, don't ask her. (obviously she can still say no, but the difference between asking and telling in how you convey yourself is dramatic)
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05-13-2024, 07:42 AM #39
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05-13-2024, 07:42 AM #40
I think there is a difference between what you’re talking about and what I claimed OP was doing. A few months ago I applied for a position I really probably wasn’t going to get, but depending on what they valued the position could have been a good fit for me and it wasn’t impossible. Mentally I was very prepared for a nice rejection (which I got) - that didn’t mean I still didn’t give it my best shot.
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05-13-2024, 07:45 AM #45
No by all means do it. But I as well have others have given you the advice but you refuse to listen.
Nina, hope you had a great trip!
There is this new XYZ spot or The XYZ Game is happening on XYZ. You want to go on a date?
Leave it at that. Now disclaimer.....thats not the way I would do it but since you insisted you wanted to make it very clear you are asking her out on a date that I catered the verbiage to your needs.
If I were sending
Hey Nina, hope you had a great trip. Theres this new place I have been wanting to try. I have heard great things about the food and the vibe seems cool. Want to grab dinner there next week?
Then at the actual place you can let her know that your feelings for her have changed. Thats what I would personally do.
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05-13-2024, 07:51 AM #46
This is my friend, she isn't sine random tinder sloot. It would be weird if I sounded that cocky out of nowhere in addition to throwing this out there from nowhere in the first place. "Telling " her is not the way.
I'm open wordsmithing to the text but it can't be that cocky nonsense.Manlet Master Race
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05-13-2024, 07:54 AM #47
Ok thank you, i feel you and it makes sense.
There are 2 reasons I am not doing it that way telling her the plan.
1. I have absolutely no plan. I legitimately have zero expectation this will work and I didn't bother coming up with a plan.
2. This will be so random and out of place that she is going to know its a date. She will know. Id rather we just acknowledge it than have her decline an apparently ambiguous invite to hangout, or even accept it if she somehow thinks it's platonicManlet Master Race
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05-13-2024, 07:58 AM #48
If you have no plan and you refuse to spend anytime thinking about it then you are already infusing the defeatist mentality into the motion.
Why even bother to do it if you are 100% sure it wont work.
If there is a 1% chance it could, we are advising you to have a plan. Women dont like it when there is no plan. Trust me.
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05-13-2024, 08:00 AM #49
Truth of the matter is hes a entitled, unintelligent little crybaby ph@ggot who does not deserve even a 1/10 whale. If this is even real, if he actually tried, he could almost gaurantee at least one date if he played his cards right. People are stupid and anyone can be manipulated into doing anything but he will do the bare bones minimum just to say he told us so. Hes a little arsehole ph@ggot that deserves what he gets and she probably deserves better than him. And this is the damn truth
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05-13-2024, 08:02 AM #51
Great question, I've been asking myself why I'm even doing this. The reason is that I don't want to live my life alone without even trying. I know it won't work. But if I at least try that's better than nothing.
I don't have a plan cause it is not going matter what the plan is. She's going to say noManlet Master Race
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05-13-2024, 08:04 AM #52
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05-13-2024, 08:06 AM #53
"I dont want to live my life alone without even trying"
Well guess what man.....you are going through the motions but you are not actually trying. Trying would constitute having a plan. Asking anyone for their time (not just a girl on a date) without a plan is just plain lazy. Thats like the obese person crying because they cant lose weight yet they havent actually really tried.
When people do that to me in business....they are lucky to even get a response. And women are exponentially more tied to "a plan" when it comes to non business type stuff.
Even with my wife of 10 years.......she responds completely different with a plan then without. Its just the way women are wired.
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05-13-2024, 08:18 AM #54
Yo Nina, hope your trip was a good time with your fam and friends.
I'm actually texting to ask if you would want to go on a date with me sometime. I realized I'd like to do it so throwing it out there.
Nothing crazy, just dinner and a walk. Let me know.
How's that. Generic but there is a plan at the endManlet Master Race
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05-13-2024, 08:24 AM #58
Its definitely better than your original text however you are adding in words that are unnecessary. This is probably again your subconscious will to want things to fail. (I am not trying to diss you hear....just stating the facts)
Words like "i am actually" - lose that. Does not add any value
"Nothing crazy" - lose that unless you have done crazy things in the past together
"let me know" - lose that
So then its
Nina, hope you had a good trip. I realized id like to take you out on a date. Maybe dinner and a walk next week?
Thats it. But you need to give her a timeframe. and again.....women like it when you have a plan but if you refuse to name a place then so be it.
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05-13-2024, 08:25 AM #59
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05-13-2024, 08:26 AM #60
You and I think alike....i would almost always have a specific day planned but I was trying to put myself in OPs shoes and she probably wouldnt believe he had a busy schedule or would be going there anyways so left that out
Trying to be succinct, relaxed but not come across too confident since OP isnt confidence and 100% his friend knows this.
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