What does being a good wife mean to you?

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[erinlee01]

A good wife:

1. never withholds sex from her man or object to oral sex
2. handles domestic household chores (or supervises it, ie maid)
3. cooks for her man
4. gives him his space (tv show, football game, etc.)
5. doesn't bitch too much
6. is not clingy or overly jealous/insecure
7. keeps herself in the best physical condition possible (let's face it...it's fraud when you yoke em in trim and fit and let yourself go into hog heaven)
8. good mother to his kids...
9. becomes his BEST friend (putting no other before him)
10. puts her hubby's feelings before her own

Yup..this covers most of the serious ****! NOW...before I start hearing all the "this is subserviant" ****...lemmee just adlib here and say...if you do ALL THESE THINGS for a man...and he LOVES YOU (important factor here)...you will GET all the things your heart desires from this MAN.

I'd agree with most of those. But, I don't cook, don't handle domestic chores (it's a joint effort) and I get whatever I want from my man. I do have to say that your #s 4, 5, and 6 would be high on my lists of what makes a good partner, period.

[*dwest*]

My wife's from Eastern KY(rural south), I don't cook, clean or do laundry.

Yes sir. I think my point is proven.

Georgia, born and raised. All women aren't like this??

Awesome I knew I liked you.

Just outside Valdosta here.

[trace1P167]

in my opinion, to be a good wife takes a life time of learning but i think this might help,

- Stand by your husband and support him but not losing your opinion
-Motivate him to become the man he desires to be
-be selfless to each other and appreciate the little things
-be willing to be submissive and give yourself to the other whole heartedly (even if you're not in the mood)
-satisfy your partner emotionally, spiritually and physically
-give each other space without but also spend quality time with the other
-communicate and understand the other and never walk away mad
-be thankful everyday that you were blessed with such a wonderful man

[*dwest*]

in my opinion, to be a good wife takes a life time of learning but i think this might help,

- Stand by your husband and support him but not losing your opinion
-Motivate him to become the man he desires to be
-be selfless to each other and appreciate the little things
-be willing to be submissive and give yourself to the other whole heartedly (even if you're not in the mood)
-satisfy your partner emotionally, spiritually and physically
-give each other space without but also spend quality time with the other
-communicate and understand the other and never walk away mad
-be thankful everyday that you were blessed with such a wonderful man

Great post.

[kgitaitis]

i hope this is an example of what not to do....

[*dwest*]

i hope this is an example of what not to do....

And people wonder why he needed interns.

[Aeris]

I find it funny that the women are posting some stereotypical responses and the men aren't. If being a good wife depends on my domestic skills and being somewhat subservient, I may as well give up.

I don't think it depends on it, but if it's something you agree to do before marriage, it would be most honorable to uphold your promise. Before I get married, I plan on sitting down with the man, and laying out exactly what we expect of each other, and what we plan to bring to the family.

I do plan on doing all the cooking and cleaning, simply because I know I want to be a stay at home mom when we have kids. It is only fair that I take away all the burdens of the home then, since he's (hopefully) pursuing a career and bringing home the paycheck.

So also, a good wife, in my opinion, would completely balance out her husband, in every aspect possible.

[bambifox]

I don't think it depends on it, but if it's something you agree to do before marriage, it would be most honorable to uphold your promise. Before I get married, I plan on sitting down with the man, and laying out exactly what we expect of each other, and what we plan to bring to the family.

I do plan on doing all the cooking and cleaning, simply because I know I want to be a stay at home mom when we have kids. It is only fair that I take away all the burdens of the home then, since he's (hopefully) pursuing a career and bringing home the paycheck.

So also, a good wife, in my opinion, would completely balance out her husband, in every aspect possible.

Very well SAID!!

[Defiant1]

One who hardly needs beating or additional training.

[kgitaitis]

One who hardly needs beating or additional training.

you wont be getting married for a while....

[kgitaitis]

I don't think it depends on it, but if it's something you agree to do before marriage, it would be most honorable to uphold your promise. Before I get married, I plan on sitting down with the man, and laying out exactly what we expect of each other, and what we plan to bring to the family.

I do plan on doing all the cooking and cleaning, simply because I know I want to be a stay at home mom when we have kids. It is only fair that I take away all the burdens of the home then, since he's (hopefully) pursuing a career and bringing home the paycheck.

So also, a good wife, in my opinion, would completely balance out her husband, in every aspect possible.

exactly.

[*dwest*]

I don't think it depends on it, but if it's something you agree to do before marriage, it would be most honorable to uphold your promise. Before I get married, I plan on sitting down with the man, and laying out exactly what we expect of each other, and what we plan to bring to the family.

I do plan on doing all the cooking and cleaning, simply because I know I want to be a stay at home mom when we have kids. It is only fair that I take away all the burdens of the home then, since he's (hopefully) pursuing a career and bringing home the paycheck.

So also, a good wife, in my opinion, would completely balance out her husband, in every aspect possible.

You have to be the smartest teenager I've ever seen.

[Defiant1]

you wont be getting married for a while....

I know what you mean.


All the ones I meet now need LOTS of beating and are hardly trained at all.

[demike]

I know what you mean.


All the ones I meet now need LOTS of beating and are hardly trained at all.

ROFL haha

[user18799886210]

I know what you mean.


All the ones I meet now need LOTS of beating and are hardly trained at all.

I blame MTV really...

[MalibuDebi1972]

I am a 36 yr old housewife/mother of 4. I am very lucky to stay home and cater to my husband and 4 children ages from 10 months, 6 yrs, 11 yrs and 13 yrs. My husband Chris, who works and supports our house is also a body builder. I prepare his foods, through out the day, do the house work and take care of our children full time. i drive our children to school, sports and any other activities. I can say, I am very proud and would say IM very lucky that I can do this. I also am proud of my husband. He does a great job to support me and our family.

[guest89]

A good wife:

1. never withholds sex from her man or object to oral sex
2. handles domestic household chores (or supervises it, ie maid)
3. cooks for her man
4. gives him his space (tv show, football game, etc.)
5. doesn't bitch too much
6. is not clingy or overly jealous/insecure
7. keeps herself in the best physical condition possible (let's face it...it's fraud when you yoke em in trim and fit and let yourself go into hog heaven)
8. good mother to his kids...
9. becomes his BEST friend (putting no other before him)
10. puts her hubby's feelings before her own

Yup..this covers most of the serious ****! NOW...before I start hearing all the "this is subserviant" ****...lemmee just adlib here and say...if you do ALL THESE THINGS for a man...and he LOVES YOU (important factor here)...you will GET all the things your heart desires from this MAN.

Good list, the question is, do you do all of those things?





I'd probably be happy with a girl that:

1) Doesn't drink, go clubbing with friends, or use any drugs
2) I had alot in common with. (Likes to snowboard, wakeboard, occasionally play video games, hunt, fish, shoot guns, ect.)
3) Not too wasteful with money (no binge spending/shopping)
4) loyal/trustworthy (Won't cheat/repeat stuff I say to others when we are talking in confidence)
5) Good mother, good cook, keeps a clean house, ect.
6) Keeps herself in decent shape and doesn't object to frequent sex



Sounds like I don't demand too much right? Well, I've a hard time meeting single girls that live up to all of those, much less 1 or 2 of them. #1 really screws me the most, cause like 95% of girls drink, use drugs, or go clubbing with friends. The ones that don't, usually have boyfriends. I don't do those things personally, so I don't really consider girls that do to be 'compatible' with me.

[ndgal]

I'm a good wife because I take care of my husband. I cook, clean the house, wash clothes. I also take interest in the same things that he does. We watch sports together, go hunting, and basically like the same things.

[bebeklein]

I'm truly amazed by some of these responses. Quite a few are straight out of a Stepford Wives movie.

[kimm4]

1. Being a great mom
2. Enjoying sports as much as my man! (we watch together all the time!!)
3. Always joking around and making him laugh
4. Being his biggest support and best friend
5. I treat him with respect always
6. Never turn down sex and always swallow
7. Greatful to him for constantly supporting my bb and competing for so many years.
8. I cook for him when I can and he appreciates it. We both work full time so we split all household chores and anything to do with our kids.
9. Handle all the finances and bills...because my husband hates that stuff.
10. Let him come and go as he pleases...but he's the same way. (We figure we're both grown ups and don't need to ask each other permission to do anything.)

[phoebusapollo]

I'm truly amazed by some of these responses. Quite a few are straight out of a Stepford Wives movie.

x 9999.

Absolutely. America is scary, the South is scarier still.

Especially the never withholding sex ones. Not too far away from the days when marriage was considered consent (which led to a LOT of rapists getting away with it).

Quite glad I live in a less conservative country. Obviously everyone has the right to live how they like- but it's quite confronting seeing women posting here putting themselves in positions that I would consider almost degrading.

If I ever got married I would want a person who possessed

-their own independent interests, desires and passions, and a willingness to work for them
-their own CAREER and goals, dreams etc. OUTSIDE of laundry, kids, cooking and cleaning.
-the ability to compromise BUT NEVER to be "submissive" or simply agree with me because of gender- that's just ridiculously outdated.
-sexual attraction and experimentation, but always choice, respect and compassion from both sides
-in decent shape- not so much just for aesthetic reasons, but more for quality of life, longevity.

If I was with someone for life, they would need to have the self-confidence and the self-respect to stand up for what they believed in, regardless of what I thought. I'd damn well hope they would WANT to have a lot of sex- but that would always, always be their choice.

And If I couldn't handle that, I wouldn't deserve to be with them.

[Aeris]

Especially the never withholding sex ones. Not too far away from the days when marriage was considered consent (which led to a LOT of rapists getting away with it).

Sorry for getting off-topic:

I believe marriage is consent. That whole two becoming one flesh thing. You are promising yourself to your spouse, and sex is a privilege of marriage. In most religions to my knowledge, it isn't only a privilege, but a right - I know in Judaism and Islam, not being satisfied gives the woman grounds for divorce.

Besides, what's the point of withholding sex? Childish punishment for people who can't speak with each other long enough to reach an agreement?

[lilly_julia]

what makes a good wife?

how about:

being yourself.

having sex when you feel like it, because if the man is sexy he'll get it often enough, and if you don't really feel like it he'll never know how to please you.

being truthful about when you are hurt or angry because putting on a smiling face while harboring resentment will make marriage like a prison, and one day you will explode in his face.

saying something funny when the **** hits the fan

taking care of yourself and not taking the other for granted

being a helping hand, 50/50, whether with housework or work or parenting or whatever.

make him feel wanted.. sexually and as a friend.. but not when he's being a dickhead.. just in general...

being a partner in crime, finding interesting things that you both enjoy, making yourself attractive and someone he is proud to be seen with, not taking advantage of him even if he is a kind and generous person.

... and every single "rule" I listed goes for the man, too.

[lilly_julia]

x 9999.

Absolutely. America is scary, the South is scarier still.

Especially the never withholding sex ones. Not too far away from the days when marriage was considered consent (which led to a LOT of rapists getting away with it).

Quite glad I live in a less conservative country. Obviously everyone has the right to live how they like- but it's quite confronting seeing women posting here putting themselves in positions that I would consider almost degrading.

If I ever got married I would want a person who possessed

-their own independent interests, desires and passions, and a willingness to work for them
-their own CAREER and goals, dreams etc. OUTSIDE of laundry, kids, cooking and cleaning.
-the ability to compromise BUT NEVER to be "submissive" or simply agree with me because of gender- that's just ridiculously outdated.
-sexual attraction and experimentation, but always choice, respect and compassion from both sides
-in decent shape- not so much just for aesthetic reasons, but more for quality of life, longevity.

If I was with someone for life, they would need to have the self-confidence and the self-respect to stand up for what they believed in, regardless of what I thought. I'd damn well hope they would WANT to have a lot of sex- but that would always, always be their choice.

And If I couldn't handle that, I wouldn't deserve to be with them.

yes, yes, yes! thank god for guys like you.

Sorry for getting off-topic:

I believe marriage is consent. That whole two becoming one flesh thing. You are promising yourself to your spouse, and sex is a privilege of marriage. In most religions to my knowledge, it isn't only a privilege, but a right - I know in Judaism and Islam, not being satisfied gives the woman grounds for divorce.

Besides, what's the point of withholding sex? Childish punishment for people who can't speak with each other long enough to reach an agreement?

women can't have sex with a man who is not willing. it is impossible. therefore, marriage=consent is completely unfair as far as the woman is concerned.

You wouldn't want to be penetrated without being asked first, would you???

[Npeart]

She's doing it right

things a good wife should do:
able to wrestle and play and laugh
able to trust
have dinner on table when hubby gets home (i enjoy doing this)
compromise on things he likes ( action movies ) and vise versa
Let hubby feel in control and feel like the protector
keep in good shape for hubby
pray for her husband
being a good mommy
communication

not do:
not be jealous or naggy
let self go
have the last word (although i do this.. he hates this!)hehe

A good wife:

1. never withholds sex from her man or object to oral sex
2. handles domestic household chores (or supervises it, ie maid)
3. cooks for her man
4. gives him his space (tv show, football game, etc.)
5. doesn't bitch too much
6. is not clingy or overly jealous/insecure
7. keeps herself in the best physical condition possible (let's face it...it's fraud when you yoke em in trim and fit and let yourself go into hog heaven)
8. good mother to his kids...
9. becomes his BEST friend (putting no other before him)
10. puts her hubby's feelings before her own

Yup..this covers most of the serious ****! NOW...before I start hearing all the "this is subserviant" ****...lemmee just adlib here and say...if you do ALL THESE THINGS for a man...and he LOVES YOU (important factor here)...you will GET all the things your heart desires from this MAN.

These ladies nailed it to perfection. . . .

[Jaw-Knee]

x 9999.

Absolutely. America is scary, the South is scarier still.

Why is it scary? Because other people's beliefs differ from yours?

I believe they call that bigotry. Isn't that what liberals are always crusading against? Oh wait, that's right, most of you are hypocrites.

[cawagner01]

One very important rule for a wife. Focus on the good things your husband does instead of the dwelling on the bad. This is an easy rule for wives to follow in the first couple years of marriage but when children come along and the marriage extends into decades, some wives tend to notice her husband's faults a little more. Ladies, although we may not always be the romantics, it doesn't hurt to let your husband know how special he is to you.

[phoebusapollo]

Why is it scary? Because other people's beliefs differ from yours?

I believe they call that bigotry. Isn't that what liberals are always crusading against? Oh wait, that's right, most of you are hypocrites.

I did note that

Obviously everyone has the right to live how they like

I also noted that I found it scary. That would be free speech, something liberals also believe in. I'm free to judge how you live, and you are free to imagine me burning in hell for not treating women like objects and chewing hayseeds. Up to you.

I'm not trying to stop you living however you like- but the way that has been presented here just doesn't accord with my values.

And as I noted, I wouldn't want to marry someone with those values.

[bambifox]

1. Being a great mom
2. Enjoying sports as much as my man! (we watch together all the time!!)
3. Always joking around and making him laugh
4. Being his biggest support and best friend
5. I treat him with respect always
6. Never turn down sex and always swallow
7. Greatful to him for constantly supporting my bb and competing for so many years.
8. I cook for him when I can and he appreciates it. We both work full time so we split all household chores and anything to do with our kids.
9. Handle all the finances and bills...because my husband hates that stuff.
10. Let him come and go as he pleases...but he's the same way. (We figure we're both grown ups and don't need to ask each other permission to do anything.)

I love you....that is all.

You wouldn't want to be penetrated without being asked first, would you???

Uhhhh...ya..I would! I like a man who "takes control"..sorry, its just my nature. TBH, I'm not married, but as a single woman, I'm truly tired of meeting men used to rigid woman who use sex like a carrot to a rabbit. You make vows to love, honor, trust and obey...well...does anyone actually listen to what they say at that alter? If your man likes a home cooked meal...a backrub, a good bl*wjob or other forms of sexual communication when he comes home from a hard days work...I don't see what's so "stereotypical" about giving it to him...it's not like your not having fun too...or is it? If his sex is good to you...I really can't comprehend "I don't FEEL like it" unless the sex is mediocre or lousy! That's like sayin..."I don't feel like having $100 million dollars"...wut???

These ladies nailed it to perfection. . . .

Bottom line here is that you GET what you GIVE! A woman's expectations from a man are generally DIFFERENT from a man's expectations in many ways. We like warmth, stability, strength, etc., while many men look for other qualities. Its not important that we like sports and sh*t like that, but it is important for most men that their wife be able to take care of 'home base' if there the breadwinner. Most families today require both parents to work so there are variations to that. Each party meets the NEEDS of the other. That's what makes a good marriage and ergo a GOOD wifey!