This describes my sister. She thinks her son is a GENIUS, so smart, and SUCH an angel. She told me that she never calls her son stubborn or hard to manage or any other term. She says that the proper term in "Spirited". I told her that the proper term is little f*cker and she better get her **** together and learn to discipline.
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01-08-2013, 04:30 PM #4711
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01-08-2013, 04:30 PM #4712
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I agree with you. And it doesn't take having your own kids to know what is and is not appropriate behavior from a child. That's the problem nowadays - parents never want to tell their kids "no." My son sometimes acts like a bossy little ingrate. That behavior is not tolerated from me, but so many parents just let their kids walk all over them. There is no fear of punishment.
Danielle xoxo
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01-08-2013, 04:38 PM #4713
I totally get what you're saying. I think it is important to nurture a child and allow for unlimited growth. That isn't my issue. What is the issue is when parents can't see the flaws/struggles in their child. No person is perfect. No child is perfect. I don't expect them to be. Part of life is just to grow, fail, struggle, succeed...
I think of some of my most important experiences in life; the ones that taught me the most...often it is when I fail. Forces me to confront my struggles.
When did parenting become blowing smoke up a kid's butt? That isn't the role of a parent IMHO. The role of a parent (partially) is to prepare that kid for his/her adult life.
Thank you!
That's the problem nowadays - parents never want to tell their kids "no." My son sometimes acts like a bossy little ingrate. That behavior is not tolerated from me, but so many parents just let their kids walk all over them. There is no fear of punishment.
You stick with it woman!!
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01-08-2013, 04:39 PM #4714
or aka as the recent school shooter that shot 20 little children
never knew what the fuk no meant, and never was slapped so hard he fell on his arse, my kids know when no means no, go out to restaurant, they better know to sit and be quiet, one look from me or the wife and they know exactly what can come if they dont behave, at home they can have fun, out in public behave and thats it.
was at fred meyer not too long ago with my son, saw a kid his age with the mom on her knees, the little boy was slapping the mom in the face, and she kept saying, oh david you are unreasonable
I looked at my son, pointed at the woman so she can hear me, and said, if you ever behaved like that I would punt you across the whole store like a ball.EX YU Mafia #1 ----Cant Touch Us----
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Its not important what they say behind my back, what is Important is whether they stop talking and look down when I turn around.
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01-08-2013, 04:41 PM #4715
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01-08-2013, 04:43 PM #4716
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I have some close friends and family members in academia. They've said that in recent years parents have started calling them up to protest their kids college grades. "Little Jimmy worked real hard and you only gave him a B, we need to discuss this." One friend told the last parent who did this: "Little Jimmy is 21 years old. If he has an issue with his grade HE needs to make an appointment to talk to me or show up at office hours not have his Mommy call me." As parents don't you'd think that they'd want their kids to stand on their own two feet. It is happening so frequently now they have a word for it -- "heliocopter parents." Called that because they hover around and don't let the kids succeed or fail on their own.
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01-08-2013, 04:43 PM #4717
Good for you NBE! I think you probably have a better understanding of life in general because of what you've experienced in your own life.
and btw...your newest son is only a few months old and is standing???
Dude...you are in trouble!
the little boy was slapping the mom in the face, and she kept saying, oh david you are unreasonable
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01-08-2013, 04:45 PM #4718
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01-08-2013, 04:48 PM #4719
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dat feel when ur skin crawls... I know it sis-ski.
text/web abbreviates that irk me:
noe instead of know
then instead of than
than instead of then
threw instead of through
"K" instead of "I understand what you're saying. I still kind of disagree based on xyz but you make a valid point and I'll try to remember what you said."Sept of Baelor was an inside job. Wildfire can't melt stone masonry.
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01-08-2013, 04:50 PM #4720
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I agree with you!!! Are we now giving cute names to bad behavior? I know a lot of parents do things like that, in the name of positive reinforcement. It's such BS. That is so not real life.
You're welcome!!!
I don't know at what point parents started acting this way. It's ridiculous. There was a thing going around on ******** and it said something like "If your child never says the words 'I hate you,' you aren't doing your job." My son gets pissed off and goes to sulk in his room when he gets disciplined, sometimes refuses to talk to me. I of course hate when he's angry with me like that, but if I let him behave any way he pleases just because I don't want him to be mad at me, he will never learn.Danielle xoxo
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01-08-2013, 04:51 PM #4721
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01-08-2013, 04:53 PM #4722
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01-08-2013, 04:59 PM #4723
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01-08-2013, 04:59 PM #4724
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01-08-2013, 05:04 PM #4726
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I fear the same. Because part of what you are supposed to learn as a kid is both how to succeed and how to fail. And then when you fail, how to pick yourself back up and move forward. If you don't learn that when you are a kid, when the stakes are small and your parents can control some of the risk, you'll end up having to learn those lessons as an adult. And the stakes and risks are likely going to me much higher then.
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01-08-2013, 05:05 PM #4727
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I hope so
I think parents these days think that their kids are going to think they don't love them if they discipline them. I always make it a point to say to both of my kids that I love them but I did not like how they were behaving. They will see when they get older that they were disciplined because they are loved.Danielle xoxo
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01-08-2013, 05:06 PM #4728
Last edited by UnaChispita; 01-09-2013 at 08:54 AM.
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01-08-2013, 05:10 PM #4729
My gym's billing system sucks. Really sucks. If I pay ahead for an extra session with my trainer and it doesn't get punched into the system correctly, I'll get double-billed as a penalty, like I hadn't paid in the first place. Two weeks ago, I signed a new PT contract for the year as my old one was expiring. There would have been one more automated payment going through on my old contract before it expired, but the manager and I agreed to cancel the old contract and put the new one in place. So I paid for January with the new contract and also paid ahead for two "extra" days in February before my next payment kicks in. So today it appears my old contract was NOT cancelled, because I've been charged for that as well. Geezum frickin crap on a stick, people.
I would like to say that my trainer has nothing to do with the billing system, and feels terrible when this crap happens. He doesn't yet know I've been charged for the old contract AND the new one for January. On a humorous note, I would like to see his face the next time he pulls up my account and sees how many sessions are sitting there prepaid. Ummmmm... you're doing HOW many sessions a week now?!?!?! I might as well just curl up on a yoga mat in the corner and start sleeping there. Or I could go yell at the office tomorrow... yeah, that.
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01-08-2013, 05:18 PM #4730
That is an interesting comment.
It depends on how a person defines "discipline" I think.
I agree with your definition. Teaching a child to be self-reliant...to persevere in the face of struggle...is an example of parental love.
Ridiculous coddling of a child is an example of parental negligence, IMO.
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01-08-2013, 05:26 PM #4731"Do not give away to others what you have not first given away at home." unknown
"It's never too late to be who you might have been." George Eliot, pen name of Mary Ann Evans
Proud wife and mommy.
Every saint has a past.
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01-08-2013, 05:39 PM #4732
Great conversation about kids being had in here!!
I agree with you guys, Una, Sy, and NBE.
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01-08-2013, 05:42 PM #4733
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01-08-2013, 05:56 PM #4734
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01-08-2013, 06:00 PM #4735
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01-08-2013, 06:03 PM #4736
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01-08-2013, 06:07 PM #4737
^^^^ So true. There are times when you are literally doing the best thing for your child by getting ugly with them. I have 2 families close to me with kids the same age as my youngest, give or take 2 months. I have watched both of those families watch the child run TO THE ROAD. What was the action they took? They ran and grabbed them and laughed... What? YOUR KID JUST TRIED TO RUN ONTO THE ROAD AND YOUR MAKING IT A GAME??? I try not to smack my kids, but there is a time and place for everything, and when my kids do things that can seriously injure themselves or another person, they are going to remember NEVER to do it again.
Again with my sister, she cannot understand why her son attacks her. Or why he would decide to grab my son by the throat and dig chunks out of his neck with his nails (Seriously, he bled). But the kid is out of control. He is in this huge world full over stimulation with no boundaries. There is no one guiding him through the insanity, no one taking control for him, and teaching how to function and deal with everyday life.
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01-08-2013, 06:07 PM #4738
I must admit I struggle with the discipline mostly because they just tune out to me. I do time outs, they lose privelidges etc. I did leave a birthday party half way though on the weekend to show them that bad behaviour is unacceptable. Trying to set boundaries with kids is more difficult than it looks from the outside. Sometimes when you are out and about it's less traumatic to let some behaviour slide because telling them off will result in a tantrum of epic proportions (not ideal when trying to buy groceries). You really do need to pick your battles!
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01-08-2013, 06:14 PM #4739
This is very true. Finding the right discipline for each child is crazy hard. But well worth the work. And I also will let some behaviour slide in public. Once my 3 yr old yelled at me in the home depot, and I grabbed him by the arm and crouched down to get in his face and said "DON'T you talk to me like that!" Just like I would at home and when I stood up there was this woman watching and I swear she looked ready to call the cops on me.
Edit- Also wanted to say, GREAT job on the bulk Botika!! 256? Your killing it!
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01-08-2013, 06:18 PM #4740
Jimmy rustle of the day..
A girl friend put up a status saying "Yes I'm still single, would I like to change that? Yep but who's brave enough to take me on? Apparently nobody!"
Now, I hate whiny fb statuses as much as anybody, but this hardly warranted "This is the most desperate status I've seen.. get some integrity.. ".
SMH if you care so much send her a private message or a text , don't try and shame the girl on her own status.
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