Tomorrow, we find out if BBMG is a man of his word

[BigBallsMcgee]

I lol’d.

Will rep you and BBMG off recharge.
I’m proud of you for swinging for it dude and I really hope it gave you hope that it’s not over man. I believe you aren’t going to end up alone.
I’m pulling for all you phuckers srs

thanks man, i appreciate it. it feels good to have gone for something.

[N0stradamus]

I still think you should tell your mom and dad, it'll cheer them up to see their son putting in some effort after NEETing for damn near a year.

[BigBallsMcgee]

Next time for sure. Good effort

thanks man, dems the breaks

[DuracellBunny]

SRS for a minute. Over the last year or so, you have sounded like you have been suffering through some mental health issues. This is a sign that you might have hit rock bottom and are now starting to dig yourself out of the pit.

[kengriffeyjr24]

BRUUUTAL guys.

She said she wants to go BUT asked if we should invite someone else. its OVER.

What should I say? Should I say no? Or should i say yes and accept that she's not interested?

Voice version: https://voca.ro/17M55UYkpy2a

Ok, she responded finally. Its OVER. Here's what she said:

"Bigballs, OMG I'm so flattered. I'm so sorry though I dont see us in that way.....you're a really good friend and I'd hate if **** were to go sour, esp within the friend group. i hope this doesn't make things weird".

So there it is. And its all good.

To be honest it was over after the first reply.

Girls read EVERY text they get with utmost attention and do intense analysis on intent and emotion. 100% chance she spent some time going through your intentions of the first text. Probably a strong chance she screen shotted it to her besties, sisters etc for their thoughts . Girls do not mess around with this stuff boyo.

If she wanted to date you...even if she was doubting whether it was a true date request, she would not have invited a friend to tag along. Girls are masters of responding to these situations with their true intentions.

The moment you get that text you should have turned her down and went NC for a bit. She might have gained some respect for you seeing you be so stoic and alpha about getting "turned down" tactfully.

Big takeaway is adult women are not naive about being asked out even if it's casual like hey let's grab lunch. They know damm well what the intentions are.

[wigwogzigzog]

To be honest it was over after the first reply.

Girls read EVERY text they get with utmost attention and do intense analysis on intent and emotion. 100% chance she spent some time going through your intentions of the first text. Probably a strong chance she screen shotted it to her besties, sisters etc for their thoughts . Girls do not mess around with this stuff boyo.

If she wanted to date you...even if she was doubting whether it was a true date request, she would not have invited a friend to tag along. Girls are masters of responding to these situations with their true intentions.

The moment you get that text you should have turned her down and went NC for a bit. She might have gained some respect for you seeing you be so stoic and alpha about getting "turned down" tactfully.

Big takeaway is adult women are not naive about being asked out even if it's casual like hey let's grab lunch. They know damm well what the intentions are.

I think we all felt that. Bbmg included. He wanted to double down. Which is a fine thing to do

[kengriffeyjr24]

I think we all felt that. Bbmg included. He wanted to double down. Which is a fine thing to do

Nah it just makes him more pathetic. It is possible to get rejected by a girl and have her come back (happened to me before). But his response to this makes him more pathetic in her eyes. Unless he attractive (Assume he's not) its OVER for him

[N0stradamus]

Nah it just makes him more pathetic. It is possible to get rejected by a girl and have her come back (happened to me before). But his response to this makes him more pathetic in her eyes. Unless he attractive (Assume he's not) its OVER for him

BBMG is a 5'3" Nigerian dude, his height alone will disqualify him from most women. Take it easy on him, the boyo is in a tough spot.

[wigwogzigzog]

Nah it just makes him more pathetic. It is possible to get rejected by a girl and have her come back (happened to me before). But his response to this makes him more pathetic in her eyes. Unless he attractive (Assume he's not) its OVER for him

Who cares about her eyes. Fk Nina. In my eyes it's fine. He wanted to be absolutely sure to move on.

[kengriffeyjr24]

Who cares about her eyes. Fk Nina. In my eyes it's fine. He wanted to be absolutely sure to move on.

There's no need. It's embarrassing.

Respond with "sorry don't think it will work out then"

And ignore for a bit. If she actually considered dating him she'd go.into ful court press to "fix" the situation. Even if she was leaning not interested the brazeness might have made her consider it. This is like 3rd grade schoolyard dating 101
How has op not learned this PRE puberty?

[Muzzlrpress]

There's no need. It's embarrassing.

Respond with "sorry don't think it will work out then"

And ignore for a bit. If she actually considered dating him she'd go.into ful court press to "fix" the situation. Even if she was leaning not interested the brazeness might have made her consider it. This is like 3rd grade schoolyard dating 101
How has op not learned this PRE puberty?

You act like everyone grew up the same way. Try seeing things from other people's perspectives.

[blueberryboy]

You act like everyone grew up the same way. Try seeing things from other people's perspectives.

He just means it was basically already 99 % over with when her first reaction is to bring someone with her

Atleast he went for it, maybe he'll get the next one .

[stevebec]

So, BBMG, who's next in line?

[Onlinedatingcel]

He just means it was basically already 99 % over with when her first reaction is to bring someone with her

Atleast he went for it, maybe he'll get the next one .

How can it be over when it never began?

[Akd123]

I would of called her bluff. like yeah bring the other friend. With enough booze it could of been a threesome. Either way i still would of went. Mother fukers give up too easy. Need to learn some manipulation skills

[Anachron]

I don't think it's kind to pile on BBMG now.

He was not going to turn it into a threesome, so why even pretend to think that way.

He has his closure of getting an answer to his question.

Now, onto the next one!

[BigBallsMcgee]

SRS for a minute. Over the last year or so, you have sounded like you have been suffering through some mental health issues. This is a sign that you might have hit rock bottom and are now starting to dig yourself out of the pit.

thanks man, I wouldnt say all that. i would just say for awhile now I have completely given up on dating and this was stepping a toe back in the water.

I still think it'll be a rough road for me going forward, I will probably die alone. But if this ever comes up again i'll know what to do and I wont be afraid.

[dingyberryyy]

thanks man, I wouldnt say all that. i would just say for awhile now I have completely given up on dating and this was stepping a toe back in the water.

I still think it'll be a rough road for me going forward, I will probably die alone. But if this ever comes up again i'll know what to do and I wont be afraid.

Rep me b4 you rope

[BigBallsMcgee]

I think we all felt that. Bbmg included. He wanted to double down. Which is a fine thing to do

No no no, this isnt true. In the moment I wasnt being told this. If I knew she was rejecting me with that text, I would have aborted the mission. I was told to double down, that wasnt my choice

[BigBallsMcgee]

Nah it just makes him more pathetic. It is possible to get rejected by a girl and have her come back (happened to me before). But his response to this makes him more pathetic in her eyes. Unless he attractive (Assume he's not) its OVER for him

It never began. My response was irrelevant.

Thats why I wanted to be direct from the jump to avoid that even happening.

[BigBallsMcgee]

There's no need. It's embarrassing.

Respond with "sorry don't think it will work out then"

And ignore for a bit. If she actually considered dating him she'd go.into ful court press to "fix" the situation. Even if she was leaning not interested the brazeness might have made her consider it. This is like 3rd grade schoolyard dating 101
How has op not learned this PRE puberty?

Dude, no. She's my friend. It would be so stupid to lose a friendship over this if I dont have to.

She doesnt see me that way. We're friends. I knew that. Why would I be so fukin weird about it and not just communicate.

[BigBallsMcgee]

He just means it was basically already 99 % over with when her first reaction is to bring someone with her

Atleast he went for it, maybe he'll get the next one .

https://voca.ro/1dHqbvpVZqAz

[BigBallsMcgee]

So, BBMG, who's next in line?

https://voca.ro/1fjMmUAsqzQC

[blueberryboy]

https://voca.ro/1dHqbvpVZqAz

No I'm not saying anybody is stupid for it I'm just trying to explain what kingkgreffy meant . He said you could have been more tactful but I don't think it would have made any difference here anyway

You went for it. Rejection doesn't feel so bad does it? You'll be more experienced for next time.

Double down or not , move on and live to fight another day .

[BigBallsMcgee]

No I'm not saying anybody is stupid for it I'm just trying to explain what kingkgreffy meant . He said you could have been more tactful but I don't think it would have made any difference here anyway

You went for it. Rejection doesn't feel so bad does it? You'll be more experienced for next time.

Double down or not , move on and live to fight another day .

I responded to you but that was more in general, some other people are saying that was stupid or "pathetic".

I want it to be clear, I did that on the advice of the misc. My own instincts would have said it was over right after the 3rd person came in and Id have aborted.

[Imnew1]

Good job for at least trying. At least you knew the likelihood of a no, and don’t have to waste another second wondering.

I told you in your other thread that once you’re friends first and she’s made no indications that she only wants to hang with you and sit next to you all the time in these groups then it’s over in her mind to feel that way about you and you’re forever like a brother to her.

Don’t worry man I spent a year plus of one on one time with a chick friend who would do anything with me but always when out made it platonic as possible where escalating on her would have just been creepy and never happened. She’s actually a cool friend and was there for me with all the craziness of my ex after that. Now I don’t even remotely care at the idea of dating her and she’s maybe the one chick I’m willing to be friends with. You should make sure not to act butthurt around her, be nice but talk a lot less to her all at the same time. Having as little contact with her as possible but being nice when she does makes you look like a man in that situation, and still a good person that she threw away a chance at. It will also sting less for you to squash these newfound feelings you developed for her.

You’re in Atlanta right? Tell you what I’ll bang her for you and let you know that she’s not very good at bj’s and is a dead fish in bed. Then you’ll know you missed out on nothing.

[Anachron]

I responded to you but that was more in general, some other people are saying that was stupid or "pathetic".

I want it to be clear, I did that on the advice of the misc. My own instincts would have said it was over right after the 3rd person came in and Id have aborted.

You'd have aborted...

But you'd have been back at square one, wondering whether you read that right or not.

You have to remember that you had no way of knowing whether she was oblivious or not since you have been friends for a while already anyway.

If it wasn't for that, the invitation of the third person would have been clear.

[BigBallsMcgee]

You should make sure not to act butthurt around her, be nice but talk a lot less to her all at the same time. Having as little contact with her as possible but being nice when she does makes you look like a man in that situation, and still a good person that she threw away a chance at. It will also sting less for you to squash these newfound feelings you developed for her.

https://voca.ro/1fsynscc0hST

[donblaximus]

Sent.

Appreciate all the misc help to get the right message and put the best foot forward I can.. This might sound stupid and even pathetic, but I havent asked out a woman in this decade.

This is a small step for me to start going for it again.

I'll tell you what she says

No matter what happens you just made a big step in the right direction bro. EVERYONE has to do this in one way or another.

Today i didnt want to go to hard sparring in BJJ. Tried to find any excuse to back out. But i finally said fug it....you are going. It was brutal.....as I suspected. Almost died but I walked through the fire.
These are decisions you have to make all the time. Force yourself out of your comfort zone to grow.

[donblaximus]

She responded and asked me about the restaurant. I told her what it was.

So thats not a no. This is where you start building that interest that the other poster was talking about. Girls love that chit.