Can anyone else not believe they’re this old already?

[GuineaDago585]

Like my mind cannot even comprehend I’m going to turn 28 this year. It makes me sick to my stomach. I find myself almost panicking internally, longing for the past, wishing for the old days to return, consumed by deep sorrow that they never will.

Wat do?

[GaryRidgway]

[ShakeBrah]

My boy Carl

[GuineaDago585]

feels, turning 31 and feel like i wasted my 20ies, damn. why did i open this thread.
****.

i ll come later and edit this post with some wise angle to put it in perspective

It’s so fuking weird brah. Like in my mind I’m still this youthful, energetic 18 year old kid ready to take on the world. I feel like it was yesterday I left home, fell in love for the first time, lived solely for the adventure with my friends, blinded by my dreams, believing anything was possible.

Then I look in the mirror and see this exhausted late 20s man, deep bags under my eyes, lacking purpose, feeling more alone than ever, broken down spiritually, jaded by losses and failures, just wasting away on autopilot. Knowing it never gets better.

I mean it’s not all bad. I’m stronger in the gym. I have more money and a more comfortable living situation than ever before, yet it still feels meaningless.

I just miss the past and the old me.

I’ve also lost a handful of friends and family over the past decade and I miss them so much. It’s usually not painful, but I got in my feels and tonight it is.

I’ve been listening to a music playlist I saved in my early 20s and it’s got me tearing up srs.

[Getter_done]

Youre still young lmao.

[gbullock32]

I'm more surprised how busted I am at 33, physically demanding jobs tear you up fast.

[iamdetermined]

Yeah sometimes I think of everything that's changed in my time alive. Mainly how close I was to the 90s music I'd listen to. As a teen I was less than 10 years removed from some of the greatest music or movies of all time. Now it's like damn, we are 30 years removed from that era and it's kinda stale. Especially when I meet people younger than me with families or kids.

At the end of the day though I'm still pretty young. Could be cope but I'm even starting to feel like 40 or 50 is young too srs.

[friesbruh]

just wait til ur 38 & miscing

[Sevenlionz]

Find comfort in knowing this is a universal experience, you are not alone. Also try and recognize what a blessing it is to have lived this long, it is truly a gift to age srs

[GetComfortable]

just wait til ur 38 & miscing

[MyGhettoFantasy]

I felt that same way at 28. Going to be 40 this August. I realize I wasn't old at 28.

Also realize that at 40 I'm not as old as 60, so I'm not sweating it at all. No sense in adding to the pile.

[AnaboLecter]

You're only 28 though, you haven't wasted away as much time as I have

[StainlesSon]

It’s so fuking weird brah. Like in my mind I’m still this youthful, energetic 18 year old kid ready to take on the world. I feel like it was yesterday I left home, fell in love for the first time, lived for the adventure with my friends, blinded by my dreams that anything was possible.

Then I look in the mirror and see this exhausted late 20s man, deep bags under my eyes, lacking purpose, feeling more alone than ever, broken down spiritually, jaded by losses and failures, just wasting away on autopilot.

I mean it’s not all bad. I’m stronger in the gym. I have more money and a more comfortable living situation than ever before, yet it still feels meaningless.

I just miss the past and the old me.

I’ve also lost a handful of friends and family over the past decade and I miss them so much. It’s usually not painful, but I got in my feels and tonight it is.

I’ve been listening to a music playlist I saved in my early 20s and it’s got me tearing up srs.

i deleted that comment because i was whining and i shouldnt have, some time ago i decided i wouldnt entertain bad thoughts of self-pity, but your reply was impactful bro, i hear you clear and strong, especially about losing our loved ones and feeling jaded by our failures and or regrets, it's tough, i feel like im racing against the clock to do all that i still want to and have to for my family, im also afraid i ll blink my eyes find myself to be 41, blink twice, and be 51, and so on until im done for

i read this article on science that examined the link between a wandering mind and happiness, when people’s minds drift to thoughts unrelated to their present activity, they tend to feel less happy, being fully present and focused on the current moment is the only way to maintain constant levels of serenity, and this loosely connects to something called Proportional Theory of Time Perception which suggests that our perception of time is relative to the total time we’ve experienced

so, when we’re young, a year is a significant portion of our life, but as we age, each year becomes a smaller fraction of our life, making it seem relatively shorter, think about all of our 'firsts'; first day of school, first job, first relationship, etc etc, these milestones help anchor our memories and give the illusion of time moving more slowly but as we age, we experience fewer of these memorable milestones, and our brains process routine experiences more quickly, leading to the feeling that time is passing faster. the way to fight this is to seek novelty and be mindful, personally i also cut off all negative self talk, approximately 95% of brain activity, including thoughts and actions, is driven by our subconscious mind, so if thats effectively my auto pilot, im done feeding it bad ****

there is always hope, if you think about it you still have the same potential you did before, the only thing that changed is your perspective, i know this might seem banal but truly, you never had any purpose, besides the one that you choose for yourself, you can still choose and as long as you can do that, you are gonna be fine, you can still experience things you never experienced, you can still build a family and or find whatever meaning you want and enter a new chapter of dawn instead of one of dusk

also, objectively speaking, we are still pretty fukking young, it's just the allure of melancholy that calls to us like a siren, just to drown us in the bitter sweet remembrance of a time of which right now we mostly only look at the good parts, completely ignoring the ****ty ones(how much did you desire your financial freedom when you were 18? well, you got it now, just an example), our emotional state can influence the accuracy of our memories; when we’re in a certain mood, we will recall events through the lens of that mood, which can distort our memories that's known as mood-congruent memory bias

let's live now, and be grateful for that. it should be enough, and if you believe it like i do, even our loved ones who see us from above will be happy for us, and we will see them again aswell

[GetComfortable]

just turned 40 and don't really feel any different than I did 20 years ago

[mr.left hook]

I can be your Dad

[naaboo]

man is crying because he'll be 28.

30 is going to break you boyo. i leave my 20s next year.

tour = mars rOver

[GooBaaa]

man is crying because he'll be 28.

30 is going to break you boyo. i leave my 20s next year.

tour = mars rOver

Officially a boomer

God speed

[latverian41]

Being old now sounds peaceful to me to be honest. Spend my time taking my son to the comic book store, going fishing, to the park, out to eat at different restaurants, to the toy store. Yeah, I like the idea of being old.

[naaboo]

Officially a boomer

God speed

was a good run

[Jandels]

I remember Y2K

[Hey_Jay]

im 46 feels bad man
my eyesight is failing me now

[TheScapeGOAT]

Op it’s time to go to South America and do some ayahuasca

[SicilianPower]

Like my mind cannot even comprehend I’m going to turn 28 this year. It makes me sick to my stomach. I find myself almost panicking internally, longing for the past, wishing for the old days to return, consumed by deep sorrow that they never will.

Wat do?

I’m also going to turn 28 and I am going through a similar experience with longing for nostalgia and these types of things..though the panicking stopped.I have been thinking like this for a few years. Now when people ask me my age I just around up to 30 or say almost 30..kinda trains the mind to get comfortable with that checkpoint. I also look at actors and such that were a few years older than me, or much older than me at the time of movies and use that as motivation that we can still look good with aging and still do big things.

[MajorTendonitis]

Mind blown that I just turned 63 . Srs I feel like I’m in my 20’s mentally,but physically I’m falling the fk apart . It seems like it wasn’t that long ago I was in my 81 Z28 cruising around with the T-roofs off, with the wind blowing through my hair . Can’t believe I actually pulled sloots at one time , and now it’s over

[ALEXH-]

40 next June. Got twin boys aged 4 1/2 months. Can relate. lol

[explosiveMidget]

https://voca.ro/1dOTV3iRn1EE

[latverian41]

40 next June. Got twin boys aged 4 1/2 months. Can relate. lol

Had my first child at 46. There is not a happier moment in your life. The whole world changes.

Do well by then bro. There is nothing better in life you can pass on

[ALEXH-]

Had my first child at 46. There is not a happier moment in your life. The whole world changes.

Do well by then bro. There is nothing better in life you can pass on

Thanks bro! Life changing indeed!

[6gorillion]

trippin about 28? that is prime.

[Arthax]

Can’t believe it. Still feel like high school and college was just a couple days ago and not well over a decade. Life seemed to have endless possibilities. Can’t believe I spend a majority of my time now working to support my wife and kid and that I spent so much of my youth having random bouts of depression instead of lifemaxxing every day. Never gonna feel the thrill and freedom of youth again