[SRS] Depression Discussion and Support Thread Part III

[eod8989]

Slept for phuking 14 hours today. I swear dude Toronto is just the worst phuking city ever. You work hard and tell the truth and you will get taken advantage of and abused/treated like sht. While the phuking sloots and ****g0ts kiss ass and lie through their teeth and they all get rewarded. If you're a scamming piece of sht then come to Toronto srs, you will have great success. I can't take this sht anymore man.

Same

This culture sucks man

[imbored21]

i swear getting pussy is too hard these days.

[jesb7826]

I keep losing family and it’s starting to make me wonder who’s gonna be next in my family. In the last 3 years I’ve lost my father, two of my aunts back home, and just yesterday I found out my close uncle here is in stage 4 lung cancer. Not long ago I thought I was a goner but survived. It’s like who’s ****en next now. We’re all dropping like flies it seems.

[DustinTheHuss]

I keep losing family and it’s starting to make me wonder who’s gonna be next in my family. In the last 3 years I’ve lost my father, two of my aunts back home, and just yesterday I found out my close uncle here is in stage 4 lung cancer. Not long ago I thought I was a goner but survived. It’s like who’s ****en next now. We’re all dropping like flies it seems.

That's a lot of people to lose! How old are you? I'm stressed because mine are all in nursing homes so I'm caring for their pets and finances but I don't even want to think of what's worse.

[miscallday12]

Idk what i did but nobody likes me anymore. I'm a nice guy but people just use me. I try to stand up for myself finally after like 6 years and nobody believes what i say. If someone does something wrong then the blame is never on them they just gaslight me and say i'm the problem. I don't fit in anywhere anymore and this wasn't the case before. I always had a community at work, the gym or in sports or something but nobody likes me anymore.

Same, I categorize people into three types:

1. The people who take advantage of others and gaslight them
2. The pushovers
3. The people who stand up for themselves

The person who stands up for themselves always ends up being the bad person. The pushover always takes sides with the bad guy. Something crazy is going on in this world and I'm not gonna participate until it changes. If it never changes, imma just LDAR alone forever fk dis clown world.

[eod8989]

Just have no idea what to say to people. People talking about politics and a steam deck. I just stand there like an idiot because I don't really care about any of it.

[eod8989]

Man idk whats going on at my job they can't hire or keep anyone, people are quitting left and right, calling in every week etc. I just don't know how anything is functioning like this. There just seems to be no communication or community anywhere anymore. We have two more people quitting. People do not wanna work anymoreand ive been carrying the load for the last 3 years now at least. I've been working for 15 years and I've never seen anything like this.

[eod8989]

Same, I categorize people into three types:

1. The people who take advantage of others and gaslight them
2. The pushovers
3. The people who stand up for themselves

The person who stands up for themselves always ends up being the bad person. The pushover always takes sides with the bad guy. Something crazy is going on in this world and I'm not gonna participate until it changes. If it never changes, imma just LDAR alone forever fk dis clown world.

Yeah there's something really bizarre going on not just with the way people are acting lately but the way things are run now and there is so much incompetence everywhere since covid. It wasn't like this before covid.

[eod8989]

Just no point in participating if people are going to manipulate and feed me lies why would anyone wanna associate with people like that?

[eod8989]

Man every day I have mood swings out of pure boredom. There's just nothing to do. Nothing new under the sun.

[JayJ350]

Same, I categorize people into three types:

1. The people who take advantage of others and gaslight them
2. The pushovers
3. The people who stand up for themselves

The person who stands up for themselves always ends up being the bad person. The pushover always takes sides with the bad guy. Something crazy is going on in this world and I'm not gonna participate until it changes. If it never changes, imma just LDAR alone forever fk dis clown world.

Yeah I think that's why I've gotten a lot more stoic in recent years, now I simply tell the people who take advantage a stern "no" and tell them why they're wrong, not engaging in any of their bullchit or debates. People like that just want to suck the energy out of you, and the weak minded yes men always side with them because of the aggressive energy they put out. Seems like stoicism is the best way to counter that, as they prey on emotion.

[JayJ350]

Yeah there's something really bizarre going on not just with the way people are acting lately but the way things are run now and there is so much incompetence everywhere since covid. It wasn't like this before covid.

Definitely. I think it's just all the cronyism, nepotism, and narcissism converging. Like now a days you got a bunch of under-qualified nepotism/diversity hires everywhere who feel entitled to just treat people however they want, and it's not like they have ever had to struggle or try to get anywhere, and they tend to fail-up, so it breeds this terrible culture that we are now in.

Just no point in participating if people are going to manipulate and feed me lies why would anyone wanna associate with people like that?

Yeah I'm there with ya, energy vampires only want to drain you, and there is no point in trying to contribute to a broken system if your pleas are going to fall on deaf ears.

Man every day I have mood swings out of pure boredom. There's just nothing to do. Nothing new under the sun.

That's happened to me before, I think stress and uncertainty has a lot to do with it. It sounds like things have really been falling apart at your work lately.

[eod8989]

Definitely. I think it's just all the cronyism, nepotism, and narcissism converging. Like now a days you got a bunch of under-qualified nepotism/diversity hires everywhere who feel entitled to just treat people however they want, and it's not like they have ever had to struggle or try to get anywhere, and they tend to fail-up, so it breeds this terrible culture that we are now in.


Yeah I'm there with ya, energy vampires only want to drain you, and there is no point in trying to contribute to a broken system if your pleas are going to fall on deaf ears.


That's happened to me before, I think stress and uncertainty has a lot to do with it. It sounds like things have really been falling apart at your work lately.

Bingo

[imbored21]

feels

scary chit man. IDk what's with women these days.

[imbored21]

Howard u getting laid these days? Im okay with bbws I have to accept realtea

havent had sex in a month and i paid for it

[eod8989]

Literally have nobody to talk to at work anymore everyone quit and now it's just a clique of a few people that don't like me. I'm looking for other jobs but they are all chit and i'm introverted and don't get along with most people. Idk what to do.

[eod8989]

There is just nothing to do. No community. Go to work and nobody really talks to each other and have to walk around in a room all day without anyone to talk to. Come home and gf listens to podcasts all night while i sit on the computer. Everywhere you go there is just no community. Nobody wants to do anything.

[eod8989]

I can barely function anymore. Work is too monotonous and depressing and there is just no way to make friends after 30. My moods are never good enough to do anything. At best i feel meh but i don't really enjoy anything anymore except my hobbies and lifting. I still have some passion for those things but anything social is a chore for me.

Some days like today where i have to work my ass off i just feel like i'm doing all of this work for nothing. I didn't used to think this way but after doing this thousands of times every day it's like what is the point?

[JayJ350]

Literally have nobody to talk to at work anymore everyone quit and now it's just a clique of a few people that don't like me. I'm looking for other jobs but they are all chit and i'm introverted and don't get along with most people. Idk what to do.

Honestly it sounds like one of your biggest problems right now is your job. It's amazing how much a job that is stressful or that someone doesn't like can effect you day to day, especially if it's progressively getting worse and the culture sucks.

There is just nothing to do. No community. Go to work and nobody really talks to each other and have to walk around in a room all day without anyone to talk to. Come home and gf listens to podcasts all night while i sit on the computer. Everywhere you go there is just no community. Nobody wants to do anything.

Yeah I mean it's really hard to find any kind of real community these days that has any depth to it at all. Most people just want to remain isolated on the internet these days in a real sense, where they might be chatting on social media or doing something that could seem social, but they're just on their phone or whatever and doing that chit alone for the most part. It's true that it's like nobody really wants to do much anymore, but it seems like you're avoiding stuff a lot as well.

Surprised you don't bring up your GF much though, how long has you been going out? Everything good there?

I can barely function anymore. Work is too monotonous and depressing and there is just no way to make friends after 30. My moods are never good enough to do anything. At best i feel meh but i don't really enjoy anything anymore except my hobbies and lifting. I still have some passion for those things but anything social is a chore for me.

Some days like today where i have to work my ass off i just feel like i'm doing all of this work for nothing. I didn't used to think this way but after doing this thousands of times every day it's like what is the point?

Yeah I mean I can kind of relate to that, I mean it is hard as phuck to make friends at our age and it's hard to get motivated to go out and do much if you don't have fun people to go out with. It's kind of vicious cycle you can get trapped in. That and it sounds like depression in general has been hitting you pretty hard lately.

[eod8989]

Honestly it sounds like one of your biggest problems right now is your job. It's amazing how much a job that is stressful or that someone doesn't like can effect you day to day, especially if it's progressively getting worse and the culture sucks.


Yeah I mean it's really hard to find any kind of real community these days that has any depth to it at all. Most people just want to remain isolated on the internet these days in a real sense, where they might be chatting on social media or doing something that could seem social, but they're just on their phone or whatever and doing that chit alone for the most part. It's true that it's like nobody really wants to do much anymore, but it seems like you're avoiding stuff a lot as well.

Surprised you don't bring up your GF much though, how long has you been going out? Everything good there?


Yeah I mean I can kind of relate to that, I mean it is hard as phuck to make friends at our age and it's hard to get motivated to go out and do much if you don't have fun people to go out with. It's kind of vicious cycle you can get trapped in. That and it sounds like depression in general has been hitting you pretty hard lately.

I haven't been trying as much this year but I did from like 2016-2021. The issues is that with the way the culture is now I just don't fit in anywhere and I'm always around people that are narcissistic or don't like me. Just recently I've talked to a guy that seems more like minded but I don't actually work with him I just see him around a few times per day. But at my job I have to walk on egg shells and avoid the drama. It's gotten a little better here recently but yeah I just don't fit in. But that's what I mean there just isn't a sense of community anymore which results in isolation which results in anxiety and depression.

[JayJ350]

I haven't been trying as much this year but I did from like 2016-2021. The issues is that with the way the culture is now I just don't fit in anywhere and I'm always around people that are narcissistic or don't like me. Just recently I've talked to a guy that seems more like minded but I don't actually work with him I just see him around a few times per day. But at my job I have to walk on egg shells and avoid the drama. It's gotten a little better here recently but yeah I just don't fit in. But that's what I mean there just isn't a sense of community anymore which results in isolation which results in anxiety and depression.

I think you might just need to look into moving or something, like just going a big search for a good job and seeing where you could go. Where you are right now just sounds depressing and like it isn't working out for you. Like you hate your job, you can't connect with anyone around you, and they're usually a bunch of narcissists. Sounds like when I was living in LA for a while, except I wasn't working most of the time I was there.

[BigTimePlayer]

Coincidentally people are talking about jobs here but my ****in job man keeps scheduling me like almost everyday & I can't take it anymore. I just can't do it anymore. I'm planning on calling out a few days since I can't work all these days anymore. It's becoming way too damn stressful & I'm always in a bad mood at work.

[eod8989]

Coincidentally people are talking about jobs here but my ****in job man keeps scheduling me like almost everyday & I can't take it anymore. I just can't do it anymore. I'm planning on calling out a few days since I can't work all these days anymore. It's becoming way too damn stressful & I'm always in a bad mood at work.

Same man i just recently met a new dude there and he asked why i look miserable and i just said i am because i've been working in this hell hole for the last 8 years but it's like even if i wanted to be social with him i don't work with him so it's hard. Otherwise i just work by myself with the old guy. But its like i just can't do anything. I could even move to a different job but i've already done that and didn't like it at all. Working is the main issue, i just feel trapped or paralyzed having to do this every day. I liked work better when i was in my early 20s and working retail but that was before phones and social media and ****. Nowadays it's fukin impossible to relate to any of the new coworkers because they are all social media addicts that follow the exact same trends. I mean i'm at 8 years now of dealing with this. Idk how it can get better. I'm trying to keep a positive mindset but i just can't see anything happening.

[BigTimePlayer]

Same man i just recently met a new dude there and he asked why i look miserable and i just said i am because i've been working in this hell hole for the last 8 years but it's like even if i wanted to be social with him i don't work with him so it's hard. Otherwise i just work by myself with the old guy. But its like i just can't do anything. I could even move to a different job but i've already done that and didn't like it at all. Working is the main issue, i just feel trapped or paralyzed having to do this every day. I liked work better when i was in my early 20s and working retail but that was before phones and social media and ****. Nowadays it's fukin impossible to relate to any of the new coworkers because they are all social media addicts that follow the exact same trends. I mean i'm at 8 years now of dealing with this. Idk how it can get better. I'm trying to keep a positive mindset but i just can't see anything happening.

I plan on looking into stay at home jobs so at least I don't have to deal with annoying people & can at least relax at home. I'm just tired having to keep going into some place I don't want to be in day after day after day. They scheduled me 8 out of 9 straight days than the week after I'm there like almost every ****in day again. It's beyond insane.

[eod8989]

I think you might just need to look into moving or something, like just going a big search for a good job and seeing where you could go. Where you are right now just sounds depressing and like it isn't working out for you. Like you hate your job, you can't connect with anyone around you, and they're usually a bunch of narcissists. Sounds like when I was living in LA for a while, except I wasn't working most of the time I was there.

Lots of people are greedy, lazy narcissists now though and that's the problem. It's hard to find down to earth people nowadays that won't try to fuk you over in some way. It's just how things are nowadays imo.

[eod8989]

I plan on looking into stay at home jobs so at least I don't have to deal with annoying people & can at least relax at home. I'm just tired having to keep going into some place I don't want to be in day after day after day. They scheduled me 8 out of 9 straight days than the week after I'm there like almost every ****in day again. It's beyond insane.

Bro i'd rather work than WFH

[BigTimePlayer]

Bro i'd rather work than WFH

I don't know man it's just annoying having to keep going out of my way to drive to some job I don't want to be at.

[eod8989]

Dude at work keeps trying to talk with me but idk what to say or how to keep a convo going. All the convos so far have felt pretty forced. Like I wanna say stuff but it doesn't seem worth it.

[eod8989]

Besides him all my coworkers are like 55 so I can't really do much anyways. It's awkward socializing with the old folks here.

[miscallday12]

I don't know man it's just annoying having to keep going out of my way to drive to some job I don't want to be at.

WFH is the GOAT for high inhib people. Just passed my 5 year mark of WFH. I'd prob go fkn crazy if I had to deal with clown world people on a daily basis.