If she posts on the misc then she's most likely a slut in real life srs
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04-26-2013, 04:09 PM #31
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04-26-2013, 04:09 PM #32
dear god lol. pretty manipulative. but props for telling the truth.
thanks for the serious response.
question, why though? the past is the past. i'm sure you've gone as you put it "torrid sexual history of short term flings" when you were younger AND single. not in a committed relationship. so why does it matter?
honestly think social conditioning plays a major part of it. there is such a negative social stigma against being labeled a "slut" or women being promiscuous that all guys now instantly associate a girl with a high number, with negative things like someone who cheats, is untrustworthy, etc, when it has nothing to do with that.
nope, honestly don't judge a guy i like by the number of sexual partners he has. i'll judge him more off his actions and morals than some number in his past. now if he's still slutting around while in a relationship with me, that would be a problem. but if he's an honest, faithful guy that has all the qualities i look for in a potential boyfriend, whatever his number is wouldn't be a deal breaker at all for me.
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04-26-2013, 04:09 PM #33
idk man but I'll just say it like this, I wouldnt mind if a girl likes to fook and do freak nasty things in the bedroom... I wouldnt really care if she did those things with alot of dudes before me (lets be real tea, I would care but as long as I'm not constantly reminded of that fact i.e. she did bang all of my bros before me or talks about past sexors alot)... but the deal breaker is that she has to be all mine and mine alone and she has to want it to be so and not doing it just because she knows that how she should be
that is a hard thing to find because usually if a girl has banged alot of dudes, there is something inside of her that makes her seek out different sex partners rather than continue to use the same ones. its one thing to like sex, its another thing to like sex with strangers u know? some people get off on actual sex, but alot of people get off on the "what would it be like to fook them" rush more than even the sex
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04-26-2013, 04:09 PM #34
^This for sure
If I find out her number before things start getting serious and there are feelings I immediately disqualify her as long term relationship material. It gets more complicated if you find out after things get serious. One of the problems is that you can never be sure if shes being honest about cheating but then again a girl who has been with a lot of guys may know what she wants more than a girl who has only been with one or two. I think the reason I don't like women who sleep around is that in my eyes she is letting guys use her for sex and I don't want a girl that a lot of guys have passed around and used. It's also important on how she got to her number 5 boyfriends is one thing; a gangbang is another.(1k+) "A Lannister always pays his debts"
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04-26-2013, 04:10 PM #35
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04-26-2013, 04:11 PM #36
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04-26-2013, 04:11 PM #37
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04-26-2013, 04:12 PM #38
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04-26-2013, 04:13 PM #39
A girls "number" has to do with what kind of decisions she makes and how much she respects herself and her body.
A girl who has 20+ partners at 20 years old has very little respect for herself and makes poor choices based on her hormones.
Women have a lot more at stake by acting like hormonal fools than men do. Men dont get preggers. Thats the old double standard, and its still the bottom line. Women cant act like men.
So when it comes time to put my time and effort into a woman for a relationship, if her past choices make it clear that she didnt respect herself and made poor choices, I become very wary that her core personality needs work and she might be the type to use sex to get what she wants from men, which is a giant red flag when you are trying to establish a lifelong connection.
The more women push for total equality, the more they are finding out they dont really want that, because you cant unlearn 1000s of years of human nature in 30 years time.
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04-26-2013, 04:13 PM #40
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04-26-2013, 04:14 PM #41
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04-26-2013, 04:14 PM #42
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04-26-2013, 04:14 PM #43
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04-26-2013, 04:15 PM #44
I'll take whatever I can get so I'll stay with her it will just make me respect her a lot less, till i think i'm losing her then it's back to normal for me
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04-26-2013, 04:16 PM #45
All my respect completely vanishes as soon as I realize they're a slut. Maybe if I was looking for fun or a non-serious relationship (ie. I knew I would never marry her), then it probably wouldn't matter. But her past speaks volumes about her as a person. It shows how unstable and uncommitted she is. I mean she had 20 guys before, what makes her think that I'm going to be 'the one'? I obviously don't have all the great characteristics they had nor any of the faults.
I think the real problem is society's 'dating culture'. It promotes lack of dignity, self-discipline and over-expectation; people continually hook up with no commitment or consequences.
But any woman who I want to be the mother of my children better be a virgin.
no hyprocite, because I am a virgin. srs.�Avoidance of sin is lighter than the pain of remorse� Umar Ibn Al-Khattab
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04-26-2013, 04:17 PM #46i ask because i wouldn’t ever judge a potential boyfriend off the number of sexual partners he’s been with. my opinion or view of him doesn’t automatically drop after finding out a “his number”. it's just sex. how i view him depends more on how he acts, his morals, and his present day actions rather than his past.
You are very uninformed what morals are. You are ok with him banging 20 girls, because its just sex, but your viewpoint on him depends on his morals? Lady, if he had sex with 20 girls on the random, he doesn't have morals.
The past is the past and no one can change that. But... to find out that your girlfriend was the town tramp is a lot to handle. He's going to wonder why twenty men found you unsuitable to keep around, or why you did the reverse. Is history going to repeat itself? That's a question going through his mind. No one wants to be the one you "Settled" with.
To me personally, I might be able to forgive that, but to me, you having sex with that many people is just selfish. You were only in it for you, and you're still only in it for you.
I want you to sit and think about this. In history, why is being the first to discover something so important? The first person to climb Everest, to go to the moon, to discover a new invention... why is that such an important thing to people? Because it means its yours. How could a woman be truly mine if she's given herself to twenty other men?
You can try to give everything your boyfriend, but you can't give him what you've already given twenty other men. However a small or large of a piece of you they took when they left you simply don't have that piece of to give to who you are with now.“It is not so much the major events as the small day-to-day decisions that map the course of our living. . . Our lives are, in reality, the sum total of our seemingly unimportant decisions and of our capacity to live by those decisions.” ― Gordon B. Hinckley
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04-26-2013, 04:18 PM #47
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04-26-2013, 04:18 PM #48
agree.
if a girl hasn't ever cheated before (no STDs, is honest, loyal, has all the qualities you look for in a gf) then why does the number matter.
do you think someone having a high number of sexual partners (which doesn't really show as much about her past and what's she's been through, more so than her present day actions/morals), is a stronger indication of how things may turn out than the opinions and views you've formed on that person before you found out that number? i'm talking about someone that you view as a potential girlfriend or boyfriend before you find out the number. why would it be a dealbreaker?
and the number of sexual partners a person has doesn't necessarily equal the number of relationships he or she has been in. single people have can have sex too.
curious, how do you view guys who have had sex with a lot of women? do you think they have little self-respect too? i get that there is a double-standard, but still curious about your answer.
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04-26-2013, 04:20 PM #49
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04-26-2013, 04:20 PM #50
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Depends. Some girls are sluts because they have serious issues. Some girls are sluts because they enjoy sex and don't give a **** what people think.
Honestly I think a big reason why a lot of guys hate sluts is they are intimidated or jealous. If a chick likes to get laid and isn't afraid what society thinks and owns up to it, good for her.
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04-26-2013, 04:20 PM #51
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04-26-2013, 04:20 PM #52
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04-26-2013, 04:21 PM #53
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This is going to go against all that society has taught women in the last 50 years or so, but the double standard is there for a reason. That kind of sexual history says a lot about about what sex means (or doesn't mean) to her. Your mentality of ''it's just sex'' is the product of either being with a longer list of partners (and being desensitized to the emotional aspects of sex) or society encouraging it, or a combination of both.
Ultimately, having THAT mentality about sex makes infidelity a much bigger possibility in a committed relationship. I'm not saying a girl like that will cheat but there's a much higher chance of it happening with her than with a girl who has a more romanticized view of sex (something experience with a lot of guys or FWB type relations take away).
Ofcourse this is a double standard because I might view sex a different way. But I'm not talking about what's fair here. I'm talking about the kind of girl I want in a relationship.★ 92B ★
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04-26-2013, 04:22 PM #54
A high number on a girl will be a red flag. But I rather go in knowing it then finding out later. Because if I were to find out later, it's over.....
I would question why she been through so many guys. Either she has some issues or herself is not long term material. I'm sorry if that is not the answer you're looking for but in this day and age we can't afford to risk it like that with divorce 50%+.
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04-26-2013, 04:22 PM #55
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04-26-2013, 04:22 PM #56
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04-26-2013, 04:22 PM #57
op, if i found out the girl had a high number i would be pretty set aback at first.
but really, i wouldn't give a fuk. why would i worry about how many guys shes fuked? i'm the type of guy who just likes to enjoy life, and if she adds to that enjoyment, i wouldnt care how many guys shes fuked.
we have 1 life and sweatin over the small stuff is stupid.
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04-26-2013, 04:24 PM #58
I personally would not care but many miscers and other guys would. People (particularly Americans) place so much importance on sex. Its really not a big deal and its a shame people get labelled as sluts. As long as you play safe it should not be such a big deal. I would date a girl whos banged 20 guys. I banged 8 chicks myself and strive every week to go an phuck more women. It would be extremely hypocritical for me to judge a girl for having lots of sexual partners.
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04-26-2013, 04:24 PM #59
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04-26-2013, 04:24 PM #60
If guys didn't wean out sluts for relationship material, then evolution won't function right in social mammals. Paternal uncertainty is a bad thing indeed. Now specific numbers, it really doesn't matter. It's more of a judgement call than a number. 5 or 25 or 105 could be a slut in one girl... For example, if a girl lost her v card two weeks ago and already has slept with 8 guys.... versus a girl who has 8, but averages out to one every year since college... Judgement is key
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