Argument with wife over male gynaecologist

[skoolbrah]

Just had an big argument with my wife over possible choice of gynecologist.

Her GP recommended a male gynae to her for check up saying that "males are better and gentler than females" and manages to brainwash her.

I cant understand why she would go with a male gynecologist when there are so many female gynae around?

I keep telling her the gynae test is very invasive and uncomfortable but she says its just a profession for him and she wants the best, while calling me narrow minded.

What does misc think?

[ODSN]

You are overreacting.

[HeBrewHammah]

Sounds like your wife is going to be on BRAZZERS soon OP. Nice!

[skoolbrah]

You are overreacting.

I didnt start the argument, but it somehow escalated into that.

All i said is first choice, let's try female doctor.. she got so angry and said that should not even be a consideration.

And then i said most women would not be comfortable with seeing a male gynae for pelvic check and that made her burst up.

[Thillygooth]

you are overreacting. big time.

[MuzzieChik786]

Just had an big argument with my wife over possible choice of gynecologist.

Her GP recommended a male gynae to her for check up saying that "males are better and gentler than females" and manages to brainwash her.

I cant understand why she would go with a male gynecologist when there are so many female gynae around?

I keep telling her the gynae test is very invasive and uncomfortable but she says its just a profession for him and she wants the best, while calling me narrow minded.

What does misc think?

No, you're not overreacting. I'm a single lady and I'd never have a male gynecologist.

It's unnecessary. Some things are and should remain sacred/private.

[skoolbrah]

No, you're not overreacting. I'm a single lady and I'd never have a male gynecologist.

It's unnecessary. Some things are and should remain sacred/private.

Going by your username, are you Muslim?

We are Muslim too - but for my wife this is a serious matter hence male or female does not play a factor

In fact she prefers male at this point thanks to her doctors advise. Says they are gentler and better at handling pregnancy (we are thinking of having a baby soon)

[InstantLoser]

I'm a single lady

[HayZues Christi]

Lol @ muslims and their tiny dick insecurity.

[Thillygooth]

No, you're not overreacting. I'm a single lady and I'd never have a male gynecologist.

It's unnecessary. Some things are and should remain sacred/private.

You wouldnt let ANY male. Has nothing to do with doctors. lol ...


If the DR is qualified who cares. He sees 25 women a day and delivers babies.

The OB/GYN for my daughter was a male and was generally recognized as the one of the best in the area.

[MuzzieChik786]

Going by your username, are you Muslim?

We are Muslim too - but for my wife this is a serious matter hence male or female does not play a factor

In fact she prefers male at this point thanks to her doctors advise. Says they are gentler and better at handling pregnancy (we are thinking of having a baby soon)

Yep, Alhumdullilah, am Muslim.

Again, she needs to think with her own brain. If you've been her only intimate partner - how does SHE know that the male gynae will be more gentler?

It's all faff to be honest.

I'm sorry, but your wife is not very smart if she just blindly follows what she's told. In fact, being Muslim, she has more of a reason to pick a female gynae than a male.

You have to remember, they all go through the same education, same training and are qualified professionals to conduct the examination. The GP's personal preference shouldn't be the deciding factor for your wife.

[skoolbrah]

Lol @ muslims and their tiny dick insecurity.

I'm liberal, almost atheist

But doesnt the average women feel uncomfortable with male gynae and would prefer female?

I'm not saying no male doctor anywhere near her, but given an option is available, shouldn't we go for a female gynae?

[Bassackwards]

her choosing a male over a female though is kind of weird; i can understand that if the woman had no choice because their was a shortage of female gynodocs but it seems that OPs wife isnt even considering her options. she wants the best..... well what constitutes best practices in the business? how would a doc know if male gynodocs are better than females? i would think that since a woman doc knows the sensitivities of her own body, she would all the more be considerate of her patient during the exams. a female doc would better relate to gyno issues than a male doc would.....

sounds to me that your wife is using this as an excuse to have another mans fist in her vag...

[1slo5oh]

Just had an big argument with my wife over possible choice of gynecologist.

Her GP recommended a male gynae to her for check up saying that "males are better and gentler than females" and manages to brainwash her.

I cant understand why she would go with a male gynecologist when there are so many female gynae around?

I keep telling her the gynae test is very invasive and uncomfortable but she says its just a profession for him and she wants the best, while calling me narrow minded.

What does misc think?

Honestly.... she might be right. I have had multiple ex's and my wife say the same exact thing and I in no way feel like any of them other than one was a scandalous cheating sloot that just wanted another dudes finger in her snatch... They also said female snootch Dr's tend to judge more as well.. whatever that means..idk. I don't fkn care.. its just like getting a physical by a female Dr I suppose... her feeling on my sack does nothing for me in that situation.

No, you're not overreacting. I'm a single lady and I'd never have a male gynecologist.

It's unnecessary. Some things are and should remain sacred/private.

Baahahaha....

[ODSN]

I didnt start the argument, but it somehow escalated into that.

All i said is first choice, let's try female doctor.. she got so angry and said that should not even be a consideration.

And then i said most women would not be comfortable with seeing a male gynae for pelvic check and that made her burst up.

All you said is first choice let's try a female doctor? Why would you say that?
Is the best recommended doctor a male? If so, it makes sense to go to him. I had female friends tell me in their experiences the male gynecologists are gentler too, when doing pap smears.
Honestly what's the problem?

[ODSN]

If you've been her only intimate partner - how does SHE know that the male gynae will be more gentler?

How is this relevant

[skoolbrah]

Yep, Alhumdullilah, am Muslim.

Again, she needs to think with her own brain. If you've been her only intimate partner - how does SHE know that the male gynae will be more gentler?

It's all faff to be honest.

I'm sorry, but your wife is not very smart if she just blindly follows what she's told. In fact, being Muslim, she has more of a reason to pick a female gynae than a male.

You have to remember, they all go through the same education, same training and are qualified professionals to conduct the examination. The GP's personal preference shouldn't be the deciding factor for your wife.

Alhamdulilah - It's refreshing to hear someone say this in today's age.

her choosing a male over a female though is kind of weird; i can understand that if the woman had no choice because their was a shortage of female gynodocs but it seems that OPs wife isnt even considering her options. she wants the best..... well what constitutes best practices in the business? how would a doc know if male gynodocs are better than females? i would think that since a woman doc knows the sensitivities of her own body, she would all the more be considerate of her patient during the exams. a female doc would better relate to gyno issues than a male doc would.....

sounds to me that your wife is using this as an excuse to have another mans fist in her vag...

Yes, my thought process is same, wouldnt a female know more about female body?

All you said is first choice let's try a female doctor? Why would you say that?
Is the best recommended doctor a male? If so, it makes sense to go to him. I had female friends tell me in their experiences the male gynecologists are gentler too, when doing pap smears.
Honestly what's the problem?

For her comfort, arent females more comfortable with a female checking her privates as opposed to a stranger male?

We havent checked for best doctors but so far she has been recommended by her female GP to visit this male gynae

[Chris2far]

She's testing you and you're failing. Show some strength Mohammed.

[skoolbrah]

She's testing you and you're failing. Show some strength Mohammed.

Lol alright Christ

But she did succeed in making me feel really wrong for wanting my wife to be checked up by a female gynae

Called me shallow, typical Muslim man, old fashioned, and sick minded

[CazU]

She's testing you and you're failing. Show some strength Mohammed.

Maybe this. Honestly, I don't see what the big deal is. It is weird, but necessary. You guys do want the best person for the job, right??

[ODSN]

For her comfort, arent females more comfortable with a female checking her privates as opposed to a stranger male?

We havent checked for best doctors but so far she has been recommended by her female GP to visit this male gynae

I have been to female gynecologist who was rushed, the experience was pretty painful and she was completely not sympathetic. This was for a routine pap smear.
I remember having this conversation with someone in the medical community. There is an opinion that male gynecologists have no idea how it feels, so they are more careful with any instruments.
I think you need to examine why you feel threatened by a medical professional who is a male examining your wife. Is it religion? Is it that you don't trust him to be professional, even though he is a medical professional? Is it that you think your wife has an ulterior motive by asking for this male gyne?

[skoolbrah]

I have been to female gynecologist who was rushed, the experience was pretty painful and she was completely not sympathetic. This was for a routine pap smear.
I remember having this conversation with someone in the medical community. There is an opinion that male gynecologists have no idea how it feels, so they are more careful with any instruments.
I think you need to examine why you feel threatened by a medical professional who is a male examining your wife. Is it religion? Is it that you don't trust him to be professional, even though he is a medical professional? Is it that you think your wife has an ulterior motive by asking for this male gyne?

I am protective over my wife - of course I can't really warm up to the idea of an intrusive test being done on her but more than that, I almost had the mindset that a normal female would prefer a female gynae given a choice - so this came as a shock

its not about religion, it's not about him, it's not about my wife's motives - I just try to protect her when I can

[Thillygooth]

Lol alright Christ

But she did succeed in making me feel really wrong for wanting my wife to be checked up by a female gynae

Called me shallow, typical Muslim man, old fashioned, and sick minded

With you being muslim, you're going to have a completely different take that is specific to your beliefs and upraising.

Most non-muslim people will as see this as no big deal. The only people who see this as an issue in this thread are .. wait for it ... muslim.

[ODSN]

I am protective over my wife - of course I can't really warm up to the idea of an intrusive test being done on her but more than that, I almost had the mindset that a normal female would prefer a female gynae given a choice - so this came as a shock

its not about religion, it's not about him, it's not about my wife's motives - I just try to protect her when I can

I just don't understand what it is you're trying to protect her from..

[InstantLoser]

I just don't understand what it is you're trying to protect her from..

Dr. Chad Akbar, of course.

[Beararms]

You just dont want another dude touching your wife, thats it. The dudes a doctor and hes being recommended by another WOMAN. Chill out.

[skoolbrah]

With you being muslim, you're going to have a completely different take that is specific to your beliefs and upraising.

Most non-muslim people will as see this as no big deal. The only people who see this as an issue in this thread are .. wait for it ... muslim.

Trust me it's not the religion that is the factor here

Muslim and non Muslim - what happen to girls having modesty? Is it so ok nowdays to open your legs to a male stranger for check up?

[Thillygooth]

dr. Chad akbar, of course.

lmao

[Thillygooth]

Trust me it's not the religion that is the factor here

Muslim and non Muslim - what happen to girls having modesty? Is it so ok nowdays to open your legs to a male stranger for check up?

it doesn't matter what I say. You're going to think that somehow this has to do with your woman's modesty.

He's a qualified medical professional whose job is to diagnose female reproductive issues and deliver babies.

He's not getting off on it and your woman is not a sloot.

Pick the doctor for your wife that you want regardless of what she thinks. It doesn't matter to me.

What if the female doctor is gay? Is there really a difference there, OP?

[Jason265]

Only read some of the comments, but you shouldn't care, OP. Why do you care? It's a doctor. I'm sure the guy isn't capable of getting turned on by sticking his fingers in a vag anymore if he ever was.