How to improve in small talk?

[TVwatcher]

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[kusok]

Do big talk, no strange look, and try men.

[crupiea]

Talk about current events. not politics and that stuff but just stupid stuff like a tv show or concert or the like.

I assume you mean talking with women and they love these stupid things and can talk about it all day. Just let them run with it, now your head and act interested.

[p7nk]

Talk about current events. not politics and that stuff but just stupid stuff like a tv show or concert or the like.

I assume you mean talking with women and they love these stupid things and can talk about it all day. Just let them run with it, now your head and act interested.

Grandpa you forget your currently logged onto the misc. Do you want me to call the nurse?

[Ironmanlet]

Don't do small talk.

Good thread man.

I feel like everyone wants to go just a little deeper, but they don't want to seem weird or anything so we all walk around like zombies wishing just for a second one ****ing person would go off script to show me they are real.


I posted about this right after it happed but here is a personal anecdote. I go there man. I always gauge their interest and watch their body language. I am not intrusive or anything. I love opening the door to see if they are interested in a deep conversation though. Check this ****ing ****....




I was at a hospital for an appointment. When I got to my doctors office, I was told I had to go get labs. So I follow the signs to the lab. But that is the lab they do the testing, not the drawing. I was looking at signs on doors in an empty hallway and a lady in scrubs noticed my confusion and asked if I need help. I explained the situation, she explained my error and offered to escort me to the correct location. I expressed concern for her duties and she said she doesn't want to go to the office anyway. We started walking. She asked how I was. I contemplated the question and my state of being at the time and answered honestly. I said I am a very fortunate person. She was kind of confused by the answer. She didn't expect that of course, so she questioned it. She asked if I mind explaining it? I told her it isn't anything great or amazing. We are all fortunate for what we have, we just forget sometimes because we want more. I am fortunate because I remember it sometimes and that brings me peace. She quietly contemplated it. There was amount of silence, but it was clear, she wanted more. Rapid fire emotional download.

"I have no ****ing idea what I am doing on a day to day basis. I only do what I think other people think I should do and there is zero satisfaction in that I am so ****ing scared to do anything different. I have no clue what is going on at any time anywhere, and I don't think anyone else does either. And the crazy thing is, that aspect of this life is as equally exhilarating as is terrifying."

At about that time we were getting to the lab and a bunch of people started saying hi to her and were like waving a smiling and happy to see her. Everyone just started gathering us and hugging her.

She looked at me and said you don't know this but I was recently diagnosed with cancer and today is my first day back to work. I am going to carry what you just said with me for the rest of my life.

We all stayed there for like ten minutes. She tried apologizing for projecting her emotions on me, as she was of course emotional. I explained that was literally my intention in that moment, and I am honored to help.


Top ten life experience for sure.

When that lady on tik tok says say the weird thing, people are desperate. Listen to her. Absolutely.


No more small. Be a human with humans. Takes five minutes, changes your whole life.

[Voidgaze]

Ask questions.

Why? Because people love to talk about themselves, especially women.

The challenge is in getting to that "golden" question that will get them smiling or excited to answer.

If you can manage to make them laugh in between that then you're good to go. Once they also start asking you questions it can pretty much go any direction if there's mutual interest. This applies to both socializing in general, and talking to women.

[DolphinPilot]

Stop watching TV and get out of your comfort zone and try new things, find new experiences, learn insight into new things from other people. This can be through documentaries or video essays from YouTube, even. The point is you broaden your horizons and learn of new things to talk about.

Also practice a bit here and there with people you can talk with but don't need to leave a good impression on, like checkout clerks at grocery stores and whatnot

[Train57]

fuk the small chit go for important stuff and ask them to go toilet

[BalognaNbeans]

fuk the small chit go for important stuff and ask them to go toilet

[kusok]

Try this;

yo bitch, this dick ain’t gonna suck itself.

Report back with results.

[jmal2000]

I use to listen to podcast and talk radio a ton. I would wait till they make a joke and pause it and insert my own tag. Then continue playing it. I did this with early days of JRE and Opie&Anthony w/ Patrice O'neal episodes. I got better at being more spontaneous in conversation doing this. I did this for years. It paid off. I got laid with the prettiest women of my life. And I memorized Joe Rogan speeches. When I did that and spit the speeches back to people. I got more handshakes than ever in my life.