I hear you Bruv... I wasn't suggesting that I should try and FWB her now.
I meant from day one I should have just kept it casual with her.. However that is easier said than done..
Anytime you are having regular sex with a fun attractive girl, there is always a possibility of catching the FEELS especially if you connect in other ways too.
To be fair I wasn't on the verge to marry this girl lol.. I think only in the last two months the relationship went from seeing each other once a week, to suddenly more like GF and BF
Going out for meals etc, days out etc.
All that being said, writing is on the wall.. Major mind fuks ahead with this one, also strong possibility she could be BDP or fall under some other personality disorder.
Best stay the fuk from her from here on!
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07-14-2019, 05:26 AM #91
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07-15-2019, 12:13 AM #94
Guys how likely is it, that this chick could fall under some type of borderline personality?
I read somewhere that childhood trauma is a BIG indicater.
01.Abused as a child for many years
02.Has self harmed herself at some point
03.Nudity/Pornography
04.Substance abuse ******* use
05.Shown interest in doing 3sums and 4sums with me
06.Had sex with me within two hours of meeting
Also how would you guys feel about this old sleazy pornographer she used to work with, occasionally stopping at her house?
I actually don't think anything has ever happened between the two, however its still a very sleazy setup that I would not be happy with.
She suggested that I come and stay at her house everytime this guy comes to stay, but I would feel very uncomfortable to be in the same company as the man who used to take pictures or film my girlfriends Vagina close up.Last edited by Soulforge2015; 07-15-2019 at 12:48 AM.
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07-15-2019, 12:51 AM #95
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07-15-2019, 06:31 AM #97
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Poor girl. That's fkg terrible.
She needs counselling, not coke, thresholds or old pornographers hanging out with her. She needs to get out of all those scenes.
I think it was wise to get out. If you ever have contact with her again, just say the above.
That pornographer 's just another version of the sick kunt that sexually abused her as a child.
And did she ever prosecute him, he probably did it go others, very very likely.
What a depressing read.Simple minds need simple answers.
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07-15-2019, 06:32 AM #98
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07-15-2019, 10:07 AM #99
If this girl had completely left her past behind her, I would have been willing to take a risk/chance with her.
However aslong aslong as the pornographer is still in the picture and ******* is in the scene, I think I could have ended up in something very dysfunctional.
Even if she went out with her friends drinking, I would be worried if she is getting high on coke.
******* and drink can losen a womans inhibitions.. I would be on here making a thread on getting CHEATED on.
I feel very conflicted because I miss her, and my attraction for her is very high.
All that being said, I am 43 years old, and do not want to end up in a highly toxic situation that could take YEARS to recover from.
Some men have killed themselves or had mental breakdowns dealing with woman like this.
The childhood abuse and self harming, could suggest a Borderline Personality could rear its ugly head months down the line.
The 10/10 sex doesn't seem like a price worth paying for what could be ahead.
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07-15-2019, 10:38 AM #100
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07-15-2019, 01:41 PM #102
I’m starting to wonder this also. One minute you are saying how you have strong feelings for her and the next she’s a white and a sloot and basically a complete loser in life.
If you actually had feelings for her these words would never come out of your mouth. I don’t find the way you talk about women entertaining or acceptable. What makes you any better than her? You’re on here calling her a complete borderline personality whore.
If you care about her so much become a part of her life and guide her out of the bad things. She will slip up many times and hurt you along the way but maybe that’s something you can tolerate. She is free to live her life the way she wants the same as you are free to make these posts. The fact you feel she’s good enough to screw but so much of a whore you wanted out reflects terribly on you and you are not better than the other men that have destroyed her and called her a whore.
Enough with your posts because you have lost all credibility. Be a man, make a decision and stop messing with other people’s lives.
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07-15-2019, 02:34 PM #103
Just gona ignore you mate, clearly you don't know what you're talking about.
Men fall in love with damaged girls ALL of the time..
You know what destroys a man... Trying to FIX a broken woman... Tempting as it is... It NEVER works out well for the MAN
So if I lost credibility in your eyes... DO ONE.. Don't partake in something you feel like is a Troll.
There are others on here who have engaged with me and given me advice without getting into a hissy fit about..
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07-15-2019, 02:39 PM #104
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07-15-2019, 03:24 PM #105
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07-15-2019, 03:34 PM #106
Yeh Bruv... I was enjoying that Cluster B sex... And didn't care much about the flags.
But months in caught some FEELS plus I could tell the games and drama was creeping in from her part.
So had to Dump and run... To be fair the whole experience has left me feeling a little down and upset.
However thankfully I exited sooner than later.
I aint no captain save a hoe.. Who's going to try fix this woman... They don't want fixing!
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07-15-2019, 03:42 PM #107
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07-16-2019, 03:11 AM #111
Bruv the red flags didn't show up till weeks into seeing her.
Even then she told me bits here and there, usually when a little drunk.
By then I was already under the spell a little and enjoying her company.
I actually convinced myself that whatever she did in the past, I shouldn't judge her on that and give her an opportunity.
Then I found out the pornographer is still in the picture and the ******* use too.. Thats when I realised the dangers and pitfalls ahead and dumped her.
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07-16-2019, 10:53 AM #112
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07-16-2019, 11:35 AM #113
The urge too reel her back in as a FWB is actually lessening as the days go buy.
I did think about it, but now I am more getting around the idea that I dodged a bullet here, and should simply just be thankful of it.
Its really mad Bruv.. A year ago my 2 year ex suddenly dumped me out of the bue, by a crappy text message... And I wasn't even that upset in comparison to this break up lol.
I actually loved my two year ex, where as this girl its more like lust and very high attraction.
You make a vaild point..
I could catch the Feels for her again, and she may end up cheating on me.
Or getting involved with nudity or porn again..
Or I find out later that she definitely has a ******* addiction.
Not to mention the insecurities and paranoia and mistrust that would be around, with dating a girl with this type of history.. And present.
No thanks man!
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07-16-2019, 09:34 PM #114
I haven't read the responses from other Miscers, and of that list, there are red flags that really stick out of all of them.
Financial irresponsibility is one major one. Most marriages and even long term domestic partnerships/relationships end because of financial strain. Experienced people can tell you, it's a major deal. Along with that, the drug use, especially having druggy friends. Wherever there are drugs, there is some serious BS that will go on. Also, pulling away from you and being short, communication is key to a relationship, that silent crap will get old.
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07-16-2019, 11:58 PM #115
I get ALL that mate.. It would have been a disaster.. NOTHING indicates a healthy or successful relationship with her.
However sex with her was like a HERION injection.
When you have a attractive sexy woman who is willing to do anything for you sexualy, it can totally override a mans senses.
Hell I am struggling with this break up
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