Today I have to make the most difficult decision in my life.

[bodyhard]

My oldest sister Noemi was put on life support last night. Back in 2012 she gave me POA to never put her on life support. She since married after that and has been married for about 3 years now. Her husband wants to keep her on life support, but my sister was very adament about not being on life support. We have a meeting at 2 PM today, I am hoping the POA over rules his rights as her husband....

My sister Noemi was my second mother, she raised me as I was the youngest. I will never ever forget her.....

[KeepItMoving]

OMG John. Have strength and do what you know is right/her wishes. Best to you.

[x-trainer ben]

My oldest sister Noemi was put on life support last night. Back in 2012 she gave me POA to never put her on life support. She since married after that and has been married for about 3 years now. Her husband wants to keep her on life support, but my sister was very adament about not being on life support. We have a meeting at 2 PM today, I am hoping the POA over rules his rights as her husband....

My sister Noemi was my second mother, she raised me as I was the youngest. I will never ever forget her.....

Dam man.... you keep getting dealt serious chit like this all the dam time!! Thank god you are such a strong minded individual. When we had an issue like this the husband/wife had the right to over rule us as a family, but you may want to call an attorney and ask the question.

[Jtbny]

Damn John that's awful news. Real sorry to hear about your sister.

[ImBunky]

Wow, sorry to hear. Did she maybe have a living will as well?

[NorwichGrad]

Oh, man.. Really sorry to hear this, John..

Keeping you and the family in my thoughts and prayers.

[raynerd]

Very sorry to hear this John, prayers are with you

[DuracellBunny]

This will sound callous, but pull the plug. I had to make the decision for my brother when I was 21 and I didn't think about it for a second, as I knew his wishes.

This isn't about you and this isn't him, it's about her. I don't know how you get your BIL to see it that way, but it really is that simple (imo).

If she gave you POA for this purpose, she might have a DNR, advanced directive or whatever else you call it, around somewhere for exactly this situation.

[2nd_chance]

Pray first and then follow your convictions John. But remember to be sympathetic to her husband. It's understandable that he doesn't want to let her go. Do your best to explain that it was her adamant wishes and that you are just trying to honor her.

[sy2502]

Wow BH I can't imagine a harder decision in one's life. It takes a special kind of brave to be in your position. Hugs.

[Old-Time-Lifter]

Pray first and then follow your convictions John. But remember to be sympathetic to her husband. It's understandable that he doesn't want to let her go. Do your best to explain that it was her adamant wishes and that you are just trying to honor her.

I have to agree with David. You have to understand that for him he's not just losing a wife, he's losing a dream of their years together, he's losing the role and status of being a husband, he's losing so much more and you have to let him come to grips with all of that.

Prayers for you all.

[Clinos]

Really sad news man, heart goes out to your family and you. This isn't an easy spot to be in. But as 2nd_chance mentioned her wishes are why she put you in charge in case this happened and you have to do as she wanted. It is so easy to just type that out as I'm not going through it, but I think it's likely the best approach you have here.

[latebloomingmom]

My oldest sister Noemi was put on life support last night. Back in 2012 she gave me POA to never put her on life support. She since married after that and has been married for about 3 years now. Her husband wants to keep her on life support, but my sister was very adament about not being on life support. We have a meeting at 2 PM today, I am hoping the POA over rules his rights as her husband....

My sister Noemi was my second mother, she raised me as I was the youngest. I will never ever forget her.....

very sorry to hear this. I have no legal advice though I suspect spouses wishes come first. Is there no reasoning with him? I think for many..its hard to let go. You have my utmost sympathies in this your time of need. Lost my own brother a few weeks ago . Remember to take care of you

[Mark1T]

Thoughts and prayers, Johnny. Very sorry to hear.

Best to you and your family.

[cryoung]

Sorry to hear this. Hopefully there was a DNR or MOLST form filled out ahead of time. My wife is terminal and I know I will be facing that decision at some point in the next 1-2 years so I can completely sympathize with you.

Best of luck, take deep breaths.

[lotusdeva]

I am sorry

[so-tex]

I have to agree with David. You have to understand that for him he's not just losing a wife, he's losing a dream of their years together, he's losing the role and status of being a husband, he's losing so much more and you have to let him come to grips with all of that.

Prayers for you all.

Agree. The husband may think differently when reality sets in.
I remember having to go through this with my dad.
My mom and sister didn't want to let go. (I didn't either, but I knew it was his wish).
Best of luck buddy.

[Rabbitjb]

So sorry you're going through this. Standing up for the woman who raised you and helping her husband understand what she wanted is going to be the hardest and most worthwhile fight of your life. Be calm and empathetic and give him the time to process

Strength and good thoughts, wishing your sister peace

[ChazWood]

Brutal situation. I'm sorry, brother.

Lots of care and support for you here. Know that we're here for you, John.

[Tommyy24]

My prayers go out to your family bruh. Stay strong brotha

[thebigzakbowski]

Im sorry. Praying for you and your family.

[bodyhard]

Thanks everyone for the kind words. Her husband agree to respect her wish when he saw the POA and saw for himself what Noemi wanted. We took her off life support and now we are waiting, she truly is remarkable person with such a strong will. She is breathing on her own and we are just waiting.

[MissHolly]

Thanks everyone for the kind words. Her husband agree to respect her wish when he saw the POA and saw for himself what Noemi wanted. We took her off life support and now we are waiting, she truly is remarkable person with such a strong will. She is breathing on her own and we are just waiting.

So sorry, John. Thankfully her husband respected her wishes. You are such a strong man, and have been dealt so much. No doubt you will get through this as well. But until you do, we are here.

[Lou1se]

I'm sorry to hear it. My heart goes out to you and your family.

[Fishman15]

Thanks everyone for the kind words. Her husband agree to respect her wish when he saw the POA and saw for himself what Noemi wanted. We took her off life support and now we are waiting, she truly is remarkable person with such a strong will. She is breathing on her own and we are just waiting.

You have really been dealt some crap recently with your family. Your inner strength to deal with all this is very impressive my man. Keep up the faith...

[StressMonkey]

Thanks everyone for the kind words. Her husband agree to respect her wish when he saw the POA and saw for himself what Noemi wanted. We took her off life support and now we are waiting, she truly is remarkable person with such a strong will. She is breathing on her own and we are just waiting.

Sorry BH. I can't imagine what a hard time this must be. You're doing what she wanted and there is some solace in that.

[bodyhard]

My sister passed away, thanks everyone for the kind words once again..

[Land_Down_Under]

May she rest in peace op.

edit. we are selfish of the time we have left with loved ones. often hard to let go. you did the right thing op.

[Plateauplower]

My sister passed away, thanks everyone for the kind words once again..

Condolences, hard thing to think about but the right decision was made in honoring her wishes.

[Rabbitjb]

I'm sorry for your loss but pleased you were able to see her wishes were carried out

There's an old blessing
May the road rise to meet you; may the wind be always at your back. May the sun shine warm upon your face and until we meet again may God hold you in the hollow of His hand.