What would you call this person?

[jmt443]

I want to know what the Bodybuilding Forums Community would think of me as, I want criticism. I'm not suicidal or any weird ****, I want you guys to go all out and tell me exactly what you think. I'm in need of some motivation to start my life again.

Me in a nutshell:
Overweight (6-2, 285)
High Cholesterol. Cardiologist said I will die of a heart attack before I'm 30 if I continue eating bad.
Eat Wendy's, McDonalds and BK at least 3 to 4 times a week.
Had 1 girlfriend in the past
No girlfriend now
Only hooked up with one girl ever(My ex)
Absolutely no confidence with anything, including girls
I have a massive ego
I am at a community college with a GPA of 1.8 as of now.
I'm smart, but I don't work for anything academically.
I'm scared of sucess
I'm scared of failure
I play World of Warcraft for about 25+ hours a week.
I browse 4chan and other forums such as the Warcraft forums for hours on end or on my iPhone in school
Always watching porn at night
I am clinically depressed
I have ADHD
Impulsive
Immature
Selfish
Narcissistic
I think I'm better than everyone, but as I write this I realize I have nothing going for me
I don't smoke weed or drink
I have friends, but they are just as unmotivated as I am about school

I want to end this now, I'm so sick and tired of everything I'm at the point of just breaking down, but I wont. I want you people to make me realize what I am, or make me change, help me change.

Please.

[WarWithWeakness]

Uninspired.
Has no direction.

[SideSteal]

What's your arena rating?

I play WoW. There's a LOT of worse things you could be doing.

Have you tried getting serious about training? If not, you should. It's actually a very similar addiction to WoW, in my opinion.

[Disarmed]

What's your arena rating?

I play WoW. There's a LOT of worse things you could be doing.

Have you tried getting serious about training? If not, you should. It's actually a very similar addiction to WoW, in my opinion.

Woops I made a new account because I forgot my password to this one.

I've attempted to get serious about training, but I always just stop with no drive, I don't know why. I think I just go into bitch mode and don't want to lift or work for it.

Oh and WoW in my life is literally an addiction. I get so sucked into it it's not even funny. My grades dropped 2 weeks ago when I redownloaded it.

[SideSteal]

Woops I made a new account because I forgot my password to this one.

I've attempted to get serious about training, but I always just stop with no drive, I don't know why. I think I just go into bitch mode and don't want to lift or work for it.

Oh and WoW in my life is literally an addiction. I get so sucked into it it's not even funny. My grades dropped 2 weeks ago when I redownloaded it.

6'2 and 267.... you could be a monster if you gave it a legitimate chance.

[Disarmed]

6'2 and 267.... you could be a monster if you gave it a legitimate chance.

Haha dude that **** made me smile for the first time today. You really think so? What should I do just clean up my diet and go back to the gym 4/5 days a week?

[SideSteal]

Haha dude that **** made me smile for the first time today. You really think so? What should I do just clean up my diet and go back to the gym 4/5 days a week?

The initial problem is that you would have to find some reason to give a fck, and I don't say that to be funny.

If you decide to give it a legit chance, the first thing I would do would be to find a weight program in the workout program section (starting strength is a good one), and in your spare time while you're waiting for the dungeon queue to pop, read about nutrition here:

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...hp?t=121703981

Eventually you will want to nail your diet down but don't let that word scare you. At your size you could cut on a pretty large amount of calories.

3-4 days/week lifting weights and add in a couple days of cardio and you'd be off to a good start. 6 months from now you'd look and feel like a different person if you do it right.

[Disarmed]

The initial problem is that you would have to find some reason to give a fck, and I don't say that to be funny.

If you decide to give it a legit chance, the first thing I would do would be to find a weight program in the workout program section (starting strength is a good one), and in your spare time while you're waiting for the dungeon queue to pop, read about nutrition here:


Eventually you will want to nail your diet down but don't let that word scare you. At your size you could cut on a pretty large amount of calories.

3-4 days/week lifting weights and add in a couple days of cardio and you'd be off to a good start. 6 months from now you'd look and feel like a different person if you do it right.

Thank you for that, I give a sh*t but sometimes I really need a push, I need someone or something to show me the light and get me going. I really appreciate that helping me a lot with motivation.

[TheHeirApparent]

a loser. but how can someone have a big ego and be narcissistic when they are a world of warcraft beta *******? just saying

[Disarmed]

a loser. but how can someone have a big ego and be narcissistic when they are a world of warcraft beta *******? just saying

Agree'd. Deleted Warcraft, not that hard to throw it away after only 2 weeks playing again.


Keep this **** coming.

[TheHeirApparent]

but it doesnt matter if uve had 1gf. gf's are stupid, just grind on mad bishes brah

[selffirst]

I want to know what the Bodybuilding Forums Community would think of me as, I want criticism. I'm not suicidal or any weird ****, I want you guys to go all out and tell me exactly what you think. I'm in need of some motivation to start my life again.

Me in a nutshell:
Overweight (6-2, 285)
High Cholesterol. Cardiologist said I will die of a heart attack before I'm 30 if I continue eating bad.
Eat Wendy's, McDonalds and BK at least 3 to 4 times a week.
Had 1 girlfriend in the past
No girlfriend now
Only hooked up with one girl ever(My ex)
Absolutely no confidence with anything, including girls
I have a massive ego
I am at a community college with a GPA of 1.8 as of now.
I'm smart, but I don't work for anything academically.
I'm scared of sucess
I'm scared of failure
I play World of Warcraft for about 25+ hours a week.
I browse 4chan and other forums such as the Warcraft forums for hours on end or on my iPhone in school
Always watching porn at night
I am clinically depressed
I have ADHD
Impulsive
Immature
Selfish
Narcissistic
I think I'm better than everyone, but as I write this I realize I have nothing going for me
I don't smoke weed or drink
I have friends, but they are just as unmotivated as I am about school

I want to end this now, I'm so sick and tired of everything I'm at the point of just breaking down, but I wont. I want you people to make me realize what I am, or make me change, help me change.

Please.

You have attached all these negative labels on yourself and now you can't escape or rise above them...Tell yourself this..I have value...I have goals...I have qualities..when you say positive comments enough...they motivate you..If you truly want a healthy existence you'll do whatever it takes to get there...But that goal or motivation needs to be innate...you really need to want it...Your achieving nada at the present..talk is cheap...action begets action..Start exercising...rethink your diet..hit the gym...after you achieve these 3 goals..add more.....Self

[Newbiewar]

you know I was in your shoes, slightly, not so heavy until someone called me lazy...

and my blood raged for several days convincing myself that I wasnt. 3 years later, almost no one(in my social life) has the determination I do when it comes to diet or gym time.

At first I was just proving it to myself that I wasn't lazy, I ran 4 miles a day for several months spend hours in the gym, ate no carbs(my favorite at the time, now I really dont care for pastas or such) and lost 50lbs in 3 months... I was stoked, and a changed person, I know now that whatever I do wrong in life, I know one thing, and thats diet and exercise works for me.

[IcedCoffee12]

Honestly, people would kill to be your height and at that weight range.
Understand that you've been given a massive opportunity that others will never ever get in their life.
I wish i was as tall as you, you've got great potential my man.
Get rid of that ego, those bad habits, start becoming a better person.

[mitsukibody]

Someone who has just gone through a realization and has a chance to change his life for the better, forever.

[Kolyat]

You have attached all these negative labels on yourself and now you can't escape or rise above them...Tell yourself this..I have value...I have goals...I have qualities..when you say positive comments enough...they motivate you..If you truly want a healthy existence you'll do whatever it takes to get there...But that goal or motivation needs to be innate...you really need to want it...Your achieving nada at the present..talk is cheap...action begets action..Start exercising...rethink your diet..hit the gym...after you achieve these 3 goals..add more.....Self

^^good post

Judging from your pic you have a good frame OP, you just need to work on it. As a gamer when I started out in December I just made a deal with myself, no gaming until after I worked out, and it worked, now I don't need to make that deal with myself because I have the discipline to go to the gym when I'm supposed to, and honestly I've fallen in love with it. It's just about getting past the initial barrier.

[SteveGolds]

Woops I made a new account because I forgot my password to this one.

I've attempted to get serious about training, but I always just stop with no drive, I don't know why. I think I just go into bitch mode and don't want to lift or work for it.

Oh and WoW in my life is literally an addiction. I get so sucked into it it's not even funny. My grades dropped 2 weeks ago when I redownloaded it.

Theres nothing wrong with enjoying a game. Hell man, I play magic the gathering every friday at friday night magic at a card shop. My friends give me crap about it all the time.

You just have to learn to limit yourself.

You can even use bodybuilding as a way to reward yourself with playing the game.... or vice versa I mean.. lol

For every hard hour of work you put into lifting weights and cardio per week, multiply that by 2 and thats how many hours you shoud reward yourself for the hard work that you get to play your game.

Also, make time for school. Honestly games like wow and magic the gathering can actually help to improve memory and intelligence.

IDK anything about wow, but magic the gathering involves tons of mathematics and strategy.

Just learn to limit yourself, and work hard if you want to get the reward.

[MichaelRobert]

Honestly, people would kill to be your height and at that weight range.
Understand that you've been given a massive opportunity that others will never ever get in their life.
I wish i was as tall as you, you've got great potential my man.
Get rid of that ego, those bad habits, start becoming a better person.

I agree with saying you're at a great starting point. I was in a similar situation a few months ago, though not as big. I'm 6'1" and was 240. I have 3 brothers and I'm the only one with more than 10% bf let alone my 25% or more. I was down about my size when a friend at work was saying he was jealous of me. He's a great athlete but he's 5'8" and 160. He's been lifting for years and can't get much bigger. He pointed out that after a few months to a year of training I could have a physique that every guy his size would kill for. Try to remember that you're lucky... because guys like you and I are lucky. We already have the bulk, we just need clean it up a bit.

Another thing I'd say is that you'll feel better once you reach some goals. Set something simple that's not concrete and not long term. I've always had huge goals...Dunk a b-ball (I used to be able to)...bench 315....get under 200lb... run a 5k. These are too big and too long term to start off with (although they're still in the back of my head). So I set a goal of working out 5 days a week for 1 month. all you have to do is go to a gym and lift, run, use the eliptical, play a sport, ride a bike. Just make sure you excersice 5 days a week for a month. If you can't go one day, and it's 4 days that week...so what! You still went 4 times and thats still most of the week. If you can manage this, then getting to the gym will becaome a habit, you'll start feeling more energetic, you'll want to maximize your improvements so you'll start checking your diet, upgrading your workouts, this will become your addiction, and a much healthier addiction than fast food and gaming (not that there's anything wrong with a little gaming).

Oh, and the girlfriend thing... don't worry about it. When I was your age I had only had 1 girl too. Now I'm married to a former model. Get into better shape and you'll have more confidence, then you'll soon get a girl without even trying.

Good Luck!

[cokecan]

Find what you like about yourself and accenuate it. Find what you don't like about yourself and change it.

Get your ass out of the house and do things, find people you like or admire and hang out with them.

The people you hang out with will either bring you down or raise you up. It's your choice what direction you want to go.

Ego is the downfall of many people. The older you get the more you realize how much your ego affects your daily life. You don't ask girls out because if they shoot you down your ego is bruised. You don't do things that you like but might not be good at because it bruises your ego. Screw the ego, get out and live.

[dragevo]

This is how you ll end up with this life style:

After failing out of college you ll stay living with your mom and dad. You ll be a beast on world of warcraft. Your mom will bitch at you every day to get up and do something. You hate that. You wont have freinds because they ll move on and have their own respectable lives. You keep adding on the pounds. You ll never have a girl or chance of getting laid unless you have a lot of money. You health will continue to deteriorate as if it can get any worse. you get sick and or injured from being decrepid. You get started on pain pills which you ll soon be addicted to. You ll be at an all time low. Life will have passed you by. Your done.

Trust me and follow this plan.

No more fast food period.
get an old cell phone and get rid of internet.
education should be #1 priority...
get ur lazy ass up and f*** S*** up
STFU and workout
finish school and bust your hump to get job
by then you will look good because you wont except otherwise
get a couple females


This is living. Stop complaining and do it NOW

[Disarmed]

This is how you ll end up with this life style:

After failing out of college you ll stay living with your mom and dad. You ll be a beast on world of warcraft. Your mom will bitch at you every day to get up and do something. You hate that. You wont have freinds because they ll move on and have their own respectable lives. You keep adding on the pounds. You ll never have a girl or chance of getting laid unless you have a lot of money. You health will continue to deteriorate as if it can get any worse. you get sick and or injured from being decrepid. You get started on pain pills which you ll soon be addicted to. You ll be at an all time low. Life will have passed you by. Your done.

Thanks for the responses guys, they have all really helped me. Out of all of them so far this one scared me the most. I've never heard this from anyone besides my mom and something just ****ing clicked. Thank you for this one, huge ****ing wake up call.

[dragevo]

No prob

[Ahmed81]

I think you are a kid with a lot of potential man. You have to stay properly motivated though. You gotta get in the classroom and bust your ass bro. You don't want to end up at Burger king working a 9-5. As for the weight room, you can use many things to motivate you. For my first year, I used a girl I really liked as my motivation to workout. Your first few months are going to be the hardest, but once you start to see reults, that will be your motivation. Good luck bro, wish you all the best!

[RugbyTank]

What's your arena rating?

I play WoW. There's a LOT of worse things you could be doing.

Have you tried getting serious about training? If not, you should. It's actually a very similar addiction to WoW, in my opinion.

I didnt read anything up until i play wow.

I laughed so hard , i wonder how many lives WoW has effed up in one way or another we should make an epic thread with a poll

[JOE_EDGE]

As many others have stated, its all about ditching your negative beliefs about yourself, hell one attribute you have is you can take critism very well and turn them into something.

The gym isn't a chore or a punishment, sure the pain is bad but the feeling after it is AMAZING and trust me as soon as you feel better the gym will become your "Server" haha see what I did there :P

[Fatman2]

Dude stop playing wow, I've played it myself for hours on end, you play for countless hours getting gold, raid every night for what, some pixels that says you have a flashy robe or something, you get that feeling that you've achieved something but in the real world you haven't... Focus on this world not a virtual world... What would you be doing instead of going to the gym? If you're bored and think I'll play wow for a couple hours, DON'T, go watch a hockey game or hang out in a park with some mates or something just don't play wow. Try and get a friend to go to the gym with you so you can talk to the gym, it makes the time go by alot quicker, or even use it as a place to hang out (as long as you don't take all the benches/weights up ).

[Disarmed]

I think you are a kid with a lot of potential man. You have to stay properly motivated though. You gotta get in the classroom and bust your ass bro. You don't want to end up at Burger king working a 9-5. As for the weight room, you can use many things to motivate you. For my first year, I used a girl I really liked as my motivation to workout. Your first few months are going to be the hardest, but once you start to see reults, that will be your motivation. Good luck bro, wish you all the best!

Thanks bro, women are my motivation now that Summer is coming and hopefully I can transfer to a real college next semester.

[Disarmed]

I would just like to say a quick thank you to everyone who posted in this thread. I read every response, and seriously this helped me more than words can describe. Every one of you who contributed, even the guy who said we should have a poll on how many lives WoW has ruined, literally changed my mindset and put me back on my grind.

I know it is hard to think that you changed someone's life over the internet, being that I am just an entity on a screen, but look at this message and understand that I am a person typing this, and I am so grateful the community here was so helpful in my time of need.

Thank all of you guys who posted, and a thank you in advance to anyone who will continue to post.

[JOE_EDGE]

Am sure I speak for everyone in this community dude in saying that we are all in this together, we will help one another, the brotherhood of Iron, just set achievable goals then add more when you reach them, it will become more of an addiction than WoW and I am guessing a healthy one :P

[jmd92]

Sounds like you need a new group of friends OP. If you want to get down to brass tacks, it comes down to how badly you want to get to where you want to go in life. "Success will only come when the pain of change is greater than the pain of staying the same."

Hit the iron. Hit it hard. Eat your protein. Sleep eight hours. Eventually you find your former self will subside and by grades a brand new you will be built on top.

As for academics, you need to start somewhere. As long as you're trying, then everything will work out.