Girlfriend doesnt want to have sex after comment I made(yes idiot)

[Capton Obvious]

Ill get right to it, we were having an in depth discussion for about an hour, at least the lasthalf hour was abotu sexual stuff. She asks me what I think of her vagina,.................and I tell her. I said its not physically attractive and not that great to look at. Well then she gets upset and is hurt. Then the next day she throws the comment out "well if you dont think its attractive you probably dont want to have sex with me then". So it looks like she is punishing me for what I said.

Ok I was only being honest here. I didnt say it was disgusting just not a work of art. Plus I know most guys dont like the vag for how it looks or tastes but how it feels. I thought girls knew this.

Now what do I do? I cant go back and say i love how it looks or she'll know im lying. Do I just say sorry and tell her she's beautiful? im not really sure here, I didnt think what I said would upset her like this. Have any of you faced a question similar to this?

In need of advice thanks bros.

[TheBigEasy]

This thread is worthless without pics....

pics then advice to follow.

[Killah Hills]

Surgery

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[Amris]

You need to let her know that she's being childish.

Be blunt with her about it. "You know what, first off, I hate to break it to you, but vaginas are NOT pretty. Men who say they are, are lying to make you feel better. Hairy balls and buttcracks aren't pretty either. If you try to tell me that my hairy assh0le and my hairy balls are pretty, I'm going to call you out as a liar. Well, I thought we had an adult, mature relationship where I didn't have to lie and say that hairy asscracks and hairy vaginas are pretty. Get over it."

You don't owe her an apology. You need to tell her that if every time you are honest with her, she's going to act like this, then all she's doing is teaching you to be a liar, and is that what she really wants, for you to be a liar?

You did nothing wrong, do not apologize.

If she persists with this nonsense, turn it around on her. If she's going to "punish you" by withhold sex, then send her home and tell her to call you when she wants to act like an adult.

This is NOT about pretty vaginas, bud, it is about power and control. She thinks she wants to force you to give in and apologize to her. But the truth is, if you do, she will lose respect for you.

[TinTailor]

You need to let her know that she's being childish.

Be blunt with her about it. "You know what, first off, I hate to break it to you, but vaginas are NOT pretty. Men who say they are, are lying to make you feel better. Hairy balls and buttcracks aren't pretty either. If you try to tell me that my hairy assh0le and my hairy balls are pretty, I'm going to call you out as a liar. Well, I thought we had an adult, mature relationship where I didn't have to lie and say that hairy asscracks and hairy vaginas are pretty. Get over it."

You don't owe her an apology. You need to tell her that if every time you are honest with her, she's going to act like this, then all she's doing is teaching you to be a liar, and is that what she really wants, for you to be a liar?

You did nothing wrong, do not apologize.

If she persists with this nonsense, turn it around on her. If she's going to "punish you" by withhold sex, then send her home and tell her to call you when she wants to act like an adult.

This is NOT about pretty vaginas, bud, it is about power and control. She thinks she wants to force you to give in and apologize to her. But the truth is, if you do, she will lose respect for you.

Lollllllllllllll.

[Capton Obvious]

Thanks for the help. I wont cave in over this. Im going to ask HER if she thinks it looks good and if I hear anything other than "deff no!" Im callign her out on it. The thing is she proly thinks the same as me, but wont admit it and just wants me to reassure her it looks good, even if I have to lie to her. Lol women....

[Lift88]

You need to let her know that she's being childish.

Be blunt with her about it. "You know what, first off, I hate to break it to you, but vaginas are NOT pretty. Men who say they are, are lying to make you feel better. Hairy balls and buttcracks aren't pretty either. If you try to tell me that my hairy assh0le and my hairy balls are pretty, I'm going to call you out as a liar. Well, I thought we had an adult, mature relationship where I didn't have to lie and say that hairy asscracks and hairy vaginas are pretty. Get over it."

You don't owe her an apology. You need to tell her that if every time you are honest with her, she's going to act like this, then all she's doing is teaching you to be a liar, and is that what she really wants, for you to be a liar?

You did nothing wrong, do not apologize.

If she persists with this nonsense, turn it around on her. If she's going to "punish you" by withhold sex, then send her home and tell her to call you when she wants to act like an adult.

This is NOT about pretty vaginas, bud, it is about power and control. She thinks she wants to force you to give in and apologize to her. But the truth is, if you do, she will lose respect for you.

Nice advice. No point in me posting my thoughts when you said everything perfectly.

[CLK-GTR]

i deleted my original post but anyway i think we can all work out the moral of this story. never be honest with a girl about anything

[Lift88]

No reason for me to quote a deleted message

I've learned to always lie when it comes to a question on the girls appearance, regardless of what it is. You can't win. I just won't blow things out of proportion or I'll try to find a way to avoid the question. Those are such deathtraps those questions, if she's very insecure, just run, ruuuunnn!!!!

[CLK-GTR]

"does my bum look big in this?"

"am i wearing too much makeup?"

"do you like my new hair?" - although this one is usually asked when they've had some sort of horrific new haircut/hairstyle that deep down they know is ****ing vile

[niiick]

wow ... "your vagina is ugly" ... way to be pro @ relationships.

[bodybuilda]

come on now even if it is ugly, you dont say that. if a girl tells you that ur penis looks horribly you'd lose confidence and im sure many others would to.
u just dont say something like that. should of said something like, "it must be hot since it taste and feels good..."

then she'll be like awwwww and instead of sending you home she would of spread her legs for you....

Rule of thumb.. never say something negative to a girls looks..

They are much more sensitive than we are when it comes to looks.

[swimmd99]

if she pointed at your penis and said omg its so small bc it was 3", you probably wouldnt like that huh

telling her that her vagina is ugly is not much different dude

[bodybuilda]

if she pointed at your penis and said omg its so small bc it was 3", you probably wouldnt like that huh

telling her that her vagina is ugly is not much different dude

Still you should not say its ugly. And if a guy has a 3 incher, its obvious that he would most likely receive a comment that its small.

[BloodnGuts]

Surgery

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I sent them an email: Your site is useless without pics

[swimmd99]

Still you should not say its ugly. And if a guy has a 3 incher, its obvious that he would most likely receive a comment that its small.

thats what i was saying.....still shouldnt have told her it was ugly if he wanted to get near it again

[user23960508710783]

if she pointed at your penis and said omg its so small bc it was 3", you probably wouldnt like that huh

telling her that her vagina is ugly is not much different dude

I wish I could rep you again.

swimmd99 is right -- its hard to feel sexy/attractive if your partner explicitly tells you that your genitals are hideous.

You might have been honest, but some things are just better left unsaid.

It's going to be pretty hard to get around this -- keep us posted.

And am I the only one who DOESN'T think vaginas are hideous to look at? I'm all for the vagina in every sense, personally.

[NeloAngelo]

You sound like a little B8tch here, sorry. What I would do is tell her I was just telling it like it is. Say you probably think my dick is ugly as ****, too. She is just busting your balls and if you get frantic about it she will lose a lot of respect for you. Man up, if she continues this act break up with her. Or just pretend like it doens't bother you, if you are able to control your horniness. I guarantee she is just testing you, though. Don't get so worked up about it.

[Amris]

Oh, come on, people, vaginas are f*cking ugly as ****. Vaginas are the reason I can't be gay.

[NeloAngelo]

Oh, come on, people, vaginas are f*cking ugly as ****. Vaginas are the reason I can't be gay.

Well, I don't know, we are biologically tuned to be attracted to them (males). Yes, some vaginas are flat-out ugly, though, due to floppy lips, bad hair cuts, and other atrocities.

I can't say I find anything aesthetically pleasant about a penis to look at, though (no homo).

[TheCore]

Tell her you don't want her nasty vagina anyway, and finish it with; I'm rich biatch!

[One Badass Mofo]

OP:

You should have said "it's cute" or something similar. By saying it's ugly, you made her more self-conscious. It's like cutting your own balls off man, you shouldn't have done it.

[yzrider400f]

ask her if she thinks battle-axe wounds are attractive, and if she says no, you've struck gold.

[TheCore]

Oh, come on, people, vaginas are f*cking ugly as ****. Vaginas are the reason I can't be gay.

Only old pussy looks funky...

Edit; add fat and skinny also!

[King Makaveli]

To the OP: You sure do have a way with words, makes me wonder how you got her in the first place.

[One Badass Mofo]

To the OP: You sure do have a way with words, makes me wonder how you got her in the first place.

lol strong sarcasm and pain inflicted.

[Laughing Man]

Yeah some are not the best looking but any guy who think a chicks sex is ugly is just gay. Go get yourself a stick...***!!!!

[RickRoss]

To Captain Obvious:

I hope you have a deep well of back up pussy, because you won't be getting any from her 4 a long ass time, if any at all.

[Lift88]

Oh, come on, people, vaginas are f*cking ugly as ****. Vaginas are the reason I can't be gay.

I agree, I think alot of us agree. I for one wouldn't say that to her though and it sounds like a majority of the guys here wouldn't either. Why would we? We've all learned from the past, everytime a girl ever asks a question on her appearance if we ever give an honest negative opinion it causes nothing but drama and trouble. Were only going to do that so many times till we catch on. We know better. His girl wanted to hear her vagina looks great, regardless that they look ugly. He was honest, look where it got him. Granted it's the girls fault for acting this way, he should have known she would do this.

I will always lie to a girl when she asks a question on her appearance, or at least try to change the subject, you just can't win unless it's a positive response. I'm not implying this is true to all girls, but if she's the least bit insecure, it's trouble.

if she pointed at your penis and said omg its so small bc it was 3", you probably wouldnt like that huh

telling her that her vagina is ugly is not much different dude

It's different if she just flat out said it, whereas if he asked. Lets be realistic, if someone had a 3 inch penis they know damn well they are small. Why would he ever ask a girl, "so, do you think I have a big penis?", if she lies, he knows she's lying to make him feel good, if she tells the truth, it hurts his feelings even though he knows he's small.

I think the problem with the TC is she asked what you thought about it (not how it looks), and you answered basing it off of how it looks. You could have said something along these lines and it wouldn't be a lie:

her: "so, what do you think of my vagina?"
You: "What are you kidding? I love it! Why would you even ask a question like that?" at which point you playfully kiss her/feel her up.

She'll like the answer, probably drop the subject and eveyones happy. You don't have to lie, but try to learn how to word things so it isn't going to hurt her feelings. She is acting childish, Amris is right on her advice, but this could have been avoided. You don't have to lie, but you can change the subject or divert where the conversation is heading with careful wording.

[Coal Man]

You need to let her know that she's being childish.

Be blunt with her about it. "You know what, first off, I hate to break it to you, but vaginas are NOT pretty. Men who say they are, are lying to make you feel better. Hairy balls and buttcracks aren't pretty either. If you try to tell me that my hairy assh0le and my hairy balls are pretty, I'm going to call you out as a liar. Well, I thought we had an adult, mature relationship where I didn't have to lie and say that hairy asscracks and hairy vaginas are pretty. Get over it."

You don't owe her an apology. You need to tell her that if every time you are honest with her, she's going to act like this, then all she's doing is teaching you to be a liar, and is that what she really wants, for you to be a liar?

You did nothing wrong, do not apologize.

If she persists with this nonsense, turn it around on her. If she's going to "punish you" by withhold sex, then send her home and tell her to call you when she wants to act like an adult.

This is NOT about pretty vaginas, bud, it is about power and control. She thinks she wants to force you to give in and apologize to her. But the truth is, if you do, she will lose respect for you.

Amris...you bring a tear to my eye.

I don't know what this section would do without you