Dealing with rudeness?

[fitlover]

Am I the only girl on this site who gets sh*t and is considered a "cyberwhore" just because I'm not a guy and I joined a bodybuilding site overflowing with men?!?!

This is really getting to me. I haven't done anything to anyone, and I haven't even been on here a week and I'm getting hate mail...

Does anyone else deal with this problem?

[twirlyfry]

I haven't had any problems. Who are you getting hate mail from? Members on this site? Which forums have you posted in? I know the regular Misc. section is pretty rough. I'm sorry you've been having this problem!

[fitlover]

I haven't had any problems. Who are you getting hate mail from? Members on this site? Which forums have you posted in? I know the regular Misc. section is pretty rough. I'm sorry you've been having this problem!

I guess just the misc section, and the teen bodybuilding as well...and yeah, members on this site. I just don't see what the deal is - more people on here want to insult eachother than help eachother out. It's kind of disgusting.

[SpittfireDA]

I'll just say that, after looking at your other threads/posts/pictures/stats, you ARE projecting yourself as the typical attention-seeker they're tagging you as.

If that's not what you're going for, then I would re-examine how you choose to represent yourself. Otherwise, don't come to the female section looking for sympathy when you post threads like:

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...hp?t=112929301

Good luck in your training.

[soulsultan]

I've noticed unnecessary rudeness all over the forum. I can't say that I've noticed it happening specifically to you, because I haven't observed it. But, yeah, there are @$$holes all over the forum, but that's to be expected on the internet.

[fitlover]

I'll just say that, after looking at your other threads/posts/pictures/stats, you ARE projecting yourself as the typical attention-seeker they're tagging you as.

If that's not what you're going for, then I would re-examine how you choose to represent yourself. Otherwise, don't come to the female section looking for sympathy when you post threads like:

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...hp?t=112929301

Good luck in your training.

I know I know, it probably did come across the wrong way, but seriously it was just a question. Because what I expect from a bodybuilding site is serious-minded people who either come on to get help or to give help, not post around their pubescent rantings which have little or nothing to do with fitness whatsoever.

I wasn't looking for "sympathy". I was just curious to know if I was the only one getting mowed down with this bs.

[ACCW]

I hear you. I started coming here to get advice from people with more bodybuilding experience and information, and I've asked a few questions in nutrition and a lot of answers have been pretty harsh. When I'm asking an honest question, looking for BTDT advice, I'm generally not expecting people to be flat out rude. I'm a newbie, though, and still trying to feel out the vibe on this board. No hate mail, just a couple of harsh OT comments.

Then again, maybe it's because I'm usually on more woman/parenting centered boards??

OP, just tune out the negative and focus on the helpful responses.

[Mindi912]

Act like an Attention Whore and you'll get treated like one.

We come here to talk bodybuilding not to pay attention to insecure little boys and girls.

[smokey_78]

Act like an Attention Whore and you'll get treated like one.

We come here to talk bodybuilding not to pay attention to insecure little boys and girls.

Agreed

[sacha2]

I learned many, many years ago, that posting pictures of my cleavage and ass (in jeans, not showing off muscle) would attract immature male attention. See, offering immature pictures will attract immature comments. You look really young. Consider this one of life's many lessons.

There are plenty of women here with bikini photos that are clearly for displaying muscle and bodyfat. Those women do not receive the same kind of responses. Bodybuilding photos will attract bodybuilding comments.

[martina92685]

The teen section and the misc are the same people. Don't waste your time there unless you really are seeking attention. If that is the case, don't complain. If it's not the case, then just stay away from those sections.

[Mata Leao]

I'll just say that, after looking at your other threads/posts/pictures/stats, you ARE projecting yourself as the typical attention-seeker they're tagging you as.

If that's not what you're going for, then I would re-examine how you choose to represent yourself. Otherwise, don't come to the female section looking for sympathy when you post threads like:

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...hp?t=112929301

Good luck in your training.

rolflflflflfl lol x2


but yeah i think u answered ur own question threadstarter.... the site has alot more guys and guys love busting balls... thats how we are.... and alot get annoyed at the chicks that come to the site and add nothing and dont even workout.. u know the ppl hate trolls or the ppl with just a pic of a car or a thumb on their picture...

also just to make sure ur not fraudin u mind posting a pic of wat the guys r pm'ing u?? wat r they saying?
also the misc is not even close to being as bad as ppl make it to be its not like its another site... its all the same bb.com... the misc posters are the same as the guys that post in the powerlifting,nutritional and mma section its funny how ppl make it seem like its a different world.

[-SLIX-]

Am I the only girl on this site who gets sh*t and is considered a "cyberwhore" just because I'm not a guy and I joined a bodybuilding site overflowing with men?!?!

This is really getting to me. I haven't done anything to anyone, and I haven't even been on here a week and I'm getting hate mail...

Does anyone else deal with this problem?

teen and misc are dangerous for females, this is the site for you www.musculardevelopment.com all serious people and real athletes and bodybuilders ansd ****

[SpittfireDA]

Act like an Attention Whore and you'll get treated like one.

We come here to talk bodybuilding not to pay attention to insecure little boys and girls.

^ Yes.

"Serious-Minded" people usually aren't the ones with avatars of spoons and cleavage, post 'e-stats' or e-fight.

I've posted in the regular Misc on occasion myself and haven't had a problem.

[ChorizoFit]

I'm from the teen section (Not one of the rude ones) and a word of advice, They get used to you, I've seen it happen. You'll get a lot of **** for the first couple of days but after that not so much. Just dont make those type of threads and youll be fine.

[Mindi912]

^ Yes.

"Serious-Minded" people usually aren't the ones with avatars of spoons and cleavage, post 'e-stats' or e-fight.

I've posted in the regular Misc on occasion myself and haven't had a problem.

Me either on the regular Misc front.

[demike]

Me either on the regular Misc front.

Its because you are mindiesel and you kick ass.

[beardymcbeard]

Those male teens really don't have lives outside the net and protein shakes.

And if you fight them, it suggests that you too don't have a life outside it.

If you're that into bodybuilding, care what the people who talk about bodybuilding say to you.

[furiana]

I know some of it is just the people on the forums; girls with pictures of their muscles and workout bench will probably get some of those comments, too. However, I haven't heard of them getting hate-mail about it.

It might be the pictures like your avatar - leaning forward with breasts pushed together, lips pursed, vacant eyes, lots of clevage b/c of the pose, in an outfit that looks like it a playboy bunny's (the hat and the spoon).

The ab photos and legs photos don't look as attention-whorish to me, and most of your posts sound perfectly normal. In fact, the pancakes sound really good! Even so, the posts sounded odd to me at first, and I think it's because that avatar was my first impression.

(The *blink blink* in the "Am I...?" thread comes of really strangely next to your avatar, too.)

So, if you want to come off as more serious, you can change your avatar/profile pic. I'm not saying the mail will stop immediately - some people will still remember your old ones - but at least you'll look more serious to more people.

[Mata Leao]

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not to sound rude but wtf r u feeding??? seems like a small kangaroo or a small horse.. actually might be a bunny.. but if its a bunny the its a big as bunny
also yeah most ppl find that if u dont show ur body on a bb site then were back at square 1...so having a pic with jeans and a super cleavaged top would be more sexualised then a pic of the same girl with a bikini on..

[furiana]

It's a wallaby.

[BabyJan3]

just don't post in the misc unless you are willing to post a pic of yourself holding a spoon, or nudes. You shouldn't have any problems if you don't venture in there

[kimm4]

[QUOTE=fitlover;264759911]Am I the only girl on this site who gets sh*t and is considered a "cyberwhore" just because I'm not a guy and I joined a bodybuilding site overflowing with men?!?!

This is really getting to me. I haven't done anything to anyone, and I haven't even been on here a week and I'm getting hate mail...

No, can't say I've ever had a problem.

[KarenPhil]

I've never gotten hate mail or anything even close to rude treatment but I don't post pictures that are uh...provocative, nor do I bother with the forums the teen boys & jerks tend to circulate. I don't know if that helps any...

[ToraAdams]

I don't think your pictures are too sexual. I have seen way way way worse on this site.

Yes I have had rude comments from some LADIES on here especially when I first started posting.


Now they just ignore me because its obvious my good attitude just makes them look foolish . Plus Its pretty obvious that I am working very hard to make positive changes in my mind body and soul.

My suggestion to you don't pay any attention to negative people . Its not worth it.
Keep working hard, and don 't let anybody get in the way of your goals.

Their bad attitude is a reflection of whats wrong with them . Not whats wrong with you. I'm sure you don't need more people beating you up more than you can do to yourself.

You can't graft a new idea on a closed mind. Its useless and ridiculous.

Don't post in areas where people are ignorant or rude. Don't ever respond to them it just fuels their idiocy even further.

[fitlover]

I know some of it is just the people on the forums; girls with pictures of their muscles and workout bench will probably get some of those comments, too. However, I haven't heard of them getting hate-mail about it.

It might be the pictures like your avatar - leaning forward with breasts pushed together, lips pursed, vacant eyes, lots of clevage b/c of the pose, in an outfit that looks like it a playboy bunny's (the hat and the spoon).

The ab photos and legs photos don't look as attention-whorish to me, and most of your posts sound perfectly normal. In fact, the pancakes sound really good! Even so, the posts sounded odd to me at first, and I think it's because that avatar was my first impression.

(The *blink blink* in the "Am I...?" thread comes of really strangely next to your avatar, too.)

So, if you want to come off as more serious, you can change your avatar/profile pic. I'm not saying the mail will stop immediately - some people will still remember your old ones - but at least you'll look more serious to more people.

Lips weren't pursed. I can't help it if my lips are that way.

I guess I was just in a silly mood when I took the picture, and didn't see it as something to be taken in a very "sexual" manner. I've seen waaayyyy worse pictures of girls on this site.

Also "blinking" isn't to be associated with me fluttering my eyelashes, like everyone must have thought, lol :P. It was more of an expression relating to being somewhat lost.

Anyway, I've changed my picture and made it clear to people that I'm not here to just fool around, but to actually get somewhere. Things have slowed down a bit more now that people realize I'm actually serious.

I guess it's just a thing with me, I'll take a picture like that and not really mean anything by it, just that people here seemed to take it the wrong way.

[Swole-N-Htown]

This is really getting to me. I haven't done anything to anyone, and I haven't even been on here a week and I'm getting hate mail...

Does anyone else deal with this problem?

F*ck that! Who cares, don't worry about some ****** ass guy who likes to beat women down on a damn forum...seriously.

[KarenPhil]

I just looked at your pics & I have no idea why you were targeted w/hate mail. I can think of many women on this site, offhand, who do far more to exploit themselves & come across as pathetic & whorish & they get compliments. Its twisted. Your pics really don't seem that way to me. Just ignore the people who send you hate mail. They have problems.

[sexyhustle]

Am I the only girl on this site who gets sh*t and is considered a "cyberwhore" just because I'm not a guy and I joined a bodybuilding site overflowing with men?!?!

This is really getting to me. I haven't done anything to anyone, and I haven't even been on here a week and I'm getting hate mail...

Does anyone else deal with this problem?

this kind of stuff happens to everyone. some people (not all) will be mean and rude for no reason at all, theres no preventing it, theres no changing them, so DONT even try to make them stop, the best you can do is tell them you dont like it, if they dont appoligize and realize they were wrong, just ignore them. Ignoreing them will save you sadness, and it will save you all the time of agrueing or gossiping that never makes them better. dont waste your time worring about them or getting upset, just move on to talk to the next person who does want to have a nice conversation with you.