How Serious Are This Girls Red Flags??

[DarkHorse2004]

Op youre a red flag for men wanting other men to become rational and clear thinking.


Literally a 10 out of 10 on a scale of red flags.


Fukin pathetic

[Soulforge2015]

Seek professional help. Obviously you have some issues to work on if you're so hooked on this crazy chick.

Bruv i think its you who seems to have the issues...

Dude i dumped her.. Guys who are hooked on crazy sloots, don't dump then... they continue seeing her, till they either get cheated on, or they end up getting mind fuked.

MOST guys outhere will get sucked into this type of situation, and stay because of the sex..

I personally know of men who have stayed with sloots/cluster b woman, and got to the point of wanting to take their own lives.

Where as I got rid of her... its all good you coming on this forum and ACTING all big man and alpha... Its because your not directly involved with the situation.

[dolviolex]

Bruv i think its you who seems to have the issues...

Dude i dumped her.. Guys who are hooked on crazy sloots, don't dump then... they continue seeing her, till they either get cheated on, or they end up getting mind fuked.

MOST guys outhere will get sucked into this type of situation, and stay because of the sex..

I personally know of men who have stayed with sloots/cluster b woman, and got to the point of wanting to take their own lives.

Where as I got rid of her... its all good you coming on this forum and ACTING all big man and alpha... Its because your not directly involved with the situation.

What does “bruv” even mean? Guys that are hooked on loser girls come on these websites and drag this thread out for weeks. You’re 43. Holy.

[rgb159]

I met this chick online, I dumped her two weeks ago.

Did I do the right thing??


We dated for 4 months, the sex was insane, and she was the hottest girl I ever dated.


I also enjoyed her company and we had things in common.


She even talked about me moving in with her, meeting her family etc. I got totally sucked into this idea of getting serious with her.


However what are your thoughts on the Red Flags??



01.Was abused as a child from the age of 5 upwards.


02.Has self harmed herself at some point in the past, has scars on her arms.


03.Has worked as a semi nude dancer in bars & clubs & various hotels around the world some years ago, maybe 8 years ago.

04.Has done nude modelling, bondage modelling & has been involved with pornography too.. she told me she never took part in pornography, only filming it (Could be lying)

05.The guy she did the nude modelling for, the photographer stops at her house with her, every other month.. I think he runs a photography company, but dabbles in porno too.

He looks old and ugly, probably in his 60s, but she claims they have never had sex, and wants me to be okay with the situation or for me to be present everytime he comes over to sleep at her house.

How can this situation be strictly platonic, when he has photographed or filmed her private parts?

06.She uses ******* occasionally and has a friend who is addicted to *******, that she lends money to.. Financially irresponsible!

Also I don't know how serious her ******* use is, she could be an addict for all
I know, or become an addict one day.


07.She has many male friends, and talks about them very often.


08.She claims to have taken part in a 3sum and foursome in the past, but didn't enjoy it.


09.She has had a 6 year Lesbian relationship too, but claims they didn't have sex, she
Just couldn't be with men anymore.


10.She admits to having intamicy issues, due to her history.


11.She made little effort to text me..Usually only hear from her once a day, for a few minutes. The communication between us, was rather brief and regimented.


13. We once had a little fallout, and she pulled away, and reduced communication with me, imstead of talking things over like an adult.

14. She invited me to her brothers birthday party, everyone was pretty drunk.. One of the very close family freinds said to me.. GOOD LUCK MATE, SHE IS YOUR PROBLEM NOW.


That really scared me... I kind of feel like she is too damaged to have a relationship with.. and she doesn't have good morality or values.

The nudity and porn she claims is all in her past years ago, however it is still a reflection of her character.

Also keep in mind... The pornographer is still on the scene and stops at her house, and she still uses *******.

How do i know that she won't get into financial difficulties one day, and with the encouragement of the pornographer start doing nudity again or worse?

The influence and the ******* is still there.

I only see red. Many red flags.

[Soulforge2015]

You are 43 years old... middle aged man on some bodybuilding forum calling women sloots and referring to people as Brah's. When I am your age I want to be sitting on my back deck sipping an expensive liquor looking down at my Rolex Daytona.

I think you need to re-evaluate your life. End this thread already.

I already ended it *******... you just revived the fukin thing again!!

[bnp369]

Take it from my experience OP. My ex didn’t quite as many red flags as your train wreck, but the same thing: hot girl, sex was great, love bombed me, etc. But then I learned of her past of having a secret relationship with a guy twice her age and picked up on attention-seeking slooty behavior. Also couldn’t handle conflict and would withdraw or gaslight me.

Ended up cheating on me 8 months in.

You made the right choice.

[keffr]

If you had married her she would've been going to lunch with her male friends and still talking about them all the time.

Then, when you reacted she would escalate it into the bigggest blowout argument you ever had.

Then, soon after, she would sweet talk you and make it seem like you are unreasonable.

Then this cycle would just repeat until you got sick of it.

[Soulforge2015]

Take it from my experience OP. My ex didn’t quite as many red flags as your train wreck, but the same thing: hot girl, sex was great, love bombed me, etc. But then I learned of her past of having a secret relationship with a guy twice her age and picked up on attention-seeking slooty behavior. Also couldn’t handle conflict and would withdraw or gaslight me.

Ended up cheating on me 8 months in.

You made the right choice.

Thanks for your input mate.

Now that I have had time away from her... I can clearly see that I dodged a fukin NUKE..

No puzzy is worth this much of a mind fuk..

I should count myself lucky, that I ejected before she cheated on me.. And before the games or mind fuks started.

Her past is just too damn sleazy.. Can't believe I even considered her for a LTR

Moving forward I will be vetting the shyte out of woman.

[Soulforge2015]

If you had married her she would've been going to lunch with her male friends and still talking about them all the time.

Then, when you reacted she would escalate it into the bigggest blowout argument you ever had.

Then, soon after, she would sweet talk you and make it seem like you are unreasonable.

Then this cycle would just repeat until you got sick of it.

Yes mate.. She was always mentioning knowing this dude or that dude..

She even wanted me to do a night out with one of her male freinds.

Could have turned into a triangulation type of situation..

At the beginning part of the relationship, she was talking about her male freind actually MOVING IN WITH HER

Holy fuk man... This girl was a mental break down waiting to happen.

Blessed to have got out only 4 months in.

Her body was stunning.. Sex with as addictive as fuk... Men have been driven to suicide over damaged chicks like this.

[keffr]

Its a shame you couldn't have spent a night in with her and the photographer just to see how she would have acted.
Yeah mate she really sounds like a triangulator. I have gone through this myself.

The night out with a male friend would also have been interesting. Judging by my experience, she would be playing you both off against each other. Probably talking to the other bloke all night.

I'm wondering how many people are driven to suicide or other extreme acts due to this narcissism thing.

Did you ever get the impression that she enjoys being yelled at? (and gets a feeling of satisfaction)

[Soulforge2015]

Its a shame you couldn't have spent a night in with her and the photographer just to see how she would have acted.
Yeah mate she really sounds like a triangulator. I have gone through this myself.

The night out with a male friend would also have been interesting. Judging by my experience, she would be playing you both off against each other. Probably talking to the other bloke all night.

I'm wondering how many people are driven to suicide or other extreme acts due to this narcissism thing.

Did you ever get the impression that she enjoys being yelled at? (and gets a feeling of satisfaction)

I never once yelled at her mate... She never really gave me reason to, because deep inside she knew i'm not the shyte taking type.

She even once said, I wouldn't want to cross you.

However the photographer guy situation is interesting.

She once in a DRUNKEN state told me, that he is the only guy who understands her and doesn't judge her.

Well offcourse he doesn't judge her lol.. He is the one who was taking the naked pics of her.

She called me one night out of the blue, to tell me she was out drinking with this photographer, and he was stopping over the night at her house.

I couldn't understand why she would call me to tell me this shyte.

Obviously it got me anxious and worried about who this guy is...

So I decided to do some research..

She told me that he was her business partner from years ago and she knew him for around 20 years.

What she FAILED to mention was, what type of business they both where in.

I got my friend to do some research on this old fuk... Also I questioned her about it.

Turns out they had a pornography business.. They would film porn scenes, bondage scenes etc.

Guess what, she wanted me to be perfectly ok about this man always being in the picture.

What man would be happy about a pornographer hanging around his girlfriend or wife forever onwards???

Dumping was the only solution.

[keffr]

Hmm I was trying to make sure she really was a narcissist but maybe she has other issues. One other sign is that she is always looking at your face to see your expression..so much that it seems innappropriate.

When she goes on about her male friends how do you react?

I cant really criticise her hanging out with the old man cos when I moved to a new area I got to know an older lady. We developed a friendship, even went for drinks..she even had that thing where she never judged me.

If I had a girlfriend I wouldnt keep bringing up the female friend..and insist the friend stay over etc.

[Soulforge2015]

Hmm I was trying to make sure she really was a narcissist but maybe she has other issues. One other sign is that she is always looking at your face to see your expression..so much that it seems innappropriate.

When she goes on about her male friends how do you react?

I cant really criticise her hanging out with the old man cos when I moved to a new area I got to know an older lady. We developed a friendship, even went for drinks..she even had that thing where she never judged me.

If I had a girlfriend I wouldnt keep bringing up the female friend..and insist the friend stay over etc.

Developing a friendship with an older person is one thing... developing a friendship with a pornographer, who took naked pics of her, and sleeps at her house... is another thing.

[keffr]

yeah it is dodgy.
Also, I have often seen online accounts of when someone's family warned a new boyfriend...and then it was a disaster ie your 14th red flag

[Soulforge2015]

yeah it is dodgy.
Also, I have often seen online accounts of when someone's family warned a new boyfriend...and then it was a disaster ie your 14th red flag

Apperently this guy was a very close friend of the family.. We had all been out drinking as it was my exes brothers birthday.

This was the first time I met members of her family... Late into the night I was stood next to him, and we both was looking at my ex in a drunken state.

He said... Good luck mate, she is your problem now.

Either he really meant it... or at some point he may have fancied her, and was jealous and decided to screw things up for her.

My gut instinct is, he was genuinely warning me.. I should have questioned him a little about it.

Mate imagine this situation reversed around..

So the guy tells his new girlfriend, that there will be a woman sleeping over at his house from time to time, and this woman used to take pictures of his C0ck.. and they filmed porn together.

How happy would that girlfriend be in that situation? Haha its fukin bonkers.

[keffr]

haha no woman would put up with that for a second.

Just wondering: when she talks about her male friends do you try to be nonchalant about it? and does she look right at you?

if she is cluster B she will be enjoying your body language and facial expression of pain/uncertainty while she is talking about them

[Soulforge2015]

haha no woman would put up with that for a second.

Just wondering: when she talks about her male friends do you try to be nonchalant about it? and does she look right at you?

if she is cluster B she will be enjoying your body language and facial expression of pain/uncertainty while she is talking about them

She mentioned other men many times, but I never gave her the satisfaction of letting it bother me... Deep inside it did bother me... but she never caught onto that.

She recently joined a gym... my ex has a beautiful figure.. in her gym clothes she looks very hot... very sexy.

Anyhow she was explaining to me why she joined this particular gym.

She told me that this gym was better because there wasn't too many bodybuilding meat heads in there.

She said... the guys in this gym are 'nice'

And if she doesn't know what she is doing with the gym equipment, then she can always ask some of the guys in there.


Hold up... I am a regular in the gym... There are NO fukin nice guys in the gym... Pretty much ALL of the gym dudes are looking to SMASH a hot chick.

Especially a hot chick, that is actually walking upto them to get fitness advice... it starts with some simple gym advice, and leads to her getting fuked in the azz.


Girls like this are nothing but trouble... they create insecurity in the most alpha of men.. they play with your fukin mind, in such a subtle and sinister way.

Either they do it deliberately.. or they are oblivious to how there behaviour is.

The FACT is... this woman is damaged.... You cannot fix woman like this!

[keffr]

yeah this would end up driving you nuts

If an amazing looking lady asked me how to use the equipment I would think that I had scored.

Very few people are willing to work on what their partner doesn't like about them mate.

[Soulforge2015]

yeah this would end up driving you nuts

If an amazing looking lady asked me how to use the equipment I would think that I had scored.

Very few people are willing to work on what their partner doesn't like about them mate.

Mate if a hot chick came upto me in the gym, and asked me for training tips...I would DEFO aim to bang...

Some of these types of damaged girls are attention wh0res.. and eventually they WILL cheat...

[dolviolex]

I love how this guy is not calling everyone “mate” lol. What happened to bruv?

[Soulforge2015]

I love how this guy is not calling everyone “mate” lol. What happened to bruv?

Is anyone even talking to you.. Why don't you go eat a dik *******.

[Soulforge2015]

I love how this guy is not calling everyone “mate” lol. What happened to bruv?

I'm just having a chat with someone who wanted to discuss some things with me, on this open forum.

Which is within my right.. And his right to do.. We are members on this site.

However what makes you so bitter about it?

What's with the negativity.. You got issues 'mate' when you can't allow someone to talk, without you acting a bitter, negative beta ******* about it.

You got nothing better to do, than try to rip on people because of certain words they used.

Very sad, bitter, resentful pathetic boy you are

Are you even a moderator.. Since when did you decide who can say what on here.

[HadesRagnazrath]

Ill take her, she shounds cool

[dolviolex]

Is anyone even talking to you.. Why don't you go eat a dik *******.

Middle age calling people “bruv” and “*******”. You’re attitude and inability to get beyond women like this is exactly why this is all you are able to attain. Grow up and better yourself. Bruv

[knightofday]

I'm just having a chat with someone who wanted to discuss some things with me, on this open forum.

Which is within my right.. And his right to do.. We are members on this site.

However what makes you so bitter about it?

What's with the negativity.. You got issues 'mate' when you can't allow someone to talk, without you acting a bitter, negative beta ******* about it.

You got nothing better to do, than try to rip on people because of certain words they used.

Very sad, bitter, resentful pathetic boy you are

Are you even a moderator.. Since when did you decide who can say what on here.

OP, on a srs note about the girl, what in the actual fuk man? Why would you date a woman like this? You said she "has some red flags" no no OP, she is a walking red flag. These are the type of broken women you're supposed to avoid at all costs, i dont care how pretty she is or cool she seemed. They will drag you down into their filth, i have seen it numerous times srs. Im just amazed you had sex with this woman, you know she was getting filmed, not filming. Lets not be naive man, and thats just the tip of the ice berg. live and learn

[Soulforge2015]

OP, on a srs note about the girl, what in the actual fuk man? Why would you date a woman like this? You said she "has some red flags" no no OP, she is a walking red flag. These are the type of broken women you're supposed to avoid at all costs, i dont care how pretty she is or cool she seemed. They will drag you down into their filth, i have seen it numerous times srs. Im just amazed you had sex with this woman, you know she was getting filmed, not filming. Lets not be naive man, and thats just the tip of the ice berg. live and learn

I appreciate your input man.

Look man.. Now that I have had some time apart from her, I totally realise she was a walking, talking disaster waiting to happen.

I had a few months of fun with her.. Some guys would end up getting into a long term relationship with a chick like this and getting screwed over.

Atleast I came to my senses within a reasonable amount of time and dumped her.

Also have LEARNED a very important lesson from this experience which will keep me on the straight and narrow in the future.

I must make sure I vet the shyte out of woman in the future, before putting my dik inside them lol.

Wether she was filmed or not bro.. Who cares now.. She was hot, we had some fun... Game over!

Someone elses problem now.

[DustinTheHuss]

Why do you keep talking about her? I have a feeling you're still seeing her.

[KidJRay]

You definitely made the right call. Girls like this are beyond repair. You might be able to get them away from the bullchit doing coke and partying, but they will always be unstable.

My ex wasn't that extreme as yours, but she worked at a club, partied all the time, did coke (at home too), banged a lot of dudes, one night stands, etc.

When I met her and got to know her, I managed to show her that she was on some BS. She turned around and got her degree, started her own business. But when chit hit the fan, she just left instead of trying to make things work because her mental state couldn't take it. She said me being pissed and bold to her when I was in a bad mood 'made her feel worthless'. Lingering issues from her childhood. So, even if you get her to turn around - the damage is often hard to undo.

[Soulforge2015]

You definitely made the right call. Girls like this are beyond repair. You might be able to get them away from the bullchit doing coke and partying, but they will always be unstable.

My ex wasn't that extreme as yours, but she worked at a club, partied all the time, did coke (at home too), banged a lot of dudes, one night stands, etc.

When I met her and got to know her, I managed to show her that she was on some BS. She turned around and got her degree, started her own business. But when chit hit the fan, she just left instead of trying to make things work because her mental state couldn't take it. She said me being pissed and bold to her when I was in a bad mood 'made her feel worthless'. Lingering issues from her childhood. So, even if you get her to turn around - the damage is often hard to undo.

Mate you can't fix them... Most of them are damaged beyond repair.

You will lose yourself.. Trying to FIX these woman!

Especially the one I was seeing.. She used her body most of her life for attention and money.

Chicks like that can never be trusted in relationships.

Its better out, 4 months in... Than 4 years in.

[FrauKlara]

Damn, sounds pretty crazy even by my standards. I've suffered from depression and used to self harm in the past, but I got help and dealt with my serious problems. Never done illicit drugs either - that's a major ass red flag and getting involved with someone who does that **** can be legit dangerous. Sounds like this girl has issues that she needs to deal with and you're not her therapist. Doesn't matter how hot she is, it ain't worth it.