Matches have pretty much died ³

[DustinTheHuss]

lol got a rotation of 4 girls from Tinder and POF

Wow. Go Chad!

How did you pull that?

[Ninshark]

That’s not bad, srs. A lot of men are on that app, you have to keep that in mind. Trust me, this is coming from a guy that could barely even get 20 likes when I had a peak profile. A lot of sloots just use the app for attention or validation, but you have a pretty good amount of likes imo

Yeah dude, has everyone forgotten that I, as an average man, gets about 4 matches a year, 10-15 likes, and 0-1 dates??

[DustinTheHuss]

One guy on Bumble just asked if I would be his dominatrix as he cooks and cleans well, and he would give me foot rubs.

Why do dating apps have there weirdest people?!!

[iloveus]

Wow. Go Chad!

How did you pull that?

I'm fugly too.

I just made an account for each. I didn't put anything on there except a few pictures of me at Yellowstone, Crater Lake and Disneyland.

Just kept swiping for two hours.

Problem is there was like almost no one in my area. The vast majority were all in the big city. Also some of the weirdest people on these dating apps.

I finally got one. But she turned out to be basically a prostitute. Her manager was asking for $500. I just responded with the Austin Powers "Absolutely not" gif and texted that her manager should see me if he has a problem with it.

I noticed a lot of the girls were putting on their Instagram and Snapchat.

So I created a accounts for those and started following them and messaging them.

Two hookups from Instagram.

One from Twitter actually. She messaged me first.

One from POF gave me her number,

If you have Instagram, you should definitely connect it to your Tinder.

It's just like a sales funnel. Tinder is like Google or Thumbtack. These are your leads. Your social media is where you hook them. The texting or DMs is the CTA (Call To Action) aka lets meet up.

[stevesteve12]

what do you guys think when you start seeing a new girl and she mentions that she is on oral birth control? (we were talking about sun sensitivity, long story)

that implies that she is routinely having casual seckz right???

[Legz422]

what do you guys think when you start seeing a new girl and she mentions that she is on oral birth control? (we were talking about sun sensitivity, long story)

that implies that she is routinely having casual seckz right???

Why does that imply she's routinely having casual sex? She could have been in a long term relationship or she could be using it to control her periods. I have an IUD and I've gone years without sex while I had it.

[DustinTheHuss]

I'm fugly too.

I just made an account for each. I didn't put anything on there except a few pictures of me at Yellowstone, Crater Lake and Disneyland.

Just kept swiping for two hours.

Problem is there was like almost no one in my area. The vast majority were all in the big city. Also some of the weirdest people on these dating apps.

I finally got one. But she turned out to be basically a prostitute. Her manager was asking for $500. I just responded with the Austin Powers "Absolutely not" gif and texted that her manager should see me if he has a problem with it.

I noticed a lot of the girls were putting on their Instagram and Snapchat.

So I created a accounts for those and started following them and messaging them.

Two hookups from Instagram.

One from Twitter actually. She messaged me first.

One from POF gave me her number,

If you have Instagram, you should definitely connect it to your Tinder.

It's just like a sales funnel. Tinder is like Google or Thumbtack. These are your leads. Your social media is where you hook them. The texting or DMs is the CTA (Call To Action) aka lets meet up.

Wow. You sound like you've got the system down! You should sell lessons to FAs

[imbored21]

what do you guys think when you start seeing a new girl and she mentions that she is on oral birth control? (we were talking about sun sensitivity, long story)

that implies that she is routinely having casual seckz right???

every girl is getting railed nonstop
(not trolling)

[Skezo]

So a bit off topic, but didn't want to start a new thread for it.
Do you bros ever meet a girl that you are like "I gotta, no I will have this". Not through online or anything, but once every few years I meet someone who brings out this confident alpha side of me when I am super interested, happened tonight for like the first time in about 4 years.

[iloveus]

Wow. You sound like you've got the system down! You should sell lessons to FAs

That'll be

[newbuck]

I just lol when I see average brahs complain about tinder when there are DOZENS of guides out there about winning vs the algo.

Pics aside, you have plus and are you boosting on a prime time like a Wednesday around 7-8pm or Sunday night?
If you’re ugly of average and have no problem dropping 60 on a new game but can’t use that same to get a rotation going just rot.

[iloveus]

Wow. You sound like you've got the system down! You should sell lessons to FAs

Once again, Tinder is about getting leads.

You need Instagram as teh hook.

On Tinder you should have a profile pic of your face, a couple comfort photos (like you holding a cat or hugging a dog) and a couple attraction photos (doing hobbies)

As Cyndi Lauper says, "Girls just wanna fun"

Your instagram should be showing you having fun and having high social status.

Google models in your area.

Find their Instagram profiles.

Look at the places that they've been to. The pictures should be geotagged leading to whatever hotel or club or restaurants instagram.

Go to these places. The events and venues that they go to.

Take pictures of yourself at these places.

It's like selling your Video services to Dentists. You want to go to where they look.

After talking to a few dentists you find out that they all golf. So you put an ad in a Golf magazine and they'll most likely see your ad.
'
Once again go to where these girls are.

[DustinTheHuss]

Once again, Tinder is about getting leads.

You need Instagram as teh hook.

On Tinder you should have a profile pic of your face, a couple comfort photos (like you holding a cat or hugging a dog) and a couple attraction photos (doing hobbies)

As Cyndi Lauper says, "Girls just wanna fun"

Your instagram should be showing you having fun and having high social status.

Google models in your area.

Find their Instagram profiles.

Look at the places that they've been to. The pictures should be geotagged leading to whatever hotel or club or restaurants instagram.

Go to these places. The events and venues that they go to.

Take pictures of yourself at these places.

It's like selling your Video services to Dentists. You want to go to where they look.

After talking to a few dentists you find out that they all golf. So you put an ad in a Golf magazine and they'll most likely see your ad.
'
Once again go to where these girls are.

You obviously put more thought and creativity over the 99.5% of men. Good for you!

I swear the average man just posts bathroom selfies.

[iloveus]

You obviously put more thought and creativity over the 99.5% of men. Good for you!

I swear the average man just posts bathroom selfies.

It's watching YouTube. Reading books, I took 2 courses. Learning business, sales and marketing

I swear the average man just posts bathroom selfies.

This is one of the worst things you can do along with gym selfies. Women tend to find these repulsive.

[skinnyfat88]

Once again, Tinder is about getting leads.

You need Instagram as teh hook.

On Tinder you should have a profile pic of your face, a couple comfort photos (like you holding a cat or hugging a dog) and a couple attraction photos (doing hobbies)

Your instagram should be showing you having fun and having high social status.

I can't bring myself to slide in the DM's but linking my IG to any apps and ditching m hesitation around that would probably serve me well.

[DustinTheHuss]

It's watching YouTube. Reading books, I took 2 courses. Learning business, sales and marketing




This is one of the worst things you can do along with gym selfies. Women tend to find these repulsive.

I'm talking to a guy now who has all face selfies from below so you're looking up his nose lol. Why are these guys so clueless? Well at least he's looking for a tennis partner.

[imbored21]

have another hinge date tomorrow. Girl is responding really fast and showing interest. She must think I'm hot. She is old (33) and desperate (wants a SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP, wants CHILDREN SOME DAY). If this doesn't work I'm hopeless with women forever.

[imbored21]

she asked m the infamous "when was your last relationship/what's your longest relationship" question. I just told her the truth that I never had one before and she was so confused like how is that possible. She was just like "why?" LOL what do you mean why? Isn't it obvious from talking to mme that I'm a complete autist?? And she didn't believe me when I said it's harder for guys and that girls have a lot more options. She was just confused lol. Geez man. Are these girls living under a rock or soemthing??

Other than that awkward question, the date was fine. I'm going to try ask her if she wants to see Batman next weekend.

[iloveus]

(wants a SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP, wants CHILDREN SOME DAY)

It doesn't matter what she wants. What matters is what you want.

[iloveus]

[QUOTE=imbored21;1657448693I'm going to try ask her if she wants to see Batman next weekend.[/QUOTE] Don't ask.

You have to say, "I'm going to see the new Batman movie nest weekend. You should come with me."

Have some confidence and conviction.

You have to let her know that you're going to see it with or without her. It's up to her if she wants to come with you or not.

Irregardless, you're going to do what you're going to do.

Your life does not want revolve around her.

Repeat after me, "I want her but I don't need her."

You're a guy who goes after what he wants in life.

[imbored21]

Don't ask.

You have to say, "I'm going to see the new Batman movie nest weekend. You should come."

lol dude. not doing cringey chit like that. Just going to say what I wanna say. And if she says no I'll just take my prettier SB and not gaf.

I made a fake girl account and half the dudes messaged me "hey trouble". Which is from a cringey how to pick up girls video just like your example. The simps are too cringe man.

[iloveus]

I'm talking to a guy now who has all face selfies from below so you're looking up his nose lol. Why are these guys so clueless? Well at least he's looking for a tennis partner.

[microsuede]

One guy on Bumble just asked if I would be his dominatrix as he cooks and cleans well, and he would give me foot rubs.

Why do dating apps have there weirdest people?!!

but did you respond?

[DustinTheHuss]

but did you respond?

I told him that wasn’t my cup of tea so he blocked me on Snapchat

[imbored21]

damn hung out with my sugarbaby today and I'm really falling for her. have no interest in messaging that hinge girl now. lol

[NissanskylineN1]

Bit of an update and a self-realization:

I'm still dating the girl from dodgeball since late November now. I spoke to her about the whole ordeal with her ex following me on Instagram from a couple weeks back and she told me the truth. No red flags.

I think using online dating to find a partner is not the right way to do it - its not a "serious enough" of a process. There's too many options, too easy to write people off, not enough skin in the game for either person. There's no level of commitment required, and therefore, people aren't as willing to compromise for a partner. And as a result, you end up just dating lots of people until you find the "right" one, when at the end of the day, its all about compromise and what matters to you most.

Does my girlfriend exactly fit my entire list of what I'm looking for? No. And I don't think its ever possible to find such a person.
There's girls out there who come from wealthier families, make more income, look "hotter", are more ambitious. Its the mix of such factors that matters.

I find that in terms of personality and how she treats me when I need support, she's been among the best. And that's what I've realized matters the most. Its about their level of self-respect, their ability to deal with tough troughs in life, what they have going on in their own lives and how they manage it, their values, and how they treat other people in their lives.

There's a lot of people out there who are completely selfish when it comes to dating without realizing so, and they conciously think that may have good intentions, but you can end up being hurt so easily.There are a lot of people out there who will date you for the wrong reasons, whether its money, looks, sex, fill their own insecurities, solve their own personal and mental issues that they should be seeing a therapist for, need someone to "complete" their life, their clock is ticking, etc.

Ever since I broke up with my ex (also not form dating apps) back in January 2021, I've been on dates with at LEAST 20 different girls until I met my current gf. During this time, I've come to the realization that nothing matters more having a partner that likes/loves me unconditionally, which is what you all told me when I made a post about thinking of breaking up with her back in October 2020 (thread has been deleted due to the purge). I was stupid then to realise and understand how important her love and care was until now that I've dated around.

And that's what I realized I missed from my ex and what none of these girls I dated via Hinge were able to or wanted to provide. Because when you're 38 and have a mortgage/bills to pay, a job, and have 2 kids to take care of, the sex, fancy dates, that piece of jewelry, vacation etc. is the last thing on your mind when you're having nights of very little sleep. And what keeps your relationship alive is the amount of care, support, and respect you have for one another to help eachother keep going to keep the lights on for yourself and your kids.

So one word of advice for all you folks in here: If you're looking for something serious, get off the dating apps. You'll find better luck just walking up to/texting and asking someone you personally know out.

[skinnyfat88]

There's a lot of people out there who are completely selfish when it comes to dating without realizing so, and they conciously think that may have good intentions, but you can end up being hurt so easily.There are a lot of people out there who will date you for the wrong reasons, whether its money, looks, sex, fill their own insecurities, solve their own personal and mental issues that they should be seeing a therapist for, need someone to "complete" their life, their clock is ticking, etc.

This is so true. People have toxic traits or views of relationships and are completely oblivious to it.
On a semi-related note, this is why as I get older I have a lot of respect for people who are able to speak their mind honestly rather than always being worried about how others may be hurt by their words. Honesty always brings clarity to all parties involved.

Ever since I broke up with my ex (also not form dating apps) back in January 2021, I've been on dates with at LEAST 20 different girls until I met my current gf. During this time, I've come to the realization that nothing matters more having a partner that likes/loves me unconditionally, which is what you all told me when I made a post about thinking of breaking up with her back in October 2020 (thread has been deleted due to the purge). I was stupid then to realise and understand how important her love and care was until now that I've dated around.

I get what you're trying to say but "unconditional love" might be going too far.
It's a lot easier to break a bond between lovers if one person makes a mistake than it is close non-romantic relationships.
You could argue the only type of unconditional love that exists is from parent to child.

[DustinTheHuss]

I posted before about the Army guy whom I met when he was in my city 1.5 years ago visiting family and we hit it off like crazy. Then he had to travel around the country and we texted for hours everyday. He paid for our hotel rooms and offered to fly me to Europe and Kuwait. He then got a job in Europe and blocked me out of the blue with no reason. I was devastated and created fake IG accounts to get some explanation from him. Finally he unblocked me and said he met someone else and apologized for blocking without a reason, but then he said we should go our separate paths and reblocked me

Still it took me months to get over him and I fell into some dark behaviors. But I did get over him eventually.

So now 1.5 years later he unblocks me and says he made a mistake as I treated him like a prince. This is such a mind fuk after what I went though and I apologized for making other accounts. So he is talking to me again with his charm and showing interest in my life but then flipped a weird switch last night. I’ve hardly been able to sleep the past 2 nights so I just stopped talking to him as it’s just too painful.

I should add that he’s 25 and I’m 50. I think I just liked the fantasy of visiting him around the world. He even had me renew my passport 1.5 years ago.

I mean he’s no one I’ll see again regularly but I wonder if I’ll ever meet a man who talks to me And has the connection that we had. I’m trying with men my age but go nowhere.

I have such heaviness in my heart after this. Why do men always come back to me and say I treated them so well and they made a mistake?!

[PepperedAngus]

I posted before about the Army guy whom I met when he was in my city 1.5 years ago visiting family and we hit it off like crazy. Then he had to travel around the country and we texted for hours everyday. He paid for our hotel rooms and offered to fly me to Europe and Kuwait. He then got a job in Europe and blocked me out of the blue with no reason. I was devastated and created fake IG accounts to get some explanation from him. Finally he unblocked me and said he met someone else and apologized for blocking without a reason, but then he said we should go our separate paths and reblocked me

Still it took me months to get over him and I fell into some dark behaviors. But I did get over him eventually.

So now 1.5 years later he unblocks me and says he made a mistake as I treated him like a prince. This is such a mind fuk after what I went though and I apologized for making other accounts. So he is talking to me again with his charm and showing interest in my life but then flipped a weird switch last night. I’ve hardly been able to sleep the past 2 nights so I just stopped talking to him as it’s just too painful.

I should add that he’s 25 and I’m 50. I think I just liked the fantasy of visiting him around the world. He even had me renew my passport 1.5 years ago.

I mean he’s no one I’ll see again regularly but I wonder if I’ll ever meet a man who talks to me And has the connection that we had. I’m trying with men my age but go nowhere.

I have such heaviness in my heart after this. Why do men always come back to me and say I treated them so well and they made a mistake?!

the real question is why are you continuing to fish for the wrong catch?

Hes 25.

All you are doing is opening your self up to catching feelings that can never come to anything.

Stop it.

[DustinTheHuss]

the real question is why are you continuing to fish for the wrong catch?

Hes 25.

All you are doing is opening your self up to catching feelings that can never come to anything.

Stop it.

That was a year and a half ago. Since then my therapist has had me focus on finding someone closer to my age but I’ve had 2 dates with them in the last year that went nowhere. It’s so frustrating as I can’t relate to men my age after 16 years of dating men in their 20s. I keep trying though.

I just don’t get why this guy came out of the blue but wondering about it is just upsetting me.