Matches have pretty much died ³

[pondus_levo]

Had the woman I dated before covid hit pop up on my ******** friend suggested over the weekend and hit her up. We are talking I'm cracking jokes and she's eating up, I'm looking at her profile, which is pretty restrictive except for her profile picture changes. I notice the same guy hearting them all and looked at his profile. Just to see she's in a relationship with him and he plasters his ******** with him and her. I think she's way out of his league, but that's just like my opinion, man. He obviously has something going for him I didn't.

I felt awkward as ****. I told her I should have snooped before msging her and bowed out. lol.

[Luc1fer]

Had the woman I dated before covid hit pop up on my ******** friend suggested over the weekend and hit her up. We are talking I'm cracking jokes and she's eating up, I'm looking at her profile, which is pretty restrictive except for her profile picture changes. I notice the same guy hearting them all and looked at his profile. Just to see she's in a relationship with him and he plasters his ******** with him and her.

I felt awkward as ****. I told her I should have snooped before msging her and bowed out. lol.

JFC man...

[pondus_levo]

JFC man...

Yes. Slap me, please.

[Kev1972]

I dunno. I read bios and stuff and then decide if I'm going to swipe. Doesn't matter how attractive they are, if I don't like what they put in their bio or there's something in there that is not compatible with me, I'm not going to swipe right. I put a time investment into it on the front end.

Nah it's different for guys since we get a lot fewer matches. If you're even a semi attractive woman every guy on the site is going to match with you.

I just go by profile pic and sort them into bangable or not.

Then I'll sort the matches into possible LTR or hoe/sloot single mom based on their profile info.

[Legz422]

Look at the objective scenario I presented.

What you do doesn't matter, I already said women have a difficult time empathizing with this, and you're just proving me correct.

Come on Legz, you're smarter than this.

Well I'm sure there are guys who don't swipe right on everyone and then filter afterwards. I don't see how it's not empathizing. Some do the work on the front end, others on the back end.

well, my experience is 99% of the women don't even look at the profile.
just about every woman from online knew absolutely nothing about me.
they would ask me if I had kids, how tall i was, what i did for a living, where i lived, what my hobbies were, what i liked to do to have fun.

all chit in my profile.
i was actually shocked by the fact they clearly didn't read chit.

they just looked at my picture and decided they wanted to meet me.

Always read bios crew. lol Especially to look for smoking/drinking/weed habits. Hard pass on smoking, frequent drinker and 420 friendly.

Had the woman I dated before covid hit pop up on my ******** friend suggested over the weekend and hit her up. We are talking I'm cracking jokes and she's eating up, I'm looking at her profile, which is pretty restrictive except for her profile picture changes. I notice the same guy hearting them all and looked at his profile. Just to see she's in a relationship with him and he plasters his ******** with him and her. I think she's way out of his league, but that's just like my opinion, man. He obviously has something going for him I didn't.

I felt awkward as ****. I told her I should have snooped before msging her and bowed out. lol.

So she didn't have in a relationship on hers but he did? Sloots gonna sloot. lol

Nah it's different for guys since we get a lot fewer matches. If you're even a semi attractive woman every guy on the site is going to match with you.

I just go by profile pic and sort them into bangable or not.

Then I'll sort the matches into possible LTR or hoe/sloot single mom based on their profile info.

lol

[DustinTheHuss]

I haven’t even looked at dating apps unless Hinge alerts me that a guy likes me and he’s always under 30. I’ve just been too distraught.

I’ve gotten some odd DMs on FB and IG and wonder if these guys are even real.

[pondus_levo]

So she didn't have in a relationship on hers but he did? Sloots gonna sloot. lol

No, Her profile is private. I could only see profile picture changes which are always public, and they are only of her and her kids.

Except for the one I took of her back when we dated. heh.

never share ******** or friend women I date crew*

[Legz422]

I haven’t even looked at dating apps unless Hinge alerts me that a guy likes me and he’s always under 30. I’ve just been too distraught.

I’ve gotten some odd DMs on FB and IG and wonder if these guys are even real.

Yeah, I haven't been on apps in a loooong time. Don't plan on getting on them ever again. I'm also not on social media.

No, Her profile is private. I could only see profile picture changes which are always public, and they are only of her and her kids.

Except for the one I took of her back when we dated. heh.

never share ******** or friend women I date crew*

Oh gotcha. Wait, why to the bolded? You hiding something from them?

[Luc1fer]

Well I'm sure there are guys who don't swipe right on everyone and then filter afterwards. I don't see how it's not empathizing. Some do the work on the front end, others on the back end.

I was responding to this original question... do you now understand why some men do the back end selection?

I don't get it either. Why swipe on someone that isn't of interest to you, either looks wise or something in their bio caught your attention?

[fishnbrah]

guise, the only place i see hot girls is at the gym. should i be talking to them ?

[pondus_levo]

Yeah, I haven't been on apps in a loooong time. Don't plan on getting on them ever again. I'm also not on social media.



Oh gotcha. Wait, why to the bolded? You hiding something from them?

No. I want them to learn about me from spending time with me and vice versa. I despise ******** and social media, especially when it comes to relationships. Plus, I don't want them posting crap all over my page and me having to clean it up. It's better just to leave all social media out of relationships.

I let one woman I dated friend me early on after my divorce, but didn't let her post or tag me and she got extremely but hurt. lol.

It's also no one else's business who I date.

[Legz422]

No. I want them to learn about me from spending time with me and vice versa. I despise ******** and social media, especially when it comes to relationships. Plus, I don't want them posting crap all over my page and me having to clean it up. It's better just to leave all social media out of relationships.

I let one woman I dated friend me early on after my divorce, but didn't let her post or tag me and she got extremely but hurt. lol.

It's also no one else's business who I date.

Ahhhhh I see. I don't have SM so don't have to worry about all that.

[DustinTheHuss]

Yeah, I haven't been on apps in a loooong time. Don't plan on getting on them ever again. I'm also not on social media.

There are a lot of scammers on social media who go after older women who are most likely lonely. One of them gave me his WhatsApp and it was in Zimbabwe lol. They use pics of hot white men to try to scam women. They usually say they are in the military and overseas and want a long distance relationship.

This latest guy is in my area but I still don't trust him. He just said he found me by searching local profiles. He's really hot. Sure.

[NitrogenWidget]

Had the woman I dated before covid hit pop up on my ******** friend suggested over the weekend and hit her up. We are talking I'm cracking jokes and she's eating up, I'm looking at her profile, which is pretty restrictive except for her profile picture changes. I notice the same guy hearting them all and looked at his profile. Just to see she's in a relationship with him and he plasters his ******** with him and her. I think she's way out of his league, but that's just like my opinion, man. He obviously has something going for him I didn't.

I felt awkward as ****. I told her I should have snooped before msging her and bowed out. lol.

if they show up as suggested friends, pretty sure it's because they were creeping on your profile.

[NitrogenWidget]

No. I want them to learn about me from spending time with me and vice versa. I despise ******** and social media, especially when it comes to relationships. Plus, I don't want them posting crap all over my page and me having to clean it up. It's better just to leave all social media out of relationships.

I let one woman I dated friend me early on after my divorce, but didn't let her post or tag me and she got extremely but hurt. lol.

It's also no one else's business who I date.

this.
so much this.

I made the mistake of friending a chick early on when i first started using online and she started posting chit on my page.
It was as if she was marking her territory.

It got really awkward really fast then moved onto creepy within a day or so.

[Legz422]

this.
so much this.

I made the mistake of friending a chick early on when i first started using online and she started posting chit on my page.
It was as if she was marking her territory.

It got really awkward really fast then moved onto creepy within a day or so.

When I did use FB never did stuff like that. That's just weird.

[Luc1fer]

When I did use FB never did stuff like that. That's just weird.

Thank you Luc1fer for explaining why some men blind swipe and select on the back end.

You're welcome.

[Legz422]

Thank you Luc1fer for explaining why some men blind swipe and select on the back end.

You're welcome.

LMAO I still don't get it but to each their own.

[imbored21]

i just copy pasted promps from hinge. One of them was "bet you can't beat me at jenga." or something like that. And a girl messaged me "Mind sharing ur Jenga skills?"

Well I have no idea how to respond to that wihtout sounding boring as hell. I really don't know how to talk to girls. She's cute too.

[Luc1fer]

i just copy pasted promps from hinge. One of them was "bet you can't beat me at jenga." or something like that. And a girl messaged me "Mind sharing ur Jenga skills?"

Well I have no idea how to respond to that wihtout sounding boring as hell. I really don't know how to talk to girls. She's cute too.

I can think of a couple of routes immediately:
- sexual innuendo about having confident, steady hands with a delicate touch.
- invite to a game at your place, promising your set isn't rigged (self deprecating joke)

[imbored21]

I can think of a couple of routes immediately:
- sexual innuendo about having confident, steady hands with a delicate touch.
- invite to a game at your place, promising your set isn't rigged (self deprecating joke)

ok those are good ideas even tho it's extremely cringey.

[Luc1fer]

ok those are good ideas even tho it's extremely cringey.

Not if you execute them well, all depends on delivery.

To be completely honest with you though, I normally don't put much effort into this stuff anymore. Given the girl can just ghost anyway. But might be good practice for your social skills.

[imbored21]

Not if you execute them well, all depends on delivery.

To be completely honest with you though, I normally don't put much effort into this stuff anymore. Given the girl can just ghost anyway. But might be good practice for your social skills.

yeah tbh i can't think of anything that doesn't sounds cringey or autistic even with your guidelines.

All I can think of is "lol"

[Luc1fer]

yeah tbh i can't think of anything that doesn't sounds cringey or autistic even with your guidelines.

All I can think of is "lol"

If a girl responded to me with "lol", I'd ghost her. Horribly low effort that indicates lack of interest.

[imbored21]

If a girl responded to me with "lol", I'd ghost her. Horribly low effort that indicates lack of interest.

Just gonna ask her to come over for jenga lol

[imbored21]

Well she said she was down to do it at a park. I hope she follows through.

[Agego]

Well she said she was down to do it at a park. I hope she follows through.

Loser pays for _______ (insert date location)

[pondus_levo]

I'm not HTC but got dayum. Wat do?




She's liked me multiple times on ******** date over the last year, but I never liked back. Then saw she doesn't want kids on her tinder profile and we matched.

[microsuede]

I just think any age above 32 is gonna be panic mode, and potentially difficult to get 2+ kids. I know there are exceptions, but isn't preferential for me.

Just sent her a text that we shouldn't see each other anymore. Too many red flags man and think you are right, I can attract a girl who is younger than her (34) without any kids. Just need to try harder.

She's basically looking for marriage and father for her kid. I shouldn't settle for that, sending the break up text was hard because of the sex but I don't want to string her along.

[Luc1fer]

She's basically looking for marriage and father for her kid. I shouldn't settle for that, sending the break up text was hard because of the sex but I don't want to string her along.

Nah don't settle for that. That's desperation mode, only viable if you have your own kids.